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You can petition as LPR but just a little longer than USC. 

I am sorry to hear about this. When I moved here and started acting up, my husband sat me down and told me straight that if I didn't start communicating how I feel and stop acting up, he doesn't see us lasting. That woke me up and started to change instead of being moody and not talking about how I feel, I started to communicate better. If you haven't tried that maybe you could, she might wake up too and if she indeed love you she will make the effort, if she didn't care, then time to move on. You can file for divorce and she will have to move back to her country. You are not tied with the AOS yet too since you do not seem to have filed it yet.
 
 

I have not tried this but is there any particular reason why you wanted the one from the Philippines? Birth control pills here are effective as the one's we have there and fully covered by insurance.(At least mine are).

Yes you can. My husband added me so we have had joint since then. 

Yes you can. My husband added me so we have had joint since then. 

We got married in the Philippines too and we were able to request an expedite for extra 2500 PHP and received our marriage certificate in less than a month. With regard to her name, the question is, will she follow the Philippine way or the American way? We were able to start the petition with my married name after getting the marriage certificate. My passport and other government ids were updated later. Then you can decide whether she change it here or in the Philippines.
 
In addition to the above information, if she waits till she gets here, then she will have to go to SSA to update her name, her Philippine passport as well as her GC to her married name (your last name).
 
Also, you can submit a copy of the LCR for your initial evidence. The NSO copy can come after. The interview won't be in three months so you will have time for the NSO copy to come.

We got married in the Philippines too and we were able to request an expedite for extra 2500 PHP and received our marriage certificate in less than a month. With regard to her name, the question is, will she follow the Philippine way or the American way? We were able to start the petition with my married name after getting the marriage certificate. My passport and other government ids were updated later. Then you can decide whether she change it here or in the Philippines.
 
In addition to the above information, if she waits till she gets here, then she will have to go to SSA to update her name, her Philippine passport as well as her GC to her married name (your last name).
 
Also, you can submit a copy of the LCR for your initial evidence. The NSO copy can come after. The interview won't be in three months so you will have time for the NSO copy to come.

You can petition as LPR but just a little longer than USC. 

People has different views in having kids as we all know and if both of you doesn't want one then I don't think it is a good idea. If she is not into having kids, I would say think about the reason you married her, is having kids the most important reason as to why you married or you married just because you wanted to be together? My husband and I have that topic talked about before we got married, the real reason we got married. This is just us but we came up to the decision that having kids is a bonus but it shouldn't make or break our relationship. We were both in our 20s then and now in our 30s and we still feel the same way. If you are not on the same page in having a kid or kids, I don't think it is a good idea to have one with her. Just my 2c's.

People has different views in having kids as we all know and if both of you doesn't want one then I don't think it is a good idea. If she is not into having kids, I would say think about the reason you married her, is having kids the most important reason as to why you married or you married just because you wanted to be together? My husband and I have that topic talked about before we got married, the real reason we got married. This is just us but we came up to the decision that having kids is a bonus but it shouldn't make or break our relationship. We were both in our 20s then and now in our 30s and we still feel the same way. If you are not on the same page in having a kid or kids, I don't think it is a good idea to have one with her. Just my 2c's.

People has different views in having kids as we all know and if both of you doesn't want one then I don't think it is a good idea. If she is not into having kids, I would say think about the reason you married her, is having kids the most important reason as to why you married or you married just because you wanted to be together? My husband and I have that topic talked about before we got married, the real reason we got married. This is just us but we came up to the decision that having kids is a bonus but it shouldn't make or break our relationship. We were both in our 20s then and now in our 30s and we still feel the same way. If you are not on the same page in having a kid or kids, I don't think it is a good idea to have one with her. Just my 2c's.

My husband believed that we'll have a better life here at least during our working years and return to the PH once we're ready to retire. He didn't think he would be able to get a good paying job in my country which can support a family with a comfy life style.

Before I moved here, I had a talk with my mother in law and she was worried that I will just leave once I get my green card. She said it nicely like a worried mother. But that was just once and was never brought up after. My husband said they like me and they appreciate that I remember to greet the on their birthdays and for my mom-in law and his grandma on mother's day. I tried to talk to them before we even got married so they are no longer much in a doubt that I will do such thing. If it hasn't been tried, maybe your wife can also reach out to your mom. It is always nice if they can get a long and like each other and doesn't have to really close friends. My husband's family is all I have here and it is less stressful if they like her. I would say, try to have your wife reach out. To give your mom an assurance that she's there not to take you away from her but to be part of the family. At least that's what I did. I always want to visit them so they won't feel I took her only son away. Now, whenever we're visiting, they are always excited to see and she even thank me for making her son very happy. My mom in-law is very outspoken and it is nice to hear that she is really warm and very welcoming and because of that, the whole family did the same.

Her family won't be able to do anything to stop her from doing what she wants. She seemed immature despite the fact that she already had a kid and married. If I was the husband, I would not prolong my agony. Even if you love her, she needs to learn tough love or she will just keep doing what she is doing. She won't survive with $10/hour. to think she's already 38 and she still act like that? Sometimes I really can't help but hate some of these attitude from my people.

We didn't talk about it too. Though now, we always joke about it. I haven't been homesick too. We got lucky.

Her family won't be able to do anything to stop her from doing what she wants. She seemed immature despite the fact that she already had a kid and married. If I was the husband, I would not prolong my agony. Even if you love her, she needs to learn tough love or she will just keep doing what she is doing. She won't survive with $10/hour. to think she's already 38 and she still act like that? Sometimes I really can't help but hate some of these attitude from my people.

Absolutely correct! It's not that I hate my own people but I'd rather hang out with my local friends. I learn more about the culture and doesn't give me headache about what they have that I don't have!

I know were is she coming from. Talking with other Filipinos sometimes doesn't help. Because all we do is brag about whatever we have which leads to envy and wanting more if someone told us about something that we don't have. But that doesn't mean that's right. When I feel this way, my husband just reminds me how happy are we, how I am loved by my in-laws and all our plans together. No one has everything. She's even lucky you are willing to take care of her daughter. For me that's a big deal. That person who can provide "more" might not even really provide more and she will just regret if she left you just because she wants more. If she wants more then she need to do something to have more. I hate to say this but it sucks seeing people like this. Always wanting to rely everything to other people instead of looking for ways to make her life better.
She''s not worth it.

Oh my! Lol. Philippines is more than double the count of the whole Africa.

Hi,
Within 90 days prior your 3rd year as a GC holder. If your conditional GC expiration date is April 1, 2016, then you will be eligible to apply within 90 days prior April 1, 2017. 3 years as a GC holder if you are currently married to the same USC or 5 years GC holder if unmarried to a USC (divorced/ family visas or other immigrant visas).

After years of fighting, proving that we merit a refund, USCIS has finally issued a refund to our second petition. Anyone who are on the same boat, keep track of all your conversations with them, support your statements with dates and name of the person you spoke with and don't forget to involved the Ombudsman!
Happy new year to us!

Well, first of, she does really seem to have a problem however, you are trying to keep her with what she wants to do. She wanted to work, let her work but also let her share expenses in the house. that's what I would do if I am in your situation. If you want to try that at least, try to meet half-way. Try to think too, why does she no longer listen to you? Did you ever have a heart to heart with her that if we didn't work together you might not work? Obviously, she cares too much for her family in the Philippines, more than he cares for you but try to show her the importance of your existence. Easy to say but tough love will be useful but if she responded as if she doesn't care if her kid will have a broken family, then let go. Don't prolong your agony.

I don't mean to offend anyone in any way but I guess, the lady who worked as a nanny has been in a really bad situation before going to SG. If she was not, I wouldn't think she would want to work as a nanny. Anyway, she probably found someone who is willing to spend money without her working and he is too in love to give her tough love. She knows he is always there for her which is good but it tend to look like an abuse if she can't find a job. I always tell my husband that in the PH, if you want, you can get a job. There are a lot of companies to work for as long as you are not hoping to get the highest paid and I am talking about decent jobs. Too many factories hiring people with no experience young and old, with pleasant personality and not so so. I would not complain about not having enough if I am not doing anything to have enough. If she doesn't have the will to make her living situation better, then there is nothing that the OP can do. She's an adult, probably born and raise in the PH so she should have an idea how to have a better life with so much help. I am the pinay but I hate to say it that sometimes, Filipino mentality about relying on someone to better your life is annoying. It makes me happy thinking that my kid will grow up here having that independent mentality that most people here have.

I don't mean to offend anyone in any way but I guess, the lady who worked as a nanny has been in a really bad situation before going to SG. If she was not, I wouldn't think she would want to work as a nanny. Anyway, she probably found someone who is willing to spend money without her working and he is too in love to give her tough love. She knows he is always there for her which is good but it tend to look like an abuse if she can't find a job. I always tell my husband that in the PH, if you want, you can get a job. There are a lot of companies to work for as long as you are not hoping to get the highest paid and I am talking about decent jobs. Too many factories hiring people with no experience young and old, with pleasant personality and not so so. I would not complain about not having enough if I am not doing anything to have enough. If she doesn't have the will to make her living situation better, then there is nothing that the OP can do. She's an adult, probably born and raise in the PH so she should have an idea how to have a better life with so much help. I am the pinay but I hate to say it that sometimes, Filipino mentality about relying on someone to better your life is annoying. It makes me happy thinking that my kid will grow up here having that independent mentality that most people here have.

My husband has been using xoom.com since 2008 and I have been using it since I got here almost 2 years now. They have a flat rate fee and you will be using your checking/savings for $4.99 or debit card for a little higher fee.