How long does it take to fall in love?

[gensdad515 2]

My dad fell in love with mom at first sight. It was that quick. Nobody questioned their love - is it because there was no greencard involved?

I guess that would be a personal question. It depends on the person. I know it sounds vague or corny, but you just know. I communicated with my fiancee for about 7 years as friends. It was not a continual thing, we would contact each other every month or so and catch up with our lives. We finally met in person March of this year, after she left back to her country we kept in contact more serious this time. We realized that we were the person each other was looking for. There is no doubt in my mind. J.

[Marilyn. 340]

we chatted online, on the phone etc for about 8 months before we met in person... and by then my heart knew I loved him... but my brain wasn't so sure.. my brain wanted to make sure this guy was actually a real person... so when I first saw him the airport, I knew I was in love, heart, mind and soul because I could see he was a real person...

[Minya's wife 24]

Charles, I told you NOT to post my pic on VJ !

Nagi,

I didn't know you had such a nice and ample lungs.

she's got..........huge..........tracts of land!

i feel sorry for her back and how painfull must be to carry those huge tracts of land

that's where these come in real handy.

and these?

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

The way I look at it is. You could meet someone from your own town or city and marry straight away. The one good thing about the internet, your getting to know the person more this way rather falling in love with someone you met in a pub, at work etc.

I've heard this before here, and I have to say I don't understand. Do people who met foreign SO's on the internet really feel that their relationship is *superior* to those who met by more traditional means?

I've never thought that. There are pros and cons to LDR's as well as normal relationships, IMO. Living together certainly hasn't shown to be successful in leading to a lasting marriage. I don't think there's any one sure way.

Right. I've just heard it said many times that in an LDR you get to know each other *better* because you can talk without all the physical stuff getting in the way. maybe people are just using figures of speech, but it really comes off as though those who were not fortunate? enough to have been in an LDR really don't know our partners as well.

I hear people say this too - which I don't agree with because you can certainly present an idealized version of yourself to someone when they are not there in person to witness all your bad habits and behavoirs. True love comes when they see all your flaws and still love you anyway.

[Ban Hammer 12,876]

Charles, I told you NOT to post my pic on VJ !

Nagi,

I didn't know you had such a nice and ample lungs.

she's got..........huge..........tracts of land!

i feel sorry for her back and how painfull must be to carry those huge tracts of land

that's where these come in real handy.

and these?

no wheels.

[Minya's wife 24]

I'm not questioning the online meeting versus the in-person meeting. I'm shocked at how some people got engaged within 1-3 months, for both groups.

It just seems like the online meeting would take even longer because of the anonymity part of it. Until you actually meet in person, you don't really know who you are chatting with, even with cameras and mikes.

And what we're trying to say, at least what I'm trying to say (and some others I think) is that there is no 'short' or 'long' time to get engaged when you've encountered the one. for you it may seem that getting engaged within 1-3 months regardless of how you met is a short time....for others it just felt right to do it that way....there are no rules in love.

-P

[Marilyn. 340]

The way I look at it is. You could meet someone from your own town or city and marry straight away. The one good thing about the internet, your getting to know the person more this way rather falling in love with someone you met in a pub, at work etc.

I've heard this before here, and I have to say I don't understand. Do people who met foreign SO's on the internet really feel that their relationship is *superior* to those who met by more traditional means?

I've never thought that. There are pros and cons to LDR's as well as normal relationships, IMO. Living together certainly hasn't shown to be successful in leading to a lasting marriage. I don't think there's any one sure way.

Right. I've just heard it said many times that in an LDR you get to know each other *better* because you can talk without all the physical stuff getting in the way. maybe people are just using figures of speech, but it really comes off as though those who were not fortunate? enough to have been in an LDR really don't know our partners as well.

I hear people say this too - which I don't agree with because you can certainly present an idealized version of yourself to someone when they are not there in person to witness all your bad habits and behavoirs. True love comes when they see all your flaws and still love you anyway.

*shrugs* it would be easy enough for someone to hide their bad habits and behaviors in person too...

no way of starting a relationship is better then the other...

[Minya's wife 24]

Charles, I told you NOT to post my pic on VJ !

Nagi,

I didn't know you had such a nice and ample lungs.

she's got..........huge..........tracts of land!

i feel sorry for her back and how painfull must be to carry those huge tracts of land

that's where these come in real handy.

and these?

no wheels.

you don't necessarily need wheels to carry those huge tracts of land...do you?

[Marilyn. 340]

I'm not questioning the online meeting versus the in-person meeting. I'm shocked at how some people got engaged within 1-3 months, for both groups.

It just seems like the online meeting would take even longer because of the anonymity part of it. Until you actually meet in person, you don't really know who you are chatting with, even with cameras and mikes.

And what we're trying to say, at least what I'm trying to say (and some others I think) is that there is no 'short' or 'long' time to get engaged when you've encountered the one. for you it may seem that getting engaged within 1-3 months regardless of how you met is a short time....for others it just felt right to do it that way....there are no rules in love.

-P

my parents met, got engaged, got married and my mom got pregnant all within the first year of their relationship and they have been married for 35 years now..

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

The way I look at it is. You could meet someone from your own town or city and marry straight away. The one good thing about the internet, your getting to know the person more this way rather falling in love with someone you met in a pub, at work etc.

I've heard this before here, and I have to say I don't understand. Do people who met foreign SO's on the internet really feel that their relationship is *superior* to those who met by more traditional means?

I've never thought that. There are pros and cons to LDR's as well as normal relationships, IMO. Living together certainly hasn't shown to be successful in leading to a lasting marriage. I don't think there's any one sure way.

Right. I've just heard it said many times that in an LDR you get to know each other *better* because you can talk without all the physical stuff getting in the way. maybe people are just using figures of speech, but it really comes off as though those who were not fortunate? enough to have been in an LDR really don't know our partners as well.

I hear people say this too - which I don't agree with because you can certainly present an idealized version of yourself to someone when they are not there in person to witness all your bad habits and behavoirs. True love comes when they see all your flaws and still love you anyway.

*shrugs* it would be easy enough for someone to hide their bad habits and behaviors in person too...

no way of starting a relationship is better then the other...

I'm not saying that it is. I think it is *easier* to hide flaws when you are thousands of miles away. Less easy to do when you are together 24-7. Lots of stories on this website are testament to that.

[Marilyn. 340]

The way I look at it is. You could meet someone from your own town or city and marry straight away. The one good thing about the internet, your getting to know the person more this way rather falling in love with someone you met in a pub, at work etc.

I've heard this before here, and I have to say I don't understand. Do people who met foreign SO's on the internet really feel that their relationship is *superior* to those who met by more traditional means?

I've never thought that. There are pros and cons to LDR's as well as normal relationships, IMO. Living together certainly hasn't shown to be successful in leading to a lasting marriage. I don't think there's any one sure way.

Right. I've just heard it said many times that in an LDR you get to know each other *better* because you can talk without all the physical stuff getting in the way. maybe people are just using figures of speech, but it really comes off as though those who were not fortunate? enough to have been in an LDR really don't know our partners as well.

I hear people say this too - which I don't agree with because you can certainly present an idealized version of yourself to someone when they are not there in person to witness all your bad habits and behavoirs. True love comes when they see all your flaws and still love you anyway.

*shrugs* it would be easy enough for someone to hide their bad habits and behaviors in person too...

no way of starting a relationship is better then the other...

I'm not saying that it is. I think it is *easier* to hide flaws when you are thousands of miles away. Less easy to do when you are together 24-7. Lots of stories on this website are testament to that.

if someone is hiding anything, like bad habits etc.. in my opinion that isn't a good relationship then..

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

The way I look at it is. You could meet someone from your own town or city and marry straight away. The one good thing about the internet, your getting to know the person more this way rather falling in love with someone you met in a pub, at work etc.

I've heard this before here, and I have to say I don't understand. Do people who met foreign SO's on the internet really feel that their relationship is *superior* to those who met by more traditional means?

I've never thought that. There are pros and cons to LDR's as well as normal relationships, IMO. Living together certainly hasn't shown to be successful in leading to a lasting marriage. I don't think there's any one sure way.

Right. I've just heard it said many times that in an LDR you get to know each other *better* because you can talk without all the physical stuff getting in the way. maybe people are just using figures of speech, but it really comes off as though those who were not fortunate? enough to have been in an LDR really don't know our partners as well.

I hear people say this too - which I don't agree with because you can certainly present an idealized version of yourself to someone when they are not there in person to witness all your bad habits and behavoirs. True love comes when they see all your flaws and still love you anyway.

*shrugs* it would be easy enough for someone to hide their bad habits and behaviors in person too...

no way of starting a relationship is better then the other...

I'm not saying that it is. I think it is *easier* to hide flaws when you are thousands of miles away. Less easy to do when you are together 24-7. Lots of stories on this website are testament to that.

if someone is hiding anything, like bad habits etc.. in my opinion that isn't a good relationship then..

that depends on the bad habit - getting a bit moody after a bad day is something most people do, I don't everyone who does is in a bad relationship

[Peikko 1,575]

You know, I think if someone has the 'love' blinkers on, they have them on no matter if it's RL or over the interwebbery.

[Marilyn. 340]

The way I look at it is. You could meet someone from your own town or city and marry straight away. The one good thing about the internet, your getting to know the person more this way rather falling in love with someone you met in a pub, at work etc.

I've heard this before here, and I have to say I don't understand. Do people who met foreign SO's on the internet really feel that their relationship is *superior* to those who met by more traditional means?

I've never thought that. There are pros and cons to LDR's as well as normal relationships, IMO. Living together certainly hasn't shown to be successful in leading to a lasting marriage. I don't think there's any one sure way.

Right. I've just heard it said many times that in an LDR you get to know each other *better* because you can talk without all the physical stuff getting in the way. maybe people are just using figures of speech, but it really comes off as though those who were not fortunate? enough to have been in an LDR really don't know our partners as well.

I hear people say this too - which I don't agree with because you can certainly present an idealized version of yourself to someone when they are not there in person to witness all your bad habits and behavoirs. True love comes when they see all your flaws and still love you anyway.

*shrugs* it would be easy enough for someone to hide their bad habits and behaviors in person too...

no way of starting a relationship is better then the other...

I'm not saying that it is. I think it is *easier* to hide flaws when you are thousands of miles away. Less easy to do when you are together 24-7. Lots of stories on this website are testament to that.

if someone is hiding anything, like bad habits etc.. in my opinion that isn't a good relationship then..

that depends on the bad habit - getting a bit moody after a bad day is something most people do, I don't everyone who does is in a bad relationship

being in a bad mood is hard to cover up even over the phone

but like I said earlier.. no relationship is better just because of the way it started... I know it is hard for people to understand internet relationships, believe me before it happened to me I thought people who did that were a little crazy

[Muh and me 18]

I met Kamal in June of 06 online and went over to Morocco in Feb of 07 and filed the k-1 in march and married him in Oct. So that was pretty fast on our part. I could feel the love when i got off that plane.