11 minutes ago, Christy&J said:

I am sorry this is happening to you and your boy.

But please stay safe, put loaded gun to someone head is no joke ! Not at all !

Like other said that you can stay here legally and apply for 10 years visa with divorce waiver. Please don't have a mind set that you and your son wouldn't have a good life if it was not in US.

 

If you have friends or someone you can turn for help, please do. But now you should find a solution quick. I dont know what is your living situation, but make sure you are not living with this guy anymore in the same roof

He is in jail. I’m not with him. I just need to figure out mine and my sons living situation 

6 minutes ago, Thegirl said:

Agreed safety is you number 1 concern. There are services to help you even as a green card holder. You are not alone. Do not be afraid to get help. It is not your fault. 

https://www.acf.hhs.gov/fysb/programs/family-violence-prevention-services/programs/ndvh

 

Thank you. A domestic violence team have been in touch. But I just couldn’t focus on all the information they were trying to give me 

My last post was about an abusive partner. Well stupidly stayed. And just recently had to have the cops called and arrest him because he pointed a loaded gun at my head. I freaked out and called the cops. They took him and he isn’t being bailed out. I don’t know what’s going to happen to him. 
 

But anyways. I’m really struggling to stay strong right now but I need help, I don’t know what I’m entitled too and what I’m not. I don’t want to become a public charge. But I don’t want to loose my apartment and end up in a shelter. My anxiety is so bad so please don’t be mean. My son is 10 months old in the next couple of days. I don’t think I want to go back to the Uk. But now my husband is in jail my sponsor (his grandparents) are not helping me. 
am I going to lose my right to be here. I want to give my son a good life. And believe me I’m trying to keep it together. but I’m a mess. 
 

Ok there’s a lot to think about and do. Seems like I have to jump through a few hoops. 

18 minutes ago, JFH said:

I’m a Brit in Washington state also. If you need a safe place for you and the baby we have plenty of room. We are in Grays Harbor County - looks like you are in Whatcom County so we are quite far away but at least you won’t be leaving the state. Feel free to send me a private message if you want to talk. 
 

Going back to the UK is easy if it’s just you but the baby makes things difficult as you can’t take the child out of the country without the father’s permission. 

Thank you 😭 I really appreciate that. It’s hard not having anyone out here. But I wouldn’t put myself or son on to anyone else. My drama isn’t anyone else’s problem but my own. I’ll figure it all out. Brits are strong right...

19 minutes ago, JFH said:

It’s not an immigration matter. You need a divorce lawyer as the matter of custody is a divorce matter. Do you have a British passport for the baby already? I assume you were born in the UK yourself. 

I was born in the Uk. The baby doesn’t have a passport yet. But he was born over here in Washington 

I would do it the legal way. I would never commit a crime. It seems like silly evidence. But I have text messages from him telling me I can go back to the up and he will sign the babies passport and stuff. So I’m going to speak with an immigration lawyer 

I’m not leaving without my son. I’ll find a way

I need help!! I want to go home. My husband is abusive towards me and it’s getting worse since our son has been born. I thought I married the man of my dreams. But it turns out I married a monster. How do I go home to the Uk. I feel so alone. I don’t have any family or friends out here. I left my job to stay at home with the baby so he could work full tome so I’m fully dependent on him. I’m too scared to call the police. I don’t want to be in a homeless shelter. Please don’t be cruel  I need the support right now 

Some asked to let them know when the baby is here. Well klayton was born via emergency c section on 09/02. At 10:09am. He is the most precious little boy in the world. I'm completely smitten. He weighed 7lbs 11oz I'm still completely overwhelmed that i made it over here in time. Everything just fell into place last minute. It still feels like a dream. Again thank you to everyone that provided support and guidance. ❤️

This is My personal experience. But note everyone's experience is different. And this was a while ago, 

It was my first time for me visiting my husband in his home country , he had been to visit me a good few times in the uk. So I wanted to visit him and his family and explore where he was from, I applied for the esta and booked a 90 day return trip. (You need to show proof of return flight) I was asked why I was going to America and why i was going for so long by check in staff at the airport. I told them my reasons when handing over my passport and They were happy and gave me my boarding pass. (But note It's down to the officers in America to let you in, even with an esta. They have the last say!!!) 

I got to America and the custom officer at the boarder asked for my passport, how long I was over here for and if I had intentions of immigrating. To which I replied honestly one day but I'm only visiting for now. I showed him my return flight information and esta and He told me and my husband to park in the car park and to go inside and speak with the custom officers. I lined up and then was called over. They wanted my passport, asked how long I was over here for, wanted to see proof of return flight, asked how much money I had, and how I was going to support myself for the time here, they wanted to see proof of home ties, job, and then once he looked over all my information he told me if I stay over the time stamped in my passport there will be consequences and I will be banned from re entering.  My flight home was booked for the 11th July and he gave me till the 16th to leave. But I left exactly on the 11th!! Give them truthful straight forward answers to their questions. They are trained to know when somebody is lying. It is a little daunting. I must remind you again it is completely down to the officers to let you in. Nobody can tell you for certain they will let you in and you will be fine. They might find reasons not too. But Good luck. 🤞🏼

The last bit is always the hardest. It's because you are so close to the finishing line. Don't give up!! Your happy ending is just around the corner. Ive been in America just over 2 weeks now. And just like you I was starting to lose hope especially being so far in my pregnancy. I didn't think I was going to be over here in time. But here I am!!!! You will be reunited soon. 

2 hours ago, Nitas_man said:

Whatever you’re planning FC don’t do it.  Y’all get a counsellor or something.

Lol. These petitions are getting crazier lol 

1 hour ago, little immigrant said:

Aww I'm so happy for you. Congrats on getting here and your baby! I hope everything goes well! 

Thank you. I'm so happy

29 minutes ago, fip & jim said:

Yay! Good luck with everything. Let us know when baby arrives. 

Thank you. I will do 

33 minutes ago, Edddie&Beatrice said:

Happy for you. The whole process took two years?  I just filled form i-130 the other day.  

Thank you. The whole process took just over a year. But now we have a break for 2 years. The cr1 green card allows you to stay in the USA for 2 years. And then you adjust status and get your 10 year green card. Good luck. I hope the process goes quick for you. 

I got here in Washington  yesterday, I can't believe we finally have a break from immigration for 2 years... it's such a nice feeling knowing we can relax now. and enjoy the next 5 weeks together before our son is born, I've stayed over here in the past and no all my husbands family and friends so I know I'm going to settle in just fine. I just wanted to thank everyone who helped me with the process and answered all of my questions. You have a break from me for 2 years now LOL. 

6 hours ago, Dalila Gonzalez said:

 

How did your interviews go and could you tell me a little about how you got your cases expedited please

My interview was on the 12th July in London. My case was expedited due to medical reasons in my pregnancy.  It was very straight forward, they made me feel relaxed, I was nervous at first but I think that's normal. But there's really nothing to be nervous about. The staff were So nice. I was asked questions about my relationship and it just felt like a conversation. You wait about longer then you are actually interviewed. I ended up with a green 212g slip for a joint sponsor. Which I was gutted about and the consular officer even apologised and said that it's the only thing holding up our visa. He kept my passport and My case changed to administrative processing. I submitted my hubbys grandads documents on the 16th July and on the 17th my visa was issued and in my hand on the 19th July. I'm now leaving the uk tomorrow to be back with my husband. 

8 minutes ago, Paul & Mary said:

No you just progressed to another step!

 

Pay the fee, if you can, before entering the US.

 

And then you can relax for 21 months until filing your ROC.

 

Congratulations!

Well over for now lol I'm looking forward to spending the next 730 days together and not with distance lol it's been a pain in the ###. Thank you 😊 

5 minutes ago, Wuozopo said:

Well try searching Facebook for Help Helen Smash TV

Then scroll down for her video English Parents Vs American Parents

Haha I just watched it. Love it!! My other half still gets confused at some of the words I say. 

2 minutes ago, Wuozopo said:

@Debzib88 

 

Here's a chuckle for you (if it works) https://www.facebook.com/100000382002489/posts/2559211800768195/

The link isn't working. 

2 minutes ago, Wuozopo said:

 

 

Read that again. See the bold part in what I said above. 

Sorry lol. Thank you. 

2 minutes ago, Wuozopo said:

 

YES. Most definitely.  Friday it is. 

 

Once you get it, you can pay your USCIS immigrant fee which covers the cost of your greencard production.

Pay before you go or after arrival in the US. The USCIS will not mail out your greencard until you pay.

https://www.uscis.gov/forms/uscis-immigrant-fee

Ok thank you. Does it have to be paid before I get to America.  Or could it be paid like a week later?

20 minutes ago, missileman said:

Certainly appears so.........Congratulations!!!!

Thank you! I can't believe it's finally over. 

This probably sounds stupid aha. But does this mean I'm going to have my passport back tomorrow?

Just now, Wuozopo said:

I would bet on Monday as the latest. 

Congratulations. 

Thank you for everything. You have so much patience when dealing with irrational people such as myself. I appreciate all Your support and guidance over the last couple months.