ATX_Liz

Did you ever get an answer to your question? One thing my fiancé and I learned the hard way is to never book flights or quit jobs until you have your visa in your hand! 
My fiancé was approved in Lima on June 16, a Friday. On Monday, he put in his notice at work. After that, he received an email from the embassy telling him to come back for another interview. We were TERRIFIED. Once they told him he was approved, we thought we were good! We didn't know things could change! They told him they needed more proof that alfredo was never in the US illegally after finishing his masters at the university of North Carolina (he had a special extension that allowed him to stay and work in the US for a time after graduation--he had already sent in that proof, but somehow they missed it and were asking for it again!) 
Anyway, we sent in the proof, but were stuck in administrative processing for 2 weeks. We were so afraid that he would somehow end up being denied, or our case would be stuck in AP for months and months when he already quit his job! 
Thankfully, just last Friday, on his LAST day of work, we found out his visa was issued!  We are so relieved, but we learned our lesson to never make concrete plans until you have your visa in your hand--there's just always the possibility that things could change and you'd be out the cost of a plane ticket. Sorry for the looooong story just to answer a simple question! Lol 

Did you ever get an answer to your question? One thing my fiancé and I learned the hard way is to never book flights or quit jobs until you have your visa in your hand! 
My fiancé was approved in Lima on June 16, a Friday. On Monday, he put in his notice at work. After that, he received an email from the embassy telling him to come back for another interview. We were TERRIFIED. Once they told him he was approved, we thought we were good! We didn't know things could change! They told him they needed more proof that alfredo was never in the US illegally after finishing his masters at the university of North Carolina (he had a special extension that allowed him to stay and work in the US for a time after graduation--he had already sent in that proof, but somehow they missed it and were asking for it again!) 
Anyway, we sent in the proof, but were stuck in administrative processing for 2 weeks. We were so afraid that he would somehow end up being denied, or our case would be stuck in AP for months and months when he already quit his job! 
Thankfully, just last Friday, on his LAST day of work, we found out his visa was issued!  We are so relieved, but we learned our lesson to never make concrete plans until you have your visa in your hand--there's just always the possibility that things could change and you'd be out the cost of a plane ticket. Sorry for the looooong story just to answer a simple question! Lol 

I don't know his passport number, and never got any sort of consent to check his i94...it never even would have occurred to me. He seemed homesick in the two days he was here, but we still had good times. I thought it would get better, but he didn't give it any time. 
 
I asked for proof that he really went back, and he pretty quickly sent me the boarding pass for his flight from Lima to his hometown of Trujillo. He was at the Lima airport when I asked for proof. 
 
I truly don't understand why he did this, and especially so soon, but in the 2 days he was here, he did display an extremely controlling side I never knew existed . We didn't fight about it, but I noticed it and I know he did me a huge favor by leaving. The more I think about how critical and controlling he was while he was here, the more I know our marriage would have been miserable. 
 
What I hate the most is the way he left. Leaving me without saying goodbye, without even giving me a clue that he was even thinking about leaving....blocking me from everything and leaving me to come home to an empty apartment...it is really just SO cruel. I wouldn't do that to my worst enemy, much less someone I ever claimed to love. 
 
And still, I miss him like crazy and wish he was here. I have gone through EVERY moment of the 2 days he was here over and over again to see what I could have done differently and it has been absolute torture. Still, I know that there is NOTHING I could have done. We just weren't meant to be. God was looking out for me and saved me from a miserable life where I would have ended up losing who I am and resenting my husband because of it. 
 
I still love Alfredo and probably will for a long time. I'm going to see a counselor next Friday to begin working through all of this and begin to heal. 

I don't know his passport number, and never got any sort of consent to check his i94...it never even would have occurred to me. He seemed homesick in the two days he was here, but we still had good times. I thought it would get better, but he didn't give it any time. 
 
I asked for proof that he really went back, and he pretty quickly sent me the boarding pass for his flight from Lima to his hometown of Trujillo. He was at the Lima airport when I asked for proof. 
 
I truly don't understand why he did this, and especially so soon, but in the 2 days he was here, he did display an extremely controlling side I never knew existed . We didn't fight about it, but I noticed it and I know he did me a huge favor by leaving. The more I think about how critical and controlling he was while he was here, the more I know our marriage would have been miserable. 
 
What I hate the most is the way he left. Leaving me without saying goodbye, without even giving me a clue that he was even thinking about leaving....blocking me from everything and leaving me to come home to an empty apartment...it is really just SO cruel. I wouldn't do that to my worst enemy, much less someone I ever claimed to love. 
 
And still, I miss him like crazy and wish he was here. I have gone through EVERY moment of the 2 days he was here over and over again to see what I could have done differently and it has been absolute torture. Still, I know that there is NOTHING I could have done. We just weren't meant to be. God was looking out for me and saved me from a miserable life where I would have ended up losing who I am and resenting my husband because of it. 
 
I still love Alfredo and probably will for a long time. I'm going to see a counselor next Friday to begin working through all of this and begin to heal. 

Nope, it is the strangest thing. He lived in the US from the time he was 18 until he was 28 (when we met). He spent the last year and a half in Peru, but I didn't think he would have such a hard time getting back into American culture. 
He met a few members of my family last night and everyone was kind and loving and welcoming. We were going to fly to meet my parents tomorrow, but he had met them over FaceTime, and they liked him. 
Ive tried to ask him, but I don't think I will get much out of him. He hates any conversations that make him uncomfortable and avoids them at all costs. He's already blocked me on Facebook and WhatsApp. Thankfully he at least left email available.
My best guess is that he just got here and realized he wasn't in love anymore. Maybe he realized that sooner but thought it would get better once he got here. Under 48 hours in the US has GOT to be some sort of record for the shortest time in the US a k1 visa holder has ever stayed! 

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Thanks so much. I'm glad things all worked out with your wife, and I'm glad her family talked her into staying. I think that was part of the problem with Alfredo--I don't think his family ever fully supported his move here. So, instead of talking him out of leaving the US, I have a sneaking suspicion they did more to talk him into leaving the US. 

I don't know his passport number, and never got any sort of consent to check his i94...it never even would have occurred to me. He seemed homesick in the two days he was here, but we still had good times. I thought it would get better, but he didn't give it any time. 
 
I asked for proof that he really went back, and he pretty quickly sent me the boarding pass for his flight from Lima to his hometown of Trujillo. He was at the Lima airport when I asked for proof. 
 
I truly don't understand why he did this, and especially so soon, but in the 2 days he was here, he did display an extremely controlling side I never knew existed . We didn't fight about it, but I noticed it and I know he did me a huge favor by leaving. The more I think about how critical and controlling he was while he was here, the more I know our marriage would have been miserable. 
 
What I hate the most is the way he left. Leaving me without saying goodbye, without even giving me a clue that he was even thinking about leaving....blocking me from everything and leaving me to come home to an empty apartment...it is really just SO cruel. I wouldn't do that to my worst enemy, much less someone I ever claimed to love. 
 
And still, I miss him like crazy and wish he was here. I have gone through EVERY moment of the 2 days he was here over and over again to see what I could have done differently and it has been absolute torture. Still, I know that there is NOTHING I could have done. We just weren't meant to be. God was looking out for me and saved me from a miserable life where I would have ended up losing who I am and resenting my husband because of it. 
 
I still love Alfredo and probably will for a long time. I'm going to see a counselor next Friday to begin working through all of this and begin to heal. 

I don't know his passport number, and never got any sort of consent to check his i94...it never even would have occurred to me. He seemed homesick in the two days he was here, but we still had good times. I thought it would get better, but he didn't give it any time. 
 
I asked for proof that he really went back, and he pretty quickly sent me the boarding pass for his flight from Lima to his hometown of Trujillo. He was at the Lima airport when I asked for proof. 
 
I truly don't understand why he did this, and especially so soon, but in the 2 days he was here, he did display an extremely controlling side I never knew existed . We didn't fight about it, but I noticed it and I know he did me a huge favor by leaving. The more I think about how critical and controlling he was while he was here, the more I know our marriage would have been miserable. 
 
What I hate the most is the way he left. Leaving me without saying goodbye, without even giving me a clue that he was even thinking about leaving....blocking me from everything and leaving me to come home to an empty apartment...it is really just SO cruel. I wouldn't do that to my worst enemy, much less someone I ever claimed to love. 
 
And still, I miss him like crazy and wish he was here. I have gone through EVERY moment of the 2 days he was here over and over again to see what I could have done differently and it has been absolute torture. Still, I know that there is NOTHING I could have done. We just weren't meant to be. God was looking out for me and saved me from a miserable life where I would have ended up losing who I am and resenting my husband because of it. 
 
I still love Alfredo and probably will for a long time. I'm going to see a counselor next Friday to begin working through all of this and begin to heal. 

I don't know his passport number, and never got any sort of consent to check his i94...it never even would have occurred to me. He seemed homesick in the two days he was here, but we still had good times. I thought it would get better, but he didn't give it any time. 
 
I asked for proof that he really went back, and he pretty quickly sent me the boarding pass for his flight from Lima to his hometown of Trujillo. He was at the Lima airport when I asked for proof. 
 
I truly don't understand why he did this, and especially so soon, but in the 2 days he was here, he did display an extremely controlling side I never knew existed . We didn't fight about it, but I noticed it and I know he did me a huge favor by leaving. The more I think about how critical and controlling he was while he was here, the more I know our marriage would have been miserable. 
 
What I hate the most is the way he left. Leaving me without saying goodbye, without even giving me a clue that he was even thinking about leaving....blocking me from everything and leaving me to come home to an empty apartment...it is really just SO cruel. I wouldn't do that to my worst enemy, much less someone I ever claimed to love. 
 
And still, I miss him like crazy and wish he was here. I have gone through EVERY moment of the 2 days he was here over and over again to see what I could have done differently and it has been absolute torture. Still, I know that there is NOTHING I could have done. We just weren't meant to be. God was looking out for me and saved me from a miserable life where I would have ended up losing who I am and resenting my husband because of it. 
 
I still love Alfredo and probably will for a long time. I'm going to see a counselor next Friday to begin working through all of this and begin to heal. 

In South America, family = VERY important.

Maybe he hasnt went back, but more than likely he has... He has been here for years legally why would he all of a sudden want to be illegal. I definetly think he got cold feet, or has another relationship back home. I hope the latter isnt the case. What concerned me is that he started blocking her from having contact him with him. That, combined with two days seems very very odd. However, he did try to make good by not stiffing her financially and at this point if he is still here, it won't affect her. I glad she will be anle to pick up the pieces and move on. She seems really strong, wishing her all the best.  

He must of already been getting cold feet way before his 2 day stint. Maybe he felt pressured to go through with the process and did not want to hurt you, but when he got there it was just too much for him and he left. I agree with others, it does not sound like he was with you to commit fraud, he sounds human and scared (but went about it all in the wrong way). I hope that you guys can maybe work through this, and if not, I wish you all the best. It must of been an awful shock. 

I just wanted to say that I understand that sickening feeling.  The same thing happened to me with an ex (came home, opened the door, all of his belongings were gone and left a one-sentence letter, to this day never received an explanation as to why).  He wasn't a fiance, just a boyfriend I'd lived with a few years...but I do understand the feeling.  It is a shock to your system, you are left literally shaking, and the grief of how it ended will be with you for a while.  You will need time to get through it, and you have a strong support system in your family and friends which is amazing as they will help you get through it.  I promise you, you WILL get through it.
 
It won't feel this way right now, and it won't feel this way in the short-term...but...
 
Later on, you may realize (as I did) that he ended up doing you a huge favor.

My Granny used to say 'There is nowt so strange as folk' - loses a bit in translation.

Liz,
 
One of my grandmothers once told me this:
Everything happens for a reason.
 
The other told me:
This too shall pass.
 
As other contributors have said above, he's saved you a lot of time.

I'm so very sorry that happened. Im at a total lost for words. My only concern is this was after less than 48 hours..... Totally weird. However best to know now. At least he isn't trying to leave you on the hook for a financial loss. I'm glad to hear that he was able to help you out on the apartment lease. It really doesn't sound like he was using you or any sort of fraud. It definitely sounds weird, but not fraud. It possibly could be cold feet, a change of heart..... Whatever it is, hopefully he can eventually tell you. That really helps for closure.  It's definitely better to happen now rather than later. Thank God for the support of family and friends, it will be crucial during a time like this. Be strong and best wishes !!! You will be ok😊 Positive Vibes 

I'm so sorry to hear this. I can only imagine how difficult that was for you at the end of this gruelling process. 
 
Though I've not been though this exact situation - I've been through similar situations, which have led me to where I am now. I know this sucks right now and it doesn't make sense but it seems to be for the best. Unfortunate way to find out but it would be much worse if you had gotten married or had children involved. 
 
The 90 days of the K1 visa is really a practice run for a life together and it can be extremely tough on some people. He should of had the decency to discuss his feelings face-to-face over running out on you. You deserve better and you will find someone to give you that.
 
Stay strong and surround yourself with friends and family, each day will get easier for you.
 

I am so sorry for what you are going through. My heart hurts for you. 
 
Re: understanding that situation, I can tell you that my husband did something very similar before we got married (I came here on a K-1). He basically had a panic attack and totally freaked out, completely out of the blue (at least it was to me) and I was blindsided, especially since I was the one moving and leaving everything to be with him in his country. He even went so far as to write my bridesmaids private messages and tell them he was leaving me and didn't know how to cope and so on ( I don't know what purpose he thought it would serve). It's been several years since then and they've all forgiven him, but needless to say my friends weren't too thrilled with him at the time. We celebrate our 5th anniversary and 3rd wedding anniversary in a few months so it worked out fine, and he admits now that he panicked and still doesn't really know why. I think there was just so much happening and so much stress with immigration, long-distance engagement, me moving, a wedding, living together, etc. All of us on here can relate to that, for sure.
 
I don't know what your fiancé's motives were or what caused him to change his mind. But I do know this process is not for the faint of heart. Maybe he just felt claustrophobic and needed to go back to his comfort zone for a bit to calm down, and maybe you'll hear from him later. But if not, it is much better for you that you find out now, rather than later when you're married and you're responsible for him financially (in addition to everything else) for the duration of his immigration process with USCIS. But I know none of that logic helps a broken heart. I'm glad you have a good support system around you.

And the term "override homesickness" ..as if we are all robots that can switch things off and on .. The world is not black or white, it's not an all or nothing situation... I won't have less love for my spouse cause I'll be homesick... that's absurd!

Wow.. I haven't read the start of this, but I find this statement really cold and void of all empathy...
I have thought many many many times over about this... I'm moving to be with the man I love and if we could, we would have him move here, to Sweden.. But it's not an option...
I do however expect him to have understanding when I will feel homesick...
Just because you have made a choice doesn't mean that it's always easy, and the US spouse needs to be suportive of that situation...
I can only imagine how lonely I will feel having left my whole support system at home...not being able to work..being unfamiliar with how things work... etc etc
So, of course waves of homesickness will most likely hit me... I know I have a F who understands this tho... thank goodness for this...

Completely disagree - this is a huge assumtion to make! I have been here four years and i am still incredibly homesick. Im always comparing apples to oranges and still cry for my family and friends. Living in the same town where ALL my family and friends live for 34 years then leaving it all behind was incredibly difficult. For someone with a completely different cultural upbringing it must be 100% harder. To say that he is not the one is jumping the gun to say the least.
Good for you on not feeling homesick. My home town, my friends, my family and my nieces and nephew mean the world to me. Homesickness seems like an obvious emotion to me when you come from a close loving family.
Its up to OP to decide whether the homesickness she feels is enough to leave America and go back home. No-one is in a position to judge if her partner "is the one".

Very few people have actually said something to my face about my relationship, but sometimes I can tell that they have negative opinions. People have asked me if I'm sure that I want to marry a Muslim/Arab, will he make me convert to his religion, will he treat me fairly...sometimes I feel like they are not purposely trying to be rude, but just genuinely curious. 
 
I'm rather fortunate to have a supportive family and friends, and I don't really care about the opinions of other random people anyway. 
Oddly enough, I have a set of extremely conservative, anti-immigration, anti-muslim grandparents who are thrilled that my muslim fiance will be arriving soon, excited about the wedding planning, want to go with me to the airport to pick him up ect. It probably helps that I am the favorite grandchild, but its a bit strange to see my grandma tell me how excited she is to meet him and attend the wedding and 5 minutes later I see 'deport all muslims' on her Facebook page lol

This is my biggest issue with that show 90 Day Fiance.  They frame the show that you get 90 days to decide if you want to get married.  When you apply for a K-1 visa, you ARE going to get married, you have 90 days to make arrangements.

The K1 visa application is very lengthy and laborious so make sure you're 100% sure you've chosen the right one. I've married my fiance less than 24 hours upon my arrival in US. He already prepared everything before i even came here. We only spend time together twice (6 & 11 days) before we realized that the time away from each other is agonizing so we applied for K1 visa. Now we're happily married for almost 5 months. Sure every relationship has its ups and down but its part of the deal. Don't waste your time and money in applying for K1 visa if you're not sure with your feelings. It's unfair to the fiance/fiancee to leave their job, family and friends in their home country and end up jilted.