QueenComley

I don't know if these issues with your husband are due to him having corona virus cabin fever or if this was happening prior to the pandemic. I am lucky that both myself and my husband are essential workers, but I have a 17 year old daughter who is a living hell right now due to the corona virus. We are on lock down in Mississippi starting tomorrow for 2 weeks and she just about lost her darn mind. I would liken it to something from the exorcist, only 100 times worse. 

If this is an ongoing issue prior to recent events, marriage therapy may be an option, but ultimately if this is something you can not foresee yourself having to deal with any longer than of course divorce is another option. Only you can decide how you would like to proceed.

1 hour ago, WaterLeaf said:

You can find a temp job until your job in particular comes back. Better than nothing I guess. Just for trying.

I don't know if it varying state to state, but here in Mississippi Walmart, Kroger and other store chains are begging for temp workers during the pandemic. They are hiring on the spot more or less. Just something to consider OP.  

Just now, BrianUSA said:

Who are they?

A couple from the reality TV show 90 day fiancé. 

Buy her 2 new suitcases when you arrive

I come from a country where health care if FREE so moving here and seeing how much healthcare cost was a complete shock for me!!!

For my husband to add me to his insurance would cost him an additional $400 a month - He only pays $50 a month for himself - Its crazy.

I have a Humana plan luckily through my work now. I pay $200 a month towards it and my employer pays the other $200. I also have teledoc, but a ridiculously high deductible.

A recluse spider bite cost me and ER visit and even with insurance I had to pay close to $5000. Im still paying off the darn bill. But without insurance I would of been in a financial mess.

I have hated spiders ever since.

20 hours ago, SusieQQQ said:

You missed my point, but I get that it’s often hard for people from places like the U.K. to comprehend that there are countries that make the US look like a far safer option, never mind the better education opportunities etc. There are reasons many people actually send their children to the US while they stay behind and it’s not because they don’t care about the children. Anyway OP has already said that they’ll move there if necessary. 

 20 years ago I was married to an Albanian, and moved there. The toilet was a hole in the floor, cold water to bathe - if there was any water, and barley no electric, not to mention women were treated appallingly. I understand the huge struggle to give up things we take for granted every day and chose, out of love, to move and to live surrounded by terrible poverty. It was many moons ago, and despite the terrible living conditions Albania itself is a beautiful county. And it certainly was an experience.

On 8/24/2019 at 9:26 PM, SusieQQQ said:

That's easy to say when you live in a first world country. Very different when you don't.

Not easy at all. I still had to leave my loved ones and life behind just like many others. The fact remains there is a child involved where bio mom will not give consent to let said child move  to America. If OP wants to be with her fiancé I stand by what I say. Kids come first. OP already owns a property in DR with her spouse. If she wants to have her step-daughter with her permanently, then right now a move to the DR seems the only option available.

1 minute ago, jeanita68 said:

Thank you! Seeing how much my husband loves that lil girl makes me love him even more. He wouldn’t never leave her so this is hard for us right now, we discussing all possibilities. But under no circumstances will he leave her and neither will I. I love that little girl like she is my own she is apart of my life, and if moving to DR comes sooner than later than it shall be. 

You've got this  😊 Wishing you and your little family all the best!

2 minutes ago, Jorgedig said:

Not sure if the OP also has kids, but when both partners do (as in my case), it is not so clear cut.

Very true... 

10 minutes ago, QueenComley said:

When it comes to immigration, deciding who makes the move is clear cut to me where children are concerned. You move to where the child is. I never dreamt of leaving the UK. I grew up in the same town all my life surrounded by all my family and life long friends. My husband had 2 children when I met him.. No brainer. I gave up my home, a great job in Human Resources, and moved to America. You said yourself you have brought a home together in DR, Mom wont let your step-daughter live in America. You will have her grandmother with you for help and support. The child's only real life long stability has been her grandmother. There is only one solution in my eyes, kids come first. You need to move to DR.

You sound like you are a wonderful step-mommy to this little girl, and moving is hella scary, but I see this as an only option. I have been step-momma for over 8 years now and I don't regret the move for a single second. Those kids are the reason I live and breathe. If you ever need another step-mom to chat to please inbox me.

No such thing as a 5 year green card. After his two year conditional green card expires it is renewed with his permanent 10 year green card.

BOTH ESTAS APPROVED 😊

2 minutes ago, geowrian said:

It happens every so often. Be patient.

Thank you! Mum's came back with the same result which made me feel better. I always do their ESTAS's and pay for them. I think the whole process would confuse them TBH. 

My Mum and Dad are visiting next month and are Appling for their Esta's. My Dad's  application says its pending and a result will be given within 72 hrs. We have never had this happen before. Is this normal? My mum and dad visit every 3 years for 2 weeks and this is a first.

@Boiler how was he never on their radar though? can anyone lie on their esta and get in to the united states with a criminal background and not get stopped? I thought a more thorough background check would be done on anyone visiting the USA.

3 minutes ago, Boiler said:

You can contact ICE via email at Immigration.Reply@dhs.gov or you can telephone ICE at 1-866-347-2423.

Thank you - It is something we have discussed but did not know the right contacts to do this

I live just a short distance from Graceland. Me and my husband recently got chatting to a tourist visiting here from the UK. I mentioned in conversation that my parents were visiting in July for 2 weeks and that I need to apply for the ESTA's soon. and the guy's response stunned us. He said that he had criminal convictions in the UK for cocaine charges and also assault charges, but lied on his ESTA about them, stating he had no criminal history. Im shocked that his ESTA was approved with one tap of a button and his criminal history was never tracked or picked up as he was entering the USA. Surly its not that easy to lie and get away with it? Also, who would you report such fraud to in an instance like this? Me and my husband are baffled that he got away with this.

23 hours ago, John501 said:

Is there anyway to message me his info? 

I have messaged you - good luck!

Memphis was my local office. If you do end up needing a Lawyer inbox me. I used one as did my husband. He certainly would not charge you the prices others have given you. 

2 hours ago, Julia80 said:

That’s not fair to say, in fact it’s quite a horrible thing to say. Just because you love your spouse and chose to move countries doesn’t mean that you miss your family any less. I am extremely close to my sister and not seeing her is so upsetting. I can’t wait for when my AP is here so I can go and give my sister a cuddle.  It doesn’t mean the K1 wasn’t “right for me”. 

 

I can fully understand your desire to be able to visit your family. AP will allow that. You just have to wait it out. Keep

strong, it will be worth it. 

I think you may have attached your reply to the wrong comment as the one you have responded to was of no offence at all, which was:

You may want to remove your original post or respond to the correct comment you were aiming at

1 minute ago, rose.rose said:

I see its not against the law to cheat in California, 

What is California law about cheating ?

I was just responding to your question above. There is no law. Because it is not against the law. As I previously stated, divorce and move on.

Its not against the law to cheat. Its hurtful, but not illegal. The ball is in your court with what you chose to do about his cheating. Stay and put up with it, or divorce and move on.

10 hours ago, Emmah1979 said:

I’m sorry but when did I ask if they guarantee a visa? Not what I asked at all..... making me feel awful right now and it’s like I asked about that. Not at all..  I just wanted to know if it was a scam and thanks for the replies and yes I understand I don’t want to be throwing money around and we will do this ourselves 

This is your own personal journey so do what is best for you. I actually hired an immigration attorney and paid the extra $$$. Why? I suffer with acute severe anxiety and this took pressure off my shoulders. Also certain legal issues cropped up during our visa process that we would not have been prepared for or foreseen so my Immigration attorney was a god send and I have recommended him to  many people since.