Am i being silly

[rebeccajo 14]

Does he need to change out all the other furniture in the house because she might have sat on it?

What about the plates, silverware and cups?

No I dont have a problem with the other funitures as i am not sleeping in/on them..I am a religious person and I think your marital bed should be sacred, so I am a little uncomfortable knowing i am sleeping in a bed the hes had sex in before.

I dont have a problem with his ex, please bear that in mind

I agree, the marital bed is special...should be treated as sacred.

I think marriage is sacred, but to me, the mattress is just furniture. And potentially an expensive purchase.

That's where I'm at too.

Besides that, it's an inanimate object.

[wowswift 3]

Does he need to change out all the other furniture in the house because she might have sat on it?

What about the plates, silverware and cups?

No I dont have a problem with the other funitures as i am not sleeping in/on them..I am a religious person and I think your marital bed should be sacred, so I am a little uncomfortable knowing i am sleeping in a bed the hes had sex in before.

I dont have a problem with his ex, please bear that in mind

I agree, the marital bed is special...should be treated as sacred.

I think marriage is sacred, but to me, the mattress is just furniture. And potentially an expensive purchase.

That's where I'm at too.

Besides that, it's an inanimate object.

and if its an issue of where they had secksy time, then the couch, car, carpet, sink, bathtub, where ever else might have to go too....

Edited April 12, 2008 by wowswift

[nane1104 146]

Buying a new matress was one of the first thins we did after getting married. Go for it!!!

[jzay 0]

Does he need to change out all the other furniture in the house because she might have sat on it?

What about the plates, silverware and cups?

No I dont have a problem with the other funitures as i am not sleeping in/on them..I am a religious person and I think your marital bed should be sacred, so I am a little uncomfortable knowing i am sleeping in a bed the hes had sex in before.

I dont have a problem with his ex, please bear that in mind

I agree, the marital bed is special...should be treated as sacred.

I think marriage is sacred, but to me, the mattress is just furniture. And potentially an expensive purchase.

That's where I'm at too.

Besides that, it's an inanimate object.

I dont mind covering the cost myself, I was feeling bad after I asked him to change it and second guessing myself hence the post. So thank you all for participating.

God bless

[Leafgal 3]

Not silly at all.

[rebeccajo 14]

jzay, I'm just horribly practical that's all.

To me it's just a bed.

I don't think you're necessarily 'silly'. It's just something that wouldn't matter to me.

[jzay 0]

Does he need to change out all the other furniture in the house because she might have sat on it?

What about the plates, silverware and cups?

No I dont have a problem with the other funitures as i am not sleeping in/on them..I am a religious person and I think your marital bed should be sacred, so I am a little uncomfortable knowing i am sleeping in a bed the hes had sex in before.

I dont have a problem with his ex, please bear that in mind

I agree, the marital bed is special...should be treated as sacred.

I think marriage is sacred, but to me, the mattress is just furniture. And potentially an expensive purchase.

That's where I'm at too.

Besides that, it's an inanimate object.

and if its an issue of where they had secksy time, then the couch, car, carpet, sink, bathtub, where ever else might have to go too....

Like I said before my concerns are as a result of my views on MY marital BED.

[wowswift 3]

well enjoy the new bed!

[jzay 0]

If "secksy time" was the issue, then I would be marrying a virgin.

[rebeccajo 14]

jzay, I think the better quesion is what does your fiance say about this to you?

[wowswift 3]

well you stated you were uncomfortable sleeping in a bed knowing that he had sex in it with someone else. so i was just my reply on that. but just go get a new bed.

[jzay 0]

jzay, I think the better quesion is what does your fiance say about this to you?

He says he understand where i am coming from but thinks its unnecessary.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

If the mattress is old and needs to be replaced anyways why not. I have the same notions as well. I am going to get a new mattress when Waleed gets here that's just for us and our "scents".

[rebeccajo 14]

jzay, I think the better quesion is what does your fiance say about this to you?

He says he understand where i am coming from but thinks its unnecessary.

Ah.

That's how I feel.

I can't though figure out why you are asking us. Did you want to learn if the majority of people feel the way you do? Even if they do, that doesn't make him 'wrong'. He probably sees it as just a bed.

[Ban Hammer 12,829]

not silly. I made Charles buy us an entire new bed

made = nagged.