Natsukiii

WOW so we are advocating that the VISA is the golden ticket and whether the US citizen wants you or not come on over because well it’s okay really.
Do we even know the whole story? Sorry to play devil’s advocate here. But I have issue with someone saying “I have my own money and I have friends in US”. So what bump the US citizen who is on the hook for your butt. Seems you already have your plan laid out and could careless whether he “comes around” or not. Really?
If this was a K1 person and they said he or she broke up with me but I am coming (It was posted here 2 weeks ago). She was jumped on with all 4’s . How dare she come here when she wasn’t wanted. Why would she come if she wasn’t wanted. Yet here you go promoting someone come here, live where they want, do what they want.
I thought it was a spousal Visa. Meaning you are coming to live with the spouse.
A visa should be the LAST thing you should be focused on. Your marriage should be first and foremost. Damn the Visa. Good grief.

Where will you live? How will you make money? What will you do when you land in the US?
Better to work on your marital problems than hop on a plane to the US with a toddler and nowhere to go and no money to eat.

Probably due to all the a-holes they have to deal with every day.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to obtain legal counsel for yourself. None of us here on VJ can give you any legal advise. That said, technically you committed fraud as well when you married him under the circumstances you described. However, as you feel you were coerced, the courts and/or ICE may not push that. You NEED to talk to a knowledgeable attorney to protect yourself. Also, please stop being a doormat to your husband. EDUCATE yourself on the ramifications of your actions regarding immigration and the proper ways to go about it. Stop being used and pushed around and for heaven's sake STOP listening to someone who clearly has no regard for you in the first place.

I am a strong believer in getting married in front of HER Family. Full on wedding. That is what we did. It was the best experience of my life. We did not do a church wedding, but a civil ceremony officiated by a the City Engineer of Marikina City who is also a minister. I can truly say that the wedding ceremony itself would not have been duplicated in the USA, not even close. The reception likewise. Do it there. 25 years from now you'll look back on it and agree.
Remember also that your Philippine Marriage Contract will require a minimum 10 day waiting period. Church weddings can take longer. Plan ahead.

Are you an expedite case because of typhoon Yolanda? If not, you do not schedule your appointment NVC does that for you.
The number you would need to do this BTW is the MNL # , and you get that number from NVC.

Kinda been thru what your going thru........
K-1 if it is denied for any reason you cant fight
Marriage visa you have a lot more options if something goes wrong at embassy stage and its cheaper............
we married in January of this year in Egypt for his family to be able to be there...........my brother and mom also attended gave the in-laws a chance to meet and also gave the in-laws the chance to see what kind of women i am and the family values we have by them seeing my brother and mom interact with them in private and in public.
we will have another wedding when he comes to the USA for family and friends that could not attend the Egypt wedding
after being burned years ago on k-1 for someone else i totally believe that marriage visa is worth the extra few months that it takes........plus by giving into the womens parents request you are showing a lot of respect for her family and that is always a plus
just my opinion
sara

Seriously, can we stop generalizing and attacking nations/people? It's really unbecoming. OP, Like others have said, if Bob's wife stays out of the country for more than one year or if she takes up residence in another country then the USCIS will consider her LPR status abandoned then he will have nothing to worry about. Aaron2020's advice is the most astute, however.

Yes If u email USEM and was authorized then you can schedule the earlier appointment date. Yes once your ceas status change to READY at least 3 days from today it will change.. I tracked it here
http://www.dhl.com/en/express/tracking/shippers_reference.html
Then shipper's reference use EXP 25 FEB 2014A
Then date from use 25 02 2014
Then date to use 27 02 2014
Destination Philippines
There you go... But currently you can use the WAYBILL # as your tracking number... Good luck guys!
Or you can check the early appointment date here and you can set your new appointment date if you wish to.
https://cgifederal.secure.force.com

Common sense isn't that common anymore.

Common sense isn't that common anymore.

Common sense isn't that common anymore.

Common sense isn't that common anymore.

Common sense isn't that common anymore.

Common sense isn't that common anymore.

A 23 year old immigrant who has been here for only one year is not fully integrated and it takes time to get on your feet.
If he would not live there the old grumpy guy would not have had help with the trees and everything else.
Here we go again with the mentality of how hard can an old man hit ! Ridiculous.
Other cultures have an extended family living together helping each other out. Stop being so dang closed minded saying he has no
business living with his mother and step dad, the old guy brought him over only a year ago so let him give enough time to get on his feet for Pete's sake and yes, he did explain why his Mom and siblings consider moving out. Read the posts again.
If the USC can't handle the stress of bringing the kids here he should not have petitioned them. Period.
He is off his a__ and is working and giving the old fart $500 monthly and you didn't read that either did you !
You are calling him a parasite.....for what ?! He is contributing by working at a job, giving $500 monthly and helping around the house.
No, he did not cause this problem, his step dad's terrible temper did.
Man, I can't believe these comments here.

Normally CR-1 are scheduled by NVC (they don't get to schedule their own), I would guess they share the same calendar dates being the K-1 is processed by the Immigration unit at the embassy.

Thanks.
No one, should endure the pain I am feeling. I wish everyone to be happy with their lives and live everyday happy with their significant other. Do it for me.
thanks again everyone.

Hi ema and Jin!
I read your previous post and i pasted it below,
Posted 04 February 2014 - 04:36 AM
To the OP: my case was expedited from NVC as well. I paid all the AOS/IV fees online and my wife also completed the DS-260 online. NVC received my Affidavit of Support documents and my wife's documents last Friday. How long does it typically take them to ship the case to the Embassy?
Thanks and keep us updated about your medical exam!
Justin
With this regards, i know that you are waiting for your file to be transfered to USEM right? Same with mine guys, my papers was not transfered to USEM when NVC recvd all they need from us and what i did i called them feb 3 and told them that my file is under expeditious process and it should be tansfered to USEM as soon possible. And the operator was not aware and what she she did she put me on hold and then she get back to me ans told me that her supervisor will review the file and request for it to be sent to USEM. And i told the lady that they should forward it to manila now coz the consule or embassy is waiting for it. And she said her supervisor will take care of it since she have no right to rush it. Then i asked her that your supervisor will forward it to USEM as soon as possible right for expeditious process? And she said YES! Then the following day feb 4 i rcvd an e-mail that our file will be forwarded to USEM that day and further questions should be directed to USEM..
Guys you should call them now before you wait for long. Remember your case status is under expeditious processing. Remind them guys... Just wanna help you guys.. Good luck to all of us! God bless...

Very cool! Hopefully soon you will be at the scheduling stage... then soon together!!

How do you know its random? In addition to the NBC and NVC, there are four service centers. Everyone is processed (per visa type) in the order i comes in. There are over 400,000 CR1/IR1 applicants out there....then theres everyone else. Our applications require the most time and effort, and in this particular line are unfortunately way too many people who didn't study the process and/or didn't prepare nor send all of their supporting documents with their petitions, who are now getting RFE's, and there are alot of folks out there all over the world who have special circumstances that require more time attention. If we're all in the same lines, the people in front of you or I might be those people. It is what it is unfortunately. Trust that once your I-130 is approved, this happens very very quickly. Try to stay focused in preparing paperwork for everything thats ahead of you because the timeline going forward really for the most part, will be set by how quickly you turn documents back around. Just my opinion. Oh and one more note....remember that the USCIS website falls short of being kept up so timelines seem to be off. And keep in mind that VJ is one of many Immigration blog type sites.....in the grand scheme, we are a drop in the bucket!

It amazes me how people try to interpret an agency. Not one person out here who isn't on the inside of this organization can make foolish statements on how or why applications get processed. It is pure speculation based on very few samples with a small number of statistics of filiers who have decided to join this forum.
Until you are sitting in the meetings of the people that head this organization you have no idea how the process works and neither do I. As long as I have been in this forum the process, the people, the questions and the order of which applications are processed is relvolving. The same comments made today are the same comments made five years ago.
Everyone thinks they are standing in a line at Disneyland and they get to get on the ride next and everyone wants to be just as important as the next person. I salute you for a great reply JA_Martinez. To label the USCIS "Insufferably incompetent" is only because your patience is thin. the process does and will happen. Then you will never have time to be here whining again


Good Luck!

tuck4x4 you have mentioned she is educated, and has a degree.. maybe she wants to work?... just, please talk to your wife.. good/great communication is a key to a successful marriage

Tuck, I'll share my thoughts and personal experiences, but unfortunately it all comes down to the two of you. At the end of the day the TWO of you will make it work or you won;t. Nobody can do it for you.
Our first three months together were hell, the next three months were slightly less hellish. In the next thee months my wife asked how she can file for divorce. Twice my wife has taken herself to the airport. Marriage made in heaven right?
There is so much at play here that you have no idea about.
I do not subscribe to the idea these girls plan these things out. I think they have every intention of making a life with us. But, the reality of middle class life in the US is very different then they imagine it to be.
Those of us who like to travel and experience new cultures don;t realize how traumatic this move is for family based cultures. We live alone and like. Asians not so much. They love the family, social aspect of their life. Suddenly it's just the two of you. Face it your not that charming after a long day of work.
Most likely she is bored, lonely, and homesick. mostly homesick.
You also need to consider what is going on in the background with her family. Are they pressuring her for money? After all, now she has a rich American husband she should be building a new house for mom, buying motorbikes for her siblings, etc. If she is torn between her responsibility to her family and to you, who does she choose?
I am completely convinced my wife would have left in the first three months had it not been for a couple Thai girls here in town who knew exactly how to handle her. Finding that support system is crucial to the adjustment. You can tell her truths over and over, but they don;t ring true until she can hear it from her sisters. My wife thought I was lying about having to make a mortgage and car payment each month. When the Thai girls told her it was true, then she believed me. She couldn't understand how I could afford to stay in Thailand for months at a time, go out party, eat, tour, etc. but in the US I had to live on a budget. What really made it real for her was finding out the other girls work two or three jobs so they can have a house and car and "stuff".
My wife is very independent. She had her own business. Car, motorbike, etc. she could go and do as she pleases. Suddenly she is completely dependent on me for everything. money, food, transportation. I'm sure you don;t treat her like a slave, but she could easily feel like one.
When my wife asked to go back home for the umbteenth time. I said ok, but we have put so much time into this process please wait until the AP comes through otherwise it's a one way trip. I said the day you get the AP, if you still want to go home I will buy a ticket. The AP arrived, she put it on her wallet and she is still here.
Tuck, this process is much more difficult for her then it is for you. I'm sure there is more going on in the background then you are aware of. You have to be the better person here. Turn a blind ear to what she says and try to hang in there.
If she is intent on self pitty there isn;t a lot you can do. But Phils girls are by nature fun and light hearted. You just need to find that part of her again.
A few ideas:
Get a tablet for her
Set up a facebook account for her
Set up a skype account for her
Get her on the phone with her family
Get her access to native tv programing. Movies, tv shows, etc. If she spends all day looking at soaps, thats ok.
If she won;t go out to meet local Phils natives, ask a few to come to your house. They will know just how to handle her.
Give her an out. Do this and this for me, if you still want to go I will buy the ticket. Give her some control over her life.
*** Self serving Soapbox moment ***
For those of you who do not have a spouse from a poor country. Please refrain from comment like "she planned this" "this doesn't sound right" "she has an agenda" etc. If you come from a wealthy western country, you have a skill and a good job, you have no idea of the dynamics at play here. You need to spend time in these cultures to understand them. Our western morals and attitudes just don't fit in all situations. So please, be supportive and respectful. Give her the benefit of the doubt and let Tuck decide if she is genuine or not.
*** Stepping off soapbox ***