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possible Causes of Marital Problems.

1.Personality Adjustments. Since there are no two identical personalities, adjustment in marriage presents a problem.Most of us exhibit certain traits and types of behavior which can't easily be changed.This results in several personality types which often clash. The surprising thing is that in spite of great differences in personality, couples do marry and make a go of marriage.

Basically, most conflicts in marriage exist because the two personalities of husband and wife are unable to achieve a common basis for making satisfactory decision.Most of the difficulties arise from differences in habits and attitudes. However alike or different husbands and wives may be, they will have to make adjustments to each other's ways or habits and preferences.The responsibility for making this adjustments falls upon each man and woman individually.Since marriage is the most intimate of all the social relationships,it is essential that each person be treated with utmost care and respect.

2.Domestic Grievances. Marriage is more than a partnership contract.It is a tradition-smothered social institution which is governed by the laws of man and of God.

3.Frustration. Most persons have a tendency to become irritated and angry when their desires are blocked or thwarted.Frustrated people tend to become aggressive.The wife may give into the husband but she may take it out on him in other way such as nagging.It is not always the presence of contrary traits possessed by the wife which may clash with the attitudes and actions of the husband.Marital conflict may not only be a difference in traits but also a collision of wishes.The wife wants new curtains; and the husband wants a tool set.Guess who wins out at the end.You're wrong.Nobody wins.

4.Temperamental Traits. Well-adjusted people maintain their equilibrium even when the going gets rough.They swing neither to one extreme of violent anger nor to the other of apathetic coldness.

5.Emotional Immaturity. Adulthood is a social status; maturity is a level of development. In making marriage successful, there is no single factor more important than maturity. Since marriage is for adults only, immature persons will surely make marriage flounder if not fail.Mature persons characteristics:

-he has intelligence comparable to his calendar age and uses this as he meets the demands of daily life.

-he sees himself as part of a larger whole.

-he lives in a world of reality.

-he is independent-minded.

-he doesn't depend too much on flattery,praises,and compliments.

-he has an adult attitude toward sex,love and marriage.

6.Parent "fixation" (strong feeling of attachment). Everyone has complexes.While some are useful others are disturbing. The mother and father fixation is a very disturbing factor in husband and wife relationship. If a man is emotionally ready for marriage , he will not compare his wife's cooking with his mother's nor long for the safe harbor of his parental house during storms that come and go.

7.Recreation.

8.Authority and Responsibility. Who should be the boos in the family?

9.Relatives and in-laws. Friction within the family oftentimes results from the different points of view held about various situations by the varied members of the household.The older folks react differently to certain situations from the younger ones;consequently, misunderstanding starts.

10.Trifles. Too frequently,misunderstanding between married couples are traced to things of little value or importance.These are sometimes more harmful than an occasional heated argument which can help bring about greater understanding.

11.Money Problems. Decision-making about family spending is relatively easy if husband and wife share common social perceptions and expectations.

12.Infidelity.

13.Jealousy.

14.A working wife. There are husbands who resent the outside interest in their wives. They want their wives for themselves alone.

15.Sexual Relations.Marriage as a recognized social institution sanctions the intimate physical relationship between husband and wife.

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Shape, love your attention to details. They are more important at times! Very good job!

i thought its something to be shared about ,for a starter in marriage like me, for me i find this piece educational and informative. Thank you for liking it too..

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possible Causes of Marital Problems.

1.Personality Adjustments. Since there are no two identical personalities, adjustment in marriage presents a problem.Most of us exhibit certain traits and types of behavior which can't easily be changed.This results in several personality types which often clash. The surprising thing is that in spite of great differences in personality, couples do marry and make a go of marriage.

Basically, most conflicts in marriage exist because the two personalities of husband and wife are unable to achieve a common basis for making satisfactory decision.Most of the difficulties arise from differences in habits and attitudes. However alike or different husbands and wives may be, they will have to make adjustments to each other's ways or habits and preferences.The responsibility for making this adjustments falls upon each man and woman individually.Since marriage is the most intimate of all the social relationships,it is essential that each person be treated with utmost care and respect.

2.Domestic Grievances. Marriage is more than a partnership contract.It is a tradition-smothered social institution which is governed by the laws of man and of God.

3.Frustration. Most persons have a tendency to become irritated and angry when their desires are blocked or thwarted.Frustrated people tend to become aggressive.The wife may give into the husband but she may take it out on him in other way such as nagging.It is not always the presence of contrary traits possessed by the wife which may clash with the attitudes and actions of the husband.Marital conflict may not only be a difference in traits but also a collision of wishes.The wife wants new curtains; and the husband wants a tool set.Guess who wins out at the end.You're wrong.Nobody wins.

4.Temperamental Traits. Well-adjusted people maintain their equilibrium even when the going gets rough.They swing neither to one extreme of violent anger nor to the other of apathetic coldness.

5.Emotional Immaturity. Adulthood is a social status; maturity is a level of development. In making marriage successful, there is no single factor more important than maturity. Since marriage is for adults only, immature persons will surely make marriage flounder if not fail.Mature persons characteristics:

-he has intelligence comparable to his calendar age and uses this as he meets the demands of daily life.

-he sees himself as part of a larger whole.

-he lives in a world of reality.

-he is independent-minded.

-he doesn't depend too much on flattery,praises,and compliments.

-he has an adult attitude toward sex,love and marriage.

6.Parent "fixation" (strong feeling of attachment). Everyone has complexes.While some are useful others are disturbing. The mother and father fixation is a very disturbing factor in husband and wife relationship. If a man is emotionally ready for marriage , he will not compare his wife's cooking with his mother's nor long for the safe harbor of his parental house during storms that come and go.

7.Recreation.

8.Authority and Responsibility. Who should be the boos in the family?

9.Relatives and in-laws. Friction within the family oftentimes results from the different points of view held about various situations by the varied members of the household.The older folks react differently to certain situations from the younger ones;consequently, misunderstanding starts.

10.Trifles. Too frequently,misunderstanding between married couples are traced to things of little value or importance.These are sometimes more harmful than an occasional heated argument which can help bring about greater understanding.

11.Money Problems. Decision-making about family spending is relatively easy if husband and wife share common social perceptions and expectations.

12.Infidelity.

13.Jealousy.

14.A working wife. There are husbands who resent the outside interest in their wives. They want their wives for themselves alone.

15.Sexual Relations.Marriage as a recognized social institution sanctions the intimate physical relationship between husband and wife.

Marriage101 - a good read. Thanks for sharing this ate.........I beleive these are facts and a lot of couples undergoes this......


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AOS,EAD & AP (K1)

Filed on: March 13 2009- Chicago Lockbox

Recieved our pckge: March 17 2009

Check cashed: March 24 2009

NOA for AOS,EAD&AP: March 25 2009(Rcpt dated March 23 2009)

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Panama
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You are trying to piss off the VJ Angry Goddess Posse, aren't you?

:lol:


May 7,2007-USCIS received I-129f
July 24,2007-NOA1 was received
April 21,2008-K-1 visa denied.
June 3,2008-waiver filed at US Consalate in Panama
The interview went well,they told him it will take another 6 months for them to adjudicate the waiver
March 3,2009-US Consulate claims they have no record of our December visit,nor Manuel's interview
March 27,2009-Manuel returned to the consulate for another interrogation(because they forgot about December's interview),and they were really rude !
April 3,2009-US Counsalate asks for more court documents that no longer exist !
June 1,2009-Manuel and I go back to the US consalate AGAIN to give them a letter from the court in Colon along with documents I already gave them last year.I was surprised to see they had two thick files for his case !


June 15,2010-They called Manuel in to take his fingerprints again,still no decision on his case!
June 22,2010-WAIVER APPROVED at 5:00pm
July 19,2010-VISA IN MANUELITO'S HAND at 3:15pm!
July 25,2010-Manuelito arrives at 9:35pm at Logan Intn'l Airport,Boston,MA
August 5,2010-FINALLY MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!
August 23,2010-Filed for AOS at the International Institute of RI $1400!
December 23,2010-Work authorization received.
January 12,2011-RFE

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Argentina
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I thought this thread would be about snoring, farts and socks on the floor :whistle:

J/K Shape, good reading :thumbs:

Saludos,

Caro


***Justin And Caro***
Happily married and enjoying our life together!

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My top 10 would be:

Relatives & Friends

Relatives & Friends

Relatives & Friends

Relatives & Friends

Relatives & Friends

..............................you get the picture!


Life's just a crazy ride on a run away train

You can't go back for what you've missed

So make it count, hold on tight find a way to make it right

You only get one trip

So make it good, make it last 'cause it all flies by so fast

You only get one trip

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Ghana
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Who should be the 'boss' in the family? Hrmmm......

God


GHANA.GIFBassi and Zainab US1.GIF

I-129F Sent: 6-18-2007

Interview date: 6-24-2008

Pick up Visa: 6-27-2008

Arrive JFK POE: 7-2-2008

Marriage: 7-9-2008

AOS

mailed AOS, EAD, AP: 8-22-2008

NOA AOS, EAD, AP: 8-27-2008

Biometrics: 9-18-2008

AOS Transferred to CSC: 9-25-2008

Requested EAD Expedite: 11-12-2008

EAD Card production ordered: 11-12-2008 changed to 11/17/2008 Why? (I hope it doesn't change every week!)

Received AP: 11/17/2008

Received EAD: 11/22/08 (Praise God!!)

AOS RFE: 1/29/2009

AOS Approved: 3/24/2009

Called USCIS 4/1/2009 told no status change and case not yet reviewed from RFE request.

Received green card: 4/3/2009

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Who should be the 'boss' in the family? Hrmmm......

Better than #14 a working wife... If a man just wants his wife for himself clearly he isn't mature enough to married in the first place. Not to bash stay at home spouses who are home for actual, real, mature reasons, but if that's the only reason for it, that's pretty sad...


Timeline

AOS

Mailed AOS, EAD and AP Sept 11 '07

Recieved NOA1's for all Sept 23 or 24 '07

Bio appt. Oct. 24 '07

EAD/AP approved Nov 26 '07

Got the AP Dec. 3 '07

AOS interview Feb 7th (5 days after the 1 year anniversary of our K1 NOA1!

Stuck in FBI name checks...

Got the GC July '08

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hmm...interesting ..but $$$ is usually always a common issue


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But when we turn to the Hebrew literature, we do not find such jokes about the donkey. Rather the animal is known for its strength and its loyalty to its master (Genesis 49:14; Numbers 22:30).

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