How long does it take to fall in love?

[william_wallace 8]

Lol. Lara certainly knows and seen my bad habits. I won't mention them.

[Minya's wife 25]

The way I look at it is. You could meet someone from your own town or city and marry straight away. The one good thing about the internet, your getting to know the person more this way rather falling in love with someone you met in a pub, at work etc.

I've heard this before here, and I have to say I don't understand. Do people who met foreign SO's on the internet really feel that their relationship is *superior* to those who met by more traditional means?

I've never thought that. There are pros and cons to LDR's as well as normal relationships, IMO. Living together certainly hasn't shown to be successful in leading to a lasting marriage. I don't think there's any one sure way.

Right. I've just heard it said many times that in an LDR you get to know each other *better* because you can talk without all the physical stuff getting in the way. maybe people are just using figures of speech, but it really comes off as though those who were not fortunate? enough to have been in an LDR really don't know our partners as well.

I hear people say this too - which I don't agree with because you can certainly present an idealized version of yourself to someone when they are not there in person to witness all your bad habits and behavoirs. True love comes when they see all your flaws and still love you anyway.

*shrugs* it would be easy enough for someone to hide their bad habits and behaviors in person too...

no way of starting a relationship is better then the other...

I'm not saying that it is. I think it is *easier* to hide flaws when you are thousands of miles away. Less easy to do when you are together 24-7. Lots of stories on this website are testament to that.

if someone is hiding anything, like bad habits etc.. in my opinion that isn't a good relationship then..

that depends on the bad habit - getting a bit moody after a bad day is something most people do, I don't everyone who does is in a bad relationship

True, but hiding your bad mood from your spouse just for the sake of hiding it (because its a *perceived* bad habit) could be a sign of a not so healthy communication....not sufe if it means bad relationship though...

-P

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

but like I said earlier.. no relationship is better just because of the way it started... I know it is hard for people to understand internet relationships, believe me before it happened to me I thought people who did that were a little crazy

You seem to be insinuating that this is what I am suggesting by stating something that is obvious to me as someone who has actually experienced a long distance relationship (pre-internet era, however). For the record, I am not.

[Marilyn. 340]

The way I look at it is. You could meet someone from your own town or city and marry straight away. The one good thing about the internet, your getting to know the person more this way rather falling in love with someone you met in a pub, at work etc.

I've heard this before here, and I have to say I don't understand. Do people who met foreign SO's on the internet really feel that their relationship is *superior* to those who met by more traditional means?

I've never thought that. There are pros and cons to LDR's as well as normal relationships, IMO. Living together certainly hasn't shown to be successful in leading to a lasting marriage. I don't think there's any one sure way.

Right. I've just heard it said many times that in an LDR you get to know each other *better* because you can talk without all the physical stuff getting in the way. maybe people are just using figures of speech, but it really comes off as though those who were not fortunate? enough to have been in an LDR really don't know our partners as well.

I hear people say this too - which I don't agree with because you can certainly present an idealized version of yourself to someone when they are not there in person to witness all your bad habits and behavoirs. True love comes when they see all your flaws and still love you anyway.

*shrugs* it would be easy enough for someone to hide their bad habits and behaviors in person too...

no way of starting a relationship is better then the other...

I'm not saying that it is. I think it is *easier* to hide flaws when you are thousands of miles away. Less easy to do when you are together 24-7. Lots of stories on this website are testament to that.

if someone is hiding anything, like bad habits etc.. in my opinion that isn't a good relationship then..

that depends on the bad habit - getting a bit moody after a bad day is something most people do, I don't everyone who does is in a bad relationship

True, but hiding your bad mood from your spouse just for the sake of hiding it (because its a *perceived* bad habit) could be a sign of a not so healthy communication....not sufe if it means bad relationship though...

-P

yeah maybe my choice of words wasn't the greatest..

[one...two...tree 2,762]

The way I look at it is. You could meet someone from your own town or city and marry straight away. The one good thing about the internet, your getting to know the person more this way rather falling in love with someone you met in a pub, at work etc.

I've heard this before here, and I have to say I don't understand. Do people who met foreign SO's on the internet really feel that their relationship is *superior* to those who met by more traditional means?

I've never thought that. There are pros and cons to LDR's as well as normal relationships, IMO. Living together certainly hasn't shown to be successful in leading to a lasting marriage. I don't think there's any one sure way.

Right. I've just heard it said many times that in an LDR you get to know each other *better* because you can talk without all the physical stuff getting in the way. maybe people are just using figures of speech, but it really comes off as though those who were not fortunate? enough to have been in an LDR really don't know our partners as well.

I hear people say this too - which I don't agree with because you can certainly present an idealized version of yourself to someone when they are not there in person to witness all your bad habits and behavoirs. True love comes when they see all your flaws and still love you anyway.

People put up veneers in real life too...in fact, I'd venture to say they're more likely to let their guard down at least emotionally behind the safety of a computer screen. On the other hand though, if someone had alterior motives or wanted to hide other material aspects of themselves, it would be easier to do it online.

[Steve Y Jessica 1]

Oh wait, this was the topic. I got confused, I was thinking the topic was boobies!!

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

Oh wait, this was the topic. I got confused, I was thinking the topic was boobies!!

I think you Steve, Charles and Dean need to form a booby posse.

[Minya's wife 25]

yeah maybe my choice of words wasn't the greatest..

I understood what you meant....just wanted to clarify further.

-P

[Marilyn. 340]

but like I said earlier.. no relationship is better just because of the way it started... I know it is hard for people to understand internet relationships, believe me before it happened to me I thought people who did that were a little crazy

You seem to be insinuating that this is what I am suggesting by stating something that is obvious to me as someone who has actually experienced a long distance relationship (pre-internet era, however). For the record, I am not.

um, I wasn't insinuating that you felt that way.. but I know some people do...

and I wasn't talking about long distance relationships I was referring to couples who met online...

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Oh wait, this was the topic. I got confused, I was thinking the topic was boobies!!

...don't provoke me...or I'll have to do this...

(disclaimer: photo is a little risque)

click here.

[Jenn! 918]

Good job, Steve. You get a

[Minya's wife 25]

Oh wait, this was the topic. I got confused, I was thinking the topic was boobies!!

It is...so back to topic:

Edited July 25, 2008 by Minya's wife

[Steve Y Jessica 1]

Oh wait, this was the topic. I got confused, I was thinking the topic was boobies!!

...don't provoke me...or I'll have to do this...

(disclaimer: photo is a little risque)

click here.

Yayyyyyy, BOOBIES!!!!!!

[SteveLaura 0]

Good job, Steve. You get a

Absolutely! Keep going, mate!

Wait, maybe that's not what you meant...

[Jenn! 918]

Good job, Steve. You get a

Absolutely! Keep going, mate!

Wait, maybe that's not what you meant...

Oh I love boobs too! It just *really* turns me on when I have to click a link to get to them. It's so suspenseful, and satisfying.