Update ....

[Speeds03 16]

I'ma have to knock this fool into next friday!

[MarielManuel 0]

It's true that we never truly know a person until they are here, living with us....but when the relationship is wrong, it's wrong. There were some signs before he came here but nothing that would have made me change my mind about him coming. I was really hopeful and determined to make it work .... but God didn't want this to happen and I know there is a good reason why I had to /have to suffer.

just be strong, and remember everything happens for a reason. if that relationship was not meant to be, it was for a good reason. And i sure belive that God has something very special for you

[dwheels76 5,459]

I commend you also because you are doing something about this. Man would love to be in your cheering section on your April 9th appoint day. Maybe old boy will show up. But its because of wonderful honest people like you that will help with this Visa Fraud. It has to be more than just a slap on wrist and deportation. Jail time, hell daddy and momma are harboring a criminal IMO.

We need fraudsters think twice about doing this, making it not so easy for a GC and be VERY afraid from women from Dominican Republic, cuz they take no mess. LOL Love it.

[Samantha78 117]

I'ma have to knock this fool into next friday!

BESTIE!!! Come help me!!! jejejeje

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

Sam, I thought that the intial phone call to ICE on the day he walked out, which was less than a week being in The US lead ICE to put his GC on hold.

Have you brought those sexy stiletto high kicking shoes yet, walk proud with your head held high. His actions are not those of a man, but a boy in a man's body. Deal with him the same way you would deal with a child.

Edited April 7, 2012 by LIFE'SJOURNEY

[Darnell 8,478]

Well, his father is helping him, I'm sure, but on the other side, his father has built a good name for himself and his family, and Jensy's actions are damaging that. What he's trying to do is ship him to North Caroline, where Jensy's mother lives, to get him away.

OK- so Dad's helping him (my opinion) - complicit (sp?) in all.

IMO, you were just a tool to get into the country, there's some 'family plan' that you were never told about, ages past.

Sorry you got taken.

Remember, when you not get proper response with the local police? File a detailed report with the Internal Affairs Office, fax it to the general PD fax office 3 times/day till things change to your favour.

Good Luck !

[OneLove <3 6]

DAUUUUUMM I can't believe he is still on some SHyttt. Yes some policemen don't care about anything and don't do their job right. :bonk: So since the marriage counseling obviously didn't work will the judge be giving you the divorce soon? How did your April 9th appointment go?

[adiiann 163]

Go and fight girl! Happy to hear that you are moving on. Be more vigilant around you till no possibility for him to touch you.

[Samantha78 117]

DAUUUUUMM I can't believe he is still on some SHyttt. Yes some policemen don't care about anything and don't do their job right. :bonk: So since the marriage counseling obviously didn't work will the judge be giving you the divorce soon? How did your April 9th appointment go?

Yea. That counseling was a FAIL!!! April 9 was a complete waste of time. The new restraining order was NEVER served so basically he knows nothing and has no obligation to follow and rules regarding that. Now in going back in the 30th. That's his court date for the assault charge as well as an opportunity to renew the RO. wasting my vacation time to do this is pussing me off more than anything.

OK- so Dad's helping him (my opinion) - complicit (sp?) in all.

IMO, you were just a tool to get into the country, there's some 'family plan' that you were never told about, ages past.

Sorry you got taken.

Remember, when you not get proper response with the local police? File a detailed report with the Internal Affairs Office, fax it to the general PD fax office 3 times/day till things change to your favour.

Good Luck !

I agree. And thanks for that advice. I also thought about sending a formal complaint to IA. Guess that's on tmrws agenda.

Sam, I thought that the intial phone call to ICE on the day he walked out, which was less than a week being in The US lead ICE to put his GC on hold.

Have you brought those sexy stiletto high kicking shoes yet, walk proud with your head held high. His actions are not those of a man, but a boy in a man's body. Deal with him the same way you would deal with a child.

That call to ICE seems to have been a waste of time. His GC came in the mail yesterday. Made me nauseous to see it. That's going back where it came from first thing in the morning.

[Adele21 0]

God Bless you girl! I was blown away by what a strong individual you are. Keep your head up high and do your thing. But please also remember to protect yourself. From what I gathered, this guy is up to no good here, so please, please, please take good care of your self.

[Darnell 8,478]

That call to ICE seems to have been a waste of time. His GC came in the mail yesterday. Made me nauseous to see it. That's going back where it came from first thing in the morning.

Usually, a visit to the local USCIS (via Infopass) to talk with the Ice Section Chief, works best.

Just saying.

[OneLove <3 6]

Yea. That counseling was a FAIL!!! April 9 was a complete waste of time. The new restraining order was NEVER served so basically he knows nothing and has no obligation to follow and rules regarding that. Now in going back in the 30th. That's his court date for the assault charge as well as an opportunity to renew the RO. wasting my vacation time to do this is pussing me off more than anything.

That's so stupid all because he didn't get like come on he knows what he did to deserve it in the first place. So if he doesn't show up for the 30th what happens? Hell yea you could have been enjoying your vacation by going on an actual vacay instead of going back and forth with this.

[evelyn1140 18]

Yea. That counseling was a FAIL!!! April 9 was a complete waste of time. The new restraining order was NEVER served so basically he knows nothing and has no obligation to follow and rules regarding that. Now in going back in the 30th. That's his court date for the assault charge as well as an opportunity to renew the RO. wasting my vacation time to do this is pussing me off more than anything.

I agree. And thanks for that advice. I also thought about sending a formal complaint to IA. Guess that's on tmrws agenda.

That call to ICE seems to have been a waste of time. His GC came in the mail yesterday. Made me nauseous to see it. That's going back where it came from first thing in the morning.

sam what happened with your case. Any updates

[Gracenp2 14]

Hello Everyone....So I wanted to give an update as to what's been going on.

After my last post, as everyone said, he tried to come back. It took a lot to stay strong and not allow that, but I knew it was in my best interest to not let him into my life again. I felt as though he was a stranger, and there was no trust.

He received the divorce papers, brought them to his father, and they consulted a family friend lawyer who advised him how much he had screwed up. The lawyer contacted me and said that Jensy did not want a divorce, that he wanted to work things out, so the stipulation to signing the divorce was that, we would attend marriage counseling to see if the problems could be remedied. I knew he would either back out of counseling, or be unhappy with the reaction from the counselor regarding his behavior, so I agreed to participate. I wanted this divorce over with ASAP.

About 3 weeks after he had left, we went to our first session, and it was less than productive. He was trying to validate his actions and behavior, but she was not as understanding as he would have liked. She did make some points about how the adjustment is difficult and so on, but for the most part, when were leaving, she said she felt this was not salvageable. He insisted we would make this work, one way or another.

After the appointment he said he did not feel it was necessary to go to the counselor again, that we are married and we can fix this without anyone's help. I expressed my disagreement in that and reminded him how the only reason that appointment had taken place was to file for the divorce. He stated that he would not sign and that was it. This is when more chaos began.

So days pass, weeks, and he continues to insist I give him another chance, that he began working and he really wanted to try to show me that his intentions were not what I thought, but instead to be a provider and supportive husband. I verified that he was working, and that lasted less than one week. His attitude at the job was cocky and they told him they no longer needed him there. He ran out of money, his friends were growing tired of having him stay there and be a burden on them, so he became desperate. He had his friends calling me and my friends on a regular basis, basically begging to let him come back to me....but while they were making these calls, on the other end they were taking him to bars, clubs, strip clubs and other "non productive" place on a daily basis. He had begun using drugs and drinking regularly. He started to speak to me in the most disrespectful way, telling me I was less of a woman and that I was psychotic, that I needed to have someone show me what a real wife is, etc......

His father called to tell me what a change in attitude Jensy had, as though he were being brainwashed or something. Honestly, I couldn't be bothered with this anymore. After being jilted by him the first time, my guard was up super high...high enough to block any emotional attachment I felt toward him. Don't get me wrong...there's been a lot of crying and confusion on my part, but that is to be expected in this type of situation. I would be dammed if I let my heart think for me again though.

Fast forward....

2 weeks ago on a Friday he passed by my home and asked if I'd go to a movie. I immediately noticed his eyes were strange, like he was in a daze, and his facial expressions were weird. Then it hit me....he had been doing drugs. Apparently, from one of his lovely friends, I found out he was smoking some "legal" cannibinoid substance that allows you to get the same high as marijuana, but does not come out in a drug screening. The crazy part of that is it causes hallucinations, paralysis, seizures, violence, etc.......

I knew he was not in his right mind and tried to quickly get him away from me. He became FURIOUS and began choking me. Now, although I can defend myself very adequately, it would be a cold day in hell before I would hit him back and he then try to file for that VAWA ####### (or whatever it is)! HELLLLL NO! So, I found a way to get away, locked myself inside my home, and he left. I called the police but they informed me that, because we were still married, and that I had no idea where he lived, it would be a waste of time for them to respond to the call. But that if he returned, to call right away. Now, the halfassness from my local PD is a whole other story.....

Next morning...my daughter leaves for work and she calls me right away to tell me Jensy is outside in a car with his friend. I lock all doors and close the shades. When I go to look out the window I see him trying to break in. He had no idea I was home. I ran upstairs to my tenants apartment and called 911. He had managed to come in through a window in my daughters room, grab some things and leave...but not before the police caught him running away.

They said he could not be arrested on the breaking and entering, because we were married (really?), but that he would be arrested for the DV that had occurred the night before. I was assured he would be in jail until Monday when he would be arraigned. That did not happen. The allowed him to bail out...and he was back in the street harassing again. On Monday he had court, the judge gave him a stay away order and he did not listen. He also turned down his right to a court appointed lawyer and decided to represent himself. SMH.

After court he started calling my family and friends, demanding I give him his green card and any other immigration documents that would arrive or he wouldn't leave me alone. Of course, we know this wasn't going to happen. And of course, I call the PD to report his harassing 3rd party contact, but they said "we don't have time to run out and respond to every little complaint. if he's not harming you, what's the problem? at this point you sound like the town crier". Now this came from an Officer in Charge which blew my mind. So, I contacted the Captain, explained how disgusted I was with the PD, and he issued a warrant for Jensy's arrest. That of course, has not been followed through with. Jensy is still in the street somewhere........

I have to go back to court on April 9, and I have an appt with immigration right before. This WILL come to an end....even if the system continues to fail me, I am determined to fight this until I receive the closure I deserve.

My spirits are up and I feel free. I said I would never do this visa thing again, but you know what.....we never know where we will find love, and if it comes to me from over seas...then so be it. I refuse to let one heartless person ruin my life and/or chance for real love. But as for now, I am taking time for me, to heal and regroup.

Sorry for the rambling.....and I hate to be a damper on everyones great news, but its good to hear the "other" side of the visa journey.

Sorry to hear all that Drama. Hope he gets what he deserves!!

[Mr. Borkström 63]

sam what happened with your case. Any updates

Yeah, stay strong and safe, and keep us updated.