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@Mike12
 
by the way, i'm super sorry that you are in a tough situation. i was once in an abusive relationship, it's not anywhere near as terrible as yours, but my future-husband's ex-wife was a nightmare, she still is. she calls me a camgirl, lol.
 
so i just wanna say that i understand where you are coming from and why it is so hard for you... my fiancée lost everything because he stayed with his ex-wife. he made mistakes that is haunting even me at this point. he lost all his savings because of her gambling and alcoholic habits -- she gets physical. his parents even took him out of their will because of her.
 
i get that you spent a lot of money and a lot of effort in making your relationship work in a way that makes you happy, but the real situation is, it's not going to get better. if nothing would move you, at least know that my fiancée is such an incredible man who wasted 9 years of his life, on someone who consistently put him down. everyday i worry if her old lies are louder than my words in his head.
 
you are only at 2 years. i promise you it only gets worse. if being lonely scares you, now is the time to start fighting that fear. if not now, then as soon as possible. life is too short to be unhappy and married to a terrible human being...
 
leave and don't turn back. don't trust her words, good or bad. it's best to start over, work on yourself, heal, and then think about a new life partner.
 
i don't know how else to convince you. please just listen.

@Mike12
 
by the way, i'm super sorry that you are in a tough situation. i was once in an abusive relationship, it's not anywhere near as terrible as yours, but my future-husband's ex-wife was a nightmare, she still is. she calls me a camgirl, lol.
 
so i just wanna say that i understand where you are coming from and why it is so hard for you... my fiancée lost everything because he stayed with his ex-wife. he made mistakes that is haunting even me at this point. he lost all his savings because of her gambling and alcoholic habits -- she gets physical. his parents even took him out of their will because of her.
 
i get that you spent a lot of money and a lot of effort in making your relationship work in a way that makes you happy, but the real situation is, it's not going to get better. if nothing would move you, at least know that my fiancée is such an incredible man who wasted 9 years of his life, on someone who consistently put him down. everyday i worry if her old lies are louder than my words in his head.
 
you are only at 2 years. i promise you it only gets worse. if being lonely scares you, now is the time to start fighting that fear. if not now, then as soon as possible. life is too short to be unhappy and married to a terrible human being...
 
leave and don't turn back. don't trust her words, good or bad. it's best to start over, work on yourself, heal, and then think about a new life partner.
 
i don't know how else to convince you. please just listen.

That is so funny . And thank you for your understanding and for giving us your utmost advice. I know this too shall pass. We will make it. 🤞

We understand. I had the weirdest irony. I panicked about the NOA2 taking so long while my petitioner-fiancée was super chill. Now that we are approved, he is freaking out and I am chill when I'm the one having to attend an interview (for good reason though, I take serious things lightly all the time). 
 
This process does things to couples!

No, you shouldn't.

No, I'm sorry for being unclear there. She may go to Ukraine now. See, the USCIS performs checks on the petitions, and when approved, will send them to the NVC.
 
NVC is the one that distributes petitions to the US consulates globally, not USCIS, and will send your petition to Phillipines because it is in the records they received from USCIS, from you. So all you really have to do is call in to NVC when they receive your petition from USCIS and request they send the petition to a Ukrainian US-Embassy instead.
 
Additionally, you can call USCIS and ask an officer for advice. This is the best way to find out because just last year, petitions were approved in less than 6 months, now it is taking 230 days on average. Things just could be different. 
 
It should not delay your petition much because it is a normal occurance.

So.
 
You have choices.
 
You can opt for joint sponsorship if you can find someone who can supplement what you are missing, who wouldn't mind providing their W2 and sign an additional affidavit of support for your fiancé. Usually, family, but I think -- I THINK -- friends are fine too. Someone correct me if I'm wrong please.
 
There was a recent interview in Singapore where the consulate officer (interviewer) asked the beneficiary for his bank statements because his petitioner-fiancé did not make enough for sole-sponsorship. When the beneficiary submitted his bank statements, he was approved. So you can ask your fiancé to provide her bank statements at the interview too.
(Disclaimer though: might just be a Singaporean consulate thing. I haven't had the patience to read other consulate reviews.)
 
Or I've read a couple of times there are many ways to prove that you have enough to sponsor the Visa. If you have savings, you can send your bank statements along with your W2.
 
Other VJers will have better advice than me. I never really had a problem financially... :/
 
Goodluck ! xx

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Something that may help, and again, I'm not sure because I'm not from India and am also not familliar with India's customs. Since your fiancé is more than happy to visit you many times after approval and before the interview, why not ask her to attend the interview with you?
 
If that is not allowed in the US Consulate in India, ask her to wait outside and bring her passport into the interview to show that she has even accompanied you to the interview for moral support.
 
Trust me, it can help tremendously on your nerves during the interview, so you won't be so nervous. Though again, does not guarantee Visa approval.
 
By the way, for all those who decide to post after me, please try to be positive for the OP's sake. I'm sure he understands and is completely and utterly worried about how genuine his relationship looks. I believe there is now enough posts for everyone to understand his position. But the fact right now is that 2 people believe they are in love and are terrified of being denied a Visa, lets console them instead of adding fuel to the fire.

I think people are very odd here.
 
Technically, you can apply for a K1 Visa without the intention of immigrating. The only thing is that the beneficiary can only stay for 90 days and must fly home before the 90 days is up.
 
Again, the letter of intent the couple need to send with their petition only needs to declare that they intend to marry within 90 days from the initial point of entry with the K1 Visa.
 
It's not a must to apply for a green card after marriage, guys. It's a must only if you want to adjust beneficiary status. 
 
I'm sorry, @Linda12345, that your fiancèe's tourist visa was denied. You should know he also has the choice to reapply for the tourist visa, though he has to make sure he has a lot more proofs that he has ties to his home-country and will definitely return there.
 
K1 is an option, but I truly believe the wait time is not worth it. And only for a one-time entry. Ask your fiancé to try again.

So. 
 
I believe that I'm in a similar situation so let me explain... I'm Malay-Muslim... I'm marrying my 14-years-older fiancée. My parents don't know. His parents does. I've met him twice, not once, in U.S. before he sent in our petition. He didn't give me any engagement ring because that's just not how I roll.
 
Like the poster above me said, I'm just going to tell the truth. I realize that might be harder said than done so perhaps if I give you a bit of what I'm planning to do, maybe it would help ease your mind?
 
1. My plans to prove genuine relationship:
• prenuptial agreement
• many many many pictures together
• both invoices of marriage bands (i bought his, he bought mine)
• message app chat logs
• plane tickets of me visiting my fiancée during the petition process
 
2. For the PETITION, you need to prove you have met in person within 2 years of submitting the petition. For the BENEFICIARY INTERVIEW, you need to show proofs of ONGOING relationship. There's a difference. Look at 1 to see how I am proving ongoing relationships.
 
3. My answer will be that I have not told my parents because I know they will disapprove. But I did tell my elder brother and my best friends of my relationship with my fiancée and they are supportive. My grandmother also knows that I will be starting a new life in U.S.. Having said this, my in-laws know of the relationship, and have given us their blessings of which I am grateful. I truly believe I am matured enough to make this decision. I definitely plan to tell my parents and I am prepared to face whatever consequences they give me, and it really helps that my future husband is very supportive. I will also definitely try to ease my parents to my marriage because I don't want my future children without the maternal half of their grandparents.
 
There you go. I hope that helps you. Our petition just got approved last week. I have not received a case number from NVC and so have not booked the interview. I'll let you know how my interview goes when I've gone through it.
 
Cheers and good luck! xx

Something that may help, and again, I'm not sure because I'm not from India and am also not familliar with India's customs. Since your fiancé is more than happy to visit you many times after approval and before the interview, why not ask her to attend the interview with you?
 
If that is not allowed in the US Consulate in India, ask her to wait outside and bring her passport into the interview to show that she has even accompanied you to the interview for moral support.
 
Trust me, it can help tremendously on your nerves during the interview, so you won't be so nervous. Though again, does not guarantee Visa approval.
 
By the way, for all those who decide to post after me, please try to be positive for the OP's sake. I'm sure he understands and is completely and utterly worried about how genuine his relationship looks. I believe there is now enough posts for everyone to understand his position. But the fact right now is that 2 people believe they are in love and are terrified of being denied a Visa, lets console them instead of adding fuel to the fire.

This is a fun part. It's annoying as hell, but super fun.
 
So, it seriously depends on the consulate nearest to you(the beneficiary). I definitely do not have a list of what each and every consulate does. If someone has this, please PM me, I want to know lol.
 
Anyways, many consulates are switching to electronic packets, which means you will receive instructions electronically via e-mail. Some consulates require the beneficiary to go down to the consulate to pick up the packet in person.
 
If this does not apply for you, what needs to happen is, after you have received your NOA2, USCIS will mail your petition to NVC. NVC is the organisation that distributes approved petitions to consulates globally after running more background checks.
 
Once the petitioner receive the hardcopy of NO2, it will include instructions on how and when to contact NVC. There are actually instructions on VisaJourney as well.
 
When NVC has received your petition, and only when they have received it, you may request them to update the beneficiary address on the petition by calling them. Sometimes, this is unnecessary and if it is, NVC will advise you as such. Always best to check with NVC and the nearest consulate!
 
Anyways, the above is not 100% foolproof. If NVC has already sent out your petition to the embassy, you will have to contact the embassy via e-mail and let them know your NVC case number(not USCIS case number; it's another number you receive from NVC after approval) so they can retrieve your case for you.
 
But seriously, sometimes this all doesn't matter. It 100% depends on the embassy nearest to you.
 
Hope this helps and good luck! xx

I agree 100% and have been saying the same thing all along. I don't care if it's answer of "Yeh, we have it and I can see it, but none of us get in a hurry around here, so we will get to it when we get to it" At least you would know what is going on. Seriously though, how hard is it to say we are waiting on background checks, or we are backlogged?
 
Transparency would sure help ease a lot of tension.

Why can't they, for once in their lives, just be honest?  They apparently answer to literally no one and no agency anyway; what's the harm in "We're severely backlogged and will do the best we can to get to your case in a timely fashion"?  Because unless you're trying to marry a terrorist, straight-up adjudicating your case will not, in fact, take 45 days.  Will probably take half an hour or less, in fact...once they get to it.
Telling us straight doesn't speed things up any, of course, but I'm a huge fan of transparency and honesty.  It just makes things easier to deal with.  And I simply do not understand why they feel the need for all this cloak and dagger nonsense when they're fooling no one with an internet connection.

Agree completely, but we can do nothing but sit here and wait and wait and wait

Yeah!! thank you! I didn't even know this online form of I-94 existed! we have proof of like 6 different trips of me going to see him now :)! thank you!

@Mike12
 
by the way, i'm super sorry that you are in a tough situation. i was once in an abusive relationship, it's not anywhere near as terrible as yours, but my future-husband's ex-wife was a nightmare, she still is. she calls me a camgirl, lol.
 
so i just wanna say that i understand where you are coming from and why it is so hard for you... my fiancée lost everything because he stayed with his ex-wife. he made mistakes that is haunting even me at this point. he lost all his savings because of her gambling and alcoholic habits -- she gets physical. his parents even took him out of their will because of her.
 
i get that you spent a lot of money and a lot of effort in making your relationship work in a way that makes you happy, but the real situation is, it's not going to get better. if nothing would move you, at least know that my fiancée is such an incredible man who wasted 9 years of his life, on someone who consistently put him down. everyday i worry if her old lies are louder than my words in his head.
 
you are only at 2 years. i promise you it only gets worse. if being lonely scares you, now is the time to start fighting that fear. if not now, then as soon as possible. life is too short to be unhappy and married to a terrible human being...
 
leave and don't turn back. don't trust her words, good or bad. it's best to start over, work on yourself, heal, and then think about a new life partner.
 
i don't know how else to convince you. please just listen.

I just read your previous post. I don't understand why you still be with her. I do understand you posted in this website just to share how you feel. After all what she done to you, why you begging her back and dismiss the restrain order? Have you ever sit with her and communicate? Communication is important in relationship. I read about the part she want to have a child with you but you do everything you can to not having a child with her. Did both of you discuss about children before applying for K-1 visa? It is important to discuss about that since both of you should be on the same page in order for it to work. You don't look dumb. However, I really want you to open your eyes now. I do understand you already invest a lot of money, time and emotion in that relationship. But, that is not a reason for you to stay in bad relationship. The more you stay in that relationship, the more money, time and emotion you will invest. Move on. Don't let someone ruined your life just because you thinking about what you already invest. And stop thinking about her job if she doesn't even think about your feelings. It is not worth it to be with someone that make your life horrible. Life is too short. Spend your life with something/someone that can make you happy. 

I think people are very odd here.
 
Technically, you can apply for a K1 Visa without the intention of immigrating. The only thing is that the beneficiary can only stay for 90 days and must fly home before the 90 days is up.
 
Again, the letter of intent the couple need to send with their petition only needs to declare that they intend to marry within 90 days from the initial point of entry with the K1 Visa.
 
It's not a must to apply for a green card after marriage, guys. It's a must only if you want to adjust beneficiary status. 
 
I'm sorry, @Linda12345, that your fiancèe's tourist visa was denied. You should know he also has the choice to reapply for the tourist visa, though he has to make sure he has a lot more proofs that he has ties to his home-country and will definitely return there.
 
K1 is an option, but I truly believe the wait time is not worth it. And only for a one-time entry. Ask your fiancé to try again.

I think people are very odd here.
 
Technically, you can apply for a K1 Visa without the intention of immigrating. The only thing is that the beneficiary can only stay for 90 days and must fly home before the 90 days is up.
 
Again, the letter of intent the couple need to send with their petition only needs to declare that they intend to marry within 90 days from the initial point of entry with the K1 Visa.
 
It's not a must to apply for a green card after marriage, guys. It's a must only if you want to adjust beneficiary status. 
 
I'm sorry, @Linda12345, that your fiancèe's tourist visa was denied. You should know he also has the choice to reapply for the tourist visa, though he has to make sure he has a lot more proofs that he has ties to his home-country and will definitely return there.
 
K1 is an option, but I truly believe the wait time is not worth it. And only for a one-time entry. Ask your fiancé to try again.

I think people are very odd here.
 
Technically, you can apply for a K1 Visa without the intention of immigrating. The only thing is that the beneficiary can only stay for 90 days and must fly home before the 90 days is up.
 
Again, the letter of intent the couple need to send with their petition only needs to declare that they intend to marry within 90 days from the initial point of entry with the K1 Visa.
 
It's not a must to apply for a green card after marriage, guys. It's a must only if you want to adjust beneficiary status. 
 
I'm sorry, @Linda12345, that your fiancèe's tourist visa was denied. You should know he also has the choice to reapply for the tourist visa, though he has to make sure he has a lot more proofs that he has ties to his home-country and will definitely return there.
 
K1 is an option, but I truly believe the wait time is not worth it. And only for a one-time entry. Ask your fiancé to try again.

I think people are very odd here.
 
Technically, you can apply for a K1 Visa without the intention of immigrating. The only thing is that the beneficiary can only stay for 90 days and must fly home before the 90 days is up.
 
Again, the letter of intent the couple need to send with their petition only needs to declare that they intend to marry within 90 days from the initial point of entry with the K1 Visa.
 
It's not a must to apply for a green card after marriage, guys. It's a must only if you want to adjust beneficiary status. 
 
I'm sorry, @Linda12345, that your fiancèe's tourist visa was denied. You should know he also has the choice to reapply for the tourist visa, though he has to make sure he has a lot more proofs that he has ties to his home-country and will definitely return there.
 
K1 is an option, but I truly believe the wait time is not worth it. And only for a one-time entry. Ask your fiancé to try again.

Wells, my fiancée ever told me that the consulates look for red flags like different customs, age difference, secret relationship among many other things. Sometimes these are the reasons for rejections.
 
They are just preventing fraudulent petitions from getting an approved Visa, and protecting their citizens from fiancé(e)s who are only using the citizens for green cards.

I think people are very odd here.
 
Technically, you can apply for a K1 Visa without the intention of immigrating. The only thing is that the beneficiary can only stay for 90 days and must fly home before the 90 days is up.
 
Again, the letter of intent the couple need to send with their petition only needs to declare that they intend to marry within 90 days from the initial point of entry with the K1 Visa.
 
It's not a must to apply for a green card after marriage, guys. It's a must only if you want to adjust beneficiary status. 
 
I'm sorry, @Linda12345, that your fiancèe's tourist visa was denied. You should know he also has the choice to reapply for the tourist visa, though he has to make sure he has a lot more proofs that he has ties to his home-country and will definitely return there.
 
K1 is an option, but I truly believe the wait time is not worth it. And only for a one-time entry. Ask your fiancé to try again.