alexandaaron

English is her second language right? Sometimes things need to be repeated. Even I, who see myself as quite proficient in English needs repetition sometimes. Sounds to me like your communication fell apart. 
 
But it is true that you did not want a child? I don't think the reason is relevant then. If you have said no to kids, it is no and she didn't want to risk getting pregnant. Correct me if I am wrong but you didn't deny not wanting children. 

Did you guys ever talk about it? Communication is the most important thing in a relationship. 

You broke the ring that symbolizes your union but you didn't think she'd leave? I'd be leaving too if my husband did that. 
 
Sounds to me that this is a strong self respecting woman who is not going to get herself stuck raising a child with a man who doesn't want it. 

How do you think babies are made?  
 
Seriously, you should stop posting self-incriminating details about your sex life and read some more on affirmative consent.  You're surprisingly casual about serious matters (and I don't mean immigration). 

This sounds very manipulative and childish on your part.  It sounds like you both have issues communicating and involving others into your marriage to solve issues that only the two of you can solve.
 
If I were her and you tried to manipulate me by breaking something that symbolized our union, I'd be pissed and walk away too, at least for the moment before I said something that I couldn't take back.  At that point what is left to say?  
 
If you'd both be willing to go to counseling, that may help your marriage if there's love there.
 
If not, you already have sufficient answers here.

Absolutely wrong

You had me following you for quite a while before you said this. You sound like you were not even ready for marriage yet. I blame you just as much, if not more than her. You probably should have sought counseling before you got to this point.
 
Now was she refusing sex? Or just refusing unprotected sex? She has a right to refuse either but a spouse refusing sex is a reason for divorce. If the "unprotected" part is the issue, then you two have a serious communication problem. A couple has kids when BOTH people decided to have kids because it is a life changing commitment. If you got engaged and then married without discussing if and when you plan to have kids, you had no business getting married.
 
Think about this...What did you accomplish by destroying the ring? What did it prove? Was that an adult way of communicating your feelings?
 
Just file for divorce and be done with it. You have been given enough advice to do that. 

Anyone can refuse to have unprotected sex or not have sex at all, even someone who is married to the other person. Not accepting someone's refusal would be rape. 
 
Maybe she didn't want to get pregnant before having the paperwork in order.
 
 
Now this is the important part. I think the "sex" part is irrelevant to your story. 
 
Everyone else has given good advice so I am not going to repeat it.
 
 
 

Yeah he has still not answered my question about how he acted when she said she didn't want sex. A woman doesn't just up and leave the house and wants divorce unless he acted in a way that made her flee the home. 
 
I feel that if it was as simple as she all of a sudden didn't want to have sex and he was cool with it, she would have stayed and maybe start making threats about abuse and green card. 

There isn't a law that requires that your wife has to have sex with you.  It's her choice.  Pressuring her just makes it that much further for you (this wife and whoever next).
 
That said, you need to file for divorce immediately.  She has stated that she intends on committing visa fraud (by staying in a fake marriage for visa purposes, and then divorcing), and you do not want that mess on your plate.

I think you do well in not helping to stereotype, where the person comes from is practically and legally irrelevant. It surely only makes a "logic difference" to an already prejudiced person.

How did you react when she refused? Did you get angry and she fled or what happened? I feel that there's way more to this story and maybe she felt that you were forcing her to have sex. Maybe she didn't want to be on the pill (lots of women don't want to put hormones in their bodies) and many women today want to actually have a job and a career before they have kids. 
 
Not saying that maybe her intent was a green card. I am just saying it feels like there might be waaaay more to this story. 

I don't want to in-adventedly promote any stereotype, so I guess I shouldn't answer this.

Then my guess is that you both need a lawyer! Honestly, I can't see how someone refusing to have unprotected sex would be an explanation to claim fraud. Now, I suppose it depends on which of the two of you decided you needed to get a divorce because of that. But if it was the petitioner's decision that would only be seen as pressure on the immigrant to do something they're uncomfortable with. This is just my 'common sense' based opinion, naturally.

If I may just ask a 'technical' question: who refused (immigrant or petitioner) to have unprotected sex and why should that determine whether you divorce or stay married?

With the short term of the marriage it's unlikely you'll have to split everything, but I'd consult a lawyer.  Even if you did, it's better to split it and withdraw the I-864 than possibly be on the hook that way

It's just a way of life you know what I mean? The first time I went to Milwaukee we had alot of tornado sirens going off and I told my wife that scares me more than rockets. I wasn't used to it, she was. People who live in areas with tornadoes are accustomed to it -  each place has its own different kind of peril I guess lol

Apologise vs. apologize
  Apologize is the preferred spelling in American and Canadian English, and apologise is preferred in varieties of English from outside North America. This is the case despite the fact that apologize is the original form and was once standard even in British English (and is still used by some British publishers).
http://grammarist.com/spelling/apologise-apologize/

I wonder if making it mandatory service for everyone makes a big difference. When you return to civilian life you feel less "alone" because literally everyone else (for the most part) went through the same thing. It makes it very normal.
 
Just thinking out loud. Not sure if that is the case.

If somebody cannot afford AOS, then a K-1 is not the best route. A CR-1 would be much more appropriate. The (enforceable) affidavit of support only comes into play once it is executed...upon approval of AOS. Prior to then, the I-864 has no weight.
 
To be clear...I'm not saying the USC shouldn't help (financially or otherwise) with AOS. But at the end of the day, filing for AOS is the responsibility of the intending immigrant. They're the one with so much to lose by not doing so.

If money for AOS is going to be a problem, then a K-1 isn't the right choice. Beyond that, it can be from savings, loans, etc. before coming to the US. At the end of the day, they're the one applying for the green card and the ones ultimately responsible for it.

If the USC is ready to stand by a i864 for the immigrant and the marriage was bonafide - it is not fraud to file for AOS. The AOS is based on the marriage being entered into in good faith.

This is awful presumptuous of you. In the OP's original post she said we will divorce, it is not working out as we planned.

The consequences are you have to go back to your country or live in fear of being deported as an illegal if you stay.

yeah i'm saying..how did that even happen?
 
what sucks about suing a police department, is you're essentially suing the taxpayers. that's what's so terrible about all these millions of dollars that end up getting paid out to families who have lost loved ones to false imprisonment or excessive force. the police department isn't footing that bill. but i think the figure right now is like, one in 25 folks on death row are innocent. and that's crazy.