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AmyWrites   593

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I think you should discuss finances with her, since she seems to think you have a lot more money than you actually do, which will lead to problems later when she wants the expensive clothes and you're stuck with credit card bills.

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TnJ
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I don't know what to tell you about the relatives situation. That's personal. However, I wouldn't call these points of the K-1 flaws necessarily. The K-1 is intended for people who know each other and

ClaireGio
ClaireGio

After being on this website for a few months now, I still can't figure out for the life of me why people choose to marry people they don't feel they know enough. It's bizarre! And if I asked my fian

X Factor
X Factor

Plan to have a quality videographer and sent wedding DVDs to family and friends to Russia. It's impractical for them to come. I discussed this with my fiancee BEFORE I applied for the K-1 visa.

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meadowzephyr   26

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We had a simple wedding that was broadcasted on Ustream. Friends and Family in Mexico, Spain, Italy, Nicaragua and all over USA watched it live. Some even dressed up. The Mexican friends and family watched it on a large screen TV and cooked carne asado.

K-1 Visa Journey

December 8, 2009 - Met in Monterrey, Mexico
December 28, 2010 - Officially started dating!
July 2,2011 - He proposed in Downtown Monterrey, Mexico, I accepted
September 16, 2011 - Mailed I-129F Application
September 19, 2011 - I-129F arrived at Dallas Lockbox
September 22, 2011 - NOA1
September 24, 2011 - Check cashed!
September 26, 2011 - NOA1 hard copy arrived in the mail
January 3, 2012 - NOA2 email and text message!
January 6, 2012 - NOA2 Hardcopy arrived in the mail.
February 16, 2012 - Packet 3 (invitation letter) arrives in the mail.
March 12, 2012 - ASC Appointment
March 15, 2012 - Interview at Consulate in CDJ.
March 15, 2012 - Approved!
April 18, 2012 - POE - Houston, Texas
June 9, 2012 - Married!

Adjustment of Status Journey
July 26, 2012 - Mailed AOS Application
August 1, 2012 - NOA1
August 2, 2012 - Received Biometrics Letter
August 16, 2012 - Received Hard Copy of NOA1
August 23, 2012 - Biometrics
September 25, 2012 - Approved I131
September 25, 2012 - EAD/AP Combo Card sent to production
October 3, 2012 - EAD/AP Combo Card Arrived

April 29, 2013 - AOS Approved Without Interview!

May 6, 2013 - Card arrived in the mail

ROC Journey







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Vicomi   31

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We're planning the same as most people have suggested... Court wedding soon after arrival then ceremony (about year later) with fam and friends in my country. Good luck!

K1 Visa - Dates in UK format

02/05/2012 I-129F Sent
07/05/2012 I-129F NOA1
02/11/2012 I-129F NOA2
14/11/2012 NVC Left
29/11/2012 Packet 3 Received
07/12/2012 Medical
12/12/2012 Packet 3 Sent
30/01/2013 Packet 4 Received
20/02/2013 Interview Date - Approved!
28/02/2013 Visa Received
03/06/2013 US Entry smile.png

22/06/2013 Marriage (Beautiful day) heart.gifrose.gif

AOS & EAD - Dates in US format

07/29/2013 Filing date

08/06/2013 NOA1

08/28/2013 Biometrics Apt

06/23/2014 Green Card

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TigerFlower   61

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It does sound like you might need to get to know her or her expectations a bit more. If your application is sent to VSC, you'll have plenty of time for that. :rofl:

Seriously, we are planning essentially the same as everyone else here. Once my fiance has his approved visa, I'll fly over and we'll have a blessing/ceremony (that isn't legal) for his family and friends. Then, we'll fly together here and do a civil ceremony. Next year we'll plan a big to-do for all to come and celebrate.

K-1
03/09/12 - NoA1
10/04/12 - NoA2 (210 days)

AoS

01/25/13 - NoA1
08/15/13 - NoA2 (199 days)
 

RoC
05/21/15 - NoA1

11/02/15 - NoA2 (164 days)
 

N-400

08/18/16 - NoA1
03/14/17 - Interview

03/16/17 - Oath Ceremony (217 days)

US citizen

Total time start to finish: 5 years, 12 days (1,838 days)

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Kehinde   45

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So my fiancee from Russia wants the elaborate wedding. We only have 3 months to plan for it once she is here. Right now she will be in the interview process next month. This is why we can't make any real plans until she gets that K1 visa. It doesn't make sense to plan a wedding and make deposits until the visa is in her hands.

She wants her family and best friend to attend the wedding. I said fat chance with that. I'm not flying all those people and boarding them on my dime. Not to mention, how in the world are they going to get a visa that quick? So the K1 visa has a few flaws. One of which is... you have three months to get married. I think they should be realistic that this should be longer. You have a better idea how a person is like if you lived with them for at least a year. You can't plan a real wedding with just 3 months. I wish they made it 1 year grace period to marry.

Would like to hear all your experience with this situation

If relatives and friends can get visas for themselves and pay for their own flights then why not welcome them? I am sure she dont expect that burden to be on you. It seems like a bunch of people trying to come to the U.S. on false pretenses. I hope she dont mess it up for herself.

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Kehinde   45

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I think you should discuss finances with her, since she seems to think you have a lot more money than you actually do, which will lead to problems later when she wants the expensive clothes and you're stuck with credit card bills.

AMEN!

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Milan&Pam   4

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I agree with everyone that you should get the "legal" portion over with and, if you can both agree on a budget and lavish wedding, do it soon after. Remember....girls start planning their weddings at age 5 so this is a big deal for her. Maybe once she is actually living with you and has adjusted to her new life, all that seemed so important before won't be so important after all.

Our Journey:

10/02/2011: Met while working in Afghanistan
10/15/2011: First "date"
01/03/2012: Hired an attorney to file our K-1
02/05/2012: He returned to Macedonia
02/29/2012: My first visit to Skopje
03/03/2012: Met my future family
03/15/2012: I-129F package mailed / returned to Afghanistan
03/19/2012: Received notification of arrival of I-129F
03/21/2012: NOA1 mailed
07/15/2012: 2nd trip to Skopje
09/20/2012: NOA2 notice
10/05/2012: Attorney Received Case number from NVC
10/25/2012: Received packet 3 ( the same time I left on my flight back to the US)
11/06/2012: Medical Scheduled
11/15/2012: Interview - Denied due to "lack of proof of relationship"
11/27/2012; 2nd Interview scheduled - APPROVED!
11/29/2012: VISA IN HAND!
11/30/2012: POE NYC-JFK
12/12/2012: WEDDING!!!

02/26/2013: I-485 Filed

09/10/2013: Green card received NO INTERVIEW!!!!

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Cesar & Cata   35

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Colombia
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I don't agree in extending the time for the wedding, especially if it's because you need to get to know the person.

IMHO, shouldn't really get engaged if you don't know the person.

USCIS:

06/06/2012: Sent I-130 to VSC (as LPR)

06/08/2012: NOA1 (Priority Date)

06/12/2012: Touched

08/20/2012: Mailed VSC request for Upgrade to CR1

08/23/2012: Opened Request with USCIS for Upgrade to CR1

08/27/2012: Got Email confirming upgrade to IR1/CR1

11/13/2012: NOA2

NVC:

11/16/2012: NVC Received (NVC # not ready)

11/19/2012: BOG number/IIN - Gave emails

11/19/2012: Choice of Agent email sent

11/20/2012: AOS bill invoiced

11/20/2012: AOS bill paid shows in process

11/21/2012: AOS package sent

11/21/2012: AOS bill shows PAID

11/21/2012: Choice of Agent email sent (again)

11/21/2012: Choice of Agent email accepted

11/23/2012: IV bill invoiced

11/23/2012: IV bill paid

11/26/2012: IV package sent

11/26/2012: IV bill shows PAID

12/07/2012: AOS accepted

12/10/2012: IV Accepted

12/10/2012: Case complete

12/13/2012: Interview scheduled

US Embassy Bogota:

01/25/2013: Lab Visit

01/28/2013: Medical

01/30/2013: Interview

02/05/2013: Email Waybill (5PM)

02/06/2013: Visa in hand

02/08/2013: POE JFK, NY

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Texas22   50

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We had a simple wedding that was broadcasted on Ustream. Friends and Family in Mexico, Spain, Italy, Nicaragua and all over USA watched it live. Some even dressed up. The Mexican friends and family watched it on a large screen TV and cooked carne asado.

:ot: Can you tell me how the Ustream works? I would like to broadcast our wedding ceremony to friends and family in Canada that cannot make the trip south for our wedding...

Much appreciated... thank you! :)

Kimberley and Richard
Service Center : Vermont Service Center
Consulate : Montreal, Canada
2012-01-25 : I-129F Sent
2012-01-27 : VSC Received
2012-01-31 : I-129F NOA1 Notice Date
2012-02-01 : Touch
2012-07-05 : RFE Email (after 161 days)
2012-07-11 : RFE Received in Mail
2012-07-12 : RFE Reply Sent via USPS Overnight
2012-07-13 : RFE Reply Received at VSC at 12:16 PM
2012-07-18 : Case status updated to: "Request for Evidence Response Review"
2012-09-20 : Service Request Submitted with Tier 2 ISO
2012-09-25 : NOA2 Approved after 242 days!!
2013-01-07: Medical
2013-01-22: Interview - Approved! smile.png

My blog and video review of the Montreal Hotel that we stayed in: http://fanatictourist.com/blog/travel-tales/review-le-square-phillips-hotel-and-suites-montreal-canada/

2013-04-30: POE - Sarnia / Pt. Huron

2013-05-06: Made it legal.

2013-06-10: Apply for AOS, EAD and AP

2013-08-27: EAD / AP Received
2013-09-17: Greencard Received

2013-09-28: Wedding! smile.png

2015-06-15: Sent I-751 Application - Removal of Conditions.
2015-11-23: Approved
2015-12-02: 10 yr Green Card Rec'd.

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bebero   19

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this is not a visa meant to get to know each other, it's meant to get married. if you wanna get to know each other don't get engaged!

my tl http://www.visajourney.com/timeline/profile.php?cfl=0&id=117646

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Kita   2

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My fiancée and I planned the wedding well in advance, giving USCIS/consulate plenty of time. Had they taken their time our wedding would have been the actual wedding. Since things moved a little bit faster than we expected, we got officially married in the 90 days from arrival (with a celebratory dinner with a few family members) and now are finishing planning for the upcoming wedding. If you want a well planned real wedding, you probably need to compromise on a few things.

As for paying for the relatives to come over, sounds a little bit too much.

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Tell her that in America the bride's family traditionally pays for the wedding, that way it stays out of your pocket.

Otherwise, hit the JOP for a legal wedding and fly back to Russia once she has her AP and let her have her elaborate one.

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Fernandez19   1

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I took the risk and planned the wedding after sending my petition. I planned in advance and calculated how long it should take for him to get the interview and actually be here.. The place where I booked was also aware of my situation and were willing to be flexible if needed.. I only gave a $1,500 deposit and luckily my next deposit was due after the interview in where we already found out he was approved.. Immediately as I came back, I made another large deposit of 3,500.00 and continued to pay off the place monthly for 3 months. We got married right before the 90 day mark! His sister also applied for a tourist visa and was able to attend the wedding, his other sister was denied (I sent them a wedding invitation with a letter requesting the presence at our wedding.)

and at my interview they actually asked me what our wedding plans were, and I was able to show her the contract of the location which was a plus!

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meadowzephyr   26

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:ot: Can you tell me how the Ustream works? I would like to broadcast our wedding ceremony to friends and family in Canada that cannot make the trip south for our wedding...

Much appreciated... thank you! :)

:ot: It will be my pleasure to tell you how it works and different ways you can broadcast. However, I'm about to head out. I'll send you a PM tomorrow. :)

K-1 Visa Journey

December 8, 2009 - Met in Monterrey, Mexico
December 28, 2010 - Officially started dating!
July 2,2011 - He proposed in Downtown Monterrey, Mexico, I accepted
September 16, 2011 - Mailed I-129F Application
September 19, 2011 - I-129F arrived at Dallas Lockbox
September 22, 2011 - NOA1
September 24, 2011 - Check cashed!
September 26, 2011 - NOA1 hard copy arrived in the mail
January 3, 2012 - NOA2 email and text message!
January 6, 2012 - NOA2 Hardcopy arrived in the mail.
February 16, 2012 - Packet 3 (invitation letter) arrives in the mail.
March 12, 2012 - ASC Appointment
March 15, 2012 - Interview at Consulate in CDJ.
March 15, 2012 - Approved!
April 18, 2012 - POE - Houston, Texas
June 9, 2012 - Married!

Adjustment of Status Journey
July 26, 2012 - Mailed AOS Application
August 1, 2012 - NOA1
August 2, 2012 - Received Biometrics Letter
August 16, 2012 - Received Hard Copy of NOA1
August 23, 2012 - Biometrics
September 25, 2012 - Approved I131
September 25, 2012 - EAD/AP Combo Card sent to production
October 3, 2012 - EAD/AP Combo Card Arrived

April 29, 2013 - AOS Approved Without Interview!

May 6, 2013 - Card arrived in the mail

ROC Journey







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Texas22   50

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:ot: It will be my pleasure to tell you how it works and different ways you can broadcast. However, I'm about to head out. I'll send you a PM tomorrow. :)

Awesome!! Thank you! :D

Kimberley and Richard
Service Center : Vermont Service Center
Consulate : Montreal, Canada
2012-01-25 : I-129F Sent
2012-01-27 : VSC Received
2012-01-31 : I-129F NOA1 Notice Date
2012-02-01 : Touch
2012-07-05 : RFE Email (after 161 days)
2012-07-11 : RFE Received in Mail
2012-07-12 : RFE Reply Sent via USPS Overnight
2012-07-13 : RFE Reply Received at VSC at 12:16 PM
2012-07-18 : Case status updated to: "Request for Evidence Response Review"
2012-09-20 : Service Request Submitted with Tier 2 ISO
2012-09-25 : NOA2 Approved after 242 days!!
2013-01-07: Medical
2013-01-22: Interview - Approved! smile.png

My blog and video review of the Montreal Hotel that we stayed in: http://fanatictourist.com/blog/travel-tales/review-le-square-phillips-hotel-and-suites-montreal-canada/

2013-04-30: POE - Sarnia / Pt. Huron

2013-05-06: Made it legal.

2013-06-10: Apply for AOS, EAD and AP

2013-08-27: EAD / AP Received
2013-09-17: Greencard Received

2013-09-28: Wedding! smile.png

2015-06-15: Sent I-751 Application - Removal of Conditions.
2015-11-23: Approved
2015-12-02: 10 yr Green Card Rec'd.

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