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14 minutes ago, VALU said:

Keep collecting more evidence so that when you do get divorced, you can get part of your money via alimony. If you get pregnant, make sure you become the primary caregiver and fight for full/physical custody and take his behind to child support and make sure you get him to pay a lot in child support. 

 

You are advising her to stay with him to collect more evidence and backstab him afterwards to get alimony and child support?  I'm sorry it is your personal experience that most men cheat (why is that?), but hearing stories like this, I think cheating to end the relationship might be the better way out, comparably LOL

10 minutes ago, femme25 said:

It is him who knows whether he loves me or not but the fact is that he keeps texing me day and night since he got kickd out wanting to reconcile. He also wants to offer me the $10K I helped him with when he was at the lowest point in his life overseas and I supproted him so he offered to pay back the money I helped him survive at a certain point when he lost his savings. He said today that i will get back the money that i helped him for and he is hoping that it will gradually make me reconsider a divorce that I mentioned to him. 

Maybe he thinks you divorcing him could hurt his immigration (which it can't, as his GC is 10 years). Or maybe he just wants to "buy" his own Green Card from you. Who knows? 

5 minutes ago, femme25 said:

a few people talked about infedielity and cheating...i never implied he had s*x but rather i caught him on two dating sites liking a few profiles....this after all i did for him and helped him a lto in life at his hardest and lowest times when I didn't have much money myself at that time but i made sure to help him...he got on a dating site a month or two after moving and starting our lives together. 

It's also very possible that he just doesn't love you. And never has. But aside from such speculation, you won't get anywhere without proper evidence of immigration fraud. I think that could jeopardize him. Having sex with other women outside the US is not such evidence however, I think. Or, if you think he is prone to felony, he might get himself in trouble and you can then report him to authorities if you want. Felony convictions can mess up a Green Card holder. 

Anyways, good luck with your relationship! 

Just now, femme25 said:

a few people talked about infedielity and cheating...i never implied he had s*x but rather i caught him on two dating sites liking a few profiles....this after all i did for him and helped him a lto in life at his hardest and lowest times when I didn't have much money myself at that time but i made sure to help him...he got on a dating site a month or two after moving and starting our lives together. 

Could be any kind of reasons. Sex addiction, trying to blow off some steam from conflict in the relationship. That's all speculation. Are you trying to explain why you don't want him to receive his GC?

4 minutes ago, femme25 said:

So he is renting a room half an hour away closer to his work. He called me asking me if I can contact him once his g.c. arrives because he might find a new place later on and he doesn't trust the people he shares the home with, so he wants to get the card from me. He also said that even though this is th reason, but more important reason why he dosn't want to change the address is he still hopes that I'll tak him back so he doesn't want to end up messing with address changes then further complicate receiving his g.c. 

Well, I advise you better give him the card once it's delivered. Would be the ethical and legal thing to do. Even without good English on his part, you can get in major trouble for trying "to disappear" a legal document like that, just sayin'. :-)

Just now, femme25 said:

If by infedelity you mean sleeping with someone, he didn't do it...I only caught him on 2 dating websites where he liked a few girls, so he's been looking into profiles around. I know he didn't sleep with anyone as he just moved here two an a half months ago and I give him ride to work and back each time and can see that his work team arrives all together and the rest of the times he's either home or we're out together so even if he wanted to sleep with someone, he can't at this point lol. However, after all I did for him over the years, I would never expect him to scroll through dating website profiles just a month or two after moving to the US. I'm not even sure the point as he doesn't even speak English besides a few basic phrases. 

Did you also have such a firm surveillance on him when he was still outside the US?

Just now, Boiler said:

All we know for certain is that he holds an unrestricted Green Card, anything else is speculation.

Another thing we know is that the OP has an intent to find ways for her ex-ish husband not to receive said unrestricted Green Card. Which won't make a difference for the husband.

On 6/18/2021 at 1:29 PM, femme25 said:

 

What can I do now because I rally don't want him to get his g.c....

 

I am so sorry you're having trouble delivering the punishment you want him to endure. You have my deepest sympathy. Visajourney will certainly point out proper ways for you to take revenge, if they exist legally.

9 minutes ago, sos & ogs said:

Hello,

 

This is a sensitive topic, and one I’m glad to see on VJ.

 

I do NOT believe that the OP is trying to cancel his whole entire life for retaliatory reasons. She is trying to find out her rights and get advice from other people going through the immigration system. Also, he has only been in the US for 2 months, so his entire life is really in his home country.
 

Maybe his entire life PLAN is going to be canceled. If so, it is not because of her, it’s  because he is trying to use her for US immigration benefits. However, if he did not earn immigration legally, he is who possibly ruined (canceled) his own plans.
 

OP is a woman who has been cheated on and violated because someone possibly used her to break US federal immigration law, and it would be devastating, especially after all the time apart, to know that he was not waiting for her, he was waiting to enter the US. It’s not only devastating for that reason, but also because he was pretending to love her enough to get married while having a secret second life. Marriage is typically a lifetime decision, not an “until I enter the US” decision.
 

In my opinion, US immigration is a more difficult and lengthy process for legitimate people because of illegitimate people who think that they are entitled to come to the US any way possible, even through marriage fraud and scams.

She is asking for advice to have his immigration benefits cancelled and wants to physically keep him from getting his GC (criminal act). OP doesn't ask for constructive advice relating to her or husband's immigration but for destructive advice. That's not even what this message board is for. Cheating in marriage is not immigration fraud and the law won't bend to her whims.

VisaJourney is not your personal army to get info on how to make someone else's immigration harder. OP can file for divorce. Duh.

Nice, trying to basically cancel someone's entire life for retaliatory reasons. I'm kind of glad his GC is for 10 years and you won't succeed. My advice is you get a grip. Generally speaking, cheating on a partner doesn't mean the relationship is not bona fide. and that's all the Immigration services care about. Withholding his GC from him would be way too much in my opinion (and it's also not for you to decide on the outcome of his interactions with the USCIS). It would also be ineffectual, because his status is independent from a piece of plastic.

If the relationship is broken, is it possible it is not only his fault?

7 hours ago, Ban Hammer said:

if it is that important to you, give google a whirl and then let the rest of us know.

Well it's the only way Unlockables post could have been relevant to OP. This way it was just him saying "in my opinion it is not new". I don't have to do the work to make other peoples posts relevant.

1 minute ago, Unlockable said:

How is it not? The OP is mistaken on thinking that it is a new definition. It is a clarification for them to understand. Any misinformation is not good. Getting the proper information, regardless on how big or small it is, is beneficial to the OP and everyone else.

If your post were really about that, you could have let us know since when it is the case, if you know it (ostensibly you do). Otherwise you're basically just debating about what OP perceives to be "new" , ya know. It's probably "new" to them because it hasn't been that way when they last had to deal with immigration, obviously... So how about a date or a year, if you wanna spread the knowledge?

6 minutes ago, Unlockable said:

Medicaid being a public charge is not something new. It has been classified as a public charge for quite some time now.

Okay. How is this relevant to OP?

On 11/9/2020 at 10:35 PM, Ryan H said:

***Several posts that were nothing but political arguments, completely off topic, or both have been removed and this thread is back open for discussion; as previously stated, the purpose of this thread is for discussion of policy positions of the next Administration not back and forth political discussions (the Current Events and Hot Social Topics forum is the place for that).  Posts that deviate from the topic of this particular thread will be removed, suspensions may also be imposed if appropriate.***

Thank you very much for this. And thank you for being thorough about removing all of them, regardless of the assumed "side" they are on. Seeing moderators being fair helps a lot.

Perfect. Thx all!

14 minutes ago, mushroomspore said:

@Ben&Zian is a very experienced member and moderator of this forum. This isn't the first time the new RFE/NOID policy has been discussed here. The policy is terribly misunderstood AND terribly reported by many journalists. Ben&Zian was simply clarifying (as he has done MANY times over the past several months) that this policy isn't something to be nervous about if you actually care about your application and aren't attempting to just plop yourself in line.

Not quite, it's more like youre reading that into his post because you already know his opinion. I don't question he knows what hes talking about. But opening a convo with the equivalent of "My god, learn to read, people!" might make the communication part a little hard and might make it more likely that someone doesn't see an important piece of info.  I mean, being able to communicate is part of moderating skills too. Or should be. 

(He also said it has nothing to do with rfes, then you said its the new rfe/noid policy being discussed, so uhm...)

19 minutes ago, mushroomspore said:

so I'm not sure what you mean by the other posts depicting such a situation are "just fantasies".

I think Roel knows what I meant. It's fine though, I appreciate his second post. So the gist here is they really don't care about anything but the "hard" certificate until it comes to the interview, but adding some evidence doesn't seem to hurt either. Ok. 🙂  

27 minutes ago, geowrian said:

The paper only expands the situations where they are directed to issue a denial vs sending an RFE by removing the "no possibility" requirement.

Thanks for that added info. I'm actually hoping it doesn't matter for the honest cases. 

15 minutes ago, Luckycuds said:

It’s so hard to plan a “regular” wedding on a k1 that this was really our only option.

Yea, that's what I thought. 

Thank you guys for addressing my concerns so far, I think it helped me make a decision. Probably not doing the explanation thing. 

Have a good one!

Hi all 🙂

45 minutes ago, RJandHamid said:

That is a very common thing for K1 couples to do. No need to worry about it having a negative impact on the AOS petition.

My husband and I had a small civil ceremony and then a few months later we had the larger wedding celebration. In our aos petition, we only sent photos from the civil ceremony (because the larger celebration had not happened yet). We brought both sets of photos to our interview. The officer did ask if we had a civil ceremony first and then a bigger celebration later. We just said 'yes' and then he moved on with no issues. 

31 minutes ago, GreatDane said:

During our AOS, the immigration officer did question why we didn't have a real wedding and why neither of us wore rings. My SO doesn't wear jewelry (he now has a ring that he's worn maybe five times) and it honestly wasn't important to me back then. We were finishing up school and didn't want to put money into something as unnecessary as a ring and it seemed more of a status-quo thing. We were honest when we questioned it. We didn't have a big showy proposal. Like most people in Denmark, we talked it through - being together was already a given.

 

At the interview, we were just honest. Either because of his curiosity or due to a hilarious language barrier, we got flagged for individual interviews. I swear I was about to pee myself. In the lobby. I was terrified. When my turn was up, I went into the room with the officer and he went through his list of questions - all super easy if you're a couple. Once the first question was asked, I immediately relaxed. We compared answers after and one had been wrong - the last place we went out to eat but..... we had just been coming off the weekend where we tend to go out more frequently. 

 

My advice - don't overthink it. Relax. Just be honest and the rest follows. Especially on a K-1 visa, it's not uncommon to separate wedding vs. legal ceremony. Worse case, you have an individual interview and it's a piece of cake. 

Thank you RJandHamid and GreatDane so far for all the helpful feedback and shared experiences! 😃 The experiences were what I was really hoping for. May I ask you guys where you had your interviews?

14 minutes ago, Ben&Zian said:

My god. People need to actually read the information and see it isn't about "No RFE's" or anything. It's about being able to reject petitions missing major items.

Hi Ben&Zian! Well yea, I read the paper. It's about rejecting placeholder Applications. Among other things. "Not limited to them". That's in the paper too. Might wanna read it. Thanks a lot though. Maybe read GreatDanes post: Things can happen. That's why I'm asking for shared experience. Which you didn't provide.  So your post isn't helpful to me. Thank you for taking the time to type it though.

51 minutes ago, Roel said:

It honestly doesn't matter if you had a huge wedding or it was just you, your spouse and person performing the wedding.

 

Definitely overthinking.

Hi! So the other posts depicting such a situation (that are actually contributing to this thread) are just fantasies?

Have a good one!

Hi Visajourneyers,

so we are about to file the AOS application for me. I'm from Germany and got married to my wife in New Mexico on August 17 on a K1 Visa. After the recent USCIS policy change the officers aren't really required to send RFEs anymore if the initial evidence is insufficient and can deny it right away, so we got a little paranoid. My question is: does anybody have experience with a "split" ceremony, meaning a civil, official one with only a few people while on K1 (to make our lives easier in terms of planning), then having a bigger celebration ceremony with all the relatives later? Is this common for other K1-Visa people? Do you think it will seem odd to the officer (like were only getting married for formal reasons)? What did you guys do? I'm asking because we are thinking about including a written explanation as to why we're doing it this way. Do you think it's necessary, particularly to make sure that the "initial" evidence is "sufficient"? I know this may sound like overthinking, but then this explanation could look weird either, like we really have a reason to explain ourselves like that. It took us a year to get the K1 visa and we were apart for 8 months for financial reasons, so at this point its really stressing us out. Any shared experience would be much appreciated.

Apart from that: Congratulations to everyone who has been through this! And love to anyone who's doing it right now.