Maya&Matt

My husband is Latino and has two last names, I did not change my (one) last name when we got married.  It's never been an issue.  (Well my grandma still sends letters to us as Mr. & Mrs. [husband's first last name], but that just makes me laugh)
 
For simplicity reasons my husband normally just uses his first last name, which is customary anyways.  All his official documents have two last names, but library cards, business cards, etc just use his first last name.  In fact his credit card reads: "first name first initial, middle name first initial, first last name, second last name"  (like: E J Hernandez Aguilar)  I think it's widely known that Hispanics have two last names and is not a huge issue in the USA.  I am a teacher and I see some of my students hyphenate their last names, some use just one, and some have both last names listed separately.  It's really not an issue.
 
 
 
I have to wholeheartedly disagree with this.  Not only is it really not that big of a deal, it's also something worth dealing with in my opinion.  My names (first & last) are very uncommon in the USA and I have to spell them and pronounce them over and over again in any interaction.  I have done this my entire life.  But I will not change my name(s) because I identify with them and it's part of who I am.  To me, it's worth the minor hassle.  OP wants her last names back.  I'm sure her identity is more important than some minor inconveniences along the way.
 
(And while I'm supportive of you and Mrs. T-B's decision involving your last names, to call it "fortunate" is patronizing to those of us who chose to go a different route.  I have my reasons for keeping my last name and I'm sure Mrs. T-B had her reasons for wanting to change hers.)

Regardless of who can or can't or should or shouldn't file, I can't be the only one who feels for the child in all this. There seems to be a lot of baby-making going on without even knowing who the fathers of the children are. That's extremely sad. I suggest you seek help for why you felt the need to look elsewhere when you were already married and seriously think about whether you want to marry this woman who you don't even believe to be telling the truth regarding the paternity of her child. Thus second marriage looks just as doomed as the first.
It seems there is more focus on getting a green card for woman number 2 than building a stable family for the innocent child. The latter should be the priority.

And someone will ALWAYS assume that ladies are naive little creatures that need to be warned against evil cheating men. Trust me, I know what I am doing when I am betting on this horse.

We did not meet over the internet, but in person and then we kept talking onlin. After spending all that time with him, I am pretty certain of our relationship and how much money he spent on the divorce while he could have just as easily not divorce at all. Frankly, I think it is quite rude to assume this when you know nothing about our relationship.
But thanks for the insight

sounds a bit fishy to already be thinking about another marriage when your not even divorced yet

You'll need evidence of bona fide mariage while filing for 10 year green card. The process is called Removal of conditions (ROC). When you file for ROC you will get a divorce waiver to file singly and you have to provide evidence that your marriage was bona fide. Do a search on the forum for what kind of evidence you will require.
Marriage to another US citizen will not help you with your ROC application. You will still have to do it singly.
You are not even divorced, yet and you're already thinking about another marriage?

You only clear US Customs and Immigration if you are going to the US. You are going to Canada.

If you know where she is you need to go check her welfare dude. Seriously?

Not every form of studying requires a F1, ESL classes are an example that could well not.

So she delayed sending the documents for K1, she didn't bother to come pick you up on time at the airport and she treats you like #######? I'm sorry but this woman doesn't love you.

Man walk away, your wife clearly doesn't love you. Your problem is bigger than immigration issues. You live together just two months and have little intimacy,your wife is self centered,tell us a good thing about her and about your marriage because so far your marriage is a disaster.

Then she had no business getting married. Marriage is the joining of 2 lives and if she had no intention of doing that then she should have thought about that before saying I do. I'm so sorry this has happened to you.
Why would you have to pay her money if you wreck her car? That's what car insurance is for. She's wrong....yes USCs do do all of this. It's called marriage. Collect whatever you can. Does she care about you at all? Does she want you to stay? Good Luck.

Moonski - Eventhough its indicated a good sign but you should still go to interview and confirm with IO unless you have a letter from USCIS stated no need for an interview. At this point you don't want to miss any chances or surprises. You wouldn't want any bad news for not coming for an interview.

Not true. In many states permanent residents do not have to be here for any number of years to be eligible for Medicaid.

Sounds like this could be a blessing in disguise for you. For whatever reason it appears that he doesn't care about going forward with your immigration. Could be cold feet or it could be something else. To be that over the top for something trivial could also be a warning of things to come. Even if he does come around in the next day or so, it's still not a good sign that he behaves like that. Til death do you part is a long time to deal with someone like that.

Get a divorce. I have zero idea why you'd still be married to a man after spending 3 years on a couch.
Be happy you're not on the hook for the I-864 anymore.
Move on with your life. ASAP.

Unless you can prove that he forged your signature, which is fraud, there likely isn't much you can do against him.

Get a new friend?

You said you lived in Thailand for six years, was this with your now wife? Did you support her and her family during the relationship in Thailand, and with that I don't just mean cash in hand, support can also be buying a new couch, paying for medication or helping around the house?!
I have quite a few friends and colleagues from Asia, mainly Thailand, India, Pakistan and the Philippines, and culturally, families there are suppose to help and support each other. It's a much stronger cultural "demand" than what we're used to in most Western countries. And if your wife doesn't work right now, obviously, that expectation of support falls on the husband.
No offence OP but stories like yours are quite common, Western men marrying foreign women without understanding their culture and cultural expectations, then there's this clash and all of the sudden, the woman's accused of just being in it for the green card. I have a former Danish colleague who moved to the US years ago, everything was peachy until she got there and she wanted to continue her career and the American husband was expecting her to be a stay-at-home mum once they had kids. Their relationship ended six months later and all his family and friends went on and on about how she had only been after a green card, of course he wasn't at fault at all .
Honestly, I don't understand how things like these don't come up during the relationship and before the marriage. Like fundamental discussions about what you both want for the future, how you want to live, what are the expectations, how do you both look on finances, what does the foreign spouse want to do once he/she has moved to the US, where do you both want to live... Aren't these normal topics that come up in a relationship?!

Maybe she's issuing an ulimatum, fear, or homesickness response (perhaps family pressure) in response to his control issues?
Unless we hear the entire conversation we dont know! I'm sure my husband could easily put in snippets of our arguments and vice versa and have a forum in an uproar either way. But instead we work it out like married in love adults and communicate with each other.

It's just not how immigration operates. Consider this: you're upset and jealous that the Moroccan man liked your friend more than you and now has proposed marriage. To get back at her you report fraud. I know this is not the case, but how does USCIS know that?? Why should they take your word for it? Anyone could report anything. You need evidence and right now you don't have any. You don't even know for sure IF this is fraud. His feelings COULD be genuine.
Your veering off the path of concerned friend, which will likely drive that wedge into your friendship as some else stated. She's responsible for telling her family. She is a grown 29 year old woman. The choice is hers.

Someone who is not even willing to support removal of your conditions is not worth staying married to. The foundation of marriage is not slavery and threats.

It takes two people to save it unfortunately

Pull yourself together. "Missing the US so much that you can't hold out to February". My HUSBAND lives there and I can manage to follow the rules regarding visits. And I have to come back to work.
Are you "working" for this friend? What job does he do? What do you do in the house all day when he's out at work? He surely doesn't have as much time off as you?

Writing through my wife's account again--- I also want to add, that Africa is 54 nations and thousands of tribes within those nations. And even within those thousands of tribes there are millions of individual characters and traits. To label ALL OF AFRICA to say that "AFRICANS need this, and do that" is so disrespectful. And I thank God my wife refers to me as "her husband" --- and not "her African." smh My blood is boiling reading one posters use of "they do this and they do that" . And ENGLISH IS ENGLISH. If it does not sound like English to you, then I don't know what to tell you.

There is always more to a story than is shared. But at this point, when you capture someone hitting your child to the point where they limp for a few days, that's abuse. It's your job to move your child to safety and report the abuser immediately.
If you want to work on your marriage, I don't care but your child should not be suffering.