Lovemycroatianman

15 hours ago, janet3 said:

Thinking of you....

How are you? 

 

Still confused...hes still here...he freaked out the last day of the visa which was may 13th...called a mobile pastor to marry us then called him back saying I changed my mind while having a panic attack.   I did read that all is not lost...we can do a spousal app with aos...but thats over $400 extra...I told him hed have to have his parents pay it Cause that was his fault...so right now hes still making a decision but he doesnt have long...I told him its not fair to do this to me...its been emotionally exhausting and I've been very sick since that weekend....I just cant take anymore....but he obviously doesn't want to go home.idk😑 I told him I rather date other men if he doesn't know what he wants...Ive given 2.5 years and thousands of dollars....I am over it.

16 hours ago, janet3 said:

I am so very sorry. Did you get married and file for AOS? Or is he still here on his k1?

No hes still here just on the visa

..but funny thing ...he still hasn't gotten a ticket back...like 7 days left...idk what he's doing...

On 4/29/2018 at 7:37 PM, janet3 said:

Still here...alive and kickin.....filed for AOS in January (he's getting a little bored.....Apparently, I drive like a maniac and he misses driving so much he wants to use the mower to mow the yard (he calls the mower "my porche")

And everyone else? How y'all doin?

Horrible...he played me for a fool...worse of all I saw the signs...hes taken me on a roller coaster of ...I love you...I want to stay but cant this or that . ..then pull me in with affection and sex ...just to say hes leaving.....but he hasnt even got a ticket from his parents yet and his visa expires may 12....meanwhile hes sleepin in my bed....this is the worse experience ive ever had....my heart is shattered to little bits

Sorry I didnt post guys...its been a whirlwind of emotions for both of us and a lot of adjusting....hes here and we are getting used to this IDEA that is now real...we will see what happens...the 90 days is up May 12...so we have to make a decision by end of April....were trying to just enjoy each other and go with the flow.

Its so soon now...basically tomorrow at 10pm ...7am Monday his time, his plane departs...I can't believe it's finally here and soon he will be too! Just so much emotions....

12 hours ago, swalker said:

I just love this...and in time for Valentine’s Day, too! Congrats to you both and have fun planning the wedding!!!

Thank you very much, I still have to "see" if he can adjust to being here...so there's that but either way. Can someone tell me , when you apply for the aos, are the fees for the aed and travel card included in the $1140 ? According to the info here it is....can someone verify whos done it...I just want to plan ahead. Thanks

9 minutes ago, janet3 said:

Congratulations!

Thank u so much! I felt this day would never come.....I feel I've aged 10 years during this process...sleepless nights, arguments and stress over timing and paperwork....but I know once I am in his arms....all will dissipate. Only a few more days now. I can't wait....

One of my friends pointed out that he probably lied cause he wanted to do it in his own time cause I really have no proof and he seems completely unphased by the whole thing...so idk. So annoying. I am keeping him at arms length because hes ridiculous and I already told him he wont get much from me at all, especially anything lovey dovey. So for now...I go on and act like I dont give a bleep. Hopefully they delete the account soon. But thanks guys 

18 minutes ago, janet3 said:

You are an amazing woman. You deserve better than this.

 

And you are right...he's an effing idiot to miss out on the opportunity to be with you. His loss.

Thank you....I realize that I have worth even though he chooses not to see it ......I have many men, banging on my door and many ive passed up for him...but not anymore. 

3 minutes ago, janet3 said:

I am sorry to hear that. I wish you the very best in the future. You are a strong, willful, intelligent, committed, caring, good person with a lot of love to give. You deserve the very best in life. 

Thank you janet....seems the only way this could remotely be fixed is if he just waited to test...but i dont even trust him anymore....what a flipping idiot he is.

Goodbye everyone...I have requested this account be deleted. It seems this is all damned to hell so...I accept it. Thank you for everything and congrats to everyone who successfully made it.

Belieeeve me Janet ...I have told him that....I even told him to go date a month ago....I told him just yesterday before he agreed on the date..like ok...dont come..lets just pick a last day and say goodbye and go our own way....I have been trying to break it off for so long....I guess it'll just have to be me....saying goodbye...idk if this can be fixed...he says hes trying to fix it...cause he like never smokes but even when i told him a month ago not to anymore ...( he has about 6 times since ive known him) he went and did this.... so idk what to do or say anymore...cause I feel this is indicative of his mindstate...he says its just a lack of judgement or a screw up....i told him my trust is completely broken....idk what to do now....im so numb

As my world turns....this guy went and got drnk and smoked marijuana right before he was suppose to have the medical on Thursday.....I am obviously an idiot to think he wants to come....

17 hours ago, janet3 said:

I am thinking December 30

 

That's wonderful! I am sure the next few weeks will fly by. I am so very happy for you! 

So we broke up...like all the sudden today ....he changes his mind about the ticket and says there was no agreement

On 11/2/2017 at 7:28 PM, janet3 said:

You have a lot going on....with your children and the k1....I wish the very best for you and your family and your fiance. 

Thank you...we finally came to an agreement, I was waiting for him to open a new store with his mom so he could pay for his part of the visa...but with everything going so fast and him agreeing to come the end of dec...dec 28th hopefully....I decided I will just pay for everything and get the one day medical and the interview can be scheduled asap ...its Croatia they are not busy...he can get an interview in a matter of days... so thats our plan get medical this week..interview next then I will immediately purchase the end of dec ticket....its so nice to finally have a plan...and to be ok...now its just time to do the medical get a few documents nothing big and do the interview...we are almost there...I will have a big sigh of relief once a  ticket is bought....then nothing will matter. 

I think he just want thinking that wed go from approval...(officially by mail on oct 15th) to the embassy on the 1st of nov... Its like he was caught off guard...and was thrown into a pit of fear....we had a long talk...then he spoke with with brother..who told him hes overthinking things and overwhelming himself. So I'm hoping he'll get started on the embassy requirements on his own...he already has all the proof and affidavit...so its just up to him...I'm just pulling back a bit so ge can feel the disconnection and really thinkn about what he can lose....its time to fish or cut bait....I have so much angsty energy and this hesitation is the last thing I want to hear after all my hard work to get him here before years end.

1 hour ago, The Squirrel said:

 

What happened? Is something wrong? 

He's been a bit hesitant from the beginning cause hes young but I was hoping by now he'd appreciate the difficulty and march through, but even now he hesitates, hes afraid of living in  the states afraid of wanting to stay with me forever (so he says) afraid of the dynamics with my kids, so he was happy it wasnt getting approved....I told him it would go quick and now we went from approved oct 10 to embassy today and now its like, so what are you gonna do.....hes like I need time....I'm like what has the time since Feb been for then....it just feels like excuses and my GAF is all run out. I worked to hard to get this to the embassy before years end and know we have a chance to be together before the holidays and I get nothing but excuses and grief. I am just completely numb and dead inside. I cannot give time and loyalty to someone who plays with my heart and mind. He will lose me very soon. 

So, Today I find out from my fiance that the embassy has our file already...and get this...this is how he tells me....we have a situation....then tells me the email came ......then  proceeds to hesitate and tell me his fears...I have lost all hope at this point....all my blood sweat and tears ....all for nothing.....

1 hour ago, GInAustin said:

Hi,

Our NOA2 was approved on 9/29.  It reached NVC on 10/12 and assigned a case number 10/13 and a day later, went into "Administrative Processing".  From looking at detailed statistics from other VJ filers, NVC tends to have a quick turnaround and has been averaging 3-8 days.  I noted a few taking as much as 12-26 and as much as 44 days respectfully.  Ours is going on day 14 and it's still in "Administrative Processing" so we are still holding out hope that they approve it and send it on to Manila so that we can be together for the holidays.  Hopefully you will be lucky and have a quick turnaround too.   

 

I hope it works out for you. Either way we are almost there...an end is soon.

13 hours ago, GInAustin said:

What’s worse is that I found out that we are in “Administrative Processing”.  NVC’s black hole of the unknown what will happen. Nobody will tell us anything and it could last for days, weeks, months or years.  My recommendation to anyone and everyone out there, GET AN IMMIGRATION LAWYER WHEN FILING FOR A K1 VISA!!!!!!!!  I cannot stress this enough!   The likelihood of someone being dragged through the mud is so much less likely.   We have been screwed from day freaking one.   It’s so unfair. 

When were you approved, I was approved Oct 10 officially, I called NvC yesterday just for the hell of it and of course its not there, I don't think I'm too far behind you but from what I remember lately, NVC is taking up to 8 weeks. ...my fiance informed me he doesn't want to leave during the holidays anyways....I don't celebrate so not the biggest deal to me and I figure the timing is so close that it probably won't be possible given how expensive the tickets would be to buy last minute, we're hoping for 2nd week if Jan.

13 hours ago, GInAustin said:

Why; just tell me why it took 231 days for NOA2 (no RFE) and now NVC is dragging their feet with us with it still pending after 12 days when most everyone else got theirs processed between 2-7 days?   Wonder if our case file has "MESS WITH THIS COUPLE" stamped across the front?   

That sucks...hope I don't run into that too.

I'm thinking this info is wrong, because the ds260 is immigrant form...the ds160 has to be used for fiance...and from what I read and what the croatian embassy sent me email before the affidavit of support isnt even mandatory...I think someone got this confused with a I-130 immigrant visa or something.....I wrote the embassy for clarification...there isnt much info cause doesnt appear many are coming from here.