Nik+Heather

No, Ireland has some US border patrol stations there. For many flights to the US immigration is processed by American boarder patrol before the flight instead of after. Yes, Ireland is a different country, but they have allowed US immigration to have an office there so that people can be processed before they get on the plane. Ireland is the only European country that has this.

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First, your VISA expired the second you landed in the US. Your status now relies on the I-94. Based on what you wrote I think you mean your I-94 expires Oct 20th so no, you cannot apply for a SSN (as you know) because you need at least 2 weeks validity on it.
You should have applied in your maiden name (as VJ recommends) because even though yes, the name will be your old name, you can change it when you get an EAD, you can open bank accounts etc and start getting your evidence of co-mingling. Too late for you now but I'm writing this in case someone else reads.
Once you get your EAD you can pop down to the SSA and apply for your SSN Shouldn't be a problem at all and it will be in your married name.
Good luck
** moved from "Adjustment of Status (Green Card) from Family Based Visas" to " Working & Traveling During US Immigration" as this is relating to a SSN**

Your timeline indicates that your wife has an immigrant (CR-1 or IR-1) visa, so you are correct, all she will need to begin working when she gets here is her social security number. When she enters, she should get an I-551 stamp on her passport which indicates that she is a permanent resident and is the same as a green card.

she could always pay thousands of dollars,get a lawyer and hear the same thing

You can't force anyone to marry. And if she doesn't meet the K-1 expectations she'll have to go back home.

I like to read the CNet reviews of things. They go over the features and everything so you can select a device based on the features you need/want. I found it to be really helpful when I was trying to select my phone. Also, does Verizon have stores where all the phones on the shelves are real and activated so you can do test calls and try out the basic apps and web features? Before I got mine I spent a good 3 hours dorking around in the AT&T store trying the 3 phones I'd narrowed down online side by side.
Sorry I can't comment on the relative virtues of the various Android phones, except to say that when my contract is up next year I'm really looking forward to getting one!!!

Hope everything works out. It really sounds like a huge headache!
Anyway, there are other things to get for proofs and you don't need an SSN to get them. The credit card company let me add Nik as an authorized user on my credit card without an SSN. I was able to get a family plan on the cell phone for both of us without an SSN. I could add him to the health insurance without it, and also to the car insurance.
Good luck!

Without knowing what the "abuse" was (and I'm not asking for elaboration here), the rest of your story sounds a lot like the end of a long distance relationship ending which unfortunately is not all that uncommon. Once you suddenly start to spend so much time together, find that it's not the same as you had imagined it would be, and things just don't end up as happy as you like. Everyone's unhappy, fights, etc.
I think you're really brave (I think everyone on here is, actually!) to make a go of it, to take a chance on your love and not be left wondering "what if...." Well, now you know, and you can move on with your life. I'm glad that your family was there to help you when you needed it, and that you can get your life back together and move on. I don't think there's anything to feel humiliated by here. You put your whole life into that relationship, and that's something to be admired, not to be ashamed of.
As for informing on him, the immigration service already knows that he has petitioned for you, and if he ever tries to do it again, then he will have to account for what happened between you two. But really, since he invested 3 years in a relationship with you, it doesn't seem like it's something he's going to continue doing over and over, surely?

The tone of this thread seems rather familiar.

Take a look at the dates to determine each individual overstay and how long it was. If no proceedings were entered into and it was less than 180 days each time on all overstays you might not have an issue; I don't think they add them up but look at each entry and exit. You were probably denied another entry because of this but you might not have a bar. And no you cannot submit the I601 before you get the VISA interview and they tell you what bar you have. If you were denied entry at POE instead of consulate, you might have to file I212? Not sure on that
H. Unlawful Presence - INA 212(a)(9)(B) and ©
1. Inadmissibility Provisions Based on Unlawful Presence
Inadmissible under
INA 212(a)(9)(B)(i)(I)
If an alien has resided unlawfully in the U.S. for an un interrupted
period of more than 180 days but less than 1 year and then voluntarily
departed, prior to the initiation of removal proceedings, he or she is
inadmissible to the U.S. for a period of 3 years from the date of
departure.
NOTE: If removal proceedings are initiated before the alien has been
in the U.S. for more than a year, and the alien leaves after initiation of
the removal proceedings pursuant to a grant of voluntary departure, but
before the alien has been unlawfully present for more than one year, the
alien is not subject to the three year bar. This is based on language in
the statute itself, which provides that someone with more than 180 days
continuous unlawful presence, but not more than a year of unlawful
presence is inadmissible only if he or she leaves before a removal
proceeding has been initiated. Thus, pursuant to statute, if the alien
leaves after removal proceedings are initiated (e.g., the NTA is filed
with EOIR and served on the applicant), INA 212(a)(6)(9)(B)(i)(I) no
longer applies. However, in this case, there is a chance that the alien is
inadmissible for failure to having attended a removal proceeding (INA
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section 212(a)(6)(B)) and may also be inadmissible based on an in
absentia order of removal (INA section 212(a)(9)(A)). Therefore,
carefully check whether other ground of inadmissibility may apply in
this case.
Also, if the person stays more than one year, the person is inadmissible
under INA 212(a)(9)(B)(i)(II) which applies regardless of whether the
applicant is in proceedings or not.
See, 9 FAM 40.92 N2.1, INA 212(a)(9)(B)(i)(I) Departure Prior to
Commencement of Proceedings Required.
Inadmissible under
INA
212(a)(9)(B)(i)(II)
If an alien resided unlawfully in the U.S. for an uninterrupted period of
one year or more, then voluntarily departed or was removed from the
United States, he or she is inadmissible to the U.S. for a period of 10
years from the date of departure or removal.
NOTE: INA 212(a)(9)(B)(i)(II) does not include the “prior to the
initiation of removal proceedings” language that is included in
212(a)(9)(B)(i)(I). Thus, if the alien has been unlawfully present for
one year or more, the 10-year bar of inadmissibility applies whether or
not removal proceedings were ever initiated against the alien, and even
if the alien left once the proceedings were initiated.
2. Time Counted as Unlawful Presence
General time that counts as
unlawful presence
Unlawful presence includes any time spent in the U.S. after
April 1, 1997 after the alien’s authorized stay expires, and any
time spent in the U.S. after April 1, 1997, following entry
without inspection or parole, unless one of the exceptions
noted in section 3 below applies.
Unlawful presence must be
uninterrupted and alien must
have left the U.S.
The stay of the alien during which he or she accrues unlawful
presence must be uninterrupted, and the alien must have
subsequently departed from the U.S. for the alien to become
inadmissible under INA 212(a)(9)(B). The alien is not
inadmissible under INA 212(a)(9)(B) if the alien has accrued
the requisite amount of unlawful presence but never departs
the U.S.
Example: If an alien spent 90 days unlawfully in the U.S.,
departed from the U.S., spent 2 weeks abroad, returned to the
U.S., spent 100 days unlawfully in the U.S., and departed from
the U.S., the alien would not be inadmissible under INA
212(a)(9)(B)(i)(I). Despite having a total of 190 days of
unlawful presence in the U.S., the alien did not have at least
181 continuous and uninterrupted days of unlawful presence in
the U.S.

I walked out of one office raging over my shoulder "No, you're just trying to extort money from people who require a service to be together!!!" Or something like that. It was probably the rudest I've been to someone since I was 3. I really really really dislike civil surgeons...

Have you started the K1 process?
If not...would you guys consider pursuing the CR1 process instead? At the end of the process, when she lands she would be eligible for a green card immediately, and she can spend the first few months trying to get her credentials evaluated and accepted for teaching rather than losing time waiting for EAD...she basically hits the ground running.
There would be other benefits too...depending on the state she will qualify for local student rates (you pay full price otherwise), she'd be eligible for financial aid (if money was an object), she can apply for a driver's license, there'd be no question about her eligibility to accept paid or unpaid internship...it would just open so many doors for her.
I looked into going to back to school initially, but there were many limitations due to my temporary status, even though I applied for an EAD and SSN in advance of our adjustment of status application. In the end, I have to wait for my green card to gain any significant ground, if I want to pursue a different degree. (Or in your fiancee's case, resume a teaching career).
She may find this helpful: http://www.sbec.state.tx.us/sbeconline/certinfo/becometeacher.asp?width=1280&height=1024
At least in preparation for what she is planning to do after she moves to the US.

Yes it is your opinion but it doesn't correlate with the facts. In all likelihood, the envelope your petition arrived in is immediately thrown out. It wouldn't make sense for USCIS to care or observe where the file was sent from, considering lots of Americans do travel and probably do the forms with their fiance in the fiance's country. Or even if they're on a working holiday or something.
If you've ever heard of someone being hassled about what country was on the envelope, maybe I will change my mind. But I've been on this site for awhile now and have never heard of that. The process doesn't need to be made more complicated by paranoia.

I would strongly recommend that you follow up that appointment change with an info pass (maybe wait until the updated appointment letter shows up?). Bring documentation of the surgery and her itinerary to show when she will return. If I could place bets, I would bet that they reschedule her for a second date which is ALSO before she returns, Further, I would recommend that you keep the original appointment, even if you go alone, because it wouldn't be the first time something didn't get changed in "the system" and they auto-deny the AOS when the interview date passes and no interview occurs.

Yes.
As a sponsor you are legally obligated to change your address by filing an I-865.
As the LPR, you are legally required to change your address within 10 business days of the change.
The penalties are great if you are "discovered".
Here: https://egov.uscis.gov/crisgwi/go?action=coa to read the info online.

there is a sample form located under the 'example forms' tab here on this website that i found really useful

*sigh*
I don't mean this to sound rude, but people should not get knocked up and expect others to take care of their children. If yuo cannot afford a child or need 'help/assitance' don't get pregnant in the frist place.
This is part of the problem with our society today is too much damn dependence on others.
Take responsibility.

If she applies for an EAD based on her K-1 entry (that's classification a6) then it will still be only good as long as her I-94, so even less than 90 days. It will cost the same $340, and if it arrives just before expiration (or after!) you're still out the cash. Also, It may be difficult to find an employer who's willing to go through all the work and paperwork to get someone hired only for a couple of weeks. Although legally possible to obtain, it is absolutely USELESS in practice.
Your best bet is to apply for an EAD concurrently with or after the adjustment of status application, which you can do now that you're married. The fee will be waived, and it will be good for a year, which will most probably hold you over until the green card arrives. This is under classification c9, adjustment applicant.

Ah - misrepresentation - could end your journey really quick and cause a lifetime ban...
This is one of the big things they do not compromise on.
Proceed at your own risk.

Good lord that is a lot of evidence. I'd say you'll have no problem. I went in with 15 pictures, joint health insurance and a joint bank account and was never asked for more.
P.S. why submit correspondence between the two of you, doesn't it feel weird that they'd be reading that?

Darnell, are you a poet? I'm starting to read the above posts to a rap rhythm.....

RAmen!
Gemmie, may you be touched by his noodley appendage!

I know the -1 button has been debated already. But I was wondering if it or something like it could be implemented selectively for the regular information-based forums so that misinformation could be highlighted in an efficient way.
I get that adding a -1 in off topic areas might start a bunch of silliness but, as it stands in some other forums, misinformation must be argued out of a place of attention for the OP, clogging up threads with back-and-forth: "No, what so and so is incorrect, let's start over..."
If we could tag a post with a little "Um no" sort of indicator, OPs could easily identify helpful information while ignoring stuff that threatens to throw them off course.
The tagging privilege could be reserved for those with a great deal of experience, like "platinum members" or higher or whatever. I notice it's usually newer members who casually toss out utterly false info. I've done it myself once or twice, cringe.
It takes time and energy to physically go in and post corrective info, so it doesn't always happen right away, as it should. An easy button click would resolve this. As it is now, the OP must rely on their own judgment as to who is most trustworthy. When you're already wracked with uncertainty regarding the process, this simple act of discernment can be much harder.
This would also preclude the need to overtly call someone out on their mistakes, by name, and alienate or embarrass them. Most mistakes are innocent ones.
Has this already been covered? Sorry if so. It comes up for me because of a recent post in K1 that's riddled with random bad advice and subsequent attempts at correction, threatening to cause the OP added stress and confusion. We sit at the computer screen shaking our heads "no," but feel sort of helpless to catch all the riffraff. A No-button would be a solution, in my opinion.

There is another potential issue when you are dealing with high fraud countries. They may add the babysitter duties to evidence that this is not a love relationship but a way for you to get a cheap babysitter while helping someone get entry to the US. Remember in this process you are guilty until proven otherwise.