Moving to America

[GS4EVER 0]

Hey since hubby is coming soon, I figured I will start this post eventhough I am the USC. But I moved here 13 yrs ago at age 20 so I have a lot I can relate with to newcomers.

So officially, welcome!!

[TBoneTX 45,537]

Congratulations! Because there are MANY threads in this forum about adjusting to life, which specific aspects do you wish to discuss?

[GS4EVER 0]

Thanks T! OOH I guess fears and expectations. Since I am experienced maybe I can answer general qs and shed light about what's ahead. I joined this thread b/c of our members in the other thread suggested it. Hehe it seems they are taking a while to get here

Edited May 13, 2009 by GS4EVER

[His_Wifey 1]

hey GS... i'm in eventhough i still have the interview to go...... i think missing my family is gonna be my main issue when moving to the states

[Princess In Love 0]

hey GS... i'm in eventhough i still have the interview to go...... i think missing my family is gonna be my main issue when moving to the states

same here

thanks for starting this thread GS4EVER , we needed some place to gather

[Nikita2Charles 32]

Congrats!!!

[K.D 0]

hey GS.....i m here .... so as u started this thread i m joining here only .....lol..i m moving here officially...

i m indian and i hv noone in usa from my parents' side except my hubby's whole family....whom i hv never met.. it will be tough to adjust as they all stays in USA from more than 26 years.. so thrs lot for me to learn and adjust... but i am excited to meet my husband only 22 days are left.......

[Slightly Bonkers 0]

for me the hardest thing was not working for 9 months (1 month til wedding, 1 month after, 3-4 monts waiting for EAD, 3 months looking for work). It can be really difficult to go from an independent capable person to unemployed and unable to do things by yourself.

Prepare for this with volunteer work, projects, visits from friends and family and a very very sympathetic spouse.

[His_Wifey 1]

yeah thats something else... i been doing the same job for 11 years... im in accounts... and so its gonna be real difficult.... my husband is in the military so we will be moving often!

[GS4EVER 0]

Glad to c u guys here Definitely having a job and being able to make ur own money will help. This is good news for those of u entering with CR1 as u get start working almost immediately, as soon as you have a social security card.

It's nice to have a place like this to vent. How I wish I had this type of support when I arrived here 13 yrs ago!! Did not know anyone and I experienced big culture shock with no one to help me through it 13 yrs later I am still learning how to adjust to certain things believe it or not! But I try to look at the postives of what America has offered to me and I can't complain. The toughest thing is the separation from family and everything u r used to back home and starting over from scratch.

When I married hubby I flew there after 10 yrs of absence and I cried my eyes out as the airplane flew over Beirut! It was a bitter sweet reunion....The second time I flew there, I cried again! I realized how much I had missed Lebanon and all these years I was pushing it in the back of my mind and trying to live in denial. Don't do that: Embrace ur culture and ur individuality and never try to let go of ur own unique identity. It's what makes America special ...all these cultures blending together. Now if only some ppl accepted diversity as opposed to pushing it away.

[atk_721 0]

Hey guys......

i m here......i have so many concerns,i cant even imagine........my hubby's family back home is so closely tied,all his uncles and aunts and his brother....i m not sure how he will manage here with me and my little family here.Houses over there are huge and i can only afford a small apartment here :(Main concern ,a job for him and imagine i cant find one for myself right now.....he has a good job back home and i know it always takes a little time here to get something u want,especially if ur a new comer.....but these days i dunno how long it will take........i m not sure how i m gonna handle all this But i m sure things would be easier to manage when we are together

[atk_721 0]

hey GS.....i m here .... so as u started this thread i m joining here only .....lol..i m moving here officially...

i m indian and i hv noone in usa from my parents' side except my hubby's whole family....whom i hv never met.. it will be tough to adjust as they all stays in USA from more than 26 years.. so thrs lot for me to learn and adjust... but i am excited to meet my husband only 22 days are left.......

AWWW....i hear you....its gonna be though but i m sure u can manage it...you will just need some time...dont worry u have ur VJ family here for u.......I think u said u will be in NJ,i m in NY.....so can call me if u feel lonely....i will give u my number.....

ur post reminded me of movie PARDES......but i know ur hubby is like Shahrukh ,not like the other mean guy........

So,dont worry and Best of Luck.....

If u and ur hubby are together nuthing else matters......

[trinket 30]

I don't have much to add to this thread other than the job situation. I am dying to get a job. It gets boring after a while to sit at home all day without any human interaction other than my husband. I wish to go out more often, I do shopping and all on my own, but I would love to talk to more people, make friends and such.

I don't come from a big family, so I don't really had to deal with missing family as such. The biggest adjustment was food; being from India the food out here is so so different, took a bit of time to get used to the new flavours. One thing good though is that what I hated during my first month out here, now I enjoy those, say lasagna, the first bite I took, I didn't like it at all but now I make it my own and enjoy it.

Also living in apartment, I never lived in apartments before, so it kind of took its time, the only thing I hate about this apartment at least is how small the kitchen is.

Oh my latest worry is health care system out here, that will be a big change for a lot of people immigrating to US, how costly things are and how you need prescription for everything, even BC pills.

[K.D 0]

hey GS.....i m here .... so as u started this thread i m joining here only .....lol..i m moving here officially...

i m indian and i hv noone in usa from my parents' side except my hubby's whole family....whom i hv never met.. it will be tough to adjust as they all stays in USA from more than 26 years.. so thrs lot for me to learn and adjust... but i am excited to meet my husband only 22 days are left.......

AWWW....i hear you....its gonna be though but i m sure u can manage it...you will just need some time...dont worry u have ur VJ family here for u.......I think u said u will be in NJ,i m in NY.....so can call me if u feel lonely....i will give u my number.....

ur post reminded me of movie PARDES......but i know ur hubby is like Shahrukh ,not like the other mean guy........

So,dont worry and Best of Luck.....

If u and ur hubby are together nuthing else matters......

thank you very much atk..... u r right atk.. my hubby is like shahrukh of pardesh only....lol... so no worries. i hv pm u my id and will give younumber once i will come thr and buy new mobile number....

the only thing common in me and my hubby is we both hv big family.. but my family is truly indian and his family is indians with americanised ways.. .... just like GS wrote i m also prepared for cultural shock.. also i had very good job in pharma company and i wont get job in usa tht easily as i will hv to study again to become registered pharmacist..

the only good part is i m wrtting prescriptions now and buying medicines from india only as its cheaper here also initially when i will enter in US if i will hv any illness we wont hv to go to doctor often for small illness..

[Princess In Love 0]

hey friends, i'm officially in, i passed my interview today