kennym

Listen Rhenajones...
Lotsa things don't add up..
15 miles/15 minutes apart, doesnt provide a good enough reason to live apart.. unless the marriage in on the rocks.. Stuff like that happens.. It seems additionally troubling whe you add up that he arrived in the USA and moved in with his parents.. And you guys continue to live apart.. This just seems odd to us, and will certainly seem odd to the USCIS..
It's understandable that You're Status is at stake, but it seems more important that you're relationhip is strugling.. YOu need to work on that. 27 days is not much time to fix all the things that are outta whack here..
My suggestion is you stop looking at how to convince the USCIS that things are normal, when it's obvious that it isn't to many reading this tread much less the USCIS interviewer. You should be honest with yourself about the reasons you brought your partner to the USA and if it's genuine, then you should be considering how to fix your relationship, or simply decide the problems are not fixable, and consider having you spouse AOS on his own and show proof that he entered in the USA and into the relationship in good faith..
If this seems suspicious to us, imagine how it's going to seem to the person at the interview.. The whole process is designed to weed out scams and that's why we have to continuously show that our relationships are genuine.. If the relationship is not genuine, it will be dificult to prove it is.. That's the reason for the AOS Process...
Good Luck
Kenny

Not everyone is cut out for that job... Making such a specific sugestion towards a career choice especially one that requires the kind of sacrifice that a truck driver has to make simply isn't appropriate for an immigration venue.. Truck Drivers work countless hours and 60-70K sounds good to many, but when you consider the sacrifice you make and hours you must work to make 60-70K, it's peanuts.. Being a truck drive is like being a musician, it's something you have to love to do...
That suggestion doesn't get the OP where he needs to be if its something he's gonna hate and eventually give up... It's not a thoughtful suggestion... Like any other career choice, its something you have to want to do..


danda226
I simply want ot encourage you.. You've come a long way to get to this point, so dont give up now.. Be creative.. If you need, take on a second job.. You need to show you're earning above the minimum requirement.. You can do that with a current employment as well as your tax returns.. Just think creatively, or as extremerecluse said; "outside the tiny box"..
Kenny

I believe strongly in international relationships.. I don't beleive they offer gaurantees in cases where one or the other partner has extreme views. I don't beleive people there are many diferences between men or women seeking relationships abroad and those seeking relationships in their hometown, there are just many good people and just as many bad people in either scenerio... Whats unfortunate is that when relationships go wrong, is they blame the system rather than look at themself..
GOing into a Long Distance Relationship comes with certain understanding between two people.. LDR has it's share of challenges due to the time apart. People in a LDR need to understand that going in and work together to help each other to deal with those challenges.. Asside from those things, the dynamics are the same.. If your extreme in any particular ideas, eventually any and every relationship will suffer and likely end and manytimes, end badly...
Al, I would seriously search inside and understand if your anger is really about problems with Elena, or is it because you're hurt and feel you want to blame someone.. Have you really sat and given yourself time to reflect on other possible causes of this ending.. You can't beleive simply because her last relationship failed, that she's a scammer.. Maybe she realized something about that past relationship that frightened her..
The fact is, there is just as much possibility that the cause of this relationship failing is due to more than you're sharing.. It does nobody any good, (I mean it does YOU no good) if you're not honest with yourself.. If your personality changed during the time you spent waiting for the NOA2, and it became such that Elena lost interest, then those things will also your future relationship if you're not honest with yourself..
Just some thoughts...
Kenny

I believe strongly in international relationships.. I don't beleive they offer gaurantees in cases where one or the other partner has extreme views. I don't beleive people there are many diferences between men or women seeking relationships abroad and those seeking relationships in their hometown, there are just many good people and just as many bad people in either scenerio... Whats unfortunate is that when relationships go wrong, is they blame the system rather than look at themself..
GOing into a Long Distance Relationship comes with certain understanding between two people.. LDR has it's share of challenges due to the time apart. People in a LDR need to understand that going in and work together to help each other to deal with those challenges.. Asside from those things, the dynamics are the same.. If your extreme in any particular ideas, eventually any and every relationship will suffer and likely end and manytimes, end badly...
Al, I would seriously search inside and understand if your anger is really about problems with Elena, or is it because you're hurt and feel you want to blame someone.. Have you really sat and given yourself time to reflect on other possible causes of this ending.. You can't beleive simply because her last relationship failed, that she's a scammer.. Maybe she realized something about that past relationship that frightened her..
The fact is, there is just as much possibility that the cause of this relationship failing is due to more than you're sharing.. It does nobody any good, (I mean it does YOU no good) if you're not honest with yourself.. If your personality changed during the time you spent waiting for the NOA2, and it became such that Elena lost interest, then those things will also your future relationship if you're not honest with yourself..
Just some thoughts...
Kenny

I believe strongly in international relationships.. I don't beleive they offer gaurantees in cases where one or the other partner has extreme views. I don't beleive people there are many diferences between men or women seeking relationships abroad and those seeking relationships in their hometown, there are just many good people and just as many bad people in either scenerio... Whats unfortunate is that when relationships go wrong, is they blame the system rather than look at themself..
GOing into a Long Distance Relationship comes with certain understanding between two people.. LDR has it's share of challenges due to the time apart. People in a LDR need to understand that going in and work together to help each other to deal with those challenges.. Asside from those things, the dynamics are the same.. If your extreme in any particular ideas, eventually any and every relationship will suffer and likely end and manytimes, end badly...
Al, I would seriously search inside and understand if your anger is really about problems with Elena, or is it because you're hurt and feel you want to blame someone.. Have you really sat and given yourself time to reflect on other possible causes of this ending.. You can't beleive simply because her last relationship failed, that she's a scammer.. Maybe she realized something about that past relationship that frightened her..
The fact is, there is just as much possibility that the cause of this relationship failing is due to more than you're sharing.. It does nobody any good, (I mean it does YOU no good) if you're not honest with yourself.. If your personality changed during the time you spent waiting for the NOA2, and it became such that Elena lost interest, then those things will also your future relationship if you're not honest with yourself..
Just some thoughts...
Kenny

I believe strongly in international relationships.. I don't beleive they offer gaurantees in cases where one or the other partner has extreme views. I don't beleive people there are many diferences between men or women seeking relationships abroad and those seeking relationships in their hometown, there are just many good people and just as many bad people in either scenerio... Whats unfortunate is that when relationships go wrong, is they blame the system rather than look at themself..
GOing into a Long Distance Relationship comes with certain understanding between two people.. LDR has it's share of challenges due to the time apart. People in a LDR need to understand that going in and work together to help each other to deal with those challenges.. Asside from those things, the dynamics are the same.. If your extreme in any particular ideas, eventually any and every relationship will suffer and likely end and manytimes, end badly...
Al, I would seriously search inside and understand if your anger is really about problems with Elena, or is it because you're hurt and feel you want to blame someone.. Have you really sat and given yourself time to reflect on other possible causes of this ending.. You can't beleive simply because her last relationship failed, that she's a scammer.. Maybe she realized something about that past relationship that frightened her..
The fact is, there is just as much possibility that the cause of this relationship failing is due to more than you're sharing.. It does nobody any good, (I mean it does YOU no good) if you're not honest with yourself.. If your personality changed during the time you spent waiting for the NOA2, and it became such that Elena lost interest, then those things will also your future relationship if you're not honest with yourself..
Just some thoughts...
Kenny

I believe strongly in international relationships.. I don't beleive they offer gaurantees in cases where one or the other partner has extreme views. I don't beleive people there are many diferences between men or women seeking relationships abroad and those seeking relationships in their hometown, there are just many good people and just as many bad people in either scenerio... Whats unfortunate is that when relationships go wrong, is they blame the system rather than look at themself..
GOing into a Long Distance Relationship comes with certain understanding between two people.. LDR has it's share of challenges due to the time apart. People in a LDR need to understand that going in and work together to help each other to deal with those challenges.. Asside from those things, the dynamics are the same.. If your extreme in any particular ideas, eventually any and every relationship will suffer and likely end and manytimes, end badly...
Al, I would seriously search inside and understand if your anger is really about problems with Elena, or is it because you're hurt and feel you want to blame someone.. Have you really sat and given yourself time to reflect on other possible causes of this ending.. You can't beleive simply because her last relationship failed, that she's a scammer.. Maybe she realized something about that past relationship that frightened her..
The fact is, there is just as much possibility that the cause of this relationship failing is due to more than you're sharing.. It does nobody any good, (I mean it does YOU no good) if you're not honest with yourself.. If your personality changed during the time you spent waiting for the NOA2, and it became such that Elena lost interest, then those things will also your future relationship if you're not honest with yourself..
Just some thoughts...
Kenny

I believe strongly in international relationships.. I don't beleive they offer gaurantees in cases where one or the other partner has extreme views. I don't beleive people there are many diferences between men or women seeking relationships abroad and those seeking relationships in their hometown, there are just many good people and just as many bad people in either scenerio... Whats unfortunate is that when relationships go wrong, is they blame the system rather than look at themself..
GOing into a Long Distance Relationship comes with certain understanding between two people.. LDR has it's share of challenges due to the time apart. People in a LDR need to understand that going in and work together to help each other to deal with those challenges.. Asside from those things, the dynamics are the same.. If your extreme in any particular ideas, eventually any and every relationship will suffer and likely end and manytimes, end badly...
Al, I would seriously search inside and understand if your anger is really about problems with Elena, or is it because you're hurt and feel you want to blame someone.. Have you really sat and given yourself time to reflect on other possible causes of this ending.. You can't beleive simply because her last relationship failed, that she's a scammer.. Maybe she realized something about that past relationship that frightened her..
The fact is, there is just as much possibility that the cause of this relationship failing is due to more than you're sharing.. It does nobody any good, (I mean it does YOU no good) if you're not honest with yourself.. If your personality changed during the time you spent waiting for the NOA2, and it became such that Elena lost interest, then those things will also your future relationship if you're not honest with yourself..
Just some thoughts...
Kenny

Perhaps not directly, but are you aware of your implication? Another life lesson I've taken, is to not worry about things that are outside of your control. And certainly how someone else wants to express themselves, about the process, would be one of those things, no?

You do realize you don't have to read every post. You can usually tell if it's someone venting; how about you just don't read those posts? The rest of us will try to encourage that person and you can move on to other posts. 'kay?

I see that you have been waiting a good long time for your NOA2, and if you look at my numbers, you know that I know what it feels like. So, instead of complaining about people complaining, maybe you can shed some light on what is keeping you sane in your wait. That is a good percentage of why people complain, it's due to trying to cope with the distance. If you believe you are doing well, let us know what you are doing so that others may benefit.

Ditto! You said what I was going to type... :-)

Whining about whining.....CLASSIC!
And who are you to say who God rewards? So self-rightous aren't we?

If there's one thing I've learned in life, it's to never tell people how they should feel.
Good luck!

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Can I say this on VJ "BOLOGNE"... How does anyone know we've gone through the samething? do you know them? You read 3 or 4 written sentences and you know enough to give relationship advice? "BOLOGNE"
Ok, but it's insane to take any advise from anyone on the internet about relationships.. Immigration has rules and processes. Relationship is completely diferent and there are soo many things specific to a relationship that we can't possibly know unless we have a personal relationship with the poster and her family that offering advise is almost as ridiculous as taking advise from a complete stranger..
But good luck with that!!

Jim, While I have the uptmost respect for your thoughts, I am not arguing Vietnamese Culture.. I don't beleive the US is very diferent in the part where we expect grown-ups to be resposnsible for their actions.. See below in the OP's initial Post..
Instead of dealing with the matter, he's hoping the Immigation System will deal with it for him.. While Vietnamese traditions are in play here, I still believe in the values system which is not to diferent (in my experiences) from many other country.. Making adults accountable to local Laws (US) and Customs regardless of how they make thier descissions or the influences affecting those descission. Ultimately, we need to be responsible for our actions.. If an arranged Marriage in Vietnam is commonplace, then I beleive those marraiges are as genuine as any other marriage. In the Spouses mind, she must have felt thet she was entering into a legitimate relationship.. We dont know since the wife hasn't put her side into this discussion, so, it seems wrong to conclude this was a sham... Either way, I am not here to give relationship advise in this matter, but Using the Immigration system to escape responsibilities regardless of ones actions or bad descissions just simply seems wrong...

For all you folks on this Particular Forum, who got us pointed in the right direction ealier this year..
THANK YOU!
Today, Maritza and I will arive in Miami,,,
I've said thank you before, but today is really the whole reason we started this process... Soo.. Thanks to everyone who help keep me focused and on track.. thanks to those who patiently answered my sometimes stupid and somtimes repeated questions... Thank you, Thank you, Thank you,
Kenny

HenyCat...
Can you be a little more insensitive.. You may not be very intuitive, but these guys are going through a huge emotional trial.. Try thinking before posting stupid sarcastic remarks
Kenny

HenyCat...
Can you be a little more insensitive.. You may not be very intuitive, but these guys are going through a huge emotional trial.. Try thinking before posting stupid sarcastic remarks
Kenny

HenyCat...
Can you be a little more insensitive.. You may not be very intuitive, but these guys are going through a huge emotional trial.. Try thinking before posting stupid sarcastic remarks
Kenny

If the check hasn't been cashed yet, I would definitely contact the USCIS.. I've never seen it take 3 months to recieve NOA1... Something doesn't seem right... I especially wonder about the Petitioner.. Something this important, I would've remembered how it was sent and would have made sure I tracked the delivery... I sent my Petition bu US Postal Service and was able to track the package until it was delivered... I would make sure your fiancee sent it to the correct place...
Kenny

All
I beleive the reason for the RFE is obvious... There isn't any suggestion that photos alone are sufficient evidense of meeting in person in the last 2 years.. It has always been secondary evidense.. nothing has changed from USCIS Perspective.. Primary Evidense is Boarding Passes, Passport stamps, hotel & Credit Card Reciepts.. Photos are necessary, but is secondary evidense and should never be excluded from you initial submittal..
As far as birth certificates, it is the same as always.. Copies are fine.. If they need the original, they will ask for it at the interview.. Always send copies of your personal documents and evidense. The originals can be shown at the Interview...
Repeat:
Nothing has changed.. it appears the confusion is with the OP thinking that photos were sufficient proof of meeting in person in the last two years.. Photos alone has never been considered as primary evidence...
Repeat for all new-members: Nothing has changed..
ONE OTHER CRUCIAL DISTINCTION IS:
THere is a huge diference between "proof of meeting in person within the last 2 years" and "Proof of ongoing relationship"... To be succesful, you must keep that distinction clear and separate..
You need to show proof of Meeting in Person within the last two years for your Initial Petition (I-129-F) This include both Primary Proof and Secondary Proof..
Then after the Petition is approved...
You will need to show proof of On-going relationship to the Conusalte Officer durring the interview.. You will also need forms of Primary Proof as well as forms of secondary proof...
Any Questions?

All
I beleive the reason for the RFE is obvious... There isn't any suggestion that photos alone are sufficient evidense of meeting in person in the last 2 years.. It has always been secondary evidense.. nothing has changed from USCIS Perspective.. Primary Evidense is Boarding Passes, Passport stamps, hotel & Credit Card Reciepts.. Photos are necessary, but is secondary evidense and should never be excluded from you initial submittal..
As far as birth certificates, it is the same as always.. Copies are fine.. If they need the original, they will ask for it at the interview.. Always send copies of your personal documents and evidense. The originals can be shown at the Interview...
Repeat:
Nothing has changed.. it appears the confusion is with the OP thinking that photos were sufficient proof of meeting in person in the last two years.. Photos alone has never been considered as primary evidence...
Repeat for all new-members: Nothing has changed..
ONE OTHER CRUCIAL DISTINCTION IS:
THere is a huge diference between "proof of meeting in person within the last 2 years" and "Proof of ongoing relationship"... To be succesful, you must keep that distinction clear and separate..
You need to show proof of Meeting in Person within the last two years for your Initial Petition (I-129-F) This include both Primary Proof and Secondary Proof..
Then after the Petition is approved...
You will need to show proof of On-going relationship to the Conusalte Officer durring the interview.. You will also need forms of Primary Proof as well as forms of secondary proof...
Any Questions?

All
I beleive the reason for the RFE is obvious... There isn't any suggestion that photos alone are sufficient evidense of meeting in person in the last 2 years.. It has always been secondary evidense.. nothing has changed from USCIS Perspective.. Primary Evidense is Boarding Passes, Passport stamps, hotel & Credit Card Reciepts.. Photos are necessary, but is secondary evidense and should never be excluded from you initial submittal..
As far as birth certificates, it is the same as always.. Copies are fine.. If they need the original, they will ask for it at the interview.. Always send copies of your personal documents and evidense. The originals can be shown at the Interview...
Repeat:
Nothing has changed.. it appears the confusion is with the OP thinking that photos were sufficient proof of meeting in person in the last two years.. Photos alone has never been considered as primary evidence...
Repeat for all new-members: Nothing has changed..
ONE OTHER CRUCIAL DISTINCTION IS:
THere is a huge diference between "proof of meeting in person within the last 2 years" and "Proof of ongoing relationship"... To be succesful, you must keep that distinction clear and separate..
You need to show proof of Meeting in Person within the last two years for your Initial Petition (I-129-F) This include both Primary Proof and Secondary Proof..
Then after the Petition is approved...
You will need to show proof of On-going relationship to the Conusalte Officer durring the interview.. You will also need forms of Primary Proof as well as forms of secondary proof...
Any Questions?