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Thank you! Funny, he asked me if we were together and if we lived together. I said yes, of course! I guess that was his screening

It depends on how you are sending it.
The first address is a P.O Box, so it's just if you send it USPS and the second one is for Fedex, UPS, etc.

No. Getting married will void your K-1. You'd have to start over with CR1.

http://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/files/form/i-134instr.pdf
Print out the instructions for the i-134 and highlight the paragraph about the employment letter. Your proof of filing the K-1 could be a copy of your NOA2. I would think that would be enough

I've been reading this post and it's wonderful to see the outpouring of support for your situation. It sounds like, from this post, that you've decided to maybe book the ticket and give it a shot?
As a person who was emotionally manipulated in the past, I know exactly how you feel. He was so great in the beginning, right? It was easy to trust him and you fell hard and fast. He changed and you're confused as to who the "real" him is. Is he the sweet, loving, attentive guy you met at the beginning? Or is he a lazy, manipulative abuser who makes everything your fault when you know deep down it's not. I've been there. I didn't listen to the advice of my friends or even a forum I posted on about it. I didn't think anyone could offer me any advice because they didn't know the "real" him. I don't know if you will listen. If you're like I was, you won't. You'll go, it'll be an amazing 2 weeks because he's got you now, directly in his control. He can sweep you off your feet again and make you feel like this was the right decision. But then, after you've married, maybe after you're pregnant, he'll show his true colors once again. You'll be heartbroken with no job, no security, and no foreseeable way out.
I've seen it so many times and I was a victim myself. Please listen to the awesome advice here and don't go. He's controlling you from afar and he can do it better in person. I didn't think I could ever move on, but I met an amazing man who loves and respects me. Now I'm happily married to the right person. Someone who doesn't need to "change" or "be fixed." Trust me, this guy is not your project and shouldn't be. It's not possible to change someone. They have to want to change on their own.
Best of luck with whatever you decide. Remember that if you do decide to go, you'll make yourself extremely vulnerable to being caught up in the romance of seeing each other again. You can only think rationally by staying in France. Congrats on your promotion. Remember that if he really loved you and wanted to be with you, he'd move heaven and earth to do so. He should have no problem moving to France. Ce n'est pas difficile d'apprendre la langue!
Sending my thoughts and prayers your way in this tough time.

Honestly, I never wanted to see it as abuse either. Because even though I KNEW he was the unreasonable one, he was excellent at turning it around on me. He would never admit that he was an abuser. They don't think they are. It's all subconscious. They will try to logically explain their ridiculousness. And it used to drive me actually insane how he twisted everything and painted me as the crazy one. Ugh-I'm getting mad talking about it! He went around and told all of his friends and mine that I was crazy when all I did was stand up for myself and end the cycle of abuse.
And sure, people get comfortable with each other and those first sparks fade a little, but you guys aren't even married yet! What the heck, you're getting the short end of the stick here. Relationships evolve and change but he still has to put the work in. Marriage is work. If he thinks he "has" you- he is mistaken. That's not how this works. Marriage is 100/100 not 50/50 because both partners should put their total effort into it. (yes, I know that's tacky but I like it )
P.S- It's so sweet that you're replying to everyone. You're obviously a kind person who deserves to be treated better.

I've been reading this post and it's wonderful to see the outpouring of support for your situation. It sounds like, from this post, that you've decided to maybe book the ticket and give it a shot?
As a person who was emotionally manipulated in the past, I know exactly how you feel. He was so great in the beginning, right? It was easy to trust him and you fell hard and fast. He changed and you're confused as to who the "real" him is. Is he the sweet, loving, attentive guy you met at the beginning? Or is he a lazy, manipulative abuser who makes everything your fault when you know deep down it's not. I've been there. I didn't listen to the advice of my friends or even a forum I posted on about it. I didn't think anyone could offer me any advice because they didn't know the "real" him. I don't know if you will listen. If you're like I was, you won't. You'll go, it'll be an amazing 2 weeks because he's got you now, directly in his control. He can sweep you off your feet again and make you feel like this was the right decision. But then, after you've married, maybe after you're pregnant, he'll show his true colors once again. You'll be heartbroken with no job, no security, and no foreseeable way out.
I've seen it so many times and I was a victim myself. Please listen to the awesome advice here and don't go. He's controlling you from afar and he can do it better in person. I didn't think I could ever move on, but I met an amazing man who loves and respects me. Now I'm happily married to the right person. Someone who doesn't need to "change" or "be fixed." Trust me, this guy is not your project and shouldn't be. It's not possible to change someone. They have to want to change on their own.
Best of luck with whatever you decide. Remember that if you do decide to go, you'll make yourself extremely vulnerable to being caught up in the romance of seeing each other again. You can only think rationally by staying in France. Congrats on your promotion. Remember that if he really loved you and wanted to be with you, he'd move heaven and earth to do so. He should have no problem moving to France. Ce n'est pas difficile d'apprendre la langue!
Sending my thoughts and prayers your way in this tough time.

I've been reading this post and it's wonderful to see the outpouring of support for your situation. It sounds like, from this post, that you've decided to maybe book the ticket and give it a shot?
As a person who was emotionally manipulated in the past, I know exactly how you feel. He was so great in the beginning, right? It was easy to trust him and you fell hard and fast. He changed and you're confused as to who the "real" him is. Is he the sweet, loving, attentive guy you met at the beginning? Or is he a lazy, manipulative abuser who makes everything your fault when you know deep down it's not. I've been there. I didn't listen to the advice of my friends or even a forum I posted on about it. I didn't think anyone could offer me any advice because they didn't know the "real" him. I don't know if you will listen. If you're like I was, you won't. You'll go, it'll be an amazing 2 weeks because he's got you now, directly in his control. He can sweep you off your feet again and make you feel like this was the right decision. But then, after you've married, maybe after you're pregnant, he'll show his true colors once again. You'll be heartbroken with no job, no security, and no foreseeable way out.
I've seen it so many times and I was a victim myself. Please listen to the awesome advice here and don't go. He's controlling you from afar and he can do it better in person. I didn't think I could ever move on, but I met an amazing man who loves and respects me. Now I'm happily married to the right person. Someone who doesn't need to "change" or "be fixed." Trust me, this guy is not your project and shouldn't be. It's not possible to change someone. They have to want to change on their own.
Best of luck with whatever you decide. Remember that if you do decide to go, you'll make yourself extremely vulnerable to being caught up in the romance of seeing each other again. You can only think rationally by staying in France. Congrats on your promotion. Remember that if he really loved you and wanted to be with you, he'd move heaven and earth to do so. He should have no problem moving to France. Ce n'est pas difficile d'apprendre la langue!
Sending my thoughts and prayers your way in this tough time.

I've been reading this post and it's wonderful to see the outpouring of support for your situation. It sounds like, from this post, that you've decided to maybe book the ticket and give it a shot?
As a person who was emotionally manipulated in the past, I know exactly how you feel. He was so great in the beginning, right? It was easy to trust him and you fell hard and fast. He changed and you're confused as to who the "real" him is. Is he the sweet, loving, attentive guy you met at the beginning? Or is he a lazy, manipulative abuser who makes everything your fault when you know deep down it's not. I've been there. I didn't listen to the advice of my friends or even a forum I posted on about it. I didn't think anyone could offer me any advice because they didn't know the "real" him. I don't know if you will listen. If you're like I was, you won't. You'll go, it'll be an amazing 2 weeks because he's got you now, directly in his control. He can sweep you off your feet again and make you feel like this was the right decision. But then, after you've married, maybe after you're pregnant, he'll show his true colors once again. You'll be heartbroken with no job, no security, and no foreseeable way out.
I've seen it so many times and I was a victim myself. Please listen to the awesome advice here and don't go. He's controlling you from afar and he can do it better in person. I didn't think I could ever move on, but I met an amazing man who loves and respects me. Now I'm happily married to the right person. Someone who doesn't need to "change" or "be fixed." Trust me, this guy is not your project and shouldn't be. It's not possible to change someone. They have to want to change on their own.
Best of luck with whatever you decide. Remember that if you do decide to go, you'll make yourself extremely vulnerable to being caught up in the romance of seeing each other again. You can only think rationally by staying in France. Congrats on your promotion. Remember that if he really loved you and wanted to be with you, he'd move heaven and earth to do so. He should have no problem moving to France. Ce n'est pas difficile d'apprendre la langue!
Sending my thoughts and prayers your way in this tough time.

People fail all the time. Don't worry. I failed my first test too. I also had an unkind examiner who was vague. I should have asked him to clarify what he meant, but I was nervous. Don't be afraid to ask questions if you don't understand what they ask of you!
The day I failed I went home and scheduled another one at a different location --I suggest you do the same! I passed with a much nicer examiner. Good luck!

Can you move your date? What exactly is holding you to this October wedding? I made the same mistake, but I made sure that all my vendors were aware of the situation and all of them allowed me to move the date with no penalty. My October wedding is now a May wedding. Have you talked to your vendors? They're much more likely to be flexible now as opposed to a month before the wedding day.

I disagree that they should do away with K-1's. My husband and I chose the K-1 because I didn't want to marry him, go home, and be separated from my new husband for a year. Sure, it's equally difficult to be away from a loved one whether you're married or not. But something about having to be separated and not able to be true "newlyweds" just didn't sit well with me. They should absolutely make both the i-130 and i-129f process faster. It's insane how long people have to be apart from their partners/family.

I disagree that they should do away with K-1's. My husband and I chose the K-1 because I didn't want to marry him, go home, and be separated from my new husband for a year. Sure, it's equally difficult to be away from a loved one whether you're married or not. But something about having to be separated and not able to be true "newlyweds" just didn't sit well with me. They should absolutely make both the i-130 and i-129f process faster. It's insane how long people have to be apart from their partners/family.

I disagree that they should do away with K-1's. My husband and I chose the K-1 because I didn't want to marry him, go home, and be separated from my new husband for a year. Sure, it's equally difficult to be away from a loved one whether you're married or not. But something about having to be separated and not able to be true "newlyweds" just didn't sit well with me. They should absolutely make both the i-130 and i-129f process faster. It's insane how long people have to be apart from their partners/family.

I disagree that they should do away with K-1's. My husband and I chose the K-1 because I didn't want to marry him, go home, and be separated from my new husband for a year. Sure, it's equally difficult to be away from a loved one whether you're married or not. But something about having to be separated and not able to be true "newlyweds" just didn't sit well with me. They should absolutely make both the i-130 and i-129f process faster. It's insane how long people have to be apart from their partners/family.

I disagree that they should do away with K-1's. My husband and I chose the K-1 because I didn't want to marry him, go home, and be separated from my new husband for a year. Sure, it's equally difficult to be away from a loved one whether you're married or not. But something about having to be separated and not able to be true "newlyweds" just didn't sit well with me. They should absolutely make both the i-130 and i-129f process faster. It's insane how long people have to be apart from their partners/family.

As many others have suggested, do not make concrete plans until you have the visa. I set a tentative date for October 2014. My fiancé arrived in the US last Friday and we're getting married on Sunday. You never know what kind of setbacks you'll encounter. I, like you, was very optimistic. My advice is to not get your hopes up. I thought October was safe too. It might be for you, but there's no way of knowing and not worth the added stress.
Good luck!

As many others have suggested, do not make concrete plans until you have the visa. I set a tentative date for October 2014. My fiancé arrived in the US last Friday and we're getting married on Sunday. You never know what kind of setbacks you'll encounter. I, like you, was very optimistic. My advice is to not get your hopes up. I thought October was safe too. It might be for you, but there's no way of knowing and not worth the added stress.
Good luck!

As many others have suggested, do not make concrete plans until you have the visa. I set a tentative date for October 2014. My fiancé arrived in the US last Friday and we're getting married on Sunday. You never know what kind of setbacks you'll encounter. I, like you, was very optimistic. My advice is to not get your hopes up. I thought October was safe too. It might be for you, but there's no way of knowing and not worth the added stress.
Good luck!

Did you apply for EAD and AP in your husband's paperwork? If so, you'll receive your work authorization probably pretty soon.
Yes, the AOS is for the green card. This could take 6 months or more, so that's why people apply for EAD and AP so they can work/leave the country.

I think a big part of the problem is as soon as people get their NOA2 and their process does start moving, they give up on the cause! That's why there's no push for immigration reform. Everyone is whining and complaining but when that NOA2 comes, it's all butterflies and rainbows
If we really want to change the system, we need to stand up for everyone going through the process. Sadly, most people are concerned with their own timelines. There's so much focus on illegal immigration in this country, we need to remind our government that legal immigration needs attention!

That "preferentially treated Phillippine" member filed before the expedite which was issued after the typhoon in Nov 2013. I've been where you are and I know it's really tough, but no need to attack others who are sharing in your pain/misfortune.
It'll be interesting to see how Obama's immigration plan will affect legal immigration. My guess is it won't be good. Those 5 million illegals will need paperwork- and guess who process all that paperwork--pushing our AOS's and legal petitions back even more. I hope I'm wrong but we will see!
Did you contact your congressperson? Mine was great and really helpful. We got our approval about a month after I contacted them. They work for you, it's worth a shot.

That "preferentially treated Phillippine" member filed before the expedite which was issued after the typhoon in Nov 2013. I've been where you are and I know it's really tough, but no need to attack others who are sharing in your pain/misfortune.
It'll be interesting to see how Obama's immigration plan will affect legal immigration. My guess is it won't be good. Those 5 million illegals will need paperwork- and guess who process all that paperwork--pushing our AOS's and legal petitions back even more. I hope I'm wrong but we will see!
Did you contact your congressperson? Mine was great and really helpful. We got our approval about a month after I contacted them. They work for you, it's worth a shot.

That "preferentially treated Phillippine" member filed before the expedite which was issued after the typhoon in Nov 2013. I've been where you are and I know it's really tough, but no need to attack others who are sharing in your pain/misfortune.
It'll be interesting to see how Obama's immigration plan will affect legal immigration. My guess is it won't be good. Those 5 million illegals will need paperwork- and guess who process all that paperwork--pushing our AOS's and legal petitions back even more. I hope I'm wrong but we will see!
Did you contact your congressperson? Mine was great and really helpful. We got our approval about a month after I contacted them. They work for you, it's worth a shot.

People in the restaurant industry really have it tough. My cousin gave up being a chef because of the hours. It's a very difficult career. If he's open to a career change, I think that would help a lot. He's not too old for school! It sounds like you're encouraging him and being very supportive. Keep encouraging him to follow his interests and apply for positions that intrigue him. National guard is a pretty big commitment though. If you can find out what appeals to him specifically about it, maybe you can suggest similar jobs based on that.
Do you have a good set of snow tires? I just bought some so we can both feel safer when my fiance gets here. I learned to drive first in the snow- it's tough but just remember if you can drive in these conditions, you can drive any time, so it's probably best to learn snow first! I suggest taking him to an empty parking lot when it snows so he can feel how the car handles; my dad and I did this when I was learning.
I think he'll feel better when he has the independence of his own car and license. Hopefully that will make him feel comfortable enough to change jobs. So, I'd focus on the license first.
Quick personal note: my fiance and I are both concerned about this issue when he gets here. The advice on here is very helpful and I plan to take some of your ideas to help my fiance feel more comfortable here- so thank you for sharing.