dazed'nconfused

This is the case of all people.   It's the case between me and the girl I sit next to!   I'm a touch typist with a decent WPM and confident using computers, whereas she's 25 years older than me, is a 2 finger typist and despite working here for years, still needs help doing anything more than the absolute basics. 

I've obviously never worked for USCIS or any US Government department, but I have worked in a "case worker" type of environment for a Government owned company (but not direct government) so I'll put my 2c in for this conversation.
 
We were "case managers" - so we had cases assigned to us (a minimum of 3 cases per day during normal periods, when it was super busy it could be up to 5). We had to work on those cases. Plus we had to answer phone calls as they came in. And we had to attend meetings, training sessions, take our federally mandated breaks AND in a lot of cases cover for the cases of our co-workers (ie: if someone was taking a week off, or was sick, or out on maternity leave etc - those cases had to go somewhere). 
 
So say I've already got 30 cases in my pile.  Out of those 30 cases, say there's 10 which are "active" (as in, that I can physically work on, the other 20 may have been waiting on another department, manager approval for something, more information from the people who raised the case or even direction from an escalated pathway - same as if someone called their congressman about a delay in their case). 

Great. 13 cases in a day, that's doable! (The original 10 plus the 3 new ones)   7.5 hours in a day (really 8 hours, but taking away lunch) means I should be able to give a decent 35 minutes to each case.  

Oh but wait, I've taken 5 x 10 minute phone calls from people whose cases I have nothing to do with and I can't give a solid answer about.   So that means I've actually got 30 minutes per case. 

And today is the first day of Monica's 2 weeks vacation, which means that her 30 cases just got reassigned out to the team.   So now I've got 3 new cases from her that I will need to review so that I can know where they should fit into my work flow for the next 2 weeks. Now I'm down to 25 minutes per case. 
 
Today is also the day that we're scheduled for that 60 minute training session on the new system/process/payment schedule/form change/whatever.  Down to 20 minutes per case. 
 
Bear in mind this is an average day as a case manager, and that many of the cases would take vastly longer than 20 minutes to review - the paper-trail that we had to fill out was enormous - you'd need to tag yourself as working on it, then tag the start time, read what was needed, review paperwork to ensure it was filled out properly, make sure the right form was used, make sure the right person signed the right thing, check against all the records that we had access to (generally other government departmental systems, many of which were slow to load, slower to respond and routinely kicked us out while we were in the middle of something, meaning we'd have to start again).  I might only get to work on 5 of those 16 cases. 
 
So while it's frustrating (and believe me, as someone who hasn't yet filed, seeing the wait times get longer and longer, I'm starting to feel very anxious about the whole thing) - I can absolutely understand how it happens.   I don't condone it, but there's no easy fix.    What can they do? Stop taking applications until the backlog is fixed? That will only create a huge backlog when they flood in after applications are accepted again.  Hire more staff? Ok, fine, but fees will go up exponentially AND there'll still be a huge backlog while those staff are trained and embedded (plus they will be very slow to start with AND will be slowing their co-workers down while interrupting them asking for help).  Cross-skilling staff to adjudicate other cases will do the same - take forever and slow everything down (plus there are delays for EVERYTHING, not just K-1/CR-1).

Hopefully at 200+ days y'll are getting closer and will soon get your NOA2. 

intent is established at entry.  AOS cannot be denied on intent alone.  The 30/60/90 method doesnt mean anything. 

This is the case of all people.   It's the case between me and the girl I sit next to!   I'm a touch typist with a decent WPM and confident using computers, whereas she's 25 years older than me, is a 2 finger typist and despite working here for years, still needs help doing anything more than the absolute basics. 

I've obviously never worked for USCIS or any US Government department, but I have worked in a "case worker" type of environment for a Government owned company (but not direct government) so I'll put my 2c in for this conversation.
 
We were "case managers" - so we had cases assigned to us (a minimum of 3 cases per day during normal periods, when it was super busy it could be up to 5). We had to work on those cases. Plus we had to answer phone calls as they came in. And we had to attend meetings, training sessions, take our federally mandated breaks AND in a lot of cases cover for the cases of our co-workers (ie: if someone was taking a week off, or was sick, or out on maternity leave etc - those cases had to go somewhere). 
 
So say I've already got 30 cases in my pile.  Out of those 30 cases, say there's 10 which are "active" (as in, that I can physically work on, the other 20 may have been waiting on another department, manager approval for something, more information from the people who raised the case or even direction from an escalated pathway - same as if someone called their congressman about a delay in their case). 

Great. 13 cases in a day, that's doable! (The original 10 plus the 3 new ones)   7.5 hours in a day (really 8 hours, but taking away lunch) means I should be able to give a decent 35 minutes to each case.  

Oh but wait, I've taken 5 x 10 minute phone calls from people whose cases I have nothing to do with and I can't give a solid answer about.   So that means I've actually got 30 minutes per case. 

And today is the first day of Monica's 2 weeks vacation, which means that her 30 cases just got reassigned out to the team.   So now I've got 3 new cases from her that I will need to review so that I can know where they should fit into my work flow for the next 2 weeks. Now I'm down to 25 minutes per case. 
 
Today is also the day that we're scheduled for that 60 minute training session on the new system/process/payment schedule/form change/whatever.  Down to 20 minutes per case. 
 
Bear in mind this is an average day as a case manager, and that many of the cases would take vastly longer than 20 minutes to review - the paper-trail that we had to fill out was enormous - you'd need to tag yourself as working on it, then tag the start time, read what was needed, review paperwork to ensure it was filled out properly, make sure the right form was used, make sure the right person signed the right thing, check against all the records that we had access to (generally other government departmental systems, many of which were slow to load, slower to respond and routinely kicked us out while we were in the middle of something, meaning we'd have to start again).  I might only get to work on 5 of those 16 cases. 
 
So while it's frustrating (and believe me, as someone who hasn't yet filed, seeing the wait times get longer and longer, I'm starting to feel very anxious about the whole thing) - I can absolutely understand how it happens.   I don't condone it, but there's no easy fix.    What can they do? Stop taking applications until the backlog is fixed? That will only create a huge backlog when they flood in after applications are accepted again.  Hire more staff? Ok, fine, but fees will go up exponentially AND there'll still be a huge backlog while those staff are trained and embedded (plus they will be very slow to start with AND will be slowing their co-workers down while interrupting them asking for help).  Cross-skilling staff to adjudicate other cases will do the same - take forever and slow everything down (plus there are delays for EVERYTHING, not just K-1/CR-1).

Hopefully at 200+ days y'll are getting closer and will soon get your NOA2. 

This is the case of all people.   It's the case between me and the girl I sit next to!   I'm a touch typist with a decent WPM and confident using computers, whereas she's 25 years older than me, is a 2 finger typist and despite working here for years, still needs help doing anything more than the absolute basics. 

I've obviously never worked for USCIS or any US Government department, but I have worked in a "case worker" type of environment for a Government owned company (but not direct government) so I'll put my 2c in for this conversation.
 
We were "case managers" - so we had cases assigned to us (a minimum of 3 cases per day during normal periods, when it was super busy it could be up to 5). We had to work on those cases. Plus we had to answer phone calls as they came in. And we had to attend meetings, training sessions, take our federally mandated breaks AND in a lot of cases cover for the cases of our co-workers (ie: if someone was taking a week off, or was sick, or out on maternity leave etc - those cases had to go somewhere). 
 
So say I've already got 30 cases in my pile.  Out of those 30 cases, say there's 10 which are "active" (as in, that I can physically work on, the other 20 may have been waiting on another department, manager approval for something, more information from the people who raised the case or even direction from an escalated pathway - same as if someone called their congressman about a delay in their case). 

Great. 13 cases in a day, that's doable! (The original 10 plus the 3 new ones)   7.5 hours in a day (really 8 hours, but taking away lunch) means I should be able to give a decent 35 minutes to each case.  

Oh but wait, I've taken 5 x 10 minute phone calls from people whose cases I have nothing to do with and I can't give a solid answer about.   So that means I've actually got 30 minutes per case. 

And today is the first day of Monica's 2 weeks vacation, which means that her 30 cases just got reassigned out to the team.   So now I've got 3 new cases from her that I will need to review so that I can know where they should fit into my work flow for the next 2 weeks. Now I'm down to 25 minutes per case. 
 
Today is also the day that we're scheduled for that 60 minute training session on the new system/process/payment schedule/form change/whatever.  Down to 20 minutes per case. 
 
Bear in mind this is an average day as a case manager, and that many of the cases would take vastly longer than 20 minutes to review - the paper-trail that we had to fill out was enormous - you'd need to tag yourself as working on it, then tag the start time, read what was needed, review paperwork to ensure it was filled out properly, make sure the right form was used, make sure the right person signed the right thing, check against all the records that we had access to (generally other government departmental systems, many of which were slow to load, slower to respond and routinely kicked us out while we were in the middle of something, meaning we'd have to start again).  I might only get to work on 5 of those 16 cases. 
 
So while it's frustrating (and believe me, as someone who hasn't yet filed, seeing the wait times get longer and longer, I'm starting to feel very anxious about the whole thing) - I can absolutely understand how it happens.   I don't condone it, but there's no easy fix.    What can they do? Stop taking applications until the backlog is fixed? That will only create a huge backlog when they flood in after applications are accepted again.  Hire more staff? Ok, fine, but fees will go up exponentially AND there'll still be a huge backlog while those staff are trained and embedded (plus they will be very slow to start with AND will be slowing their co-workers down while interrupting them asking for help).  Cross-skilling staff to adjudicate other cases will do the same - take forever and slow everything down (plus there are delays for EVERYTHING, not just K-1/CR-1).

Hopefully at 200+ days y'll are getting closer and will soon get your NOA2. 

The link only mentions delay of travel. As the spousal visa takes longer than a year she would have had her baby long after she is due to travel. So unless the baby has something wrong with it that only someone in America can fix, I highly doubt you can get expedited. If people could get expedited for a complication free pregnancy, lots of couples would get pregnant. 

Pregnancies means nothing to the Immigration. If you got pregnant hopping it will expedite the process then it's your bad.
 
There is NO expedite based on the pregnancy or the baby. You have to wait 12 to 14 months just like everyone else.

Immigrating to the US is a privilege, not a right.  Providing evidence of a bona fide relationship is a very small price to pay for this privilege.  You aren't even in the US yet, but you are already complaining. If this really concerns you this much, maybe you should re-evaluate your priorities in life.  ....smh.

In addition to everything that's been said here already, I'd like to point out that immigrating to Europe/other Western countries isn't exactly a breeze, either. Even getting a tourist visa for the EU requires giving up a lot of privacy. A friend recently immigrated to the UK and she and her husband provided the immigration authorities with all their chat histories and correspondence etc - very similar to what you have to do here.

By all means...Please stay in Italy, we have enough negativity in this country. Why do people think immigration is a RIGHT? It's not. More important, why do people think it's bad to make sure you have a valid relationship when filing as such to immigrate.  Hopefully your fiancé will make the sacrifice and move with you.
 
FYI. Does not rain that much in OR. If he tells you that, maybe he really does not want you here?
 
Good luck with what ever choice you and your love make..

Sorry this is not a Disney movie and love doesn't conquer it all. Law is law and love has nothing to do with the immigration rules. If not for those rules, you'll have scam marriages happening all the time. 
 
Also no one stops you from getting married in the US. You have all the freedom! You can go to Vegas and be married in 5 minutes. Most of the countries doesn't allow you to do that this fast. 
 
Plus no one forces you to move to the US. In the end it's your own choice and sooner you accept how things in US  works the better for you. 
 
Ps. Don't worry. Italian restaurants can be found on every corner. 

OP: Until you discuss your feelings with your fiancé, I don't think you should honestly proceed. If YOU are not ready to leave your country behind, and he is unwilling to learn or make certain sacrifices for you, then this will only be miserable for you. When it comes to immigration your entire lives are laid bare for the government to see, and we've all had to make sacrifices to make our lives together. If you find yourself contemplating that you will be filled with regret.. think about how the future will be more, and if you're really ready for it.
 
America is a land of freedom, in that we have many personal freedoms and liberties that other countries do not. We also have many opportunities for those that are willing. But that does not mean everything is free, nor should anyone expect that. We are a country, unique as any other. How do you expect that a person feels American? Ask yourself what does it mean to feel American? America is filled with people... people that are immigrants, a melting pot of children and grandchildren and great grand children of immigrants. We each have our own cultures and differences, and not necessarily united under a notion of a specific identity. You should not expect to set foot here and suddenly 'feel American'... because there is really no such thing as that. You may likely experience culture shock for a very long time, you may adjust or never adjust. You may feel floundering for a while, and then slowly normalize. America will never be exactly like your home. Your home will always be your home and special to you.

I`m sorry I have read every single suggestion here......This isnt about whether or not USA is/not a freedom country....it almost looks like you are victimizing yourself.
 
There are options out there...you and your husband as a adult couple can seat down and talk whether or not it is beneficial for you guys move to US, or get married in Italy. Whether or not he thinks you cant support or provide finally to you both has nothing to do with K1 or CR1 process, this is a personal issue. 
 
Lets just get down to earth and understand what are your options within your relationship and go from there, USCIS will not change and there are PLENTY of reasons why they require what they require for visa and what not. 
 

It does sound like you might be much happier staying in Italy, have you discussed this with your Fiance?

I routinely travel with that much cash up front.  I'm from Australia and the fees that we pay to access money overseas is incredible - normally at least $3 as a base then a percentage of the total as a fee PLUS then at the end of the month they tally up "foreign currency" fees and hit you with those, too - so I'll get a bunch of cash out and convert it to US dollars and take it with me.   If I don't use it all, then I keep it in a drawer for my next visit. 

Plenty of people I know do the exact same thing. It's not always nefarious, but it may be people trying to keep more of their money in their own pocket. 
 

I routinely travel with that much cash up front.  I'm from Australia and the fees that we pay to access money overseas is incredible - normally at least $3 as a base then a percentage of the total as a fee PLUS then at the end of the month they tally up "foreign currency" fees and hit you with those, too - so I'll get a bunch of cash out and convert it to US dollars and take it with me.   If I don't use it all, then I keep it in a drawer for my next visit. 

Plenty of people I know do the exact same thing. It's not always nefarious, but it may be people trying to keep more of their money in their own pocket. 
 

Not all attorneys are created equal

It is no more a fraud than a marriage is. I have always thought that marriage is one of those things cooked up by humans to obtain benefits in some way or another anyway!  

Yea. 
Yes. 
Your second wife isn't your wife btw. Your second marriage isn't valid since you got married while not being divorced to lady nr.1. 
 
The petition for your second "wife" will be denied since your marriage is not valid. 
 
Your naturalization petition will also be denied.