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Omg!!! We got approved!!! I can’t belive it!!! 
NOA 8/1/17
REF 11/16/18
Approved 12/18/18
Vermont SC
I can’t thank enough all you advice throughout this process!! This forum it’s a goldmine. 

We just got approved today!
 
NOA 08/1/17
REF 11/16/2018
Approved 12/18/2018
VSC
 
Good luck to everyone! Thanks for all the guidance and advise!

Ok, fair enough. As predicted, they won't do anything.
 
Filing an I-290b will be a waste of money, has an unknown timeline, does not address your immediate pressing issue, and is a similar fee to a fresh I-751. You would ultimately end up filing a fresh I-751 after the I-290b is denied (which in all likelihood it will be) so my advice above stands - file a fresh I-751 immediately. 
 
 

So you received this letter on Nov 4th...and you are only seeking advice now, a month later?
 
 
 
File a new I-751. 
Immediately.  Don't worry about sending evidence, just get it filed with a (brief!) cover letter.
Yes, you will have to pay again, and do biometrics again.
 
It puts you immediately back into non-ambiguous legal status, and you then can obtain a passport stamp as proof of status, including for travel purposes.
 
 
 
Also, if it is now three years since gaining permanent residence and you are still living in marital union (or five if no longer living in marital union), this issue does not prevent you from filing an N-400. 
 
 
 

You just didnt send enough proof. I got the same RFE. As the OP stated just send more evidence from the ones listed on the letter.
 
Did you guys have  join bank accounts ( send copies of bank statements from the period you file  until now.. Even is those accounts are now closed, you can still go to your bank and request those bank statement)
join Lease agreements 
Car Insurance policies
Most recent tax joint tax returns
 
 
My mistake was, that I did not send enough evidence to begin with. When I got my RFE, I sent  all docs I could possibly send,
Mortgage deed
Home insurance policy
Bank Statements 2015-2018
Credit Card Statements showing each other as auth users
401k Showing him as Beneficiary
Life insurance policy
Birth Cert for our son
School records showing him as the guardian for my two daugthers
Medical records showing him as the emergency contact all three children
Medical Insurance policy and cards
AAA membership renewal letter showing both of our names
And two affidavits. 
 
I even sent an email conversations I had, one with my attorney, family member and my old landlord. 

Sounds like OP got an RFE....not sure why you would suggest just canceling the petition altogether?

Omg!!! We got approved!!! I can’t belive it!!! 
NOA 8/1/17
REF 11/16/18
Approved 12/18/18
Vermont SC
I can’t thank enough all you advice throughout this process!! This forum it’s a goldmine. 

Good news, the building let me get in the mailbox and I picked up the GC. Whooosh. Wut a ride this has been. Good luck to all who are awaiting their GC. It’s been a stressful 18 months. 

Congratulations!!!!

Thank you I believe yours is coming soon I wish u best of luck

I find my self checking 2-3 times a DAY!! 😭
 

I find my self checking 2-3 times a DAY!! 😭
 

Congrats!! How did you find out? Email, letter, website?

Im 08/01/2017, still waiting, everyone around my date has been approved. 

Awesome! I just checked, I was able to see there are ppl before me stuck on the same status of " Your case was recvd on April 9". Thank you so much~!

Today is my turn,finally 
469 days
 
 
New Card is being produced!!!
VSC July 3. 2017
I got e-mail and a text message. My case was updated on cese tracker, DHS, and USCIS my account.
Guy's I'm so happy!!!
Good luck to everyone with approvals.

I think CatherineA has put it best. If you wouldn't marry this guy right now if he lived down the street due to some of the issues and behaviors, then don't go to the US to marry him. Relationships are hard enough, marriage doesn't make it any easier. And immigration certainly throws some stress into the mix.
It sounds like a lot of typical relationship hurdles independent of the immigration ones. If you want to work and be independent and not be a full time stay at home mom, those are huge differences in what you both have planned for he future.
Postpone or cancel this visa. Work through some of the other major issues. You can always re-apply for the K-1 or apply for a CR-1. But moving to a small town Ina new country with no way to work or travel or be yourself and potentially need to divorce if things don't improve would be much more difficult.
Or book a round-trip for just shy of a month from now. Come on the K-1 and see the situation in person. You'll know after 2-3 weeks if it's what you want..

Oh, goodness. I'm sorry. But please re-read what you've written here and imagine a friend or sister or someone explaining it to you.
He wants you to be a stay at home mom and yet he is unwilling/unable to even support himself. Just *trying* to take the first step in supporting just himself (finding a job) was "too stressful". Can you imagine? That would be the beginning and end of that conversation for me.
From a quick google search, it looks as if there is nothing preventing him from being able to live in France if he were to marry you. He doesn't have to prove any savings, or at least not according to the French consulate in DC: http://www.consulfrance-washington.org/spip.php?article470 He doesn't speak the language? That sounds like a personal problem, to me. There is no requirement that he speak French to live in France (to become a citizen, I bet, but there's other legal status available). Furthermore, that is a very fixable personal problem. He can learn French. Literally billions of people on the planet speak more than one language. And with a little effort on his part he, too, may join their ranks.
"As a woman, it's different". End of conversation for me, too. If he'd feel like a slave as an illegal immigrant unable to work, he needs to understand you'd feel that way too. (PS, see above. He can get legal status). I don't believe in double standards, particularly not on the basis of gender and most especially not if the person talking that kind of nonsense isn't living up to the flip side of that coin (which is "as a man, he should be supporting himself, and not let "stress" keep him from being alpha-male provider". Instead, he's still suckling at Mommy's teet! Big man there). He wants a stay at home mom, sure. FOR HIM. He doesn't want a family to provide for....he wants a mother-wife to always take care of him.
Please. You are much better off living in a country with a job and legal status than you ever will be living illegally with someone who plans to "support you" as a stay at home mom but shows zero effort to actually provide that support.

Ridiculous reasons not to go and be with you. Firstly, French is one of the easier languages to learn, especially when fully immersed as he would be. Secondly, nothing is holding him to the usa, no job, kids, etc. I would be waiving goodbye to him yesterday.

As others have said, he's too immature and lazy to be a good husband. And he told you the process made him "stop loving you". Really?!! Apology or not, his true colors are shining through. If I were you, I'd stay right where I am. Good luck!

First of all, it's not. English is much harder. Also, most future spouses put in some effort into learning the other's language. Even just a little bit, or enough to be polite. Plus he "prefers to stay where he is"? Um....ok. Can you "prefer" to have financial stability and legal status in the country you're living in?
For flip's sake! Honey, he sounds like he is nowhere near mature enough to be married. At all. He's expecting you to just seamlessly fit into his life, exactly the way it is now, with no changes, or effort or sacrifice on his part because finding a job is stressful, French is hard and he prefers his mom's house. You're not signing up to be someone's partner, you're signing up to be an accessory in their life!

I'd suggest having a discussion with him about moving to France....or somewhere else you could both live and work in the EU. if he's not willing to consider making that sacrifice for you, it seems unfair for him to expect that same sacrifice.
I completely agree with CatherineA. Would you date a French guy exhibiting the same behavior? The visa doesn't mean you have to go to the US, just that you're able to. Contact the embassy about extending the visa. Unfortunately none of us can tell you definitively if they can/will/for how long, but you should certainly try.
And expecting you to move over and burn through your savings just to survive seems childish and irresponsible.

I'm sorry, this is a really tough situation to be in. First, see if you can buy some time by extending your visa. That will help ease your mind a bit, and give you time to figure this out.
Generally, what I think is a good idea to try to to wherever possible, is to live the relationship as if immigration concerns were not an issue. This is difficult, yes. But think--if you already lived in the same country, would you consider quitting your job and relocating to be with him while he is unemployed and doesn't have his own house? The immigration thing makes it worse (ie--you have to worry about applying for AOS in 90 days, having a sponsor and you're unable to work) but---just kind of baseline question---is that something you would do? For me, the answer is "no".
There are much worse things than allowing a visa to expire. And to me, those are: living in a country illegally, unable to work, getting married to someone who doesn't keep their end of deals up, being pressured to have a baby before you're emotionally and financially ready. Is there some reason he can't come to you? If the answer is "immigration concerns" well....that shouldn't bother him too much because he's just suggested that YOU come over and live illegally, right (I'm being facetious here but there IS a good point in there).
To me, it sounds like this relationship isn't ready for the step of marriage, not necessarily because of money but because he's not keeping up his end of the "deal" and he's asking you to make WAY too many sacrifices that he doesn't seem willing to make himself. That's a big red flag right there, to me.

Perhaps he could move to France as you have a good job?

I respect my friends GFC opinion while offering mine as another perspective.
In all of this time you have waited for the process & things to be right before you came here which will be life changing no doubt. His promise may have been sincere but he hasn't found a way to really fulfill possibly the most serious promise.
Coming here with knowing this with the pressure of impending marriage ect is perhaps a little too much. You will make a huge sacrifice which will include your family to some extent.
With no known joint sponsor for the AOS there could be a real problem in the future. How will you be supported thru all of this? Mom?
The suggestion that you would remain in the USA illegally is irresponsible at best & self centered. Don't plan on anything other than following the laws.
You are lucky to be from a VWP country so I wouldn't do anything to affect that status. You could use your ticket & time to come to visit & see first hand what life may be like for a short time.
No one can say what you should do other than to weigh the facts as they are. To me the first hole in the road shouldn't be created by the man I love especially if he has plenty of time to fill it for me.