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[i see you 0]

I want your advice please, I have a friend who marry an african-american for like 2 mos, now she is crying that her husband ask her if she has a friend near in her so that she can stay there.. Now, she has a problem now...What can you advice to her? please help us...

[milimelo 4,196]

Moving to effects of major family changes forum.

[katiemanny 64]

What is the urgency here, is there any type of abuse involved here? what kind of advice are you seeking for your friend?

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She said that her husband treated her well but she thinks that her husband has another woman... Since they are married does the guy has the right to say that she can't leave in their house? The problem is they are not yet processing for the adjustment of status

[katiemanny 64]

She said that her husband treated her well but she thinks that her husband has another woman... Since they are married does the guy has the right to say that she can't leave in their house? The problem is they are not yet processing for the adjustment of status

What exactly does your friend need, her husband treats her well, then if she thinks that her husband has another woman then she needs to investigate and talk to her husband about anything about the marriage or seek marriage counseling, there's no abuse involved here so there's not much advice except for your friend to try to work things out with her husband. VAWA is not an option because cheating is not abuse.

Edited September 13, 2011 by katiemanny

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Her problem is her husband doesn't want her to stay in the house anymore meaning kick ur butt out of here! that is scarry.........................................

They guy will only say that there is no other girl. He said that he is not happy anymore according to my friend.. So does she has the right to stay at home since the are married?

[Jojo92122 1,924]

Her problem is her husband doesn't want her to stay in the house anymore meaning kick ur butt out of here! that is scarry.........................................

They guy will only say that there is no other girl. He said that he is not happy anymore according to my friend.. So does she has the right to stay at home since the are married?

Her husband cannot simply kick her out. Spouses have a general obligation of support which includes housing. If she does not want to move out, there is nothing he can legally do to remove her. She can voluntarily move out. If he tries to drive her out by treating her badly, she will need to involve the police or the court.

[trillium13 84]

Why would someone want to stay in that situation?

[rlogan 2,036]

Her problem is her husband doesn't want her to stay in the house anymore meaning kick ur butt out of here! that is scarry.........................................

They guy will only say that there is no other girl. He said that he is not happy anymore according to my friend.. So does she has the right to stay at home since the are married?

Then she has no genuine marriage relationship. It doesn't work out for everyone. Is he refusing to help her go home?

[TeddyHoney 42]

Ii have no advice or help but just want to say that if this is true, and I have read other similar stories -some true some not some just one side, and i am not suggesting this is either, but I'll never understand it. We go through so much to get these VISA and our partners here. I think everyone will agree getting a VISA for the US is no picnic. I'll never understand how some petitioners can go thru all that to get thier fiance(e) or spouse here and then not commit to the person. I mean, why bother with all this frustration and anxiety, etc in the first place if that's what your going to do? I know some things don't work out and sometimes that's found out early. But jeez you can still be human about it and act with care and compasion and do what you can to make it as painless as possible for the beneficiary if things don;t work out. If this was K-1 I wonder why he married her and then 2 months later want someone else.

I'll never understand it. He could do the same thing with any USC and not ever have gone through the agonizing VISA process.

I don't get it.

I guess I expect to much from some humans. Guess I expect everyone will behave like majority of members here on VJ who are overly ecstatic and on emotional overload for weeks, months, years when they finally get thier fiance(e)/spouses here after VISA process hell.

[Heartwarming 15]

I want your advice please, I have a friend who marry an african-american for like 2 mos, now she is crying that her husband ask her if she has a friend near in her so that she can stay there.. Now, she has a problem now...What can you advice to her? please help us...

Hello! Why does it matter whether he is African American or Caucasian? Does that matter in this situation? Why did you even have to bring his race up? Is it your friend or you that needs the advice? At any rate, she should know if he has another woman or not nobody on here can help her. She needs to follow him and see what he does when he is not at home or just come out and ask him.

[Deema & Wayne 28]

Hello! Why does it matter whether he is African American or Caucasian? Does that matter in this situation? Why did you even have to bring his race up? Is it your friend or you that needs the advice? At any rate, she should know if he has another woman or not nobody on here can help her. She needs to follow him and see what he does when he is not at home or just come out and ask him.

I don't think he meant to bring race into this, he was just describing him and I believe it was innocent, the way I see it you're the one who turned it into a race thing. Eventually, it won't matter if it is another woman or not, the point is he wants her out, and he doesn't have the right to remove her if she is legally married to him.

Like it was mentioned, she can voluntarily move out or stay and try to work things out with him and get things out in the open, "I'm not happy" doesn't explain squat. He needs to clarify.

Edited September 14, 2011 by Dana79

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Like it was mentioned, she can voluntarily move out or stay and try to work things out with him and get things out in the open, "I'm not happy" doesn't explain squat. He needs to clarify.

He doesn't NEED to do anything. If he doesn't want to stay with her he doesn't have to.

The OP's *friend* can't be kicked out of the house just yet, but she SHOULD get out of the situation somehow. Either way this isn't an immigration matter and is instead a family law matter.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Hello! Why does it matter whether he is African American or Caucasian? Does that matter in this situation? Why did you even have to bring his race up? Is it your friend or you that needs the advice? At any rate, she should know if he has another woman or not nobody on here can help her. She needs to follow him and see what he does when he is not at home or just come out and ask him.

Race/culture does matter in some instances. Whether we like it or not we judge people and their temperament based on race. It's common to see people ask what country someone is from to "explain" their behaviour. Like some ####### I read about "tampo" being common in the Philippines. Race/culture matters... though in this particular instance I don't see anything that would normally lead us to ask what race. We can assume from the OP that the OP's friend is also Filippino.

Dude doesn't want her living there anymore. She doesn't have anywhere to go (which if the OP is really a friend should have the friend move in). The OP said they haven't started AOS yet, which is probaly the ACTUAL issue here, rather than living situation (OP is a friend so probably has a floor she can crash on). No AOS = no GC = go home. OP's *friend* probably still wants her GC. She stated there's no abuse so no way to get GC. OP's *friend* should have him file for divorce and pay for her ticket home. I say have HIM file because being Filipino it matters that the guy files and not her.

Edited September 14, 2011 by Vanessa&Tony

[Deema & Wayne 28]

He doesn't NEED to do anything. If he doesn't want to stay with her he doesn't have to.

The OP's *friend* can't be kicked out of the house just yet, but she SHOULD get out of the situation somehow. Either way this isn't an immigration matter and is instead a family law matter.

Are you suggesting that after she moved out there to be with him and lived with him for two months and married the guy, he can just end things without an explanation? I put in two options there, she can VOLUNTARILY move it (meaning he can't kick her out) OR maybe there is something to save there, none of us know what's going through this guy's head, it could be he's afraid of going through the process or doesn't have the money to maybe? Ultimately it's something that should be explained to her regardless of whether his decision stands or not.