BrianUSA

1 minute ago, Unidentified said:

How did she use you?

She obviously used me to get the visa, will telling them that she rented her own apartment right after arriving help? will this show them that she had no intention on living with me?

This was actually something she said she's gonna do if I refused to move out of my house  

2 minutes ago, t-ten said:

Only the question is whether or not her immigration visa (and/or your I-130/I-864) can be cancelled by telling the embassy or CBP that you are going to divorce your wife. I don’t think it can be done. However, if you really believe that she married you only for immigration benefits, you may try it now or report your belief to USCIS after she comes to the US. Just filing a divorce here gives her an opportunity to come here to attend a divorce mediation session. Of course, she can come on with her immigrant visa and become a LPR as she’s still your wife until the divorce becomes finalized.

What do I need to do in order to prove that she used me?

3 minutes ago, JC&BS said:

Because she has been granted a visa. She has gone through the steps to obtain one. 

So basically if someone has a visa they can enter even if the reason for them having the visa is long gone?

6 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

You have been told multiple time about your options; none of which guarantee she won't be admitted.  

About the bolded part, that is what divorce is for. Monday sounds like a good day to file.

Yeah by the time I'll be done with this she'll be here already 

14 minutes ago, Going through said:

I think it's somewhat more fraudulent that you went ahead and married her anyhow, thinking you could convince her to change her mind about not having children later.  You presented yourself as okay with it beforehand when you married her, and likely continued to present yourself as okay with it during the 2 years of marriage.  Now you've changed your mind right before her entering.

 

Because you don't own the keys to the country.

But she has a spouse visa! if I no longer want her to be my wife how can she still come here?

4 minutes ago, JFH said:

Nope. And you are on the hook with I-864 also. Although I doubt she will need public assistance as she seems to be a hard-working independent woman. 

36 year old model LOL , time will tell. 

5 minutes ago, Unidentified said:

Why does it bother you that she might? 

Because why should she come here if I no longer want her here? 

I am worried that she will go to a different apartment and change the address for the GC to arrive.

Will CBP call me to confirm if she asks them to chance the address when she enters the country? 

Just now, QueenComley said:

Reading this made think of Larissa and Colt

Who are they?

We were having arguments for a long time,  mostly because she doesn’t want to have children, I thought she would change her mind over time but I don't see this happening.

She is making much more money than me because she is a model and constantly telling me that I am not good enough and forcing me to get a new job, I have a back injury and used to work in construction but I don't work anymore, mostly rely on help from my parents, she doesn't believe me that I say I can't work and calls my lazy, she said that she doesn't want to be the only provider. she hates my house, she said she wants to move but I like this house. it's owned by my parents so I don't have to pay anything.  yes it is small but it's free, I don't want to get a 30 year mortgage at 45 just to make her happy. she is not happy with anything.

Our honeymoon was a disaster,  that's why it only lasted a week, we had a huge fight over these issues, I still wanted to work things out but I feel like she lost her interest.

Last argument was really bad, she kept saying that I am mamas boy and I feel like all she cares about is money. she said "I don't come for a third world country, I don't really need this, don't want to live in your crappy little place" she demanded that I rent a new place and rent this place out, this just makes no sense to me, she is rude and greedy. A wife should be by her husband no matter what but all she wants is comfortable life and Gucci bags, she has like 10 she keeps buying them, yes it's her money but she is my wife it makes her money my money and she doesn't ask me about these things, plus I am the one who is bringing her to this country and she is not grateful at all. Last night she said that my mom is stupid for giving me money, she said that at my age I should be helping my parents and not the other way around, what is wrong with helping your son? she doesn't respect me or my family. 

I don't want her here anymore and will be getting a divorce. I do feel like she is only using me to get a GC ( doesn't even want to open a joint bank account with me) and I will tell this to the USCIS. I don't want to see her face anymore.

43 minutes ago, Lemonslice said:

How long have you been married?

 

I suggest you follow Ryan H suggestions.

Married for 2 and a half years

No she purchased it 

My wife had her interview and her visa was approved and she already has her passport with the visa.

We had a fight and I decided that I no longer want her to come here, she has a plane ticket for next month and she said she is coming anyway.

Who should I call to have her visa revoked? 

Just out of curiosity, If someone enters the US with an IR1 visa, can they still make a surprise visit to their home? 

I know that some couples got a visit during removal of conditions but what if you're not doing that because it's an IR1 visa?

1 minute ago, Nitas_man said:

Good luck to both of you 👍

Thank you! 🙏 

1 minute ago, Nitas_man said:

K3/AOS then I went on expat assignment. Abandoned the card, refiled, returned to the US.  Went back on expat assignment, refiled again for (rare and difficult) SB1 which is (two) interviews, returned last year.  

 

No more.  Her next interview will be N-400 if I can talk her into it LOL.  

 

We do treat those interviews like preparing for a mission even after so many experiences at those counters and she ALWAYS brings loads of evidence but there is a huge difference between what we prepare for and what actually happens so I am NOT advising you to be unprepared but I am trying to get you guys to settle down and focus on getting what you have together in a neat and easy to follow relationship timeline with simple milestone evidence to go with your relationship story.  

Oh wow lol, Yes I think we are over thinking and very stressed, mostly after reading some horror stories here but I do realize that those are mostly from high fraud countries ..

She will be prepared and will bring everything with her and hope for the best. 

6 minutes ago, Nitas_man said:

My wife has been through these formal interviews 5 times.  4 at embassies, and one AOS interview in the US.  The only interview where they looked at photos?  AOS in Houston.  Three embassy interviews I attended.  I was at the counter.      I don’t and didn’t miss anything lol.

 

As to the I130 package?  I submitted one in 2011 at the consulate (DCF).  By then I was full aware of the front end loading concept and this one was LOADED.  Joint bank statements.  Joint credit card statements.  Joint car insurance.  Joint car titles.  Beneficiary statements from 401k’s and life insurance. Copies of matching drivers licenses.  Lots of stuff.  I was proud.  LOL

 

What did the CO do?  Flipped through - “dont need this” - handed it back.  “Need this” kept it.  Never read any of it.  Kept the basic package, emailed us with instructions to prepare for the interview a few weeks later.  I KNOW nobody read it and the interview wasn’t at that consulate, it was at the embassy 4 hours away.

 

So I recollected all that stuff and she brought it to the interview.  The folder already had approved on the corner, CO didn’t ask her anything and focused on hammering me about my plans to return and settle back in the US.  

 

You are overthinking here and need to focus on the typical milestones every couple goes through from how you met to where you are on interview day, and be prepared to show evidence in the form of dated passport stamps and itineraries with your names, a few photos of those events, and address any issues from your past(s) if they come up and you’ll be fine.  For instance the CO confirmed with my wife “you do know he’s paying child support right” etc.

 

There is very little ability to initially show “joint” blending of your marriage when the beneficiary has no SS number.  Do what you can and don’t worry about what you cannot.  

 

Last post here.  Best of luck to both of you.

 

If you don't mind me asking, why did she have so many interviews?

Just now, missileman said:

Be careful of comparing your case to others.......your wife should carry evidence of a bona fide relationship with her..........it is better to be over-prepared rather than face having the case returned to USCIS.......just my opinion.

Yes she will of course 

1 minute ago, Nitas_man said:

So when we went through I didnt know anything about front loading.  My package was exactly what they asked for.  No more, no less.  At that point?  One visit and married.

Approved with no RFE’s and interviewed with no issues.

Thats so amazing, hopefully we get that too

2 minutes ago, missileman said:

 

Man, you don't need anything "meaningful" to write a will.  I would advise you to stop this negative thinking........you have been given good advice in this thread.  

Not really familiar with the whole will writing thing lol sorry 

30 minutes ago, Bill & Katya said:

To the OP, @missileman mentioned in one of his first responses Wills/Living Wills.  I would look into that as well.  Simple Wills can be done fairly quickly for at least yourself.  You can do one for her as well, but she will have to sign it and have it notarized in Portugal.

 

Good Luck!

I don't have assets or anything meaningful in order to have a will  

9 minutes ago, Nitas_man said:

You had more face time than we did.

 

1 visit:  Got married.  3 weeks.

1 more visit while waiting for the petition to process.  Two weeks.

 

The only thing I was able to do jointly was take advantage of the life change and add her to health insurance pending social security number.

 

You are overthinking this and probably stressing your poor wife as well.  Both of you need to understand that there is less than a half hour at that counter, a lot of that time is taken up reviewing original documents and getting the file straightened out, and the questions asked come out of the documents you filed (example they may ask her about your children from previous marriage, etc) and things like that.  She gets one sentence to answer and moves on.  IT IS OK to say “I don’t know much about that but this is what I do know” in an interview.  She needs to well know everything that is in front of that CO and needs to be able to highlight your relationship milestones (dont know your circumstances but things like previous marriages etc come up and she needs to be briefed).  

 

I was lucky and got to attend two of them because we have lived in and out of the US so much.  Had one where the CO asked ME (USC) if I knew her mobile number.  I was like “nope it’s wifey on the mobile and since we have smartphones you guys oughta make us bring em in and check em instead of leavin’ them outside” and he laughed and that was it.  

 

You overthink, you go in nervous, you can blow the interview.  Seen it here.  But the VAST majority of CR1/IR1 interviews (as the three my wife attended and our AOS) go well with no issues.  Most that have issues - the issues are related to missing paperwork.   You are going to be fine.

Aren't they reviewing everything before the interview? I read that they already decide if the person is approved or not even before the interview started and only confirming thing at the interview, this is kinda worries me because we didn't really front load much.

5 minutes ago, Madison S. said:

Evidence can include things like adding her to your insurance, authorized user on credit cards (though not all banks allow this without an SSN or ITIN so it’s up to their discretion. Photos, chat logs, boarding passes/passport stamps, receipts from visits like you mentioned, receipts or appraisals for your wedding bands, etc. along these lines. 

Affidavits of support don’t carry much weight, but they are listed as viable evidence you can submit on the USCIS website, so it can’t hurt to include it. 

As a side note, her interview is in Portugal? I was under the impression all marriage visas with Portugal-based beneficiaries are processed through Paris. 

Yes the interview is in Paris, she is from Portugal