Pregnancy Help; Not Enough $$$; What to do?

[dstrausser83 14]

Of course he should do his own consultation. The point is he shouldn't count on a midwife. I did a ton of research with my kids. There is no midwife in this country allowed to do c-sections and I have never heard of one that would take someone who they knew would need a c-section because of the risk of uterine rupture as is apparently his wife's condition. That said, maybe they're out there but these much cheaper than normal midwives are the ones practicing out of birthing centers and home, not in offices with expensive OBs.

Regardless, this is getting totally off topic. Does his wife even have the visa yet? They may not even grant it to her if she is pregnant and has no way to pay for it in the US.

It won't be a problem, she will get the visa. We are highly confident in that. Please see my previous post above about the spirit of this topic. Thanks!

[Xanax 349]

The point of this post was not to debate medical advice or how to have the baby or where. The point of this post is what options are available in the USA (as you suggested a midwife) for us, looking for people on the board who may have lived through this situation. Somewhere somebody got pregnant within 5 years of a fiancee visa that wasn't planned and I was trying to find out how they handled their case in lieu of having health insurance.

I AM in your situation. Almost exactly.

I told you how we were doing it and I broke down the costs.

Considering your wife needs a C-section OB care is probably the best way to go.

If we cannot afford our care here in the states, I will go home where the care is free.

Edited August 15, 2012 by Xanax

[dstrausser83 14]

I AM in your situation. Almost exactly.

I told you how we were doing it and I broke down the costs.

Considering your wife needs a C-section OB care is probably the best way to go.

If we cannot afford our care here in the states, I will go home where the care is free.

well the AIM program in California seems like it can be a VERY viable option for us, just I am about $850 short monthly to become qualified. It is an insurance offered by the state where you pay a portion of it as your deductible. I am going to have to find $850 more a month somehow so that we can get that.

[Mountain Climber 186]

Well when we filed for the I129F she wasn't pregnant. She was on birth control. They stopped selling her birth control in Mexico. We had to switch brands. She is pregnant, not the best timing for the pregnancy, but we are dealing with it accordingly.

I make enough money for her to come to the USA no problem. We need to come here now to get married. I have health insurance with my current job, but they only pay for mine. To add her onto my policy it will be an extra $475 a month, when the child is born to go into a family plan it will be an extra $900 a month. I only make $3k a month and after taxes its about $2,300. Rent in San Diego is about $1,000. Plus child support from my previous marriage ($350 a month). Its not enough to go around. Next year, financially I will be set. My commissions will start coming through and we won't have many more problems. I just got my degree, and I am working in a new industry and it takes about 12 - 16 months for the sales process to go through. So about 9 months or so, things will start looking good. My problem is though we need assistance with the pregnancy now, once we get into the United States due to her pregnancy. I don't know what to do since she won't qualify for anything when we get married. Her pregnancy really puts a wrench in our financial plans and while I can afford the baby, we won't have enough money to afford the birth and leading up to the birth.

What can I do. What type of options are available? I understand that when the child is born, that the birth will be covered under emergency medicare, but that's it. I can't afford the doctor appointments, medicines, or any other care. Any advice?

It is admirable that you got a degree and will be making good money eventually but millions of Americans face this same problem. Do you think you are the only one that must pay an outrageous amount of money for medical insurance for your family? We do what we have to do for our families, even if it means that sometimes we do not have "enough to go around".

I do not understand why some people in this thread are trying to get the American tax payers to foot the medical bills for this person. This is one of the reasons our country has a massive debt. Everybody wants something for free but someone has to pay for it. Oh, I forgot, the US government can just print up more money. Unfortunately, I know I will be slammed for speaking the truth.

Edited August 16, 2012 by Mountain Climber

[dstrausser83 14]

It is admirable that you got a degree and will be making good money eventually but millions of Americans face this same problem. Do you think you are the only one that must pay an outrageous amount of money for medical insurance for your family? We do what we have to do for our families, even if it means that sometimes we do not have "enough to go around".

I do not understand why some people in this thread are trying to get the American tax payers to foot the medical bills for this person. This is one of the reasons our country has a massive debt. Everybody wants something for free but someone has to pay for it. Oh, I forgot, the US government can just print up more money. Unfortunately, I know I will be slammed for speaking the truth.

That's why I am looking for an option like AIM where I can pay something myself. I am against (and have said previously in this thread) welfare, entitlements, and wealth distribution. I do believe that people that are doing all the right stuff and hits a bump on the road should have help, but I do think there is a general abuse of the system. Nobody is trying to get the American Taxpayers to foot the bill for me, they are trying to find a way that I can get the assistance I need. I am not sitting on a couch collecting a check. I never once asked for free anything. If everybody only used public system how I am seeking to use it (even able to pay some money a month) it would be one less reason our country is broke, unfortunately they don't.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

One can think of grander reasons than "the truth (according to you)". As the sergeant kept yelling: "you can't handle the truth"

The truth is that $10,000 that OP would/would not scrape up has nothing to do with 14 trillion deficit that those in command racked up. But 90% of this country's populous have no concept of a trillion. Repent, climber, and stay human. Maybe humanity is the one thing this government can't take from good people

[Moomin 292]

One can think of grander reasons than "the truth (according to you)". As the sergeant kept yelling: "you can't handle the truth"

The truth is that $10,000 that OP would/would not scrape up has nothing to do with 14 trillion deficit that those in command racked up. But 90% of this country's populous have no concept of a trillion. Repent, climber, and stay human. Maybe humanity is the one thing this government can't take from good people

It all adds up starting with 1 dollar here, 5 dollars there, 100 dollars here, 500 dollars there. Come on, counting to 14 trilion is weak when you cannot comprehend doing the math with 2 plus 2. If all VJ members.. Well, if all Vj members who clicked like on fb owed 40.000 dollars, we'd be owing 32440000 dollars. That figure doesn't matter either? I'm pretty sure more than 3244 people owe 10.000 dollars or more in the US so saying it won't scrape up nothing is not logical. What IS logical is when no-one can get approved for medicaid or other benefits because the money is gone, lend out and not paid back.

It is not the government who made anybody have 10 creditcards and rack up a debt. Start looking at yourself instead of saying "it won't matter because if they do it, so can I". No wonder the economy gets worse, geesh.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

not my point. Point is how blind the population is to grand larceny up top. They'll be beating up poor dad day'n'nite and voting in officials who take trillions off the top. Anyone who thinks 14t (when it was just 2t not long ago) came from social programs, needs...medicaid

[Moomin 292]

not my point. Point is how blind the population is to grand larceny up top. They'll be beating up poor dad day'n'nite and voting in officials who take trillions off the top. Anyone who thinks 14t (when it was just 2t not long ago) came from social programs, needs...medicaid

How politicians turned 2t into 14t according to you really has nothing to do with OP. But since you're at it, then yes. Illigal/undocumented people have access to certain benefits, this is even without having paid as much as a dollar into anything. Blind population? Blehh. Ignorant thought process when saying 10.000 doesn't matter because of [insert whatever reason you'd prefer]? Ding-ding-ding. If you're suggesting to just play by the same "grand larceny rules" as politicians, then I suggest you include that in your VAWA claim and see how far that'll get you as an upcoming lawful permanent resident.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

nothing to do with anybody's application. Fact is that 14t-2t=12t, the amount which has no relationship with U.S.'s total safety net. Like your footprint and the length of US's border with Canada

[kennym 275]

What I hate is to hear that a common human requirement "medical care" can be sooo complex for many of us.. Whether the person is legal, USC, illegal, LPR or a cartoon character, I've always felt Medical Care is a god given right.. It shouldn't matter how much you make dont make or whatever..

I cant answer how to make it happen, and this isn't the thread for it, but I hate that a young couple has to struggle to figure out where to get the money to have a baby.. or a diabetic needs to figure out how to pay supplies or whatever..

The problems is complex.. Doctors are way over paid, pharmecueticals are all criminals, and the entire medical industry from the Medical school down to the bed sheet manufacturer needs to be put in place when it comes to prices and costs..

I have a short story, but this is a perfect example why we all struggle with things like this..

Years ago I was in Colombia working.. I became very sick with a severe infection.. My then fiance, now wife took me to the best Clinic in Medellin, Colombia. Although, My company provided me with Insurance which covered me anyplace in the world, I still must pay before I can be re-imbursed when outside the USA..

Well, they ran all kinds of test.. MRI, CAT Scan, EEG, EKGs, ABC's and PTA's you name it, they did it to me.. I was was scared to death I was gonna get better, but they were gonna take me straight to jail after leaving the hospital because I thought the bill was gonna be in the 15-20 K range..

I was admitted for a couple of days.. The hospital was gorgeous, almost country club style.. Ooh man, was I gonna pay.. After the treatment, I went to check out and talk to the business office about my bill and shockingly enough, the whole bill was less than 400 USD..

First class doctors, facility, staff, meals, and everything that goes with it.. I was thinking my fiance, was gonna have to find help for me at the Embassy, but can you immagine? what would that have cost in the US...

Why cant we control costs to at least something that's not so insane? We don't have the best medical system, we dont have the most sympathetic medical system. we dont have doctors that care, we just seem to tolerate the system and pay through the ying-yang for mediocre service..

I hope you guys find an answer, sorry for the rant..

[SingleDad2usc 71]

yes, justified frustration. what's unjustified: belittling people faced with life-and-death choices for the sake of looking "credible" - in front of whom? other inhumane posers. Stop attacking people who ask questions: that's what forum is for. If you don't want to assist - then don't take partisan stands. Family issues are not political, but rather humanitarian

[kennym 275]

yes, justified frustration. what's unjustified: belittling people faced with life-and-death choices for the sake of looking "credible" - in front of whom? other inhumane posers. Stop attacking people who ask questions: that's what forum is for. If you don't want to assist - then don't take partisan stands. Family issues are not political, but rather humanitarian

huh?

Somebody say something to deserve that?

[Ihavequestions 419]

It makes sense to build and assure a financial barrier between the most fragile of any population, children, and medical care, particularly preventative prenatal care.

/smh

OP, don't be so put off by medical care outside of the US. It's worth investigating. Top of the line care, pre- and post-delivery, and a little mental math comparing quality and cost will give you sticker shock. In either Peru or Mexico, you will be able to find it and you will be able to afford it.

President schmesident. Really.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

not you, yours was useful unbiased post. But almost every topic has anti-humanistic scorecard. Look right above, the "highest-rated" posts are a common giveaway. People lynched for seeking assistance in unconventional situations

huh?

Somebody say something to deserve that?

Edited August 16, 2012 by SingleDad2usc