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Hey fellows. Got email notification at 3:47 pm.

Just received the text confirmation from USCIS with our case number for employment authorization! :)

I can feel your pain. I have loved someone for 6 years. She lives in China. The time involved for a I-129F visa has stretched her patience so much. We are 3 months into the process but now she tells me she "can wait no more". I think this stress is from the time involved but also from the fact that she fears she will never receive the visa to come here so we can be married. It is tearing me apart. I don't know what to do or say next.
In my case, we have been a couple for 6 years (time I spent in China) we are almost 3 months into the process estimated time (the website said 5 months to success) but now she seems not willing or able to give it the next two months. I am at wit's end. I hope this never happens to anyone else.
Your words ring true in my case. It is unbelievable how people can have a complete lack of patience. Seems love does not conquer all.

I can understand the way you are feeling. Coming from Jamaica where I can easily take walks to the beach or sit outside most of the days when I home, its very green and the air is so fresh. I am now in this huge city with 2 trees per block lol alot to do but much more of a night life. America is very fast pace environment and I think people who enjoys it most are the younger youths, retired or the people who are not working. Its really hard to explore and be adventurous when you are not familiar with the area also, I was feeling homesick in just 3 days after arriving but once I started going by myself few time after going with my husband, I am now able to find my way around, so now i find myself going out alone every other day, even just to the grocery store. I hope you and you spouse will plan on things you can do, but I know once you start making friends, you will be getting out and doing so much.

I am a firm believer in 2 things... No risk.. no reward and anything worth having is worth fighting for. True this process is challenging. That coupled with the distance in a relationship can be taxing. Trying to hold a relationship together when you aren't allowed to do "normal" things a couple does is challenging. Myself regret each night that I have to come home and he is not there waiting for me or vice versa. I go to parties with my friends and their husbands and feel out of place or resent the fact that he is not here and even question.. why is he not here. But as someone mentioned above... Remember why you started the process in the first place. It is exactly the same as a marriage where you have to work at it to get where you want to be with that person. Only thing is the distance and of course the process. I am thankful that they even have a system in place that allows us to bring over our loved ones. What if it was just NO they cant come at all? certainly that would put a damper on things. The system is far from perfect and it is really difficult when you have to justify your love to strangers for your fiancé. I am sure there are a lot of moving parts in the system that I do not understand, but one thing I do understand is that I remain grateful.. for even having the opportunity to bring him here to live. I get frustrated and empathize with you. I would suggest doing some soul-searching on how important this is to you and ask her how important is it for you to be together. Try to converse about your future together instead of the VISA process, for one.. you cant change it and you have no control over it. the important thing is to not let it have control over YOU and determine your relationship. If it is worth it to you fight to keep your relationship together. Im not saying that I have not questioned this process or had a regret or three with RFE's , time away and now as close as I am the Visa issue... But we are powerless over the system and I refuse to give them power over me and my future husband. I wish you luck and strength to continue in your journey. It is not wrong.. how you are feeling. what would be wrong is to let them win. One less application they have to worry about. Who will fight for your relationship if you don't. USCIS, NVC, the Embassy? I think not. this is your journey and your decision to figure out if it is worth it to you.
I feel your pain... best of luck to you.

Seems like your relationship will not survive even she gets here buddy.

Like Shauneg said, Varicella at the time of our doing our medical was not available island-wide and this was noted on our medical.
Also he may not be able to get all the shots because some of them require a month apart interval but it will be sufficient for him to start the set.
Don't worry the form or medical done at Andrews has provisions if all the shots aren't given something about incomplete due to time interval but it will be sufficient for him to pass the K1 medical required for USCIS.
You have gotten lots of great advice here, just pass it on to your finace, he should be ok.

**EDIT this is for the adult....
Make sure he only gets the required 3 shots. Don't waste money on the others, the doctor may try to tell you different. Let them know you're aware that all aren't needed!
Tdap
MMR
Forgot what the third was...
Varicella (only if never had chicken pox before) Most places if you tell them you've had chicken pox they won't give you this one.

Not sure of the clinics in Negril but your Fiancé needs to check with the local clinics in his area or better yet the regional clinic which offers most shots for free.
He should have three complete sets of MMR, maybe 2 Hep B or Hep A/B and Varicella.
Flu shots like others have said is unnecessary.
Paying to get the shots done should cost between US$15 -$20 each depending on which he needs as there are shots which also costs less.
However the private immunization centers may require twice that.
He can also call Immunization Services in Kingston Tel: 906-9305 and find out the required shots for his age as well as if they have a location near him.
If all else fails u can inbox me and I will try to get the number for the health practitioner that assisted me but that's also in Kingston or more correctly, Spanish Town.
Good luck on your journey.

Most clinic in Jamaica does free vaccination but its a whole days process. Just let him go to his area clinic. Andrews will do it but your looking at $3000Ja for each

Yes you are the main sponsor, so you will have to fill out and sign a i-134 with honest answers to all question, doesnt matter if your income is $0.00 or not.

It's hard for me to tell if it's legit or not with photoshop these days. That's a class C visa. Maybe u should google what class C visa into Switzerland is used for. One of the pic she took a selfie, the pic in the room can be anywhere, just not not about the boarding pass.. Hmm.. And that's his finger and leg in the pic where he's holding her hands right.. I don't know what to say, just get everything for him that involve you cancelled and if you feel like you want to try and jeprodise his visa to Switzerland, all you can do is maybe contact the embassy. Otherwise just take a break, cry if you want, party and be happy.. To hell with people who may judge you.

Hi there,
I can't answer anything specifically related to your consulate in question or specific evidence they may want to see at interview time. What I can tell you though, is that for a K-1 you must prove you have met within 2 years - and since you have photos and tickets/boarding passes that certainly is a good thing. Copies of passport/with passports stamps also helps. Any receipts or ticket stubs you have showing you're at the same place at the same time.
The length of time once you get out of the USCIS stage will depend entirely on the embassy. However, all currently filed K-1 applications, once sent to the Texas Lockbox are being directed to the California Service Center (hint: this is the faster processing center). This is for an undetermined amount of time though. You can expect, if there is no issues with your case a result within a few months time, and then it will be onto the embassy stage.
Have a look over the K1 guide. There will be a few documents he will need to sign and mail you (not photocopy, the actual copy). http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1guide
And yes, we did label the back of our photographs with the dates, the who, and the where.

What a useless human being.
A man is supposed to protect his own family,
and certainly not become the biggest threat.
Normally, I would say, just divorce and move on,
but we don't need another violent mad man in the country.
I would send a detail letter with evidence (police, medical reports, pictures, etc.)
to USCIS...hopefully they will keep that tied to his file,
and would negatively impact his future immigration filings.
That said, be happy to get rid of this rotten man out of your life,
and look forward to a fresh start with a better man.

Care to share?

I guess this is the group for me since I'm waiting on my NOA1. My AOS was delivered on the 9th June 6:38am.

HI, I've been reading all your posts. I know it sounds crappy whichever way you try to turn, but all the advice you've been given, is all accurate. This man, being jobless in Nigeria, is NEVER going to get a visitor visa. Please don't waste your time or resources waiting for that to happen. It is not fair, and it hurts to want to be with someone that you cant be with, but its reality. I'm even a little surprised that your fiancé is telling you that he can go to the US on a visitor visa because most young men in Nigeria already know how hard that is to do. IF by some miracle he is able to enter the US on a visitor visa, he is not eligible to work in the USA. If you really want to be with this man, you have no option but to go to visit him. I have been to Nigeria a few times and I had horrible experiences there...that's not to say everyone will. But because of my bad experiences, I now come to Ghana and stay with my husband. Ghana is really really cool, and much more stable and safe. (I know Nigerians don't like to hear that, but my husband can tell you, its true). It says you are in New York...there are straight flights from New York to Ghana for around 1200 dollars. Flights with stops are slightly less. Ask your fiancé if he knows anyone in Ghana. There are A LOT of Nigerians here and maybe he knows someone that could accommodate the two of you for a couple weeks so you wouldn't have to pay hotel bills. A bus ride from Nigeria to Ghana on ABC bus is around $100 so it wont cost him too much to get here. And going back is around half of that. Food is cheap here if you don't go to the hotel restaurants and transportation is dirt cheap. It really wont cost too much if you make an effort. I wish you all the best.

you spent $340, it is a drop in the bucket for the amount of money you should be willing to spend, welcome to the real world of International relationships .

You can't put glitter on what comes out of a dogs butt and expect it to suddenly be pretty.(The actual phrase would involve many *****)
If you read posts in a negative way then I'm afraid that is your problem(generally speaking)
All we say are nothing, we type words, you read them and we don't sugar coat it.
Everyone who has posted in both of the OPs topics have responded in honest opinions, because we are not friends, we are not real family, we need other people to give us the truth no matter how harsh it is.
Because the Op is going through a hardcore embassy and will be denied for not having met either before or at the interview. Those are the cold hard facts and no one here is going to sugar coat that.
Sugar coating helps no one, false hope helps no one.
The honest advice I see , give and have been given myself here are what helps.

These words should be enshrined in the pantheon of all-time greatest VJ posts.
The consular phase, the most crucial part of the process, can deal out some life-shattering outcomes. Of the known hellhole consulates and embassies, Lagos is in a class by itself.

And you expect all of us to be supportive and say yeahhh... marry someone you've never met! Just let any Tom, #######, or Harry in your home because they appear to be nice or of no threat and who you think they are and while your at it marry them... you want us to say 'go ahead, thats smart thinking?' And because we can't do that we're a bunch of neighsayers? Well our heads aren't up our and in the clouds. We've given pretty good advice based on all of our experiences. Your advice could be heading her down a hard road. Don't just say things because you want to be on the popular road. Sometimes saying the truth isn't fun to anyone. But it could help save the other person alot of heartache. We are not telling her not to do it. Just telling her to ATLEAST do it the right and safe way. Tone is in the way the person is reading the thread. You can either read the message in a positive view or negative view. The tone is all up to the reader.

I think everyone made their point and OP most likely has to retreat for some time to think and re group as she may be very saddened by our advice to
come up with a better plan. Reality can be tough and hard to hear when all you want is to be with the one you feel you love.
I think she will eventually understand the advice given and act accordingly, I just think she needs a little time to process this. Remain kind !

I will burst the bubble again.
He cannot work here, unless he has a H1, or some other types of Visa, which is hard to get unless he is a Genius or in Information Technology or a Nurse. famous actor.
Or he can get a Green card by spending $500,000.
I think the best way would be for you to go meet him and then file k1, I can give 30% success rate with that.
or get married there and apply for CR1.
International relationships is not for people with no money hard truth. And the pain and extreme long wait for the other half to come here. I would not recommend it for any one, unless they are willing to sacrifice.
And once he or she gets green card, they might change their colors after coming here.

This is correct.. You will be denied because you have never met in person. It is better to withdraw until you can meet.
He will have to prove on his own merits to get a visitor visa. He cannot work with a visitor visa.
He would have to find an employer willing to sponsor him for a work visa.

You've never met in-person, yet you're vouching to your government that in 90 days you'll marry someone from half the world away whom you've never met? And we wonder why K1 visa denial rates are so high!