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I assume there have been "little lies" on OP's application, it's really the only reason I can think of. 
@pumpernickle There is absolutely no way you can hide your DOB to an employer, as certain employment forms require it. Period.
 

I assume there have been "little lies" on OP's application, it's really the only reason I can think of. 
@pumpernickle There is absolutely no way you can hide your DOB to an employer, as certain employment forms require it. Period.
 

I assume there have been "little lies" on OP's application, it's really the only reason I can think of. 
@pumpernickle There is absolutely no way you can hide your DOB to an employer, as certain employment forms require it. Period.
 

Unsure of how one would call Emergency numbers (911) from abroad, but you can definitely call any police station in Charlotte and tell them the situation + address. Hope it's nothing too serious. Best of luck! 

This thread has been running for several hours now. So I assume the police have now been called and she is in a shelter or safe house of some sorts. 
 
She need not not be afraid of the police. They take such claims of abuse very seriously in this country and will not hesitate to arrest someone they believe has harmed this woman either physically or emotionally. Is she being fed? Is she able to leave the property? If she's using an iPhone then track it through an apple device or on the apple website. 
 
I understand she wanted to hear the comforting voice and loving words of her husband but they will not save her life if this man does start to physically harm her. The police and emergency responders will. If she's too scared to call the police, Google the number for a local domestic violence hotline for her to call. 
 
Many years ago in Europe I called the police when I heard my neighbor beating his wife. They were there in minutes and she was in a shelter before the next hour was up. He was acting all tough with her but when 4 police officers showed up he suddenly became a sobbing wreck and was begging for forgiveness. He was very easy to arrest in that state. This man that your wife is with is probably all talk with her but no action. But it's not a risk she wants to take. 

@prolg312 call the police in charlotte and sent them to that address. Secondly, my personal opinion, call the US embassy in your country and explain them the whole, and give second thoughts to your marriage. She's able to contact you but afraid to contact the police ? Nope, HUGE NOPE ....

@prolg312 call the police in charlotte and sent them to that address. Secondly, my personal opinion, call the US embassy in your country and explain them the whole, and give second thoughts to your marriage. She's able to contact you but afraid to contact the police ? Nope, HUGE NOPE ....

@prolg312 call the police in charlotte and sent them to that address. Secondly, my personal opinion, call the US embassy in your country and explain them the whole, and give second thoughts to your marriage. She's able to contact you but afraid to contact the police ? Nope, HUGE NOPE ....

@prolg312 call the police in charlotte and sent them to that address. Secondly, my personal opinion, call the US embassy in your country and explain them the whole, and give second thoughts to your marriage. She's able to contact you but afraid to contact the police ? Nope, HUGE NOPE ....

Don't take it as a personal offence, but I think there's something fishy. While I can believe one tends to call the spouse/person of trust first, there's still that 911 at hand, if she could reach you in Pakistan, she could as well reach the local police....  any other opinions?
 
Later Edit: for OP:
http://charlottenc.gov/CMPD/Pages/default.aspx
Outside of Mecklenburg County, Priority Communications Line:  704-336-3237

I tipped on cold feet backed up by friends/family ..... but it could actually be an issue too, just have the cops knock at that door, then you (OP ) know more

I'm in the Charlotte general area. Call the police, have them do a welfare check. Honestly, no random person form VJ is going to show up at this person's address. And in this area of the country, abuse against a female is serious, the state steps in and presses charges plus NC is a must arrest state concerning abuse. So if you call, they are going to arrest someone if she says they are actually abusing her.
 
My two cent though, if she can call you all the way in Pakistan but she can't call the cops, there is a problem. They probably aren't really abusing her, just trash talking you and her and maybe you guys religion and such as well. 
 
If she has gotten herself into free a situation that isn't safe then the police will direct her to a women's shelter....there are PLENTY in the Charlotte metro area.

That was my second thought (slow processing with the heat ) , if she could call/reach her husband (IR1/CR1) in Pakistan, why didn't she just call 911.... 

If his visa is still valid through November, which marks your two years anniversary, I personally suggest he has to wait before he travels. If he travels after the 2nd anniversary he is automatically entitled to the 10 years greencard, which will save you a huge process of ROC, time an money spent. i know its around 5 months wait, but it's easier that way. Your call. 

He is 22 now, thus an adult, isn't naturalization his own process now? Or did I misunderstand and you only help him with the paperwork? 
 
As you have said ONLY 3 years, pretty sure you can still remember 

I'm not sure why she need to lie to the Consulate officer during tourist visa interview. Because she can just tell the truth. She can simply say that she want to go there to make a surprise for you and visit you. It is not like the CO will call you and inform you about that. What I learned from this site, you need always to tell them the truth. Never lie.

Hey guys so I landed in MSY (New Orleans ) and it goes like this . Super friendly officer see I m. Young so talk like hi how are you doing my man ? What s the purpose of the trip ? I said on vacation to see my gf then he didn't even ask if I would come back he was just so friendly like he saw a teddy bear on the backpack was like gotta treat her well .moral of the story don't get spooked by visa journey bad story  than you all 

OP: What your husband has done is wrong if not borderline abusively insulting. How does he expect his wife, or himself for that matter to obtain healthcare? He has a responsibility to support you. Does he understand that without having health insurance he will be required to pay a penalty in taxes for the both of you? Without having insurance with his wife covered he is losing an important piece of co-mingling to use at a later date. The reasons he has provided you for not continuing the insurance are truly strange. Your options are extremely limited here: you can pay for insurance yourself out of pocket, or hopefully if you start working obtain through your work.
I don't mean to sound harsh here, but there is no unfortunately. You have rights and a choice not to be married to this man. If he won't communicate, does not care about you or your safety, and is willing to blow all his funds on frivolity instead of taking personal responsibility for his part in the marriage.... well... this does not sound like a sustainable marriage in the long term.

This is how we approached it. I'm not saying you have to or you can see it this way but I'm just giving you food for thought. 
 
Once we had decided to be together forever, that was it for us. The wedding was just something that the government wanted us to do for visa purposes. We are heathens and once we had made our blood oath (again, not suggesting everyone will do this) we were joined. Being apart then was no easier or harder than being apart after we were legally married. Our feelings didn't change for each other after we had our legal wedding. Our oath ceremony is what we celebrate as our anniversary, not the date of our wedding. This is where we became a couple for life. Marriage ceremonies are just a legal formality. You don't suddenly feel more in love the day after you marry then you did the day before you married (and if you do, you're probably just in love with the idea of being married). 
 
I understand it's unconventional to not live with your spouse but nothing about us is conventional anyway. No one here us in a conventional path. And there are many people who go through involuntary separations. Military couples, for example. My father worked as a lorry driver in continental Europe when I was s child. He was gone three weeks, home for one, gone three weeks, rinse and repeat. It can be done. And it's only temporary. You and I (and some others here) have the luxury of being from a VWP country and can visit relatively easily. With some trickery and smart shopping I was able to visit every 6 or 8 weeks. The lowest I paid for an airfare from the U.K. to the west coast was £122.50 return. The most I paid was £350. We had the added difficulty that my husband is banned for life from the U.K. because he has a criminal record so I had to do all the traveling. You two can probably share that load! 
 
When we started the process and we saw that it would take about a year it seemed like forever. But we broke it down into milestones and always kept busy. My husband even enrolled in a culinary class! I counted the time in pay days ("10 more pay days to go", etc). It was painful to be apart. Everyone here knows that. If someone had told me years ago that I would spend the first two years of married life living 5000 miles from
my husband I would never have believed them. But I did it. And now I've been here just over 4 months and I can barely remember that time apart. It all vanished the minute I was approved at the London embassy after a 2-year process to be together. Some women say the same about childbirth - the second you see the baby you have no memory of the pain. I wouldn't know as I've never had a child. I look back now over old messages we sent each other in the depths of all this and how much we were suffering the pain of separation and it's like I'm reading someone else's words. None of that matters anymore. We are together now and will be for the rest of this life and however many more lives the Gods bless us with. 
 

Let's just put it this way...on the i485 page 4 question 9.
Why do you think they ask?

Honestly, I think you would simply waste $160 (B1/2 application fee). While filling her DS160 for visa, your fiancee will be asked whether someone has filed a petition on her behalf. She must answer yes, since you filed 129F already, and it will inevitabely lead to denial. From point of view CO, she showed her immigration intentions already, while to be eligible for B1/2 she needs to proove a lack of thereof. There is a conflict of interests. Her B1/2 will be denied 99,99%, but you can try.
 
Good luck!

^^that, with the OP coming back here afterwards and sharing the experience with us all 

Thumbs up advice 

If your children,  young as they are fear being left in her care, that is very telling.
 
You have had a great many troubles since the start. You may be in love, but more perhaps with the idea of who she could have been, and  what could have been. It isn't going to get any better, really.
 
Take heed of the good advice you have been given, get an order of protection, divorce this person, and run. Never expose your children to her again, and never ever yourself be anywhere near her unaccompanied.

I think a good test to make sure you are not being scammed is to suggest to the foreign fiancé that you want to move to their country to live with them. If the reaction is "great! Can't wait to be with you all the time! Let's research what visa you need" then there's a good chance it's genuine. If the reaction is "absolutely not! I am moving to America" then you know where the priorities lie.