How did you filipina wife change after you married her and took her to your home country?

[amerikano_abroad 3]

How did your filipina wife change after you married her and took her to your home country?

How did the relationship change in a good or bad way? Did she act the same as when you meet her or did she change and the relationship became unpleasant.

How long did your marriage last?

Edited December 15, 2012 by amerikano_abroad

[TBoneTX 43,057]

*** Thread moved from Off Topic to Philippines subforum -- very country-specific topic. ***

[toastedpancake 15]

It sounds like your having some doubts with your woman. Just a piece of advice, you can answer all of that if you really know her not with her name but by who she really is

[ca_babe 129]

How did your filipina wife change after you married her and took her to your home country?

How did the relationship change in a good or bad way? Did she act the same as when you meet her or did she change and the relationship became unpleasant.

How long did your marriage last?

Been married for 7 and a half years. I'm the Filipina. I just asked my husband and he said he's very happy with his life. I asked him whether he'd prefer to be single so he can do whatever he wants rather than take care of me and our two daughters. He said he likes taking care of us and we make him happy. When we were watching the movie "Up", he cried because the old guy's wife died and he said he can't bear the thought of not having me around. That was the only time that I saw him cry. I was surprised because he didn't even cry when his father died. Not that he doesn't love his father. But he said he just doesn't expect his wife to die before he does.

The only other time that he cried that I knew about but didn't see was when he left Philippines to go back to US to file for our k-1 visa. He said that he cried because he didn't know when he's going to see me again.

Umm, I'm sure I've changed throughout the years but my husband seems to be happy still after all these years or he's really good at faking it.

The first year was hard and exciting at the same time. Lots of adjustments and new things to see. It might be overwhelming for someone.

[kev_n_jena 89]

How did your filipina wife change after you married her and took her to your home country?

How did the relationship change in a good or bad way? Did she act the same as when you meet her or did she change and the relationship became unpleasant.

How long did your marriage last?

Jena and I have been married for over 5 years now. How did she change after coming to the USA? Well, I'd say she's not quite as shy as she was when I met her and of course she's more mature.

Obviously it depends on the individual. What is your wife/fiances circumstances now? Does she live on her own or with her parents? This is just my opinion and I'm sure it's not shared by all but, during the visa process I helped Jena get her own place for a few months so she could get used to being independent before she moved here. I think it was less of a shock to her when she came to the US. When I had to go back to work she was used to being by herself.

[B_J 2,752]

Well, we've only been married for just over a year but there have been numerous changes...

First, she now cooks more American food than she once did. For instance, last night we had fried chicken with corn and mashed potatoes with gravy. When she first got here, I would have never had anything like that. There definitely would have been rice on the menu.

Second, she now watches more American TV instead of searching for Filipino shows on the computer. She loves watching old episodes of Friends. I never liked that show and I can't get her to really get into Seinfeld. This could be a real issue.

Also, she's putting on weight. We're going to have to go shopping for clothes. She's probably up to a size 2. I'm not complaining because, with her cooking more American food, I'm really turning into a fat pig.

And, since she's been here, she's gotten into American sports. She is now a HUGE San Antonio Spurs fan. She also watches football with me. Too bad the Longhorns and Cowboys are both having mediocre years.

So, she has definitely changed since she's been here. To be honest, I don't know how a person could move to a country around the world and not change. But all of the changes are really just learning to live in a new country. On the inside she is still the same person I fell in love with.

[Hank_ 9,173]

No timeline, just joined the forum... hmmm

What are YOUR concerns?

[lbounds 16]

Maybe you can share more about your situation.

We are several months away from 3 years of marriage. Of course there's adjustment changes leaving her culture and family. There's the initial stages of being homesick everyone goes through. My wife was very close to her family with all her life before revolving around family. She talks to them every day still and goes to visit about every year.

Changes in our relationship not much has changed. We love each other more than ever and are hoping to have kids soon. Her attitude hasn't changed.

Small things that changed, she gained some weight and of course some of her interests change being in the US. Like american food, etc and enjoying culture in the US.

Overall we have a happy marriage and are looking forward to growing old together and starting our family soon.

Maybe you can share more about your situation and the reason you are asking these questions ?

Edited December 15, 2012 by lbounds

[X Factor 1,110]

I have been married 3 weeks today and we are having a blast. So far no surprises. And she is starting to cook American meals. She watches me and do the things I do. And no TAMPO episodes as yet... a good thing right?

[Hank_ 9,173]

One posting, no profile, no timeline, no additional comments..... and a topic that could turn heated.... hmmm.

[X Factor 1,110]

Found this troll poem. Very applicable

The troll waits, snickering, under the house.

He picks his nose and eats a mouse.

He sratches his butt and sniffs his fingers

(never shake hands with a troll. It lingers)

What dastardly deeds does he plot?

We remermber his methods, but forgot

that he could pretend to be someone who

is bright and writes like a goldurned noob.

So be careful when you leaver your house

don't forget to throw the troll a mouse;

and wipe your feet because now and then

you'll find troll droppings are geting 'tracked' in...

[rlogan 2,036]

of course she's more mature.

Yeah, mine too. A great mom.

Like B_J - mine is now in love with this really fat guy, and he's five years older than I was when I met her. It's obscene, I tell ya.

Edited December 15, 2012 by rlogan

[Darnell 8,478]

I have been married 3 weeks today and we are having a blast. So far no surprises. And she is starting to cook American meals. She watches me and do the things I do. And no TAMPO episodes as yet... a good thing right?

Well, that's encouraging.

Yay, Mr. Smiley !

[Bumbero 130]

Even though this RP may be a Troll for reasons that Hank pointed out, I think this is still a cool topic. I hope it DOES NOT get heated because it's nice reading everybody's story. Call me sentimental but I REALLY miss my fiancee and it's so nice to think about all these comments matching our story someday, hopefully sooner then later.

Thanks for the great stories!

[amerikano_abroad 3]

One posting, no profile, no timeline, no additional comments..... and a topic that could turn heated.... hmmm.

Honestly trolling or baiting is not my intention, I found this site from another Philippine related forum. I figured this would be a good place to ask compared to the other forum because this forum is more marriage orientated.

I am a new member to this board however I didn't think it was a sensitive question and felt that it would give me and others insight as if I should consider getting married or not. I am just being a bit proactive and trying to judge from others experiences who have been down the road before me. I have always found you can learn alot this way and avoid many potential problems simply by asking the right questions.