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Wonderful news! Glad it's over.

Congrats!
 
You see I can see tomorrow? Believe!

Ayuness, it's coming. Believe me. When it comes you won't remember your sadness. Just like with everything in life, it has it's season.

Congrats to all the recent approved. To those still waiting, hang in there, it's coming. No two cases are the same.

Congrats!

Congrats!
Congrats!

Congrats!

If you are using a lawyer, why bother doing all the leg work for the lawyer? I don't understand.

Hi All,
 
Worth reading for those who file after 12/10
 
https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/USCIS/Laws/Memoranda/2018/2018-11-30-PM-602-0168-revised-interview-waiver-guidance-for-form-I-751.pdf

Hi All,
 
Worth reading for those who file after 12/10
 
https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/USCIS/Laws/Memoranda/2018/2018-11-30-PM-602-0168-revised-interview-waiver-guidance-for-form-I-751.pdf

I’m no expert on immigration reform but I will say that Tourist visas in Haiti are rarely approved no matter how many ties you show. I’ve had family members/friends who just want to visit to shop/explore the US that have families, houses that they’ve built from the ground up on land they’ve purchased and even businesses up and running that proves, IMO, major ties to their country and they still get denied. Doesn’t matter how much proof they bring to the interview. I think the only visas they actually take time to make decisions on are K1’s/CR1’s and other sponsorship visa’s and such. I wouldn’t consider Haiti a High fraud country, but I’m going to go ahead and guess we don’t have the best percentages when it comes to tourist visa use in the past. Which is why they probably just deny, deny, deny now. That’s just my little 2 cents. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Thank you very much for the information and advice. I know my research isn't perfect yet (it is in the research phase after all) and I know that compared to you all, that I'm not as well versed on immigration procedures, but still learning is a process. I'll definitely use your input for my findings.
 
 
 
 

The answer is No.

You make it sound like every Nigerian is bad.....I've seen so many Americans happily married to Nigerians for many years with no problem..... Every country has its bad eggs.....there r so many men and women in VJ happily married to Nigerians and other part of Africa with no issues.If one person is found wanting, it doesn't mean every other person should suffer Because of that 
 
Thank you. 

Missileman, why the pessimism? Are we not here to seek advice and get some sort of hope in our messed universe?

Missileman, why the pessimism? Are we not here to seek advice and get some sort of hope in our messed universe?

Good job! Lovely piece of advice!! Happy new year to you!!!

Beautiful answer! 

Beautiful answer! 

Beautiful answer! 

I don't want to in-adventedly promote any stereotype, so I guess I shouldn't answer this.

Sorry to hear about your denial.
All you have mentioned is art work and video calls and Facebook. This is Africa and parental acceptance is vital to an approval. Did you submit pictures with your family, parents friends? All 3 visits showing difference venues. Or did you rely just on Facebook post. When they say fake or set up they are speaking to whoever but you are posting and interacting. I have had a few people get that noted in their denial that their Facebook was just created to appease immigration. Facebook you have friends, family to talk debate whatever. Not just I loves you's with just you two.
 
And the Facebook might be a sticking point because you didn't know. Remember you are married they expect you to know such things and not be blindsided at an interview.
 
Ghana is big on visits of long duration. When you have red flags like you do (the age no big deal) but a divorced woman with 3 kids is ages of maturity(well generally speaking) older. It's a big deal. They are approving a visa for you to  immigrate to a whole family not just her.
 
Me and my husband had red flags so I moved to Nigeria stayed from approval at USCIS to Visa in hand 6 months later. We also meet 6 months before we got married first visit. And this after I divorced my previous Nigerian husband 30 days prior to marriage. You have to do what's needed.
 
Unfortunately nothing you can do. You are in for quite a wait. People I am helping now had denials in January and February of 2015 just having interview. Expect now 18 months to even hear from USCIS. Keep the visits going.  And Ghana truly holds on to petitions usually 6 to 8 months before they ever even send them back. Then it will sit until reviewed for Revocation.

 

Abigail, this topic starter asked me to publish her post, for some reason she couldn't publish it. Here it is:
 
"Thanks to everyone who has offered some sort of objective response to my post. I'd hope the rest of you aren't so prejudiced, which is all it seems to be,  being Nigerian there's nothing he seems to be able to do right. If he was poor the narrative would be he's using me for economic gains, he's affluent and even that is a source of triviality, like every African is poor. Him getting a tourist visa from Lagos even makes you guys skeptic. If he came on to me it would be he's just preying on you, but it's the otherwise and it's him manipulating me. First his vasectomy was fake then it could be reversed. Then his education was African and "worthless", someone with a Bachelor's in Economics who has helped me with sound financial planning already, with results. Nobody here knows how I look but there's no way in hell he could love me for me. Also, no African man under the sun doesn't want kids, as you've guys have interviewed all of them. Everything that sets him apart from the stereotype young African (which is why we're even seeing each other in the first place) has been a basis for skepticism. Someone even said he's lying about his age, when I've seen his passport.  I even have access to his phone. I understand you're all looking out for a sister, but thanks. I'm aware of the red flags, but I'm here to find out how to OVERCOME them and not have my relationship questioned. Different strokes. Please don't bother to respond if you can't contribute. As you can see, there's a barrage of negativity already. 
 
 
KosiWahala, he was invited by his aunt to visit. His family has a very good travel record in Europe and UAE  and his aunt's family is worth close $500k. He says that's probably why he was given barely being interviewed  as it's rare in the Lagos embassy. His great-grandpa was one of the first archbishops in the country and grandparents were involved in the government. He works in a Pension Fund as an Investment Officer, fresh out of college. He has a trust fund for his post grad. Has a progressive family, one openly gay uncle and a few aunts who aren't married (rare in Nigeria according to him). I've seen proof of all this. Would appreciate if this isn't another basis of falsehood. 
 
P.S: if you're not going to use this to give advice on overcoming red flags, please don't bother. God bless xx"

Hi, 
As the wife of an West African man I am appalled at the profiling I am seeing in this thread. Yes it is common to see situations where a Nigerian man has scammed an American woman. But that does not mean that all Nigerian men are like that. You people are acting like it isn't common to see European marriage scammers and Asian marriage scammers. We all know about mail order brides and all of the other things going on in immigration. With that being said your age difference really puts you in a difficult position. The best thing would be to include more lengthy visit and to try to live together. You guys do not have enough history to combat your red flags. Also if you do suspect marriage fraud from him make sure you are taken care of legally. Such as your assets, it may be best to look into a prenup if you are really that suspicious. American men use women just the same so ,you would want to take precautions regardless of nationality. Good luck on whatever you decide to do. 

One thing, if your fiance prefers to go back to Nigeria instead to marry and adjust his status in US, maybe he is telling you the truth he loves you. If he wanted the green card only, he would marry you and stay as he can read in English and knows, the immigration process inside US is more secure than applying from Nigeria. He is not asking you for money, it's another good sign. I wouldn't judge all Nigerian people by the stories we read online, everybody is different. 
 
Also, not only Nigeria or Morocco people divorce after getting the green card, so many other countries do it, it's a mixed marriage, different culture and the people the same age, same race but from different countries may have much more differences than you and this Nigerian man.
 
It's true, the age difference is big, we have 30 years difference and we were approved relatively easy in Lagos for K1 visa. Only one thing I would be worry, in Nigerian culture the man needs to have children, at least one, you marrying him can't give him children, I don't know how true is he had a vasectomy but even in this case in a few years if you are still together, think about the possibility to adopt.
 
Anyway, you both love each other, go for it! Any marriage is a lottery, enjoy your time now and do what you believe is good for you both. I wouldn't be afraid of divorce once he gets his green card, young people the same age divorce even faster. So many immigration marriages end in divorce, all countries, not only Nigeria
Tasha