MikeandThea

How do you know this? VAWA cases are secret and the accuser is not even notified. There is no due process, no evidence, no rebuttal and no opportunity to clear my name. I can't even find out if my ex actually filed a VAWA claim but its the only way she can get her GC so I assume she did so. 

Hi,
I brought a Filipina to USA on a K-1 in 2008. She divorced me after 3.5 years due to hypergamy. In 2016, I met another Filipina whom I thought I knew very well and brought her to USA on a 2nd K-1 but she refused to consummate the marriage, claiming medical reasons but a physician, gynecologist and a psychological counselor said they could find no reason for a lack of libido. a, then the day after she received her work permit, she suddenly left after starting an argument with me. My own investigation revealed she had several men lined up that I knew nothing about. Phone records revealed she had been to the Police and then a women's shelter where I assume she was given a list of 'abuses' to use for a VAWA (Violence Against Women Act) waiver so she can get her GC without needing me. I immediately withdrew her I-864 and received notice from USCIS of same.
 
She has been gone 14 months and has not contacted me and refuses to reply to emails. I started divorce proceedings which will be final in a few weeks. Last month, a Filipina friend of mine I know and trust introduced me to her sister who is in the Philippines and I contacted her and will go see her in 2019. She seems to be a match for me. If she is, and we decide to marry on a K2 visa (she has a 7 y/o son), I will have to apply for a I-129 multiple visa waiver. 
 
However, I feel certain my about-to-be-ex-wife has filed a VAWA waiver claiming abuse, so will USCIS deny me because of that? This statement is made by USCIS in reference:  "If you have committed a violent offense against a person or persons, the USCIS may not grant such a waiver unless you can demonstrate that extraordinary circumstances exist."
I would assume they mean that if I was convicted of a violent crime, then this would apply but a VAWA waiver is done in secret without due process to the man, so even if they accept her story, I will have no record of being 'convicted' in a VAWA court but USCIS will. Also, the VAWA court defines abuse as emotional as well as physical so all she has to do is say I hurt her feelings, got angry and didn't buy her a new car or any number of things they call abuse but none of it is violence per se. 
 
Anyone have any information on this? If it looks like I will be denied due to a VAWA 'conviction', I won't even go meet this girl but it is a shame because she may be 'the one' for me. Please hold back your opinion about knowing a woman before I marry her. I'm 1/2 Filipino and I know nothing is guaranteed. 
Thanks,
Mike
 
 

Hi,
I brought a Filipina to USA on a K-1 in 2008. She divorced me after 3.5 years due to hypergamy. In 2016, I met another Filipina whom I thought I knew very well and brought her to USA on a 2nd K-1 but she refused to consummate the marriage, claiming medical reasons but a physician, gynecologist and a psychological counselor said they could find no reason for a lack of libido. a, then the day after she received her work permit, she suddenly left after starting an argument with me. My own investigation revealed she had several men lined up that I knew nothing about. Phone records revealed she had been to the Police and then a women's shelter where I assume she was given a list of 'abuses' to use for a VAWA (Violence Against Women Act) waiver so she can get her GC without needing me. I immediately withdrew her I-864 and received notice from USCIS of same.
 
She has been gone 14 months and has not contacted me and refuses to reply to emails. I started divorce proceedings which will be final in a few weeks. Last month, a Filipina friend of mine I know and trust introduced me to her sister who is in the Philippines and I contacted her and will go see her in 2019. She seems to be a match for me. If she is, and we decide to marry on a K2 visa (she has a 7 y/o son), I will have to apply for a I-129 multiple visa waiver. 
 
However, I feel certain my about-to-be-ex-wife has filed a VAWA waiver claiming abuse, so will USCIS deny me because of that? This statement is made by USCIS in reference:  "If you have committed a violent offense against a person or persons, the USCIS may not grant such a waiver unless you can demonstrate that extraordinary circumstances exist."
I would assume they mean that if I was convicted of a violent crime, then this would apply but a VAWA waiver is done in secret without due process to the man, so even if they accept her story, I will have no record of being 'convicted' in a VAWA court but USCIS will. Also, the VAWA court defines abuse as emotional as well as physical so all she has to do is say I hurt her feelings, got angry and didn't buy her a new car or any number of things they call abuse but none of it is violence per se. 
 
Anyone have any information on this? If it looks like I will be denied due to a VAWA 'conviction', I won't even go meet this girl but it is a shame because she may be 'the one' for me. Please hold back your opinion about knowing a woman before I marry her. I'm 1/2 Filipino and I know nothing is guaranteed. 
Thanks,
Mike
 
 

Hi,
I brought a Filipina to USA on a K-1 in 2008. She divorced me after 3.5 years due to hypergamy. In 2016, I met another Filipina whom I thought I knew very well and brought her to USA on a 2nd K-1 but she refused to consummate the marriage, claiming medical reasons but a physician, gynecologist and a psychological counselor said they could find no reason for a lack of libido. a, then the day after she received her work permit, she suddenly left after starting an argument with me. My own investigation revealed she had several men lined up that I knew nothing about. Phone records revealed she had been to the Police and then a women's shelter where I assume she was given a list of 'abuses' to use for a VAWA (Violence Against Women Act) waiver so she can get her GC without needing me. I immediately withdrew her I-864 and received notice from USCIS of same.
 
She has been gone 14 months and has not contacted me and refuses to reply to emails. I started divorce proceedings which will be final in a few weeks. Last month, a Filipina friend of mine I know and trust introduced me to her sister who is in the Philippines and I contacted her and will go see her in 2019. She seems to be a match for me. If she is, and we decide to marry on a K2 visa (she has a 7 y/o son), I will have to apply for a I-129 multiple visa waiver. 
 
However, I feel certain my about-to-be-ex-wife has filed a VAWA waiver claiming abuse, so will USCIS deny me because of that? This statement is made by USCIS in reference:  "If you have committed a violent offense against a person or persons, the USCIS may not grant such a waiver unless you can demonstrate that extraordinary circumstances exist."
I would assume they mean that if I was convicted of a violent crime, then this would apply but a VAWA waiver is done in secret without due process to the man, so even if they accept her story, I will have no record of being 'convicted' in a VAWA court but USCIS will. Also, the VAWA court defines abuse as emotional as well as physical so all she has to do is say I hurt her feelings, got angry and didn't buy her a new car or any number of things they call abuse but none of it is violence per se. 
 
Anyone have any information on this? If it looks like I will be denied due to a VAWA 'conviction', I won't even go meet this girl but it is a shame because she may be 'the one' for me. Please hold back your opinion about knowing a woman before I marry her. I'm 1/2 Filipino and I know nothing is guaranteed. 
Thanks,
Mike
 
 

Hi,
I brought a Filipina to USA on a K-1 in 2008. She divorced me after 3.5 years due to hypergamy. In 2016, I met another Filipina whom I thought I knew very well and brought her to USA on a 2nd K-1 but she refused to consummate the marriage, claiming medical reasons but a physician, gynecologist and a psychological counselor said they could find no reason for a lack of libido. a, then the day after she received her work permit, she suddenly left after starting an argument with me. My own investigation revealed she had several men lined up that I knew nothing about. Phone records revealed she had been to the Police and then a women's shelter where I assume she was given a list of 'abuses' to use for a VAWA (Violence Against Women Act) waiver so she can get her GC without needing me. I immediately withdrew her I-864 and received notice from USCIS of same.
 
She has been gone 14 months and has not contacted me and refuses to reply to emails. I started divorce proceedings which will be final in a few weeks. Last month, a Filipina friend of mine I know and trust introduced me to her sister who is in the Philippines and I contacted her and will go see her in 2019. She seems to be a match for me. If she is, and we decide to marry on a K2 visa (she has a 7 y/o son), I will have to apply for a I-129 multiple visa waiver. 
 
However, I feel certain my about-to-be-ex-wife has filed a VAWA waiver claiming abuse, so will USCIS deny me because of that? This statement is made by USCIS in reference:  "If you have committed a violent offense against a person or persons, the USCIS may not grant such a waiver unless you can demonstrate that extraordinary circumstances exist."
I would assume they mean that if I was convicted of a violent crime, then this would apply but a VAWA waiver is done in secret without due process to the man, so even if they accept her story, I will have no record of being 'convicted' in a VAWA court but USCIS will. Also, the VAWA court defines abuse as emotional as well as physical so all she has to do is say I hurt her feelings, got angry and didn't buy her a new car or any number of things they call abuse but none of it is violence per se. 
 
Anyone have any information on this? If it looks like I will be denied due to a VAWA 'conviction', I won't even go meet this girl but it is a shame because she may be 'the one' for me. Please hold back your opinion about knowing a woman before I marry her. I'm 1/2 Filipino and I know nothing is guaranteed. 
Thanks,
Mike
 
 

Hi,
I brought a Filipina to USA on a K-1 in 2008. She divorced me after 3.5 years due to hypergamy. In 2016, I met another Filipina whom I thought I knew very well and brought her to USA on a 2nd K-1 but she refused to consummate the marriage, claiming medical reasons but a physician, gynecologist and a psychological counselor said they could find no reason for a lack of libido. a, then the day after she received her work permit, she suddenly left after starting an argument with me. My own investigation revealed she had several men lined up that I knew nothing about. Phone records revealed she had been to the Police and then a women's shelter where I assume she was given a list of 'abuses' to use for a VAWA (Violence Against Women Act) waiver so she can get her GC without needing me. I immediately withdrew her I-864 and received notice from USCIS of same.
 
She has been gone 14 months and has not contacted me and refuses to reply to emails. I started divorce proceedings which will be final in a few weeks. Last month, a Filipina friend of mine I know and trust introduced me to her sister who is in the Philippines and I contacted her and will go see her in 2019. She seems to be a match for me. If she is, and we decide to marry on a K2 visa (she has a 7 y/o son), I will have to apply for a I-129 multiple visa waiver. 
 
However, I feel certain my about-to-be-ex-wife has filed a VAWA waiver claiming abuse, so will USCIS deny me because of that? This statement is made by USCIS in reference:  "If you have committed a violent offense against a person or persons, the USCIS may not grant such a waiver unless you can demonstrate that extraordinary circumstances exist."
I would assume they mean that if I was convicted of a violent crime, then this would apply but a VAWA waiver is done in secret without due process to the man, so even if they accept her story, I will have no record of being 'convicted' in a VAWA court but USCIS will. Also, the VAWA court defines abuse as emotional as well as physical so all she has to do is say I hurt her feelings, got angry and didn't buy her a new car or any number of things they call abuse but none of it is violence per se. 
 
Anyone have any information on this? If it looks like I will be denied due to a VAWA 'conviction', I won't even go meet this girl but it is a shame because she may be 'the one' for me. Please hold back your opinion about knowing a woman before I marry her. I'm 1/2 Filipino and I know nothing is guaranteed. 
Thanks,
Mike
 
 

I just want to give my deepest heartfelt thanks so all of you who have replied and given me information and shared their experiences. It is truly amazing how kind you all are. Thanks so much!

Hi, I met a Filipina, dated her in the Philippines and finally brought her here on a K1 and we got married in February 2017. We waited until our wedding night to consummate but she has hyperthyroidism and asked to wait because she didn't feel like it, so I did, patiently. Months went by and she said she just had no libido anymore so she saw a doctor who could find nothing wrong. Then a gynecologist, who said all was normal, saying it is usually a mental/emotional thing with a woman that young (32). So, she went to a therapist and is supposed to try to get help there but she missed her appointment this week and I suspect it was all just a ruse anyway.
 
This woman is the 2nd Filipina I have sponsored. The first one I met and sponsored over 10 years ago she went all the way to Permanent Status and a baby before she secretely found a very rich man to leave me for. After it was all over, I thought, "They (Filipinas) can't ALL be bad, right? So I went over there and found another who seemed so compatible so I took another chance. I just love Filipina women and have a thing for them, but not anymore.
 
Last Thursday, my wife got her EAD and AP card. We have been waiting for the notice for her AOS interview but it has not come to our Po box yet. On Friday, she started a fight with me, which is very out of character for her.  Then, later that night, I found out she had been talking to my Filipina ex-wife and I confronted her about it and she got really mad, denying it but we argued hotly over it because she said she didn't even have my ex-wife's phone number.  While I was out, she packed a suitcase, and left and then the Police came asking what happened. I told them we had an argument and when I got back, she was gone.
 
The cops said my wife had gone to the Police Station (how? she has no car and can't drive. Who took her?) to say she was scared of me but that there was no physical abuse and since there were no threats or physical harm, there were no charges and nothing more would come of it. So, she has left with no forwarding address. On Saturday, she sent me a text saying she's coming back, but doesn't know when butthat she left because she is so scared of me but I know that's not the truth. I began to dig and found she has been in constant communications with my ex-wife since June 6th, sometimes, hundreds of texts a day to each other. In addition, she's been in phone contact with at least 4 different men. I google the numbers and found them all and they are all single. She is also texting numerous local people I don't know dozens of times a day that I never knew about. We are - or I thought we were - a private couple, just living together but now I see that while alone, she has been very busy texting and making phone calls.
 
I now believe she came here only to get a green card, she must have changed her address on the USCIS website and intercepted the notice of interview for AOS or they just granted it without an interview. She of course never said anything about these people, saying she knows no one here except me. I pay the phone bills and I have access to all the calls and texts made, the phone numbers, to and from, but no content. I never looked at her phone activity because I trusted her fully. Now, I wish I had been more vigilant. Let that be a lesson to all.
 
To me, it all adds up to a scam marriage ....no sex, secret men friends, secretly talking to my ex-wife and then suddenly disappearing right after getting her EAD and right about the time she was supposed to get her AOS interview or approval without an interview.  Her name is not on anything besides the marriage certificate.
 
On Monday, I wrote up a letter officially asking to withdraw my I-864 and hand delivered it to the nearest USCIS office and gave it to a USCIS Immigration Officer who said she'd enter it in the record but I don't really know if she did or not and I don't know if by then it was too late already, she didn't say. Before I went there, I sent the same withdrawal request via express overnight mail to the USCIS addresss we sent the I-131 package too and I sent a copy to the Benefits Center in Missouri. I'm hoping I got it in on time but it doesn't appear so. How can I check that? The current Status says USCIS that as of September 18, 2017, they were ready to schedule and interview and would send a notice with the date but as I said, its now October 6, and it has not arrived in the PO box we put on the I-131, so I rather think she anticipated doing this and changed the address to a place she could intercept it, go on the interview without me, tell them that everything was fine and perhaps USCIS granted the 2 year GC to her without me knowing it.
 
I know I should have not married this woman but I did enter the marriage in good faith but she didn't.  I think it was her plan from the beginning to scam me to get a GC. What should I do? I don't want to be on the hook for her after this. I have a divorce attorney standing by but divorce is the easy part. I want her deported or at least I want out of the I-864 but if I was too late, then I'm screwed. She can't work because of her illness, she has no skills, no job, no money, no car. What are my options? Thanks in advance.
 

Thanks for the reply. I'm hoping that there will be some reason for USCIS to deny her a 10 year GC and possibly put her into removal proceedings. I'm hoping that she will not have any proof of a bona fide marriage...or not enough proof, and that she cannot respond to any RFE on the subject. In short, I want her plan to fail. She used me and I'm hoping she be sent away. IF she gets her AOS approved and stays in this country, I don't want to be held financially responsible for her

Hi, I met a Filipina, dated her in the Philippines and finally brought her here on a K1 and we got married in February 2017. We waited until our wedding night to consummate but she has hyperthyroidism and asked to wait because she didn't feel like it, so I did, patiently. Months went by and she said she just had no libido anymore so she saw a doctor who could find nothing wrong. Then a gynecologist, who said all was normal, saying it is usually a mental/emotional thing with a woman that young (32). So, she went to a therapist and is supposed to try to get help there but she missed her appointment this week and I suspect it was all just a ruse anyway.
 
This woman is the 2nd Filipina I have sponsored. The first one I met and sponsored over 10 years ago she went all the way to Permanent Status and a baby before she secretely found a very rich man to leave me for. After it was all over, I thought, "They (Filipinas) can't ALL be bad, right? So I went over there and found another who seemed so compatible so I took another chance. I just love Filipina women and have a thing for them, but not anymore.
 
Last Thursday, my wife got her EAD and AP card. We have been waiting for the notice for her AOS interview but it has not come to our Po box yet. On Friday, she started a fight with me, which is very out of character for her.  Then, later that night, I found out she had been talking to my Filipina ex-wife and I confronted her about it and she got really mad, denying it but we argued hotly over it because she said she didn't even have my ex-wife's phone number.  While I was out, she packed a suitcase, and left and then the Police came asking what happened. I told them we had an argument and when I got back, she was gone.
 
The cops said my wife had gone to the Police Station (how? she has no car and can't drive. Who took her?) to say she was scared of me but that there was no physical abuse and since there were no threats or physical harm, there were no charges and nothing more would come of it. So, she has left with no forwarding address. On Saturday, she sent me a text saying she's coming back, but doesn't know when butthat she left because she is so scared of me but I know that's not the truth. I began to dig and found she has been in constant communications with my ex-wife since June 6th, sometimes, hundreds of texts a day to each other. In addition, she's been in phone contact with at least 4 different men. I google the numbers and found them all and they are all single. She is also texting numerous local people I don't know dozens of times a day that I never knew about. We are - or I thought we were - a private couple, just living together but now I see that while alone, she has been very busy texting and making phone calls.
 
I now believe she came here only to get a green card, she must have changed her address on the USCIS website and intercepted the notice of interview for AOS or they just granted it without an interview. She of course never said anything about these people, saying she knows no one here except me. I pay the phone bills and I have access to all the calls and texts made, the phone numbers, to and from, but no content. I never looked at her phone activity because I trusted her fully. Now, I wish I had been more vigilant. Let that be a lesson to all.
 
To me, it all adds up to a scam marriage ....no sex, secret men friends, secretly talking to my ex-wife and then suddenly disappearing right after getting her EAD and right about the time she was supposed to get her AOS interview or approval without an interview.  Her name is not on anything besides the marriage certificate.
 
On Monday, I wrote up a letter officially asking to withdraw my I-864 and hand delivered it to the nearest USCIS office and gave it to a USCIS Immigration Officer who said she'd enter it in the record but I don't really know if she did or not and I don't know if by then it was too late already, she didn't say. Before I went there, I sent the same withdrawal request via express overnight mail to the USCIS addresss we sent the I-131 package too and I sent a copy to the Benefits Center in Missouri. I'm hoping I got it in on time but it doesn't appear so. How can I check that? The current Status says USCIS that as of September 18, 2017, they were ready to schedule and interview and would send a notice with the date but as I said, its now October 6, and it has not arrived in the PO box we put on the I-131, so I rather think she anticipated doing this and changed the address to a place she could intercept it, go on the interview without me, tell them that everything was fine and perhaps USCIS granted the 2 year GC to her without me knowing it.
 
I know I should have not married this woman but I did enter the marriage in good faith but she didn't.  I think it was her plan from the beginning to scam me to get a GC. What should I do? I don't want to be on the hook for her after this. I have a divorce attorney standing by but divorce is the easy part. I want her deported or at least I want out of the I-864 but if I was too late, then I'm screwed. She can't work because of her illness, she has no skills, no job, no money, no car. What are my options? Thanks in advance.
 

I just think it is very sad that someone who has a heart brings someone from a poverty stricten country to give them better life and they get screwed.

Hey, they aren't all bad. My Filipina wife is absolutely amazing, she is supportive and loving. Their are good and bad in every country. 

I'm already paying child support and on the hook for one Filipina that was unfaithful. I don't know about you, but money for me is hard earned and limited, that is why I'm so concerned with that. Who wouldn't be? And the question of withdrawing the I-864 is not yet answered. I don't know for sure that I submitted it in time. It appears that my wife and whoever is helping her know the timelines, know what to do. I'm certainly behind the curve. If she gets her AOS, I'm responsible. Go read about what happens in court on these kinds of cases and see what hell men like me go through for women like that. Annulment is not a certainty at this point, only a possibility. I won't let her back. Why do I like Filipina women? Why do I like Cheeseburgers? Why Do I like the color Blue? My heritage if Filipino. My dad was from there. I went there, I liked the women.  Is it ok if I like what I like? I like brown skin, is that ok with you? I like petite women, it that ok with you? And, its not 2 strikes, this is not a game. I got used twice by two scheming women from a country that is apparently full of women who know how to do this well.  Why don't you tell me what kind of woman I should be looking for.

Hi, I met a Filipina, dated her in the Philippines and finally brought her here on a K1 and we got married in February 2017. We waited until our wedding night to consummate but she has hyperthyroidism and asked to wait because she didn't feel like it, so I did, patiently. Months went by and she said she just had no libido anymore so she saw a doctor who could find nothing wrong. Then a gynecologist, who said all was normal, saying it is usually a mental/emotional thing with a woman that young (32). So, she went to a therapist and is supposed to try to get help there but she missed her appointment this week and I suspect it was all just a ruse anyway.
 
This woman is the 2nd Filipina I have sponsored. The first one I met and sponsored over 10 years ago she went all the way to Permanent Status and a baby before she secretely found a very rich man to leave me for. After it was all over, I thought, "They (Filipinas) can't ALL be bad, right? So I went over there and found another who seemed so compatible so I took another chance. I just love Filipina women and have a thing for them, but not anymore.
 
Last Thursday, my wife got her EAD and AP card. We have been waiting for the notice for her AOS interview but it has not come to our Po box yet. On Friday, she started a fight with me, which is very out of character for her.  Then, later that night, I found out she had been talking to my Filipina ex-wife and I confronted her about it and she got really mad, denying it but we argued hotly over it because she said she didn't even have my ex-wife's phone number.  While I was out, she packed a suitcase, and left and then the Police came asking what happened. I told them we had an argument and when I got back, she was gone.
 
The cops said my wife had gone to the Police Station (how? she has no car and can't drive. Who took her?) to say she was scared of me but that there was no physical abuse and since there were no threats or physical harm, there were no charges and nothing more would come of it. So, she has left with no forwarding address. On Saturday, she sent me a text saying she's coming back, but doesn't know when butthat she left because she is so scared of me but I know that's not the truth. I began to dig and found she has been in constant communications with my ex-wife since June 6th, sometimes, hundreds of texts a day to each other. In addition, she's been in phone contact with at least 4 different men. I google the numbers and found them all and they are all single. She is also texting numerous local people I don't know dozens of times a day that I never knew about. We are - or I thought we were - a private couple, just living together but now I see that while alone, she has been very busy texting and making phone calls.
 
I now believe she came here only to get a green card, she must have changed her address on the USCIS website and intercepted the notice of interview for AOS or they just granted it without an interview. She of course never said anything about these people, saying she knows no one here except me. I pay the phone bills and I have access to all the calls and texts made, the phone numbers, to and from, but no content. I never looked at her phone activity because I trusted her fully. Now, I wish I had been more vigilant. Let that be a lesson to all.
 
To me, it all adds up to a scam marriage ....no sex, secret men friends, secretly talking to my ex-wife and then suddenly disappearing right after getting her EAD and right about the time she was supposed to get her AOS interview or approval without an interview.  Her name is not on anything besides the marriage certificate.
 
On Monday, I wrote up a letter officially asking to withdraw my I-864 and hand delivered it to the nearest USCIS office and gave it to a USCIS Immigration Officer who said she'd enter it in the record but I don't really know if she did or not and I don't know if by then it was too late already, she didn't say. Before I went there, I sent the same withdrawal request via express overnight mail to the USCIS addresss we sent the I-131 package too and I sent a copy to the Benefits Center in Missouri. I'm hoping I got it in on time but it doesn't appear so. How can I check that? The current Status says USCIS that as of September 18, 2017, they were ready to schedule and interview and would send a notice with the date but as I said, its now October 6, and it has not arrived in the PO box we put on the I-131, so I rather think she anticipated doing this and changed the address to a place she could intercept it, go on the interview without me, tell them that everything was fine and perhaps USCIS granted the 2 year GC to her without me knowing it.
 
I know I should have not married this woman but I did enter the marriage in good faith but she didn't.  I think it was her plan from the beginning to scam me to get a GC. What should I do? I don't want to be on the hook for her after this. I have a divorce attorney standing by but divorce is the easy part. I want her deported or at least I want out of the I-864 but if I was too late, then I'm screwed. She can't work because of her illness, she has no skills, no job, no money, no car. What are my options? Thanks in advance.
 

Hi, I met a Filipina, dated her in the Philippines and finally brought her here on a K1 and we got married in February 2017. We waited until our wedding night to consummate but she has hyperthyroidism and asked to wait because she didn't feel like it, so I did, patiently. Months went by and she said she just had no libido anymore so she saw a doctor who could find nothing wrong. Then a gynecologist, who said all was normal, saying it is usually a mental/emotional thing with a woman that young (32). So, she went to a therapist and is supposed to try to get help there but she missed her appointment this week and I suspect it was all just a ruse anyway.
 
This woman is the 2nd Filipina I have sponsored. The first one I met and sponsored over 10 years ago she went all the way to Permanent Status and a baby before she secretely found a very rich man to leave me for. After it was all over, I thought, "They (Filipinas) can't ALL be bad, right? So I went over there and found another who seemed so compatible so I took another chance. I just love Filipina women and have a thing for them, but not anymore.
 
Last Thursday, my wife got her EAD and AP card. We have been waiting for the notice for her AOS interview but it has not come to our Po box yet. On Friday, she started a fight with me, which is very out of character for her.  Then, later that night, I found out she had been talking to my Filipina ex-wife and I confronted her about it and she got really mad, denying it but we argued hotly over it because she said she didn't even have my ex-wife's phone number.  While I was out, she packed a suitcase, and left and then the Police came asking what happened. I told them we had an argument and when I got back, she was gone.
 
The cops said my wife had gone to the Police Station (how? she has no car and can't drive. Who took her?) to say she was scared of me but that there was no physical abuse and since there were no threats or physical harm, there were no charges and nothing more would come of it. So, she has left with no forwarding address. On Saturday, she sent me a text saying she's coming back, but doesn't know when butthat she left because she is so scared of me but I know that's not the truth. I began to dig and found she has been in constant communications with my ex-wife since June 6th, sometimes, hundreds of texts a day to each other. In addition, she's been in phone contact with at least 4 different men. I google the numbers and found them all and they are all single. She is also texting numerous local people I don't know dozens of times a day that I never knew about. We are - or I thought we were - a private couple, just living together but now I see that while alone, she has been very busy texting and making phone calls.
 
I now believe she came here only to get a green card, she must have changed her address on the USCIS website and intercepted the notice of interview for AOS or they just granted it without an interview. She of course never said anything about these people, saying she knows no one here except me. I pay the phone bills and I have access to all the calls and texts made, the phone numbers, to and from, but no content. I never looked at her phone activity because I trusted her fully. Now, I wish I had been more vigilant. Let that be a lesson to all.
 
To me, it all adds up to a scam marriage ....no sex, secret men friends, secretly talking to my ex-wife and then suddenly disappearing right after getting her EAD and right about the time she was supposed to get her AOS interview or approval without an interview.  Her name is not on anything besides the marriage certificate.
 
On Monday, I wrote up a letter officially asking to withdraw my I-864 and hand delivered it to the nearest USCIS office and gave it to a USCIS Immigration Officer who said she'd enter it in the record but I don't really know if she did or not and I don't know if by then it was too late already, she didn't say. Before I went there, I sent the same withdrawal request via express overnight mail to the USCIS addresss we sent the I-131 package too and I sent a copy to the Benefits Center in Missouri. I'm hoping I got it in on time but it doesn't appear so. How can I check that? The current Status says USCIS that as of September 18, 2017, they were ready to schedule and interview and would send a notice with the date but as I said, its now October 6, and it has not arrived in the PO box we put on the I-131, so I rather think she anticipated doing this and changed the address to a place she could intercept it, go on the interview without me, tell them that everything was fine and perhaps USCIS granted the 2 year GC to her without me knowing it.
 
I know I should have not married this woman but I did enter the marriage in good faith but she didn't.  I think it was her plan from the beginning to scam me to get a GC. What should I do? I don't want to be on the hook for her after this. I have a divorce attorney standing by but divorce is the easy part. I want her deported or at least I want out of the I-864 but if I was too late, then I'm screwed. She can't work because of her illness, she has no skills, no job, no money, no car. What are my options? Thanks in advance.
 

I'm already paying child support and on the hook for one Filipina that was unfaithful. I don't know about you, but money for me is hard earned and limited, that is why I'm so concerned with that. Who wouldn't be? And the question of withdrawing the I-864 is not yet answered. I don't know for sure that I submitted it in time. It appears that my wife and whoever is helping her know the timelines, know what to do. I'm certainly behind the curve. If she gets her AOS, I'm responsible. Go read about what happens in court on these kinds of cases and see what hell men like me go through for women like that. Annulment is not a certainty at this point, only a possibility. I won't let her back. Why do I like Filipina women? Why do I like Cheeseburgers? Why Do I like the color Blue? My heritage if Filipino. My dad was from there. I went there, I liked the women.  Is it ok if I like what I like? I like brown skin, is that ok with you? I like petite women, it that ok with you? And, its not 2 strikes, this is not a game. I got used twice by two scheming women from a country that is apparently full of women who know how to do this well.  Why don't you tell me what kind of woman I should be looking for.

I'm already paying child support and on the hook for one Filipina that was unfaithful. I don't know about you, but money for me is hard earned and limited, that is why I'm so concerned with that. Who wouldn't be? And the question of withdrawing the I-864 is not yet answered. I don't know for sure that I submitted it in time. It appears that my wife and whoever is helping her know the timelines, know what to do. I'm certainly behind the curve. If she gets her AOS, I'm responsible. Go read about what happens in court on these kinds of cases and see what hell men like me go through for women like that. Annulment is not a certainty at this point, only a possibility. I won't let her back. Why do I like Filipina women? Why do I like Cheeseburgers? Why Do I like the color Blue? My heritage if Filipino. My dad was from there. I went there, I liked the women.  Is it ok if I like what I like? I like brown skin, is that ok with you? I like petite women, it that ok with you? And, its not 2 strikes, this is not a game. I got used twice by two scheming women from a country that is apparently full of women who know how to do this well.  Why don't you tell me what kind of woman I should be looking for.

I just want to give my deepest heartfelt thanks so all of you who have replied and given me information and shared their experiences. It is truly amazing how kind you all are. Thanks so much!

I'm already paying child support and on the hook for one Filipina that was unfaithful. I don't know about you, but money for me is hard earned and limited, that is why I'm so concerned with that. Who wouldn't be? And the question of withdrawing the I-864 is not yet answered. I don't know for sure that I submitted it in time. It appears that my wife and whoever is helping her know the timelines, know what to do. I'm certainly behind the curve. If she gets her AOS, I'm responsible. Go read about what happens in court on these kinds of cases and see what hell men like me go through for women like that. Annulment is not a certainty at this point, only a possibility. I won't let her back. Why do I like Filipina women? Why do I like Cheeseburgers? Why Do I like the color Blue? My heritage if Filipino. My dad was from there. I went there, I liked the women.  Is it ok if I like what I like? I like brown skin, is that ok with you? I like petite women, it that ok with you? And, its not 2 strikes, this is not a game. I got used twice by two scheming women from a country that is apparently full of women who know how to do this well.  Why don't you tell me what kind of woman I should be looking for.

I'm already paying child support and on the hook for one Filipina that was unfaithful. I don't know about you, but money for me is hard earned and limited, that is why I'm so concerned with that. Who wouldn't be? And the question of withdrawing the I-864 is not yet answered. I don't know for sure that I submitted it in time. It appears that my wife and whoever is helping her know the timelines, know what to do. I'm certainly behind the curve. If she gets her AOS, I'm responsible. Go read about what happens in court on these kinds of cases and see what hell men like me go through for women like that. Annulment is not a certainty at this point, only a possibility. I won't let her back. Why do I like Filipina women? Why do I like Cheeseburgers? Why Do I like the color Blue? My heritage if Filipino. My dad was from there. I went there, I liked the women.  Is it ok if I like what I like? I like brown skin, is that ok with you? I like petite women, it that ok with you? And, its not 2 strikes, this is not a game. I got used twice by two scheming women from a country that is apparently full of women who know how to do this well.  Why don't you tell me what kind of woman I should be looking for.

I'm already paying child support and on the hook for one Filipina that was unfaithful. I don't know about you, but money for me is hard earned and limited, that is why I'm so concerned with that. Who wouldn't be? And the question of withdrawing the I-864 is not yet answered. I don't know for sure that I submitted it in time. It appears that my wife and whoever is helping her know the timelines, know what to do. I'm certainly behind the curve. If she gets her AOS, I'm responsible. Go read about what happens in court on these kinds of cases and see what hell men like me go through for women like that. Annulment is not a certainty at this point, only a possibility. I won't let her back. Why do I like Filipina women? Why do I like Cheeseburgers? Why Do I like the color Blue? My heritage if Filipino. My dad was from there. I went there, I liked the women.  Is it ok if I like what I like? I like brown skin, is that ok with you? I like petite women, it that ok with you? And, its not 2 strikes, this is not a game. I got used twice by two scheming women from a country that is apparently full of women who know how to do this well.  Why don't you tell me what kind of woman I should be looking for.

Thanks for the reply,  no, its never been consummated but I asked my attorney about it and he said he'd check into it.

Hi, I met a Filipina, dated her in the Philippines and finally brought her here on a K1 and we got married in February 2017. We waited until our wedding night to consummate but she has hyperthyroidism and asked to wait because she didn't feel like it, so I did, patiently. Months went by and she said she just had no libido anymore so she saw a doctor who could find nothing wrong. Then a gynecologist, who said all was normal, saying it is usually a mental/emotional thing with a woman that young (32). So, she went to a therapist and is supposed to try to get help there but she missed her appointment this week and I suspect it was all just a ruse anyway.
 
This woman is the 2nd Filipina I have sponsored. The first one I met and sponsored over 10 years ago she went all the way to Permanent Status and a baby before she secretely found a very rich man to leave me for. After it was all over, I thought, "They (Filipinas) can't ALL be bad, right? So I went over there and found another who seemed so compatible so I took another chance. I just love Filipina women and have a thing for them, but not anymore.
 
Last Thursday, my wife got her EAD and AP card. We have been waiting for the notice for her AOS interview but it has not come to our Po box yet. On Friday, she started a fight with me, which is very out of character for her.  Then, later that night, I found out she had been talking to my Filipina ex-wife and I confronted her about it and she got really mad, denying it but we argued hotly over it because she said she didn't even have my ex-wife's phone number.  While I was out, she packed a suitcase, and left and then the Police came asking what happened. I told them we had an argument and when I got back, she was gone.
 
The cops said my wife had gone to the Police Station (how? she has no car and can't drive. Who took her?) to say she was scared of me but that there was no physical abuse and since there were no threats or physical harm, there were no charges and nothing more would come of it. So, she has left with no forwarding address. On Saturday, she sent me a text saying she's coming back, but doesn't know when butthat she left because she is so scared of me but I know that's not the truth. I began to dig and found she has been in constant communications with my ex-wife since June 6th, sometimes, hundreds of texts a day to each other. In addition, she's been in phone contact with at least 4 different men. I google the numbers and found them all and they are all single. She is also texting numerous local people I don't know dozens of times a day that I never knew about. We are - or I thought we were - a private couple, just living together but now I see that while alone, she has been very busy texting and making phone calls.
 
I now believe she came here only to get a green card, she must have changed her address on the USCIS website and intercepted the notice of interview for AOS or they just granted it without an interview. She of course never said anything about these people, saying she knows no one here except me. I pay the phone bills and I have access to all the calls and texts made, the phone numbers, to and from, but no content. I never looked at her phone activity because I trusted her fully. Now, I wish I had been more vigilant. Let that be a lesson to all.
 
To me, it all adds up to a scam marriage ....no sex, secret men friends, secretly talking to my ex-wife and then suddenly disappearing right after getting her EAD and right about the time she was supposed to get her AOS interview or approval without an interview.  Her name is not on anything besides the marriage certificate.
 
On Monday, I wrote up a letter officially asking to withdraw my I-864 and hand delivered it to the nearest USCIS office and gave it to a USCIS Immigration Officer who said she'd enter it in the record but I don't really know if she did or not and I don't know if by then it was too late already, she didn't say. Before I went there, I sent the same withdrawal request via express overnight mail to the USCIS addresss we sent the I-131 package too and I sent a copy to the Benefits Center in Missouri. I'm hoping I got it in on time but it doesn't appear so. How can I check that? The current Status says USCIS that as of September 18, 2017, they were ready to schedule and interview and would send a notice with the date but as I said, its now October 6, and it has not arrived in the PO box we put on the I-131, so I rather think she anticipated doing this and changed the address to a place she could intercept it, go on the interview without me, tell them that everything was fine and perhaps USCIS granted the 2 year GC to her without me knowing it.
 
I know I should have not married this woman but I did enter the marriage in good faith but she didn't.  I think it was her plan from the beginning to scam me to get a GC. What should I do? I don't want to be on the hook for her after this. I have a divorce attorney standing by but divorce is the easy part. I want her deported or at least I want out of the I-864 but if I was too late, then I'm screwed. She can't work because of her illness, she has no skills, no job, no money, no car. What are my options? Thanks in advance.
 

Hi, I met a Filipina, dated her in the Philippines and finally brought her here on a K1 and we got married in February 2017. We waited until our wedding night to consummate but she has hyperthyroidism and asked to wait because she didn't feel like it, so I did, patiently. Months went by and she said she just had no libido anymore so she saw a doctor who could find nothing wrong. Then a gynecologist, who said all was normal, saying it is usually a mental/emotional thing with a woman that young (32). So, she went to a therapist and is supposed to try to get help there but she missed her appointment this week and I suspect it was all just a ruse anyway.
 
This woman is the 2nd Filipina I have sponsored. The first one I met and sponsored over 10 years ago she went all the way to Permanent Status and a baby before she secretely found a very rich man to leave me for. After it was all over, I thought, "They (Filipinas) can't ALL be bad, right? So I went over there and found another who seemed so compatible so I took another chance. I just love Filipina women and have a thing for them, but not anymore.
 
Last Thursday, my wife got her EAD and AP card. We have been waiting for the notice for her AOS interview but it has not come to our Po box yet. On Friday, she started a fight with me, which is very out of character for her.  Then, later that night, I found out she had been talking to my Filipina ex-wife and I confronted her about it and she got really mad, denying it but we argued hotly over it because she said she didn't even have my ex-wife's phone number.  While I was out, she packed a suitcase, and left and then the Police came asking what happened. I told them we had an argument and when I got back, she was gone.
 
The cops said my wife had gone to the Police Station (how? she has no car and can't drive. Who took her?) to say she was scared of me but that there was no physical abuse and since there were no threats or physical harm, there were no charges and nothing more would come of it. So, she has left with no forwarding address. On Saturday, she sent me a text saying she's coming back, but doesn't know when butthat she left because she is so scared of me but I know that's not the truth. I began to dig and found she has been in constant communications with my ex-wife since June 6th, sometimes, hundreds of texts a day to each other. In addition, she's been in phone contact with at least 4 different men. I google the numbers and found them all and they are all single. She is also texting numerous local people I don't know dozens of times a day that I never knew about. We are - or I thought we were - a private couple, just living together but now I see that while alone, she has been very busy texting and making phone calls.
 
I now believe she came here only to get a green card, she must have changed her address on the USCIS website and intercepted the notice of interview for AOS or they just granted it without an interview. She of course never said anything about these people, saying she knows no one here except me. I pay the phone bills and I have access to all the calls and texts made, the phone numbers, to and from, but no content. I never looked at her phone activity because I trusted her fully. Now, I wish I had been more vigilant. Let that be a lesson to all.
 
To me, it all adds up to a scam marriage ....no sex, secret men friends, secretly talking to my ex-wife and then suddenly disappearing right after getting her EAD and right about the time she was supposed to get her AOS interview or approval without an interview.  Her name is not on anything besides the marriage certificate.
 
On Monday, I wrote up a letter officially asking to withdraw my I-864 and hand delivered it to the nearest USCIS office and gave it to a USCIS Immigration Officer who said she'd enter it in the record but I don't really know if she did or not and I don't know if by then it was too late already, she didn't say. Before I went there, I sent the same withdrawal request via express overnight mail to the USCIS addresss we sent the I-131 package too and I sent a copy to the Benefits Center in Missouri. I'm hoping I got it in on time but it doesn't appear so. How can I check that? The current Status says USCIS that as of September 18, 2017, they were ready to schedule and interview and would send a notice with the date but as I said, its now October 6, and it has not arrived in the PO box we put on the I-131, so I rather think she anticipated doing this and changed the address to a place she could intercept it, go on the interview without me, tell them that everything was fine and perhaps USCIS granted the 2 year GC to her without me knowing it.
 
I know I should have not married this woman but I did enter the marriage in good faith but she didn't.  I think it was her plan from the beginning to scam me to get a GC. What should I do? I don't want to be on the hook for her after this. I have a divorce attorney standing by but divorce is the easy part. I want her deported or at least I want out of the I-864 but if I was too late, then I'm screwed. She can't work because of her illness, she has no skills, no job, no money, no car. What are my options? Thanks in advance.
 

Hi, I met a Filipina, dated her in the Philippines and finally brought her here on a K1 and we got married in February 2017. We waited until our wedding night to consummate but she has hyperthyroidism and asked to wait because she didn't feel like it, so I did, patiently. Months went by and she said she just had no libido anymore so she saw a doctor who could find nothing wrong. Then a gynecologist, who said all was normal, saying it is usually a mental/emotional thing with a woman that young (32). So, she went to a therapist and is supposed to try to get help there but she missed her appointment this week and I suspect it was all just a ruse anyway.
 
This woman is the 2nd Filipina I have sponsored. The first one I met and sponsored over 10 years ago she went all the way to Permanent Status and a baby before she secretely found a very rich man to leave me for. After it was all over, I thought, "They (Filipinas) can't ALL be bad, right? So I went over there and found another who seemed so compatible so I took another chance. I just love Filipina women and have a thing for them, but not anymore.
 
Last Thursday, my wife got her EAD and AP card. We have been waiting for the notice for her AOS interview but it has not come to our Po box yet. On Friday, she started a fight with me, which is very out of character for her.  Then, later that night, I found out she had been talking to my Filipina ex-wife and I confronted her about it and she got really mad, denying it but we argued hotly over it because she said she didn't even have my ex-wife's phone number.  While I was out, she packed a suitcase, and left and then the Police came asking what happened. I told them we had an argument and when I got back, she was gone.
 
The cops said my wife had gone to the Police Station (how? she has no car and can't drive. Who took her?) to say she was scared of me but that there was no physical abuse and since there were no threats or physical harm, there were no charges and nothing more would come of it. So, she has left with no forwarding address. On Saturday, she sent me a text saying she's coming back, but doesn't know when butthat she left because she is so scared of me but I know that's not the truth. I began to dig and found she has been in constant communications with my ex-wife since June 6th, sometimes, hundreds of texts a day to each other. In addition, she's been in phone contact with at least 4 different men. I google the numbers and found them all and they are all single. She is also texting numerous local people I don't know dozens of times a day that I never knew about. We are - or I thought we were - a private couple, just living together but now I see that while alone, she has been very busy texting and making phone calls.
 
I now believe she came here only to get a green card, she must have changed her address on the USCIS website and intercepted the notice of interview for AOS or they just granted it without an interview. She of course never said anything about these people, saying she knows no one here except me. I pay the phone bills and I have access to all the calls and texts made, the phone numbers, to and from, but no content. I never looked at her phone activity because I trusted her fully. Now, I wish I had been more vigilant. Let that be a lesson to all.
 
To me, it all adds up to a scam marriage ....no sex, secret men friends, secretly talking to my ex-wife and then suddenly disappearing right after getting her EAD and right about the time she was supposed to get her AOS interview or approval without an interview.  Her name is not on anything besides the marriage certificate.
 
On Monday, I wrote up a letter officially asking to withdraw my I-864 and hand delivered it to the nearest USCIS office and gave it to a USCIS Immigration Officer who said she'd enter it in the record but I don't really know if she did or not and I don't know if by then it was too late already, she didn't say. Before I went there, I sent the same withdrawal request via express overnight mail to the USCIS addresss we sent the I-131 package too and I sent a copy to the Benefits Center in Missouri. I'm hoping I got it in on time but it doesn't appear so. How can I check that? The current Status says USCIS that as of September 18, 2017, they were ready to schedule and interview and would send a notice with the date but as I said, its now October 6, and it has not arrived in the PO box we put on the I-131, so I rather think she anticipated doing this and changed the address to a place she could intercept it, go on the interview without me, tell them that everything was fine and perhaps USCIS granted the 2 year GC to her without me knowing it.
 
I know I should have not married this woman but I did enter the marriage in good faith but she didn't.  I think it was her plan from the beginning to scam me to get a GC. What should I do? I don't want to be on the hook for her after this. I have a divorce attorney standing by but divorce is the easy part. I want her deported or at least I want out of the I-864 but if I was too late, then I'm screwed. She can't work because of her illness, she has no skills, no job, no money, no car. What are my options? Thanks in advance.