~ameriptian~

another bullet point - divorce now, she'll have to concern herself with ROC on her own, and her 'fast track ' to uscitizenship (3 years) is nixed - she'll have to wait 5 years from the first greencard date.
In general, though - you have a really good case for ICE - but you have to get to the right ICE person. Sure, we've a hotline # at the bottom of this and every web page, in the small print, but ... they're mostly useless, that National Hotline. Strongly suggest you get into the local USCIS service center, and ask to speak to the ICE Shift Supervisor - be firm and adamant with the rest of the staff, not revealing too much, until you have that person in front of you. He'll start an intake process, and ask you for lots of evidence - it may be that you have 2 to 3 appointments with him, until he assigns an ICE case officer to you.
You can get into yer local USCIS service center via an infopass appointment.
Good Luck !

No offense taken. I agree with you wholeheartedly. It was definitely my fault which I stated at the end of my story, and the only thing I can say is the marriage counselling I received, along with advice from my church and pastor was behind providing me the "hope" that she was sincere and would change. Of course, at that time, no one "suspected" she was scamming me.
I have a philosophy on her too--There's a good reason she left us and went to California--it was to go to work for Hollywood, because she was a great actor! Maybe we'll see her on the next soap opera.
In hindsight, I should have simply allowed her to be deported and let her deal with that crisis on her own, but I really believed she'd change--and certainly hoped she would seeing as we had endured a huge investment bringing her here, and acquired bills needing to be supported by two incomes.
Perhaps "excuses" now, but they were enough at the time to convince me to give it another shot. I guess some people don't give up as easily as others, and I can be hard-headed at times in that regard.

Is your other thread not enough for you to discuss this at length or?

Phil,
if you two do not get along and you are not happy with each other... Is it important who's fault it is and who might have what sickness and what the reasons are? I did not get impression that you were madly in love with each other ever...
Don't get married. Buy her tickets to get home and make sure you restore everything for her back to pre-Phil days as much as you can. That would be a kind and reasonable thing to do.
Why would you want to get married and continue to hurt each other??? If you don't fit together, then you don't fit together.

Well, good luck to you and your "project" but I think most of us know where this is headed.

The problems now are a direct consequence of what happened before. No relationship ever had a chance to develop. The red flags were whirring in hurricane-force winds very early, and it's no surprise that the situation continues.The last statement in bold type above (from the OP) is the crux of the mistake. She was conflicted or unsure or simply not READY, and the OP was the same, and that was the non-foundation for the state of this non-relationship.
Neither was ready for such a commitment. There was no foundation for a relationship, and unsurprisingly there's no relationship now. There's not a hint of "love" on either side, and in fact they're not even friends. The kindest, most honorable thing to do would be to send her and the daughter back home right away, as highest priority.
If I were to offer advice to the OP after the foreigners have returned home, I'd recommend that he re-examine his motives, motivations, and sense of haste as it applies to entering any relationship, before he enters another.

I think I would be completely done with this entire situation. The man has tried taking her and her daughter to do things. She refuses to go. I find it incredibly disrespectful that they would sit in a car for an hour and half and she would only speak to her daughter in Russian. I'm a woman and when my now husband and I saw each other it was fireworks each and everytime and continues to be. How can you folks think that he should take sex or intimacy out of the equation? As someone pointed out she's not a virgin and these 2 are planning on being married sex IS a part of married life. Even if you take actual sex out of the picture the woman refuses to sleep in the same bed with him. There is a problem with that. I agree with the person who stated that a woman has to be in sync on emotional level for sex and fine she's adjusting but at the end of the day if this gal was 100% into the fella she would be more than happy to sleep in the same bed with him as they haven't been able to for months even if it's only to cuddle. My opinion if it's like this after 8 days when you should both still be thrilled to death to even be together time is NOT on your side. Cut your losses before anymore damage is done.

Dude, you used the term "I feel like just sending my girl back". Like she is a defective purchase. Do you understand that the purpose of the K-1 visa is to reunite a couple in an established relationship who are prepared to marry? It's not a "try it and see" visa, or an "import a sexual partner" visa.
You've been chilling here in America waiting for her while she has uprooted her life, and her child's life, to move to a totally foreign environment, to BE WITH YOU, and you seem to have no concern for how she's adjusting. You're worried about waxing your bat. Ew, man.
Question your motives, not hers.

This relationship is doomed in the first 8 days and you want to try to spend the rest of your life with her? Sleeping in the same bed doesn't mean sex all the time but if the person I intended to marry wasn't receptive to any intimacy that would be a flag, then again are you pressuring her too much and scaring her out of the bed?? Either way it sounds like big problems on both sides. You marry her and I say more fool you AND when the divorce papers come or worse the false claims of abuse/rape get slung at you I wont bat an eye in shock. I don't care if she is Russian, British, Chinese, Mexican, Irish, whatever from the sounds of it there is no relationship, just you wanting a sexual partner and her wanting a GC for her and her daughter. I'll just clarify it SOUNDS like it, I'm not saying that's actually her motivation or yours. Take a step back and develop this relationship first. Give it time to flourish or dissolve, if she leaves cause you wont marry her then you know what she was after if it blossoms into something that resembles love then take it from there cause as of right now it all sounds forced and uncomfortable.

1. Run.
2. Run.
3. Run... etc
Did you propose marriage prior to being intimate with her?..
If yes, she takes you for a sucker.

Reading your lengthy post I can't help but see you as a guy who is way too obsessed with sex. Is that really the main reason you brought here to the US? I sure seems that way.
Intimacy is something that will come natural when a couple feels comfortable with one another. Your constant nagging about her doing you even if she doesn't feel like it won't help putting her at ease. I also doubt that your porn collection will help.
Real intimacy starts in the brain; it's not a purely mechanical act, at least not for women. What you need to do is make her feel welcome, cherished, as somebody who will complete you and is looking forward to a wonderful life in a wonderful country. If you can't pull that off, all you may be able to achieve is a woman who gives in to your demands as often as she feels she has to. That's not a basis for a marriage. You may as well spend your cash on hookers; they'll give you exactly what you bargain for without having to put any effort into this.
Look, I have no clue what your fiance's motives are as I have never met her, never heard her side of the story. Seems to me like you haven't heard it either though.

Are you taking an opportunity to brag how great is your wife and life, or really trying to help the OP?

Honestly, I am a woman and as a woman I would say that "your girl" sounds rather manipulative. What I've learned about relationships is this: when two people are really and truly in love, it will come easy. It just shouldn't be that hard. I'm not saying relationships don't take work....of course they do, but there is a certain level of "easiness" in relationships that are "right".
Here are a few things you might want to consider: I think I would slow things down a bit and see if she can "normalize" a little bit. I'm sure that coming to a new country requires much adjustment, but she should try to adjust WITH you....afterall, the plan was to get married and spend her life with you, right??? If she's "pushing" you to marry her right away, I think I would have to question what her hurry is. On a K-1 visa, you have 90 days to get married....so...maybe you should take a month or two and see if things work out. You should know in that amount of time if this is someone you would want to spend the rest of your life with.
Bottom line....you need to decide what your "gut" is telling you...your gut instinct is never wrong...so figure out what it's telling you and go with it.
Good luck.

The endorsement upon entry serves as a temporary green card. Leaving for six months is not a problem provided you establish and maintain domicile in the USA. This could be a family member's address and a bank account along with filing tax returns as a US resident.
Removal of Conditions is what you do after the two years. Doesn't look bad being her only 18 of the 24 months but if the departure is more than six months, it would delay eligibility for citizenship. Not really a big deal for most folks.

I'm sorry if this come off the wrong way but, the K1 is not a "let's see what happens" visa. It is for 2 people that are without a doubt sure that they want to get married and spend the rest of their life together. The stipulation is that you get married within 90 days of entering the US. Those days isn't for figuring anything out relationship-wise , or making sure of anything, days, (you should already know that) it's wedding planning days.
If you don't get married within the 90 days, but eventually do, you'd do a concurrent I-130/I-485 filing, and if you don't get married, you should leave before those 90 days are up, or the option of ever visiting the US on the VWP are pretty much done.

If your main concern is that you/she may not be ready within those 90 days, you need to remember that you have 6 months after the visa is approved to enter the U.S. Personally, I wouldn't POE until you are both sure of what you want...

You would need to file a I-130/I-485 concurrently, because you would not be able to adjust based off of your approved I-129F because you would not have abided by the rules of that visa. You would pay $420 extra plus the costs of a full medical compared to AOSing off of your K-1 visa. You would also have a mandatory interview.

Don't waste your money even applying for a tourist visa.
Use the money you would be wasting to buy something for the house, like a table or a set of pots and pans.

Actually, you're just getting started. You'll be back. Getting the visa is actually the easy part. Going through AOS, ROC, and citizenship are costly and can be difficult. However it flies, enjoy your time as a married couple. But know this, this is a process of steps and the visa was only one little part of it. Stay sane, have fun, and most of all, collect your evidence to provide proof of an ongoing relationship.
Congratulations! May the adjustment period be smooth.
Good luck and God bless!

Because I think she would make a good hood ornament.

I hope she gets hit by a truck on the way out of the courthouse.

I don't have any K1-related advice to offer you on your case...
But as a beneficiary who has been in the US for almost a year and half now, I can say -out of experience- that the adjustment phase is by no means easy... Have you asked yourself if you want children with your fiance? What if you have children together, will your children be able to have a healthy childhood? Will your children be able to make friends, or invite friends over? Will he ever be able pick-up/drop-off your children from school or even be around a school? What if you are never able to make a friend of your own? What if you move and everybody in your neighborhood/whole town knows you are the fiancee/wife of a sex offender? Do you think he'll ever be able to get a good job...advance in a career??
Marriage is a big responsibility and a FULL-TIME job, moving to a new country is big decision, being away from your family and where you were born and raised is definitely not for the weak...are you willing to accept another strain for the rest of your life...?
I am by no means trying to judge your relationship, or question your love for your fiance... But, as many people here, I am just trying shed some light to what you are up to.. Love before marriage is all rosy and lovers imagine that everything is perfect in their own little worlds, but things are not quite rosy all the time in some marriages..
Ask yourself all these questions and MORE, and weigh your options... You are a responsible adult (just like your fiance is), and you choose in which direction your life goes...
Good luck!

As someone who has many medical bills (even with my insurance) I can tell you that they will be happy to accept small monthly payments. Also, look to see if that hospital has some type of charitable care program. They usually aren't a means tested benefit and you may be able to get the bill reduced down a bit. Just don't ignore it....

Im not a 100% sure about this, but if they were to get married now and her husband went back to Mexico, wouldn't they have to apply for CR1 for him to be able to go back to the US to stay? Im pretty sure that he wouldnt be able to stay for good at the moment if they got married - like the OP said, he's got a pretty good job he needs to go back to, and heck, he's got a life back home that needs to be wrapped up before moving.
Id imagine that getting married now AND STAYING would not be a good option, unless you had nothing that needs to be taken care of before moving. Getting married now and going back would me another petition, another waiting period, and more fees to be paid.
Maybe make another Infopass appointment and try to get to talk to a superior?
Im so sorry that this process is taking you so long.

Can you picture me doing that, Tracy? Honestly?
Today I bought a cool futuristic looking vacuum/steamer and told him to imagine he's scanning for an underground bunker on an unexplored planet while he's CLEANING THE DAMN FLOOR. If that doesn't work, at least the thing will make MY job easier.