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Furthermore, when you bring someone to the States on a K1, you're telling USCIS that you are willing, ready and able to marry this person. That you are sure beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is the person you have every intention of marrying. So who is the fraud when you back out two weeks after his arrival??? K1's are not supposed to be used to bring someone to the States, to get to know them better and then decide if they are marrying material. I'm sure spending 90 days abroad getting to know someone is more expensive than staying in your own country (as she said, she had to pay for everything) but a K1 is not supposed to be a ticket awarded for a discounted means of being together trying to know if you're compatible or not. This is all nonsense and crazy how so many people are failing to see the real victim here.

That list is far from black and white. All someone has to do is go tell immigration that they're fiancé or spouse put them out of the house ...get a few friends to make statements, say the fiancé or spouse is not willing to adjust status, etc and boom ..VAWA case! the USC has no say in anything, they cant even dispute the allegations. I feel like the guy has some rights in this case. What has he done ? It's only been two weeks that he's been in the States, how do you even make any decision that it's not going to work that quickly. What expectations did she have for him since he's been here, that she feels he is not worth marrying now? My God, the guy is probably still in culture shock and now he's being kicked to the curb?. And sadly, look how many of us are here waiting and praying for our significant others to join us and this petition and interview was a wasted time that could've been spent on another case!

Why is it a scam when it was HER idea to stop the marriage, not his? If he was scamming don't you think he would have just left once he set foot on US soil? The couple spent literally 8 days together in real life before she shipped him over here. They didn't know each other, and when he moved here she realized they are not compatible. Tell me where the scam is? Has anyone thought about the beneficiary and how he gave up his life to move here? Show some compassion for the poor guy. She told him to hit road, of course he is going to want to go to his closest relative. What would you do if you were in a foreign country, knowing not one person and had this thrown at you?

I'm not sure why you think that the guy will be a danger to her. That's for her to figure out at the first place. Why you spent $$$ and time visiting him and his family and decided to not marry him later on??? What happened? Why you change your mind? Think abt him leaving his family and life behind for you, because you have promised him "AMERICA" then suddenly you let him down. Take a second to put yourself in his shoes. That's being mean, and as human being we are not supposed to treat each other like that. At least, give the guy an opportunity to have some legal document before letting him go, so he can get a job and a chance to meet someone else and start a new life.
Anyway,I might not have the best answer, but i think you are not playing fair. Maybe there are facts that we are missing and the other side of the story that he will not be able to tell us, therefore my judgement will be biased. And beside, i don't know your age, but this remind me my teenage years, where we were stupid and picky, and egoist, and narcissistic and Hitlerstic ( made up) and ,,,,,,, .
Good luck with your life by destroying other people's.

Why why WHY do you continue to think every single new immigrant is part of some scam? Seriously you need to stop! It was her decision to stop the marriage, not him. He gave up everything he knows to come here, and the OP never said a word about any type of abuse on either side. To the OP: you met him once for 8 days, even you said it was like a vacation. Did you think real life was going to be a vacation? The poor guy gave up everything he knows and loves to come here, I'm sure a lot of it is culture shock, being in different surroundings. You have no financial responsibility for him, and he has no legal basis to stay. You say you aren't stupid, but tell me what's smart about bringing someone you met for 8 days to live with you and your small daughters? There needs to be better guidelines for issuing k1 visas, there should be a minimum amount of face to face time required before K1 visas are issued. Casablanca consulate has no rhyme or reason, they deny married couples who have been together years, yet they seem to give out k1 visas like tic tacs.

You should have gotten to know him better before bringing him to the US, Im sorry to say, but it's true. Truthfully, you're not the victim here...he is. Unless, there is abuse or cheating or any other thing you're not telling us. But from what I can see, you brought him here....he gave up whatever he had going for himself in Morocco, left a familiar place full of family and friends...and now you're saying that you made a mistake and you don't want to marry him. You don't need to do anything, you've already done it...you gave him grounds for that VAWA stuff. A lot of men and women use it as a tool for staying in the country by making up lies that the spouse/fiancé kicked them out, wont adjust the status, etc. In this case...it would be totally valid if he went that route. I'm sorry your relationship was not all it seemed, but seeing someone face to face for 8 days and then deciding he's the person you will spend the rest of your life with is ridiculous in itself. Go to USCIS office, put in writing what your situation is so that they will document it, and move on with your life...do yourself a favor and dont' go meeting anyone else abroad and dragging them into this sort of indecisiveness. Thank God the person you brought to the States has somewhere else to go..imagine if he had nobody there when you came to your conclusion of not wanting him anymore.

Agree. Relationships require work and time. You hardly given it any time to make things work. The guy just left his entire life for you. Give him some credit.
To all the people who just want to ship him back: Even if he decides to go back home he is still allowed to go visit his brother and then leave. I would assume flights to and from Morocco are expensive so why not visit a brother while he is already here and then go home. Call me naïve, but that's how I see it.

Here's an idea. You have only given it a few weeks. Why not wait a bit longer see if things mesh. He has just given up his life and moved to a new country. The person you are seeing is not the person he is. He has a lot to adapt to right now. If he wants let him visit his brother for a few weeks then come back to you and see how things go. You are not married, you have 90 days to do so. Take your time and let the man get used to the change.

I'm surprised people are only talking in favor of the woman, forgetting the man involved too. Did the woman say the man has done something bad to her that she dislikes?
All because she filed for him, so she could just get up one morning and say i don't wanna be with you again so leave? She has the absolute right to do that, but VJers should analyze this issue well. At least you guys have to know what the guy has done because bringing out such harsh conclusions......

It's funny to me that everyone else in this thread is saying things like "don't let him come back to your house" when the OP is clearly at fault here (if her description of the situation is accurate). She brings this guy over and decides in a week and a half that they are not alike? And you are more worried about her?

Why did it even reach to this point before knowing who he really is, study the peeps you are around before making big decisions like this, sorry it had to go this way though.

Okay, first thing first. Your wife threaten to go home is a test (or at least that is what my wife did. She would just say, "I'll go back home." We had a major fight right around our first anniversary and she again threatened to go home. I looked up airfare and a RT ticket was not more expensive if I bought it for tomorrow or 3 months later. So I asked her if she was going home. She said "NO. I'll stay." Then I told her how close I was to sending her home. Once I called the bluff, it has not been used.) Most Kazakh women expect the man to be a MAN. So here is your chance.
I would tell them that the daughter can come over if that is what you wish. No guarantees on the BF. Should he still want to come to the US to study, HE must get a student visa. You might want to make the wife aware of the cost of things here in the US. College is not cheap nor is housing. Ask her where she and her daughter will get the $1000-$2000 per month for him to live on--make it clear that this is the daughter's decision and SHE has to pay for the BF. Might want to also remind her that in the US you really need a car and all the expenses that go with it.
If the daughter does not want to come over then she can get a job and go to school in Almaty or Pavlodar (much cheaper than Almaty). You can send her some extra money to help out. This is where $500 per month really goes a long way. If the wife decided to go home than I guess you will have no choice but let her go home, but I would give her an ultimatum that she has only so long before the marriage is over.
Go over everything that you want to happen with this situation and make your position crystal clear with all the possible out comes. Also explain what happens if the daughter get pregnant. Then see what happens. Right now the possible outcomes are daughter comes to US or does not. Wife goes home because daughter did not come to the US or wife stays in US with her new husband. Her prospects of a good husband in Kazakhstan are not very good--at least according to my wife when she talks about the men over there.
Good luck,
Dave

I think that, if wife is saying she'll leave if daughter's BF won't come, points to something very fishy going on. Tread carefully.

NO.
Just no.
Do not let this happen. She's a teenager. She probably won't be with this guy for another year, especially if she comes to the US of A and meets a bunch of nice American guys who are into her Russian accent.

You're the US citizen and soon-to-be petitioner/sponsor, you call the shots.

Who is the adult here?
Are you going to let a 17 years old child dictate how you live your life? Are you going to let a child dictate that you spend $40,000 yearly on her boyfriend?
Lay down the rules before you get screwed.
She can either come alone or she can stay in Moscow. Her call.
If you let her make the rules, expect her to push it even further when she gets here.
What happens if she wants you to get an apartment for her and her boyfriend, are you prepared to do that
And which magical way are you expected to bring the boyfriend to the US?
This is an easy one. Put on te adult pants and tell this spoiled child no.

Just when you think you have seen it all.
As a matter of interest how are you to arrange for b/f to arrive a year later and why a year?

I'm sorry, but no. That's just totally wrong. That's almost like a form of blackmail really. If her daughter won't join her Mother and you, and persue her education, and she can't go to school where she is, then she'd better pack up and go home, and go to school there.
I also don't think anyone at 17 really knows what they will want a year from now. But I wouldn't be manipulated into that situation.

You are just staying a little longer with your current wife so that you can get naturalized and then divorcing her? Fraud.. Your fiancée with face issue at the interview

Considering you didn't once mention your love for him as a consideration, I'd say canceling and re examining your priorities would probably be a good idea for both of you...

I think there is something else causing his lack of acuity for paperwork processing for you.

Everything happens for a reason! Don't be discouraged if your journey is taking long...
Mine took 8 months and it was perfect for us! O's contract is ending in May, giving us plenty of time to plan his move to the US. While waiting there are many things you can do: search for possible jobs, search for schooling and licensing requirements, search for activities to do together, plan the wedding details (do not book anything), grow your relationship and continue on loving each other! Good luck in your journey!

I don't think there is any requirement that you file those documents. I think this will mostly come to a head in one of two ways: (1) you get flagged by USCIS because of your previous petition during the initial review stage (if this happens, it'd probably be because of bungling on their part, but it's not out of the question that your new petition runs into your old one and causes them some confusion), or (2) it becomes an issue for your interviewer who takes it, in context, to be an indicator of potential fraud. Of course, these scenarios are not mutually exclusive (they could both happen).
In the first scenario, which seems unlikely, you'll probably just have to clear things up and submit the documentation. After that, there really is no basis for them not passing your application on to the interview. But I'd imagine you'd face delays if you didn't have the documentation handy because you sure can't expect the USCIS to be on the top of its game in having its left hand know what its right hand is doing.
In the second scenario, which seems quite likely in any case, you will probably need to have those documents at the ready during the interview. As Janice&Micah said, your problem is entirely contextual. You need to put yourself in your interviewer's shoes and think about the negative inferences he or she may draw. Since the Philippines is a high fraud country, beneficiaries from there are pretty thoroughly scrutinized. Remember, the law requires two things: (1) meeting in person in the last two years, and (2) a bona fide relationship. The second requirement is not self defining and its where their power to delay or reject your petition lies. You have to convince the interviewer that you are ready to spend the rest of your life with a person you met several months ago on the internet and then only met once. That's already atypical. And you have added burden of having that short relationship in the shadow of a previous one with an American and an attempt to immigrate. It would not be unreasonable to conclude that you may be putting the cart before the horse (immigration before relationship) based on those facts. I think most people would probably be less willing to quickly commit to marry someone new after having a previous engagement fall apart, though that is just my intuition. (Of course, the interviewer will not know that you two were already planning to marry *before* he visited, so that point will be somewhat less poignant, but--on a personal level, I think you should make sure you aren't rushing into something.)
Like I said, however, none of that means they will reject you. But you cannot go in think that they will just assume the best. You will have the burden of proving to the interviewer that your relationship is bona fide and overcoming whatever preconceptions they have based on your situation. Of course the longer you wait to refile and the more visits he makes in the meantime, the easier that will be. In any case, however, be sure to save lots of emails, chat logs, phone records, photos, etc; it may not be an easy sell.

If having a baby while together is important there is one sure fire way NOT to get pregnant but it means the parties involved have to take responsibility and have self control

Who said anything about terminating???
But just because people get pregnant, it doesn't give them right to expedite the whole process.
There are thousand of people who have their SO in the US. They all have to take the immigration path. They all are in the big queue to get to the US.
If the pregnancy would be a reason to expedite, every woman (who can) would get pregnant.
And the queue of the expedite cases would be as long as it is now. So still no expedite cases.