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yup she says I married him on Saturday the 8th and he forced me out of the house on the 9th.
however she has no one in Texas and she managed to buy a plane ticket (her cousin) to come to NYC.
I met her in a K1 FB group and I believe she states someone on there and her cousin told her she can adjust without spouse which I told her she couldn't.
the reasons she gave me for abuse were:
1-hes only a plumber
2-he made her eat American food
3-and he wouldn't let her sleep because he wanted adult time.
I never heard he forced her to have adult time or to eat.
I told her I would post so she can see I am telling her the truth but shes not listening to me and wanted to come stay in my home.
I cannot have an illegal person in my home especially since im doing everything right in my own relationship and don't want it to jeopardize me and my case.
my husband also says since he's from DR (and knows how woman there can be) he doesn't want her in the home....god forbid she try and say he did something to her since she claims abuse so easily.
and he wants no problems with our marriage.

First you said he threw her out on the street. Then you said she left and then took money and left. She came here believing all she had to do was marry him, claim abuse, and she could still adjust. Guess she'll be finding out the hard way. Make that 11 million +1 illegal immigrants in the country.
Yes, please stay away from her.

It sounds to me like she is the one abusing her husband and gaming the system. I've seen cases where the immigrant partner all of a sudden acquires new vocabulary in domestic violence law. Clearly there are lawyers out there making money on these.
But then again if he wanted sexual reward to which she was not fully consenting, that may make him look very bad in the eyes of the law too. It's hard to separate reality from fiction when her motifs are so obviously unrelated to actual marriage. She should go back to DR before her I-94 expires and drop the whole thing. It's deeply disturbing.

It sounds to me like she is the one abusing her husband and gaming the system. I've seen cases where the immigrant partner all of a sudden acquires new vocabulary in domestic violence law. Clearly there are lawyers out there making money on these.
But then again if he wanted sexual reward to which she was not fully consenting, that may make him look very bad in the eyes of the law too. It's hard to separate reality from fiction when her motifs are so obviously unrelated to actual marriage. She should go back to DR before her I-94 expires and drop the whole thing. It's deeply disturbing.

It sounds to me like she is the one abusing her husband and gaming the system. I've seen cases where the immigrant partner all of a sudden acquires new vocabulary in domestic violence law. Clearly there are lawyers out there making money on these.
But then again if he wanted sexual reward to which she was not fully consenting, that may make him look very bad in the eyes of the law too. It's hard to separate reality from fiction when her motifs are so obviously unrelated to actual marriage. She should go back to DR before her I-94 expires and drop the whole thing. It's deeply disturbing.

Exactly what's on my mind until I saw your post. Plain case. These are the people making it difficult for genuine cases or partners to get visas. All that hard work from the petitioner in vain.

Sounds like a classic case of "green card girl". Sorry, but this story is pegging out my BS meter.

The OP doesn't know about immigration or the rules or the consequences, and wants to know. The OP is in a place of total ignorance, like many of us used to be. People here think about immigration so much that they can't begin to fathom a simple question coming from a place of ignorance and assume that everyone is trying to play a trick.
OP: If your gf stays, she will be deportable, unable to legally work, unable to drive. If she gets caught she will be in deportation jail for some time while they get ready to deport her — not fun. If she overstays by even one day then she can never use the WVP again. If she overstays more, she will be banned from the US.
If you care about this person, think more long term. Sure, maybe today it's okay to get money from her mom and make some money on etsy or whatever she is doing. But is that what she wants to do forever? Never able to start a career, being forced to take cleaning jobs or whatever illegal job she can get down the road? That's no life.
So, I urge you to protect her status. Either marry her and file for her paperwork now, or have her go home before the stay is over. She could come back or you could file for a fiance visa, which would give you some time for your relationship to grow more, if you're not ready for marriage yet.
And only marry now if you are actually ready. Marriage by itself gives her no immigration benefit, but you could file paperwork afterward for her to become legal. But, the US government will be totally up in your life, questioning you. This is not fun (though most of us have been through it). Immigration is also very expensive. If you marry her now the paperwork is over $1500. And in a couple of years you have to file more paperwork for about $600. It is a serious commitment.

As someone who also didn't appreciate the seriousness of VWP rules I can agree that the consequences are not much fun.
There were circumstances beyond my control when I overstayed my VWP allowance but the basic fact was that I didn't think it was that much of a big deal. Coming from Europe where travel is so easy, mixed with being young and stupid at the time I just figured it'd all be OK.
When I finally went back to the UK because I was sick of being unable to work I honestly thought all I'd have to do was go to the embassy, apologise and maybe pay a little fine and everything would be ok again.
That was 15 years ago, I received a 10 year ban for my overstay which has obviously been finished but even with that out of the way I have very little chance of ever being able to visit the US ever again.
I can never visit my children over there and seeing as their mother has no plans of ever bringing them to see me in the UK means that I haven't seen my kids in 10 years and maybe never will again.
I'm now almost 40 years old and a much different person than the 23 year old who broke the rules and 100% happy in my life in the UK but I have very little chance of ever getting past the stigma of being a VWP rule breaker in the eyes of US authorities. I can never take my girlfriend on a vacation to the US, or travel there to see her favourite bands who never seem to tour outside of the USA. A rash decision almost half a lifetime ago has forever restricted my opportunities for travel.
If I could go back in time to tell my younger self the consequences of that decision I would (my younger self probably wouldn't listen to an old git like me but that's by the by). I would tell him to do whatever it takes to get on that plane and leave when he was supposed to because the consequences aren't worth it.
I would never advise anyone to take the VWP rules lightly, VWP is a great privilege that far too many people take for granted.
If she wants to marry you purely because she wants to marry you then AOS is an option, I don't personally agree with AOS but my opinion doesn't matter, the option is there.
But if she wants to marry you just because she doesn't want to go home then think long and hard about it.
Suggest getting married and you both living in her home country, if she considers it then she's likely to be genuine, if she flat out refuses the idea then it likely isn't being with you that's her motivation.
How did you meet her? Did you know her before she arrived in the US? How soon after getting together did she mention not wanting to go home?
Not things you normally have to consider when starting a relationship but when it comes to international loves there should always be some thought given to what the partner wants more, you or the greencard.
I'd like to see less of the heartbreaking stories of people who go through hell and high water to get their "true love" a greencard only for that true love to dump them as soon as they have it.
It may seem that people on here are being overly harsh or judgemental but it's a tale told all too many times around here and from an outsiders point of view looks all too similar, person travels to US as a "visitor", doesn't want to go home so finds a USC that they can get their greencard through.
Too many people on here even suggest it as a means to get a GC when people are trying to bring friends or distant relations to the US, the suggestion of "Maybe you can introduce them to your USC friends..." comes around all too often.

Is this a 3-year extension? Did you arrive prior to your initial start date? As far as your question goes: your employer is petitioning for H1B but not for the visa stamping. Whether they can extend it or not has nothing to do with your current visa stamp's expiration date. Generally speaking if you have an approved I-140 then you should be good for extensions indefinitely.

When does your passport expire? That may be the reason.

Millions of people travel on B2s every year. While it might be ever more slightly more inconvenient than using ESTA, it is not the end of the world. I don't know how it's really unfair to your friend. The US is being very cautious is all. Belgian police and intelligence have done a bad job finding the terrorists among them.

I think you brought a Snake in your life,in the form of your wife.No matter how much love,care or affection you show,the snake will bite.Get her out of your life and this country asap.She deserves to be back in Philippines.You need to be very careful while doing all this as she is getting all kinds of BS advice from the people online,probably people from her own country on how to file false domestic violence against you.Looks like some people simple do not deserve to live in a Civilized country.

From now on you should record every conversation you have with her and she has to be aware of it. Pull whatever immigration information is under your name and get the divorce, tell her she is not entitled of any thing and she wont get any thing. if you are renting move out when the lease is up, if it's your house you will need an order to kick her out .

You should continue with school.
While an overstay is forgiven for immediate relatives of US citizens, there are no guarantees that your AOS will be approved. No attending school is a violation of your F1 status (the only legal status you had) and come interview time, this is not looked upon kindly by USCIS. They may think you only obtained the F1 visa as a fast track to immigration, bypassing th K1 and CR1/IR1 processes. You are still a non-resident alien (F1 student) but you are acting as though you now have special privileges because you married a USC. You don't. So when they ask about why your F1 status was abandoned, I hope you have an ecuse they will consider.

Gym have to start the process, Commonly a good Immigration lawyer knows if there is or not a case. they will need to ask you for information and evidence that can show your special qualifications. who knows, things happens.
Recently an artistic painter that i know received his GC and an spanish teacher received her work authorization, in both cases based on sponsorship
so the first step is to define with the gym if they will move forward with this process

Been browsing VJ and other immigration forums for around 3 years and have seen an uncomfortable amount of lawyers giving misinformation or screwing cases up. I can pull up 5 cases in the last few weeks that involved lawyers screwing up.
There is a difference between making an error because you are doing it yourself and learning and paying a professional thousands of dollars to do it for you and providing misinformation causing your case to be delayed or worse, denied.

Go to the local uscis office with the approval documents and also with the medical paperwork - they'll print a new AP document on the spot, no fee is necessary but photos will be required. When showed up there, explain to them that USCIS advised you to come with without an appointment. Good luck!

I like you, OP. The light-heartedly way of your responses, even to the snarky comments... And your review of the "hotel".
I really hope things work out for you and your bf.
Una Mexicana

You don't know if the length of overstay is a factor. You're not sure if coming from a VWP country has any effect. THEN WHY ARE YOU TELLING PEOPLE THAT THOSE WHO OVERSTAY TYPICALLY HAVE A 10 YEAR BAN? Do some research before you post and scare people for no good reason.

Why do people answer questions they know nothing about? if it is OVER 180 days but LESS THEN 1 yr it is a THREE year ban.. if it is OVER a year then it is a 10 year ban!!!
SO if under 180 days it is NO BAN.
he should have sorted it out at the time as it was the airlines problem..but he did not incur the 3yr ban so i think he has strong ties as it is.. and with you having AUS residency will help.. he should be OK. good luck!!

Just to play devil's advocate, she doesn't want to leave because she has everything handed to her on a plate? Parents who pay for her. An ex who pays for her. I'm glad she's thinking about her needs and how she can prolong her easy life, but has she bothered to think about yours?
You have a year after you activate to move. I would think carefully about your future. If it isn't realistic for you two to be together, then think carefully about sacrificing your future for a present that has an expiry date on it.
You seem like a kind person. Whatever you decide, don't lose that. :-)

Hi everyone,
Thought I'd update you on this story. I've now been with the company in question for a month and so far so good. I even got an apology from HR who apologised for their ignorance. So definitely a summary of this experience would be that the law is there for a reason and dont let lack of information be the reason you dont get a job!! My boss actually said to me he enjoyed seeing HR squirm through the process.... so it turned out to be a laughable matter. Never thought I'd say that.
Any questions on this, please dont hesitate to get in touch.
Thanks again for the continued support throughout this thread.
Now I've just got the fun of figuring out my tax rate as I'm still waiting for my green card. I've read online this means I cant file as a married couple? Any one know about this?
The visa journey continues.... :-)

Hang in there. HR probably has to organize meeting with managers and tell them what was relayed from DC and decide how to play their cards. They'll probably do it first thing in the morning.
They can't not hire you as that would be retaliation. They have to bring you in and give you an opportunity to work.

Well.. its seems I spoke too soon. The company just emailed me to say they took a call from Washington, D.C from the Dept of Justice and that she wants to review this matter further with her management team. Hoping this is just a protocol.... but still no job offer.... YET.
My poor parents.... I'm ringing them every 10 minutes... one minute happy.... the next in tears. Well.... this is to be continued......
I will update as I hear.