Gary&Joy

just one question that probably makes no difference.. the OP had mentioned "at his age"... so what is his age??
what are both your ages?? love can certainly span the years, but my impression is that he is a grumpy old fool, and the OP is still a vibrant up-and-comer.. in fact, I wish I had stopped short of marrying my ex-wife.. she destroyed almost 2 decades of my life.. the OP had a trip to US and a vacation for a while.. we can all learn to keep a proper perspective on our lives by reading posts like this.. thank you, and good luck.. and like the one poster said, do some shopping and get back to your life.. (not that shopping in US is necessarily better than shopping in China)

Well, exactly. If he had any class he would have sat you down and admitted that he just doesn't want to go through with it anymore (although he should've had the guts to realise this earlier and speak up about it) and at the very least pay for your ticket home. It just sound like an awful situation where you've been taken for a ride. All the best for your future.

It's shows a lot of his character if he wants you to buy your own ticket back home...

just one question that probably makes no difference.. the OP had mentioned "at his age"... so what is his age??
what are both your ages?? love can certainly span the years, but my impression is that he is a grumpy old fool, and the OP is still a vibrant up-and-comer.. in fact, I wish I had stopped short of marrying my ex-wife.. she destroyed almost 2 decades of my life.. the OP had a trip to US and a vacation for a while.. we can all learn to keep a proper perspective on our lives by reading posts like this.. thank you, and good luck.. and like the one poster said, do some shopping and get back to your life.. (not that shopping in US is necessarily better than shopping in China)

Hi Everyone!
I thought of sharing this as this might help other people with a similar case as mine. If you have had any name change whatsoever (no matter how little), you NEED to submit two (2) NBI clearances - for both the old and new name. If your name change was effected on or after the age of 18 (legal marrying age) then you also need to submit 2 CENOMARs - for the old and new name. Why? Because one of the requirements in the application of a marriage license in the PH is the submission of a birth certificate. So if your name change was finalized when you were still a minor, you couldn't get a license without your parents/legal guardian's consent/presence anyway; and if it was done when you were of legal age then the propensity to "slip through" the system when applying for a marriage license is higher, hence, the submission of another CENOMAR for the old and new.
I confirmed this with the USEM during my interview. Funny because the consul and I were discussing my name change so much that she might have forgotten to ask me questions about my fiance. Haha!
Hope this helps!

I want to say this a nicely as possible ..... CALL THE USCIS until they get tired of you!!!! You have you case# that is all you need. The Department of Homeland Security works for YOU!!!!! You paid them to do a job within a reasonable amount of time. You expect results, they are a business like any other and have customer service requirements like any other. You can be demanding in a polite and respectful manner. The phone number is 1-800-375-5283

OMG, what was he thinking? It says everywhere to present the package to the officer on the border....
I think he needs to give it to the CBP officer on the border to be allowed in. I mean they kick up a fuss if the package is even a little torn/opened when presented to CBP, so to not even have the package with him..... I guess if you're lucky, they'll escort him down to the luggage area so he can retrieve his bag and the package and then bring him up for secondary screening. Hope it works out for you.

Hello all! I want to share this walkthrough I made regarding the medical exam I just took at St. Lukes. I hope this will help anybody in anyway.
I thought of creating this during my 2-day medical appointment, taking notes every step of the way and sketching floor plans in between waiting time. I know that there had been a few written about one’s medical experience at SLMCEC and as much as it helped me prepare and be aware of the whole scenario, I wanted to share something more comprehensive.
But please be reminded that everything here is based on my own experience and someone else’s procedures may vary. All went well on my medical so I assume this is within the typical flow of the whole process.
Ok, to start with:
The Fees:
US$213.35 for 15 y.o. and older
US$185.35 for 14 y.o. and below
Hotels Near SLMCEC
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...=48111&st=0
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/lofivers...hp/t130131.html
What to Bring:
- If you don’t have your appointment letter yet, you may bring a photocopy of your NOA2 letter and NVC letter showing your MNL case no.
- Valid Passport (have it photocopied as well)
- Appointment letter – Bring original and have the first 2 pages photo copied.
- 4 pcs. 2x2 photos – white background, with both ears uncovered and without earrings.
- Black ballpen
- jacket (it’s cold inside)
Misc:
- Bottled water. Foods are not allowed, but you can slip through hiding your crackers somewhere in your bag.
- Play Station Portable, Nintendo DS, Ipod Touch, books/pocket books – well, I mean, something you can play/read while waiting in between check-ups and procedures.
The 1st Day
:: Arriving at St. Lukes ::

W/ appointment letter:
I handed over my appointment letter but then the security guard told me to have the 1st two pages photocopied, so I did (just right across the street) and then went back to hand him both the original and the duplicate, he stamped it both with “SLMCEC---something” .. and handed me a queue number. I arrived at 4:45am and got no. 32.
He gave me a form - the Patient Data Sheet (PDS) and the guard will check specific boxes you should fill in. Upon filling out your PDS, you’ll see an ‘Alien Case No.’ – that would be you MNL Case no.
He also handed me an Evaluation sheet to be returned upon release of your medical result – well, it’s just a Rate-Our-Clinic thing, with Excellent-Good-Poor check boxes
and questions on how to improve their service blah-blah.
Without appointment letter – well I guess, it’ll be the same as above as long as you have your NOA2 letter and NVC letter with MNL Case no.
- After you completed filling out your PDS, there’s really nothing more to do but sit down and wait for your number to be called.
- When the guard started to call in the numbers, he called batch by batch, 10 nos. in a batch.
- He guided us to fall in line in front of ‘Digital Photo Room’ to have our --- well, digital photo taken
- Have your PDS, Passport and photos ready. I handed those to the guy who takes the photos, everything was returned to me shortly after that.
- I went straight ahead in front of the releasing counters and fell in line.
- When it’s my turn, the screener asked me a few questions about my medical history … basically, you just have to answer everything he/she asks.. She stapled two(2) 2x2 photos on the PDS and inserted the other two(2) on a resealable plastic and stapled it once again on the lower part of the PDS.
- After it, the screener told me to pay the medical fees at the cashier located at the 5th floor.
- I then took the elevators to 5th floor and found the cashier at the corner, right beside the elevator. Paid the fees and told me to go to 4th floor.
:: 4th Floor ::

- I gave my PDS, Receipt, Passport and the photocopied appointment letter (keep the original, I believe that will be the one you’ll show at the interview) to the nurse at the reception. She gave me an “HIV Consent form” to fill out – I returned it to her afterwards and she then told me to sit down and wait for my name to be called.
- When my name was called, the nurse asked me of the last day of my last period (always remember your 1st and last day of period, they will keep on asking it till you bleed again … kidding)
- After she jotted down some notes on my papers, she gave it back to me and pointed me to go at the blood extraction room.
- Before the nurse started to collect blood sample from my arm, she asked me my name, my age and again, my first and last day of period… This procedure is to assess you of any drug use and of course, HIV.
- After the blood extraction, the nurse told me to go straight to the urine collection area, just right across the other side of the reception, a nurse is assigned there at the ladies C.R. – she’ll give you a plastic container to put your urine sample in. Hand it back to her when you’re done. This procedure is for pregnancy test and probably for other kidney-related illnesses. She told me to sit back down and wait for my name to be called.
- My name was called and they gave me back my papers and passport and told me to proceed to 3rd floor for the X-Ray.
:: 3rd Floor ::

- I gave my set of papers to the nurse at the reception. If you have previous x-rays, be sure to bring the film (if it’s still available) so they can compare (and God knows if that would actually help alter their decision against their own x-ray results at any rate ~_~)
- Anyhoo, since I don’t have an x-ray film with me, they simply gave me a paper to fill out, stating the reason why I don’t have one – I checked the box that reads “No X-ray has ever been taken”. Gave it back to them.
- Somewhere on my PDS, they made me write my first day of my last menstrual period.
- Told me to sit down and wait for my name to be called (well, isn’t it always?)
- So my name is called and another nurse wrote down additional notes on my papers before he allowed me to enter the X-ray room. He returned to me my set of papers.
- Inside the X-ray room (a little room before the actual X-ray room) is a little area with some chairs so we can sit as we wait for our turn. Another small area is a changing room with hospital gowns provided where we should disrobe our upper garments (bra and shirt) .. any necklace should be removed as well. I sat down and waited for my name to be called.
- Upon calling my name, I then gave my set of papers to the nurse inside…. and it’s X-ray time! (I’ve been very anxious about this part ever since coz this is where they would find out if you have something strange in your lungs – hence, they’ll have you undergo the dreadful Sputum test) .. the nurse inside would assist you on how to properly execute the X-ray procedure.
- After I finished the X-ray, the nurse gave me back my papers and told me to proceed to 5th floor.
:: 5th Floor ::

- I walked towards the U.S. counter and handed over my set of papers to the personnel assigned there .. he wrote something on my papers and then a different nurse picked up my papers, he assisted me to follow him to have my body weight and height measured.
- Right after the nurse wrote down the weight record on my PDS, another nurse told me to proceed to the ‘Visual Exam Room’.
- Inside the Visual Exam Room, the nurse conducted a visual activity test where you would have to read a Snellen Chart opposite a mirror. (more like a ‘give me a headache’ test) The nurse will ask if you're using contact lens or eye glasses prior to the exam.
- After the eye test, he told me to go sit and wait for my name to be called. (I’m starting to have the feeling of omitting all these sit-and-wait-for-my-name-to-be-called in this entire entry)
- The next thing done is they measured my Vital Signs - Blood Pressure and pulse rate.
- I handed over to the U.S. Counter my set of PDS after completing the Vital Signs procedure.
- Guess what happens here ………………… Correct!! Sit down and wait for my name to be called.
- My name is called, went to the U.S. counter and they handed me a number. That would be my number for the physical exam.
- It’s been the most agonizing 15 minutes of my whole medical process … waiting while thinking of getting all naked – NOT in front of your fiancé/husband … LOL!
- My turn for the physical exam .. the doctor/physician will ask you all sorts of questions starting from your name to all your past operations/hospitalizations to inhaling mosquito coils to having contact with an alien from the outer space positive with HIV……
- After all the seemingly non-stop questioning, the doctor ordered me to sign papers (kinda like a contract) attesting that I am telling nothing but the truth. She made me sign twice – one for saying that I gave birth 2 times, and the other one for stating that I’ve never had TB nor had contact with people who are infected of Tuberculosis.
- Then she made me disrobe completely, but thank goodness, I still had to wear a hospital gown – at least. I laid down on the bed and she checks certain parts of my body. Doctors will specifically check slash marks for suicidal attempts, needle marks for drug use, tattoos for positive contamination from use of needles…
…. and then the private parts … She’ll make you spread your legs (or make you lie on your left side and bend your knees towards your chest). The physician checked the ####### and the ####### .. I believe they check it for possible signs of Sexually Transmitted Diseases or any abnormalities whatsoever. Don’t worry, if you’re a female, you’ll also have a female physician that will attend to you.
- She told me to go straight to U.S. Counter. I handed my PDS and they attached a slip where it reads, “You must personally claim your results....dah dah dah” in 3 different languages .. what the! … The nurse handed back my papers shortly right after that and told me to go to 2nd floor for immunization interview.
:: 2nd Floor ::

- I gave my set of PDS to the guy on the reception right in front of the Immunization rooms.
- loooooooong wait here ..
- Called for Immunization interview (doctors area). The physician simply asked me a few questions like previous vaccines (don’t worry if you don’t have a record or can’t remember any, just tell the physician about it), sexual contact, pregnancies, if you’ve had chicken pox before, if it left any visible scars, etc … She told me of the available vaccines that I would take if all goes well with my medical results.
- It’s a wrap! The day is done! … and the last thing to do is to check out on the 2nd floor check out counter. There they will tell you to return the next day for the results. They will tell you what time. The only things left in your hands now would be your passport, the receipt, the evaluation letter and your original appointment letter/NOA2/NVC letter.
- Robinson’s place is not far from SLMCEC .. You’ll be as hungry as **** so I suggest you go there and treat yourself
The 2nd Day
- Upon arriving at SLMCEC, the guard pointed me to another guard inside, standing behind some kind of podium, I handed him my receipt and he entered the control no. on a computer database, so this guy sort of has the ‘master’s list’ for all results of med exams.
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There are two things I know by far regarding the results:
If the guard stamped your receipt with “IMMUNIZATION” – then congratulations! You passed the medical exam and if you have anything scheduled after that, like for example - your visa interview in two days (like me), then there should be no worries.
If the guard stamped your receipt with “SPUTUM --- something” then unfortunately, you have to have a Sputum Collection and a 2-month long delay.
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…….. Okay, so I have mine stamped with “Immunization” and this made me proceed to 2nd floor for my vaccines.
- I gave my receipt to the guy at the reception (just the receipt, keep your passport) … and like always, I sat down and waited for my name to be called.
- ZZZZzzzzzzZzZzzz
- The intercom may sound vague most of the times, so you must listen attentively all the time.
- My name was called and they made us fall in line in front of the check out counter on the same floor (2nd floor). The guy behind the counter collected our passports.
- Go back to sleep. I mean, get back to your seat.
- My name is called and it’s time for my immunization. The attending nurse first asked me some few questions about allergies I might have, date of first and last day of my last menstrual period, my name, age and birth. Vaccines may vary for every applicant, I had 4 shots, 2 on each arm (TDAP, MMR, Anti-Cervical and HPV).
- *phew* .. thanks goodness, everything’s done … I was told to wait at the ground floor for the results.
:: GROUND FLOOR ::
- Zzz
- Waited like 3 hours
- My name is finally called but it’s not for the result yet … I went to window 1, the personnel made me sign my PDS and then I surrendered my passport .. told to me waaaaaiiiiiiiiiiiiit until I die … kidding … waited for another 2 hours or so.
- RESULTS!! Oh the Wonderful Result!! … I was called to window 6 with a female staff – she asked a lot of questions like a pre-screener at the interview, she seems to ask a lot about what you’ve written on your PDS and a few from the physician comments written on it .. she’s kind of like verifying.
- She finally handed down a CD containing the X-ray details and a Vaccine sheet (these 2 are the only things they'll give you). She also told me that they would be the one to forward the results of my Medical Exam to the U.S. Embassy. They would keep everything including your passport.
- I went out. Took a pedicab to Taft Avenue and bought myself a Baconator for all my day’s worth.

Congratulations on Case Complete. I have added you to the Spreadsheet.
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1xbLl_8yDgHLeDaLnTrPdYc44J0sjPSFfYCKxlKx6uTY/edit#gid=0
Come on over and join the Interview thread. http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/555216-august-2015-interviews/page-42#entry7745324

HI everyone! Im Happy to announce that my moms interview was approved and today, her case status said issued we just have to wait for it to be delivered..thanks for helping me and mom througout her visa journey ? thank you again from the bottom of my heart. ?

Honey, unless he looks like George Clooney's and has George Clooney's bank account you are making a huge mistake.
Realistically, how long to you expect that to last? I would look up statistics for you, but don't want medical pop up ads for pills to plague my iPad. Are you going to be happy in that house with no social life in the Louisiana boondocks for ten years? ...twenty years? Anybody can be on good behavior for eleven days. Does he have a good job that will meet the salary requirements for his Affidavit of Support? What are your job skills and what kind of work opportunities exist where you will live?
I don't normally butt into people's affairs, but this just screams of a disaster waiting to happen. A disaster you are going to spend a lot of money and stress on. Go visit again at Christmastime for about six weeks away from your family and see if it still feels right. If you have to give up your job to be gone that long, then you will get the sense of starting over broke which could happen if you make a rash decision.

My wife had an issue keeping straight at higher speeds. I carefully explained she needs to be looking further down the road when she drives faster. The weaving all over stopped as she got the hang of looking further. It came back when we bought her a Ford Focus, it had much tighter steering than the Durango she started learning to drive here in. My wife slowed at stop signs, but was constantly not stopping. I kept telling her she'd get a ticket or fail her test but it never sunk in. The driving instructor we hired told her "Stop means StoP" and the rolling stops ended. Why couldn't I just say that? Heck it probably wouldn't have worked coming from me I have to say, the driving instructor was a great investment. He really knew how to get her focused on what would really be tested. Much less stress for me to, although she wanted me to ride along to give her confidence, I mainly sat in the back seat reading a book.
On one of her driving lessons, there was a mother duck crossing the road with a whole brood of ducklings following. My wife didn't slow down in the least and suddenly the instructor reaches over and grabs to wheel to swerve so we missed them. Turns out she just thought they were birds that would fly away as she got closer. We still laugh over that. You just don't see ducks in the Philippines, if there ever was any, they've ate them to extinction.

At 88 yrs old for your fiance, it would probably be more realistic you stayed in Jamaica and he moved to be with you. Statistically speaking, you'd probably have more time together as a married couple and as a family.

talk with your uscitizen spouse, ask them about their plans to live with you in your country.
others might tell you to stop smoking for 6 months and stall the NVC process for now,
but
it seems you have a drug problem (of sorts) and have to be honest when you fill out the DS-260. You don't have to fill out the DS-260 today, you have a year to fill it out and submit it.

a lawyer? yer asking about a lawyer on the #1 DIY for Immigration to USA WebPortal?
nah, you really not ask that question. Right?

huh?
Why would you have any need to post for help, anywhere, about the EB-5 visa ?
wait - are you on a handphone?

I'm in a bit similar situation like yours but there is also difference.
As a mother of a 17 mo old baby, I can tell you my husband feels extremely reluctant for me to find a full time job so far.
We are both Immigrants. He came from Russia but has been living in US for more than 10 years; I am from China and haven't yet received my 10 years GC. We are on our own, without any grandparents or relatives to take care of our baby since she was born. My husband doesn't trust any daycare or nanny to babysit our child because he himself was mistreated by his auntie when he was very little and she was babysitting him. Both his parents worked then. I quit my full time job that I loved and have been a SAHM since our baby was born, and I don't think I will be looking for any job until our baby turns 2 years and can talk properly.
Personally I sometimes feel frustrated with my current SAHM situation but I do respect and understand my husband's feelings. I have chosen to take the middle course by finding a flexible part time job so that I can telecommute from home and take care of the baby and house at the same time. My husband appreciates that, too, and tries to reciprocate in other different ways.
I suggest you sit down and have a thorough talk with your husband to find out if there is something that he fears or worries about, and sort things out.

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I'm sorry, this sounds like a horror movie.. I am sure someone will have advice soon to help from the visa perspective.. But psychologically, just know there are people here that care.. I wish I had advice.. But any advice cannot know what the future holds.. Hang in there.. To me it sounds like your husband wants to be The Important One in your life, and he feels threatened that you are ready to branch out.. Again, I'm sorry.. We all have different ideas of what a marriage should look like.. I hope you 2 will find time to talk, and maybe even let him bear some of the responsibility he so much desires.. Hopefully, he will want your help if he senses his alternative is to carry the full burden alone..

OP pause...was he jealous B4 the marriage? ...maybe thought it was love & cute ..Nope
The child will not (*well is not suppose to get a JA PP without him) hew rules
To remove the child from the country would be a criminal act without his approval
I applaud the fact you want to keep him in the childs life.
Don't you have an older family member or Minister that can talk to him about his
jealousy and insecurities? after all you just had a baby, however ladies should
be beware of men who tries to separate them from families & friends ,and
insist on micr-management its not healthy., everyone needs some space
Can you still communicate with him on a reasonable level? Taking your docs away
is oppressive & illegal, if the day comes for interview & you are not there because he
cause you not to, I say report the matter to the police, so that record can be in your
favor, you obviously have a bonafied marriage...Pray .. Allow him to feel like the
man he should be but never allow him to abuse you any ways....wishing you the best.

The process has placed a lot of stress on our relationship, too. We haven't been able to see each other since February.
It is confusing at times, there are many small hoops and times when you may want to give up.
Don't.
It's a crazy process: I had 0 experience with immigration before this and now I know a fair bit about the whole K-1 process, and i'm not even done yet.

Stick it out. Be honest with your fiancée about how it affects you and the relationship. Also, consider this - us beneficiaries have to do a LOT by ourselves in our home countries, and that's even before we leave our families, friends and life for good. There's a lot of pressure on us, not only in terms of completing paperwork and doing it properly, but for what's about to happen as well. Going through a stressful, long process for a stressful change can be very daunting.

Support your fiancée and be very honest with each other. It will help both of you and the relationship immensely. It has pushed ours to the limit but it has made us the best team i've ever been part of.

I don't know when US government is like this. If there are millions of people immigrating every year, than there half a million people who lost there relationship (perhaps) because of lengthy process which is so cruel. We expect honesty and we believe person we love is a honest person. Some are and some are not but circumstances too play vital roles. Everyday was stressful. How long one can continue keeping communication every single day for hours. When relationship starts we have new hope new aim to lead a wonderful life with our newly met soul met but immigration comes and vanishes all the dream we had, resulting in one or the other lost interest in relationship, lost all hopes and try to find new reason and new hope in that process one fall out of relationship and become selfish. After getting visa it doesn't have any value because there is possibility your spouse and you will have different ways. I am sorry and I am not discouraging you. Well just would like to say keep hope and keep your communication strong. Try to meet somewhere in middle like Japan or south Korea or ask her to come Mexico. I wish you best of luck that you find yourself lucky in this whole cruel process.

Don't give up. If you truely love this lady you will fight until the bitter very sweet end. My wife and I only have our NOA1 and we are patiently waiting for the rest of the process. It will be worth the wait. I will not give up on my sweet wife and she is in the Philippines. Take a trip there if you need to. Just a thought.

Hello there,
Ofcourse this whole visa process is very stressful for each party and thus straining on the relationship. I experience it too and especially during the beginning of the process my husband and I were fighting a lot. I felt he wasn't doing his best to quickly gather all documents needed and he felt he wanted to do it thoroughly so we wouldn't get an RFE or make mistakes filing in the documents. We were just on a different page. Not blaming each other and keeping an open communication is very important. Also, talk about other stuff than the process. Learn to get to know each other. You CANNOT hold each other, so you HAVE to talk. See it as the perfect situation to dig in each others brain and find out each others likes, do's and don'ts, past memories and future plans.
we rarely talk about the visa process, only when absolutely needed and we still tend to get agrivated discussing that topic.
Do NOT go radio silent on each other. Even when you're mad at the other person. You have to decide for yourself: do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?
So even if you think the other is to blame for that particular fight, decide if you wanna stay mad or do you wanna say sorry first.
May I ask how long you are in the process? We are at nvc now and at this point we've been in the process for 10 months, starting at NOA1 by uscis on August 11 2014. I already accepted that the given estimated processing times are bs. So instead of being agrivated about it, I make up my own estimate and make sure I built in enough time so it can only be better when my Case Complete arrives sooner. ☺
If you get thru this together, you know you can take on the world. For now it is just another hurdle to be together.

Omg.... the website literally says "As a result, we are unable to print visas...."
This is literally the worst news I could imagine getting right now.... we scheduled our interview THIS MORNING. We are soooooo close to the end and now this? It's going to be interesting to see how this affects people... I hope they are overestimating the problems