Mina90

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TBoneTX
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Personal observations:
          OP, character is crucial when deciding to choose a mate.  It trumps other aspects of background and financial circumstances.
          There's been enough time between your last relationship and this newly contemplated one so that you can file a new petition with USCIS.  However, the consular phase is far more crucial, especially when dealing with the Vietnam embassy.  The consular officers will be looking for evidence of fraud and especially ample "face time."  They used to, and might still, insist upon an exhaustive "relationship timeline."  It's optimal to submit this as part of your front-loaded petition package, and to provide substantial updates to it at the eventual visa interview.  It's highly unwise to get engaged or married on your first in-person visit, and possibly even the second.  See the Vietnam regional forum on this site.
       Your sensitivities and sensibilities still seem raw consequent to your previous experience, which is understandable.  Apply these "sadder but wiser" realizations toward evaluating individual potential mates, rather than toward stereotyping larger segments of society positively or negatively.  Consider avoiding rushing into something before circumspection is re-established.
       We typically get more advice on how to buy a washing machine or a car than we do on picking a mate.  An excellent book, one to read over and over, is "How to Stop Trying to Find Someone Perfect and Find Someone to Love," by Dr. Judith M. Sills.  If that isn't the precise title, it's close.
       Best wishes.
 
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He's limit locked for the day.
 
I'm sure we'll see a new post in a few more months about how his mum has bought the doctor and that we're all idiots.

Fake job with family business for the purpose of securing visa to US = fraud.

You won't buy a visa with money and arrogance. Anyway, reporting because OP's arrogance is just incredible.

Caucused in depth with Mrs. T-B. last night.
She's been interacting with many Latin Americans who are seeking asylum, etc.
Some of the below is new.
 
She reconfirms that the Central Americans (Hondureños, Salvadoreños, Guatemaltecos) are showing up at our southern border (often with children) because they're escaping gangs et al. in their countries.  These are, in her words, "poor people" ("poor" meant both literally & figuratively) who can't understand instructions in English or Spanish about how/where/when to show up in court, can't fill out change-of-address paperwork, don't understand the need for paperwork at all, don't comprehend the utterly crucial need for a lawyer, etc.  I asked her whether these people had anything to offer the U.S. if they're admitted, and she was uncharacteristically silent.  I asked her why they're not going to Costa Rica, Belize, Panama, or elsewhere, and she had no idea.  I asked her how they'd support themselves here if they're granted entry; she paused and eventually murmured "they're poor people."
 
I presume that these people are looking merely to "escape," with no plan beyond that.
 
The Venezolanos who are showing up here are escaping Maduro's socialistic governmental oppression.  They're typically educated and were middle-class or better.  Many had or have tourist visas.  They're typically able to articulate their cases for asylum.  Most have plans to use their university degrees or to start businesses.
 
Conversely, the Venezolanos who are overrunning Colombia, Peru, & Ecuador are typically from the lower classes.  At least Peru & Ecu are now requiring passports from these refugees, and anyone without one will be refused entry.  Mrs. T-B. said that the incoming Venezolanos are taking jobs from the native Ecus, and a couple of Ecus have been murdered so far, so Ecu's president has put his foot down:  no Venezolanos without a passport.  This is going to create problems on a yet-unknown scale at a Colombia-Ecu border crossing.

Hey -- I was going to say this!

This is one of the most well informed,  reasonable and well reasoned threads on the forum. Thx everyone for your very considered,  thoughtful, non abusive responses.. have come in late and have really enjoyed reading the posts ! 

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Thanks. Unfortunately it doesn't look like we'll be welcoming you in the US anytime soon, given the fact that you don't seem to accept the conditions/assumptions of getting a tourist visa.

Incorrect assumption. The “hold” status as you refer to it as “administrative processing”. Refused is...refused.
As others have said.. the EU matters to the EU. Nowhere else, and especially not for US visa purposes. Example: not all EU countries qualify under VWP.
Being sarcastic because you didn’t get what you want is not going to help you though.
EU is not relevant and despite what you may think, if you are working remotely in the US that is not allowed in terms of B1. And obviously, being able to work remotely from the US increases the chances that you’ll overstay.
 
While it might not suit your narrative, being a “digital nomad” also means you can’t really show the US consulate sufficient proof that you’ll leave when you’re suppsosd to. This is the number one reason for visa refusals, and probably is why yours was refused too. 
See above - you could “just move to another country”, from a US consulate perspective that “another country “ might be the US, illegally.
Many people freelance and are still able to show ties to a home ....unfortunately for you, you can’t. 
 
By by the way.... I am currently a remote freelancer. I really do get the concept

"This is none of your business"
 
"You don't know me"
 
"You're just jumping on a bandwagon"
 
"I don't need your opinion"
 
Either I have fallen off my chair and into the studio recording of a Dr. Phil show, or you seem to have failed to grasp the concept of what a public forum actually is. Firstly. You have brought YOUR problem and situation to relatable strangers for insight and advice. This has been given to you, in multitudes. I also have seen zero rude posts here - aside from yours. Telling someone "karma will get them", because they shared a lengthy, yet extremely informative, post...but it just happened to not be the music to your ears that I'm assuming you came here for.... is rude.
 
You have challenged nearly everyone here who has shared their advice or experience with "I will hear soon enough" - if you are so confident in whatever this "hearing back" will yield for you, then why did you come here in the first place?
 
Bottom line, there are two options at this point that I see, as you HAVE RETRACTED YOUR APPLICATION, whether you believe that or not:
1) You wait, and eventually come face to face with the withdrawal request, and you wind up having to start over again with a new application.
2) You go ahead and accept the withdrawal you have already put into motion, and move forward now with application #2.
 
In my opinion, the one that saves you more time than the other would be the most logical choice. But you will do what you wish to do regardless of the popular insight and outright written rules that you have been given, as that has been made apparent throughout this thread.
 
I am surprised this thread is still even open and active. At any rate - I do wish you the best, whatever path you take. Frustration can manifest in some nasty ways, but everyone deserves to be with the love of their life. I do hope that for you.
 
MIGHT I ADD, as I still cling to my own stubborn wishful thinking even after our own immigration journey - should you carry out what you wish to succeed, and find a loophole that serves you the resolution you are seeking - I implore you to share that. Whether it be here in this thread, or a new one. I imagine there have been, and will be, others in your same predicament who could appreciate and use that information, should it supersede.

Analysis of this thread tells us this is not an accurate statement.
 
Good luck on your journey.

This hits it on the head.  A "best-kept secret," one universally underreported or unreported by the media, is that most of the "harsh enforcement" being committed under the Trump administration involves attention to laws already on the books.  And how many people knew, for example, that the Obama administration began the "separation of parents from children" enforcement?  Obama's former head of (I think) DHS was very frank in admitting this not long ago.
This applies not just to Nicaragua (which is very sad), but also to that just above.

The U.N. needs to make itself useful and relevant somehow.
Someone in another thread/forum suggested that the U.N. establish "safe zones" in these imperiled countries.
(Not sure how realistic this would be in practice, but it sounds good in theory.)
If this were to happen, in-country residents would be clamoring to get in and might forget about the USA.

Overstays are almost certainly the larger group.
The U.S. has no exit controls; CBP checks you in when you seek to enter, but no one checks you "out."
CBP is permitted to (and often does) conduct outbound searches of people & vehicles, but this involves money & goods, not citizenship or visa status.

Agree with reasons stated:  reputation for being able to make money, lax enforcement of immigration/residency laws, and (chief among the reasons) accessibility by land.

I'd rather be rude than knowingly break the law and abuse immigration system and then expect people, who do everything legally, to be nice to me.  
 

The US politician likes to make laws they don't really get enforced. We keep talking about overhauling our immigration policies because it's "broken", yet repeat the same thing once a new law passes.
 
If you take away incentives like being able to work illegally, serious crack down on employers who hire illegals, fully implement E-verify or some other for of universal check for employers, and things like that you'll probably put a better dent on illegal migration.
 
I honestly don't blame the illegals as I have no clue what I would do if I was in their shoes, but if word spreads that doing so provides not economic incentive that may help deter one from coming illegally. In regards to safety/security, that's something that needs to be addressed by the UN in my opinion.

Absolutely. Although, I read an article that said that the the quantity of most illegal people in the states are usually people who have once entered on a non-immigrant visa (i.e. B1/B2) and never left more so than those who hop the border (don't know where I had seen this since it was a while back so can't find the link, could just be hearsay).

I want to touch a little bit on the above part in bold. Yes the US has many legal options. But they only apply to those who qualify. Take a poor, uneducated family that has no relatives that live in the US. They want to flee a country because it is stricken with poverty, crime, or war. What legal options does the US offer them? 
 
The biggest reason people come illegally is for economic reasons. Even if it is working under the table, a person can make 5, 6, I have even heard 10 times more than they could in their home country.
 
Another reason is because America's immigrant history is legendary and many foreigners believe the stories of how poor immigrants came to American with little legal barriers and became successful citizens still applies today. Obviously I'm not saying that a poor immigrant can't become successful today but the truth is America is experiencing a change in identity. It is no longer an industrial country with booming steel mills and coal mines. Even our agricultural industry is suffering. America is becoming (or already has become depending on who you ask) a management country. Most manufacturing is done in countries where labor wages are much lower. Which is ironic because that is one of the reason immigrants want to leave those countries. Think of this...America brought the world ground breaking technologies like the television, personal computers, and the cellphones. Now think of where all of these technologies are being manufactured.
 
To go back to your story of how you immigrated, it is fortunate that you were able to do so. But if you were really think about it, there are many from your country that don't have the same options to immigrate. So the most desperate choose an illegal path. There are many who think that those who have relatives here have an unfair advantage to immigrate to the US. Of course, I'm not talking about an immediate relative like a wife or child. They are obviously considered first priority. But an adult man who has never had a job or education but has a brother in the US can have a better chance at immigrating here than a farmer who has fed a village or a teacher who has help raised their local children. 

There are illegal economic immigrants, who cross to work (and stay) and send money home.
There are illegal criminal immigrants (drugs, gangs, human traffickers/smugglers, etc.).
There are illegal political immigrants, who are trying to escape turmoil in their country.
They're all line-jumpers.
 
Sidebar:  After eating in a Mexican taquería one time, I asked Mrs. T-B. what would happen if I were to go back in and shout "La mígra!" ("Immigration/ICE/CBP!"), as an experiment to see how many customers and employees ran in panic.  She said that after they found out that it was a hoax, they'd be so angry that I'd probably get my throat cut.

I wonder whether this is still true (don't know, but presume changes as stated below).
 
Part of the current flap about how to handle the influx of asylum-seekers at the border is that current laws and protocols involving the processing of illegal entrants were chiefly designed with "lone adult males seeking employment" in mind; the second group of concern was the criminals.
 
These illegals sought to avoid detection.  Conversely, most of the recent border-crossers seem to be families (or fake families with someone else's children) who want to be caught after crossing, so that they can apply for asylum or at least be held in safe circumstances and receive shelter, clean clothes, and three square meals per day.
This is true.  A few years ago, I saw word from a reliable source (specifics since forgotten) that most illegal economic entrants had jobs in their countries but sought more income.
 
Even among legal immigrants, foreign remittances are a chief focus.  I know that it's prevalent among Mexicans and Central Americans, and we periodically read here on VJ about Filipinas (with the consent or acquiescence of their U.S. husbands) sending money to the immigrants' families on a special or routine basis.  This might be the case for "any poor country."  I read somewhere (again, specifics forgotten, but probably findable) that remittances are the second-greatest form of income for Mexico, or at least in the top 3 of same.

Changing the purpose of the visit will not impact a refusal under 214b (immigrant intent). They need a change in circumstances to show that they are compelled to return home, not a reason for coming in the first place.
It's not uncommon for them not to ask for documents...usually what's on the DS-160 is sufficient for them to make a determination, plus the few minutes allocated for an interview don't leave time to verify the authenticity of documents.
There is no sponsorship for a tourist visa...that's a common urban myth, especially from India and also especially among agents.
 
Reapplying after a recent refusal without a change in circumstances is unlikely to have a different result. But you are free to try...only thing to lose is the $160 application fee.
 
Edit: Sorry if the above seems harsh...it's really not meant to be. I do wish them the best of luck. It's just there's not a lot one can do here...it's a very common issue with the K-1 visa that family members are unable to attend due to not being able to get a visa.

I really wish people would take the "learn from others' mistakes" to heart. 
It would save so many people from "marriage fraud", broken homes, "used for immigration", etc. 
Unfortunately, too many people think, "well, bad things or those things can't happen to me. I am different; I am invincible."  Wish that thinking would stop and start thinking rationally and realistically.