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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Albania
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Hello all. I'm writing once again for some advice and hope that someone can help me out. After 8 months of being separated and waiting for his visa, after going to the interview and passing everything with flying colors, after arriving here in the US and finally being together... I found out that the man I was engaged to was a stranger.

Once here, half the time he was the man I remember; and the other half, he was controlling and manipulative. He also used my computer daily while I was at work to download VERY inappropriate things and to also seek out other women in Minneapolis.

I am broken-hearted... we (or maybe was it just I?) worked so hard throughout this visa process to ensure that everything would work out with the paperwork, the embassy, etc... and of course sometimes relationships don't work out, but this is all just too much. I discovered all of these things on Saturday and he was on a plane tonight, by my choice and his as well. (He still won't admit he did these things although the evidence is all on my computer... he says I've made it all up and that I'm a terrible person for being so judgmental.)

I am wondering--- I know with the I-134, I signed saying that I have all financial responsibility for him. Is that only when he is in the US?? Now that he's on his way back to Europe, am I okay or still liable? Am I safe to just let this visa expire, knowing that he can't re-enter the US? What are the necessary precautions I need to take??

I can't believe this is all happening. Please, someone, say something. :cry:


I129f Timeline

Petition sent: 26 July 2007

Received by CSC: 24 August 2007

NOA1 Received: Never Got One!!!!!

Petition approved: 12 Feb 2008! :)

NOA2 Received: 16 Feb 2008

NVC Received Petition: 15 Feb 2008

NVC Sent Petition to Embassy:19 Feb 2008

Embassy Received: 21 Feb 2008

Packets 3 and 4 sent by embassy: 3 March 2008

Packets 3 and 4 received: 6 March 2008

Interview Date: 18 March 2008

Ugh! Unable to get police certificate in time for interview!!

Interview Rescheduled for: 8 April 2008 (APPROVED!!!)

Flight to Minneapolis: 12 April 2008

He left on a plane, Minneapolis airport...21 April 2008

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I'm not sure what advice I can give you, but I am terribly sorry this happened to you...you are in my thoughts and prayers!


Dawn

Our journey to be together (work in progress)

March 2007 - Met online

1/28/08 - Sent I-129F to VSC

5/13/08 - Visa in hand!!!

7/7/08 - POE

7/11/08 - legal wedding

7/20/08 - AOS/EAD/AP sent to Chicago Lockbox

11/18/08 - AOS approved!!!

11/25/08 - Received welcome letter...and Green Card!!!

12/21/08 - ceremonial wedding

10/9/10 - Sent I-751 and started the fresh hell that is ROC

10/14/10 - NOA1 for ROC

10/29/10 - received appointment for Biometrics

11/22/10 - Biometrics appointment

Currently: Living blissfully with my Essex lad...

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I am wondering--- I know with the I-134, I signed saying that I have all financial responsibility for him. Is that only when he is in the US?? Now that he's on his way back to Europe, am I okay or still liable? Am I safe to just let this visa expire, knowing that he can't re-enter the US? What are the necessary precautions I need to take??

I can't believe this is all happening. Please, someone, say something. :cry:

I too am sorry you had to go through this. I know you won't find any comfort in this, but it's best you found out now than after your wedding.

As far as the financial responsibility goes: I don't know for sure, but I can only assume that you would be responsible for him here in the states. Our country only cares if he were to become a burden on the system here and probably couldn't care less what he does in his home country. I believe you're financial responsibility has ended, but you should contact immigration to inform them of your situation just to make it official.

Maybe someone else here has better advice for you.


Our K-1 Timeline

01/12/08: Attorney mailed petition to CSC

01/22/08: NOA1

05/27/08: NOA2

06/03/08: NVC received

06/04/08: NVC forwarded to Rio de Janeiro consulate

06/09/08: Consulate received

06/23/08: Packet 3 sent

08/19/08: Interview!! (Approved!!)

08/27/08: Visa in hand

09/12/08: POE (Washington DC)

09/25/08: Applied for Social Security card

10/06/08: Social Security card received

11/12/08: Marriage!!

AOS Timeline

03/21/09: Mailed AOS docs to Chicago

03/23/09: AOS packet received in Chicago

03/31/09: NOA1

04/03/09: NOA1 Received (His Birthday!!)

04/17/09: Received notice that our case was transferred to CSC on 4/13/09

04/17/09: My case has been entered into the USCIS system!!

04/23/09: Biometrics appointment

05/11/09: AP approved

05/12/09: Case arrived at CSC for further processing

05/13/09: EAD approved

05/13/09: AOS Touched

05/14/09: AP received

05/15/09: EAD card received

06/25/09: Card production ordered

07/06/09: Approval notice sent

07/06/09: Card Received!!!

Removal of Conditions

03/23/11: Will mail I-751

Citizenship

03/23/12: Will mail N-400

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Colombia
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Janna,

I'm really sorry things didn't work out with your and your fiancée but be glad that you discovered the real person he is now and not years down the line.

As far as the visa process goes, you are only financially responsible for him while he is in the States. Since he left already, your responsibility has come to an end. Also, he won't be able to come back to the States since he already used his K1 visa to enter the US, it's not a multiple entry visa, so you'll be ok.

Diana


CR-1

02/05/07 - I-130 sent to NSC

05/03/07 - NOA2

05/10/07 - NVC receives petition, case # assigned

08/08/07 - Case Complete

09/27/07 - Interview, visa granted

10/02/07 - POE

11/16/07 - Received green card and Welcome to America letter in the mail

Removing Conditions

07/06/09 - I-751 sent to CSC

08/14/09 - Biometrics

09/27/09 - Approved

10/01/09 - Received 10 year green card

U.S. Citizenship

03/30/11 - N-400 sent via Priority Mail w/ delivery confirmation

05/12/11 - Biometrics

07/20/11 - Interview - passed

07/20/11 - Oath ceremony - same day as interview

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Filed: Country: Jamaica
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Yes, I agree. He cannot come back in on that K-1. And, your responsibility was only here in the states. You are good.

One word of caution, don't let him snow you now with sweet words LD. I know someone who's fiance did the exact same thing, only they married right before he went back, without AOS. She is now filing a K-3 to get him back here. IMO, it's not a good idea.

I am sorry sorry. Please take care of you.


Life's just a crazy ride on a run away train

You can't go back for what you've missed

So make it count, hold on tight find a way to make it right

You only get one trip

So make it good, make it last 'cause it all flies by so fast

You only get one trip

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Filed: Other Country: China
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Once he's gone, he's gone. K1 is good for one entry to the US only.

I-134 is not binding on the US Citizen, so has no impact now whatsoever. As far as US Government is concerned, you are completely rid of him.

Don't let any of this add to your worries as you pick up the rest of your life and move on.


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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Kosova
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Hello all. I'm writing once again for some advice and hope that someone can help me out. After 8 months of being separated and waiting for his visa, after going to the interview and passing everything with flying colors, after arriving here in the US and finally being together... I found out that the man I was engaged to was a stranger.

Once here, half the time he was the man I remember; and the other half, he was controlling and manipulative. He also used my computer daily while I was at work to download VERY inappropriate things and to also seek out other women in Minneapolis.

I am broken-hearted... we (or maybe was it just I?) worked so hard throughout this visa process to ensure that everything would work out with the paperwork, the embassy, etc... and of course sometimes relationships don't work out, but this is all just too much. I discovered all of these things on Saturday and he was on a plane tonight, by my choice and his as well. (He still won't admit he did these things although the evidence is all on my computer... he says I've made it all up and that I'm a terrible person for being so judgmental.)

I am wondering--- I know with the I-134, I signed saying that I have all financial responsibility for him. Is that only when he is in the US?? Now that he's on his way back to Europe, am I okay or still liable? Am I safe to just let this visa expire, knowing that he can't re-enter the US? What are the necessary precautions I need to take??

I can't believe this is all happening. Please, someone, say something. :cry:

I would notify USCIS. Are you sure he got on the flight? Where was his stopover? I am sure he did not have a direct flight to his country. He could have gotten off the plane in New York or somewhere, which he has every right to do. He might still be here. So I would notify even though the visa will expire he might decide to stay and you will be responsible I believe to some point. How was he controlling and manipulative?

Well at least you woke up early and realized what he is all about. I give you alot of credit for standing up and making a decision on all of this. I know it is difficult and heartbreaking to have gone through all of this and have it turn out this way. But on the other hand things happen that are out of our control and we just have to pick up and move on...

Keep in touch

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Iran
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Some advice:

Dear Janna:

I am sorry about your situation. It is not your fault this happened. Many people are fooled by men/women who perpatrate marriage visa fraud. The worst case scenerio was he was using you for a visa, the best case scenario was that this man would have been manipulitive, controlling, filandering, downloading porn and making your life hell.

It is good you were able to get him out of the country on the fiance visa. Let the fiance visa expire. The affidvit of support is only in effect if your fiance had stayed in the USA.

Follow your gut instincts in this situation....

I know you're sad now, but count your blessings you found out now instead of after getting married.

Best wishes, Tina

Hello all. I'm writing once again for some advice and hope that someone can help me out. After 8 months of being separated and waiting for his visa, after going to the interview and passing everything with flying colors, after arriving here in the US and finally being together... I found out that the man I was engaged to was a stranger.

Once here, half the time he was the man I remember; and the other half, he was controlling and manipulative. He also used my computer daily while I was at work to download VERY inappropriate things and to also seek out other women in Minneapolis.

I am broken-hearted... we (or maybe was it just I?) worked so hard throughout this visa process to ensure that everything would work out with the paperwork, the embassy, etc... and of course sometimes relationships don't work out, but this is all just too much. I discovered all of these things on Saturday and he was on a plane tonight, by my choice and his as well. (He still won't admit he did these things although the evidence is all on my computer... he says I've made it all up and that I'm a terrible person for being so judgmental.)

I am wondering--- I know with the I-134, I signed saying that I have all financial responsibility for him. Is that only when he is in the US?? Now that he's on his way back to Europe, am I okay or still liable? Am I safe to just let this visa expire, knowing that he can't re-enter the US? What are the necessary precautions I need to take??

I can't believe this is all happening. Please, someone, say something. :cry:

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Philippines
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:( I am sorry to hear that, but at least you discovered who really or what kind of person he is :( I hope everything will be okay...

09/28/08-green card received

1-751

07/02/10-mailed it 2day

07/06/10-they received my application forms

07/13/10-received notice receipt(gc extended for one year)

07/28/10-received biometric appointment

09/23/10 GC approved!!!

9/26/20 Gota pproval notice

10/01/10 GC receivedd

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Albania
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I would notify USCIS. Are you sure he got on the flight? Where was his stopover? I am sure he did not have a direct flight to his country. He could have gotten off the plane in New York or somewhere, which he has every right to do. He might still be here. So I would notify even though the visa will expire he might decide to stay and you will be responsible I believe to some point.

Yes, I am sure he got on the plane. I was not going to just leave him at the airport and let him walk. I requested a gate pass from the airline, went through security with him and watched him board. Also, the flight was Minneapolis to Amsterdam direct, so he couldn't have gotten off anywhere.

So he's gone... it's all over. This thing I worked so hard for and dedicated myself to has ended. I am lost and devastated. But I should not think like that, what I could have done differently, etc. This is the man he is, and nothing could change that. I just need to breathe and move forward. This, too, shall pass.

Thank you so much, everyone, for your support. It means the world to me.


I129f Timeline

Petition sent: 26 July 2007

Received by CSC: 24 August 2007

NOA1 Received: Never Got One!!!!!

Petition approved: 12 Feb 2008! :)

NOA2 Received: 16 Feb 2008

NVC Received Petition: 15 Feb 2008

NVC Sent Petition to Embassy:19 Feb 2008

Embassy Received: 21 Feb 2008

Packets 3 and 4 sent by embassy: 3 March 2008

Packets 3 and 4 received: 6 March 2008

Interview Date: 18 March 2008

Ugh! Unable to get police certificate in time for interview!!

Interview Rescheduled for: 8 April 2008 (APPROVED!!!)

Flight to Minneapolis: 12 April 2008

He left on a plane, Minneapolis airport...21 April 2008

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Good for you. You deserve a big hug. post-21394-1208882510.gif Now treat yourself to something special. A day at the spa. A nice massage. Some new shoes. You've probably saved yourself from some real grief. Congratulations. (F)


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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Australia
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oh, I'm so sorry; what a horrible thing to have to go through after all your waiting and hoping and planning :(

others here are right... you've saved yourself a load of trouble by recognising straight away that this would never have been a good situation for you... major kudos to you for taking action and dealing with it! I'm sure you don't feel great about it, but you hopefully will, in time :)

I wish you all the very best :)


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Day One: Went to Council of Elrond. Was prettiest person there. Agreed to follow some tiny little man to Mordor to throw ring into volcano. Very important mission - gold ring so tacky.

Day Six: Far too dark in Mines of Moria to brush hair properly. Am very afraid I am developing a tangle.

Orcs so silly.

Still the prettiest.

Day 35: Boromir dead. Very messy death, most unnecessary. Did get kissed by Aragorn as he expired. Does a guy have to get shot full of arrows around here to get any action? Boromir definitely not prettier than me. Cannot understand it. Am feeling a pout coming on.

Frodo off to Mordor with Sam. Tiny little men caring about each other, rather cute really.

Am quite sure Gimli fancies me. So unfair. He is waist height, so can see advantages there, but chunky braids and big helmet most off-putting. Foresee dark times ahead, very dark times.

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