Redflame2012

Always tell the truth. Herpes is not a reason for denial but telling a lie about having it...well who knows what that might lead to.
Best of luck!
ps: Telling the truth is always the best policy, especially when dealing with immigration.

Always tell the truth. Herpes is not a reason for denial but telling a lie about having it...well who knows what that might lead to.
Best of luck!
ps: Telling the truth is always the best policy, especially when dealing with immigration.

Diane,
It's not a matter of 'not minding' about working illegally. You can't work period. Again, working at this stage is not an option for you. When you adjust your status, this may cause problems. Again, working is not an option without the necessary documentation.
Take care!
Red.

I know you are afraid of losing love and frightened of living in Waterloo, WI....Sometimes people get caught up in the 'romance' of their situation. You are thinking of the possible impact your decision will have. Nothing wrong with that. I feel it's not that you don't love this person. Its more about can you live where he lives with everything it entails. One 'thing' does not come without the other.
I agree with someone else' suggestion. If it is possible, spend a few months in Waterloo with your hubby-to-be. Faced with the day-to-day reality of the life there, you can make an informed decision.
There is nothing wrong with being unsure.
Good luck to you!
PS: If your hesitation is more about the 'qualities' of your chap, that is another story. Personally, I wouldn't have to think another second. I'd call it off as this situation is a recipe for disaster.

Having your condition is not a reason for them to deny your visa. Don't worry. Be honest at all times about your medical history.

Hiii All,
If you live near or in LA, and you're new to the US or lived here for while, please contact me.
I'm starting a social group for 'ex-pats' - people new to the US or have been here for a while. Females only. Sorry guys!
Redflame
PS: If you have contacted me before or I have contacted you, no need to respond to this post. I'll contact you soon with details for our first meetup coffee morning.

Thank you to everyone who responded. Next week I'll 'PM' peeps with the location and date of our first meetup.
If anyone else is interested, please contact me.
Redflame

Hiya,
I live in California too! Send me a mail!
Redflame

Cam, Loving and Cassie are you interested? Anyone else? Remember 'PM' me. Let's get together - '...a stranger is only a stranger until you say hello...'

(Reseda, L.A., California)

I live near Reseda, Ca. Since so many of us want to make contact with others, lets arrange
a place to meet. If you are interested, 'PM' me!
Redflame

I suspect you know the answer to your question...Personally, I would book a flight home and start my life again...If I was you, my trust in him would be gone...I would also have to ask myself if this man could be trusted with my future and the future of my children-to-be.,,, God bless!

I suspect you know the answer to your question...Personally, I would book a flight home and start my life again...If I was you, my trust in him would be gone...I would also have to ask myself if this man could be trusted with my future and the future of my children-to-be.,,, God bless!

Sarah,
This is a difficult decision for you to make. Get a piece of paper and write down all the positives and all the negatives...Sometimes love is not enough, especially when the rest of your life is involved.
Good luck!
Ps: feel free to PM me!
Sarah,
This is a difficult decision for you to make. Get a piece of paper and write down all the positives and all the negatives...Sometimes love is not enough, especially when the rest of your life is involved.
Good luck!
Ps: feel free to PM me!

I agree with some of the comments. However I feel he does need to speak his own language with his country men. It will help to reduce his feeling of isolation and homesickness.
When I came to America, having contact with people from my homeland would have helped me so much but that didn't happen. The lack of that increased my loneliness.
Learning English is important... Joining an English class and speaking English as much as possible is important... However speaking his language is important too. Perhaps you can have 'Spanish' days at home and 'English' days.
Good luck!
Redflame!

Mark, your guess is correct! I live in the LA area.
When the leaving date drew close for me, I was nervous too. I was nervous and extremely anxious...Visiting a country for a few weeks at a time is very different from picking up sticks and relocating...You become like a blank page...like a child...as you need to learn how everything works...Saying goodbye to the family and friends was 'pants.'
Anyway, don't worry...You will be fine! Many have 'gone before you and survived' the move... so will you.
Here are a few, 'before-you-leave-England' tips.
1.If you can, bring 2 written, employment reference letters (each from different employers)
2.If you haven't had an eye test lately, have one - the cost of an eye test here, without insurance, is around $125. Also, if you need glasses buy them in England. Again, the cost of specs here, without insurance is huge.
3.If you haven't had a dental check lately, have one...so if you need work carried out, do it before you arrive. The cost of dental care in the US, without insurance, is huge. To give you an example, I had a deep clean, with insurance, and it cost me $500 - that's my out of pocket cost after the insurance pay their part.
4.If your relatives, children or friends are worried...remind them you can use Skype on your home computer or iPhone to keep in regular face-to-face contact with them.
5.Persuade your 'better half', if you can, to get a LAN line. The Vontage telephone service is fab! For a low price, you use their free international call time...I call my mother everyday for as long, and as often, as I want. Also I tell my friends and family to call me and I'll return their calls so they don't take the burden of the cost.
6.Remember the K1 visa is a one-way-use permit. In other words, you can't return to England until you adjust your status ($1050) and obtain your green card. That can take between 4 to 12 months. So, don't count on being able to return home for a while...You can leave the US but they won't allow you to return. You'll have to start the visa process again. Not a K1 one visa, but a spousal visa.
7.Settle all your debts, if you can, before you arrive.
8.Tell the tax office (Inland Revenue) you are leaving so they know... Just in case you have to return to England, to resume residency. Not important, but a tidy way of doing things.
9.Bring a copy of your CV, they call it 'resume' here. Also have a copy on a flash drive or CD as a back up.
10. Bring your original copies of your qualifications, and some copies...just in case you need them.
11.If you can, get a copy of your medical history from your GP. They will expect a small charge for this.
Okay. That's all for now! Hope my tips help somewhat!
Red.

After living in Encino, California, for around 4.5 years, I've decided to set up a support group for 'newbies' coming to,and living in, my area. We can meet up once a month or once a fortnight for lunch or brunch. A wonderful way to socialise, offer support and exchange experiences!
I'm also going to provide a support line service for people in and out of state... Just the opportunity for folks to have someone they can talk to...
I know when I originally came to America, I could have used something like this...so, I'm going to do it!
Anyone interested in joining my Encino Support Group, send me a 'notification' (ie a private message') to this site. Or if you just need telephone contact, someone to talk with, send me a notification with your telephone number - if you are living in the United Kingdom, I can make free international calls so I can offer trans atlantic support!
Redflame
ps: I'm originally from the South West of England

I agree with some of the comments. However I feel he does need to speak his own language with his country men. It will help to reduce his feeling of isolation and homesickness.
When I came to America, having contact with people from my homeland would have helped me so much but that didn't happen. The lack of that increased my loneliness.
Learning English is important... Joining an English class and speaking English as much as possible is important... However speaking his language is important too. Perhaps you can have 'Spanish' days at home and 'English' days.
Good luck!
Redflame!

I agree with some of the comments. However I feel he does need to speak his own language with his country men. It will help to reduce his feeling of isolation and homesickness.
When I came to America, having contact with people from my homeland would have helped me so much but that didn't happen. The lack of that increased my loneliness.
Learning English is important... Joining an English class and speaking English as much as possible is important... However speaking his language is important too. Perhaps you can have 'Spanish' days at home and 'English' days.
Good luck!
Redflame!

I agree with some of the comments. However I feel he does need to speak his own language with his country men. It will help to reduce his feeling of isolation and homesickness.
When I came to America, having contact with people from my homeland would have helped me so much but that didn't happen. The lack of that increased my loneliness.
Learning English is important... Joining an English class and speaking English as much as possible is important... However speaking his language is important too. Perhaps you can have 'Spanish' days at home and 'English' days.
Good luck!
Redflame!

Mark, your guess is correct! I live in the LA area.
When the leaving date drew close for me, I was nervous too. I was nervous and extremely anxious...Visiting a country for a few weeks at a time is very different from picking up sticks and relocating...You become like a blank page...like a child...as you need to learn how everything works...Saying goodbye to the family and friends was 'pants.'
Anyway, don't worry...You will be fine! Many have 'gone before you and survived' the move... so will you.
Here are a few, 'before-you-leave-England' tips.
1.If you can, bring 2 written, employment reference letters (each from different employers)
2.If you haven't had an eye test lately, have one - the cost of an eye test here, without insurance, is around $125. Also, if you need glasses buy them in England. Again, the cost of specs here, without insurance is huge.
3.If you haven't had a dental check lately, have one...so if you need work carried out, do it before you arrive. The cost of dental care in the US, without insurance, is huge. To give you an example, I had a deep clean, with insurance, and it cost me $500 - that's my out of pocket cost after the insurance pay their part.
4.If your relatives, children or friends are worried...remind them you can use Skype on your home computer or iPhone to keep in regular face-to-face contact with them.
5.Persuade your 'better half', if you can, to get a LAN line. The Vontage telephone service is fab! For a low price, you use their free international call time...I call my mother everyday for as long, and as often, as I want. Also I tell my friends and family to call me and I'll return their calls so they don't take the burden of the cost.
6.Remember the K1 visa is a one-way-use permit. In other words, you can't return to England until you adjust your status ($1050) and obtain your green card. That can take between 4 to 12 months. So, don't count on being able to return home for a while...You can leave the US but they won't allow you to return. You'll have to start the visa process again. Not a K1 one visa, but a spousal visa.
7.Settle all your debts, if you can, before you arrive.
8.Tell the tax office (Inland Revenue) you are leaving so they know... Just in case you have to return to England, to resume residency. Not important, but a tidy way of doing things.
9.Bring a copy of your CV, they call it 'resume' here. Also have a copy on a flash drive or CD as a back up.
10. Bring your original copies of your qualifications, and some copies...just in case you need them.
11.If you can, get a copy of your medical history from your GP. They will expect a small charge for this.
Okay. That's all for now! Hope my tips help somewhat!
Red.

Mark, your guess is correct! I live in the LA area.
When the leaving date drew close for me, I was nervous too. I was nervous and extremely anxious...Visiting a country for a few weeks at a time is very different from picking up sticks and relocating...You become like a blank page...like a child...as you need to learn how everything works...Saying goodbye to the family and friends was 'pants.'
Anyway, don't worry...You will be fine! Many have 'gone before you and survived' the move... so will you.
Here are a few, 'before-you-leave-England' tips.
1.If you can, bring 2 written, employment reference letters (each from different employers)
2.If you haven't had an eye test lately, have one - the cost of an eye test here, without insurance, is around $125. Also, if you need glasses buy them in England. Again, the cost of specs here, without insurance is huge.
3.If you haven't had a dental check lately, have one...so if you need work carried out, do it before you arrive. The cost of dental care in the US, without insurance, is huge. To give you an example, I had a deep clean, with insurance, and it cost me $500 - that's my out of pocket cost after the insurance pay their part.
4.If your relatives, children or friends are worried...remind them you can use Skype on your home computer or iPhone to keep in regular face-to-face contact with them.
5.Persuade your 'better half', if you can, to get a LAN line. The Vontage telephone service is fab! For a low price, you use their free international call time...I call my mother everyday for as long, and as often, as I want. Also I tell my friends and family to call me and I'll return their calls so they don't take the burden of the cost.
6.Remember the K1 visa is a one-way-use permit. In other words, you can't return to England until you adjust your status ($1050) and obtain your green card. That can take between 4 to 12 months. So, don't count on being able to return home for a while...You can leave the US but they won't allow you to return. You'll have to start the visa process again. Not a K1 one visa, but a spousal visa.
7.Settle all your debts, if you can, before you arrive.
8.Tell the tax office (Inland Revenue) you are leaving so they know... Just in case you have to return to England, to resume residency. Not important, but a tidy way of doing things.
9.Bring a copy of your CV, they call it 'resume' here. Also have a copy on a flash drive or CD as a back up.
10. Bring your original copies of your qualifications, and some copies...just in case you need them.
11.If you can, get a copy of your medical history from your GP. They will expect a small charge for this.
Okay. That's all for now! Hope my tips help somewhat!
Red.

Lynndy,
I forgot to say:
1. If you haven't had a dental check up lately, arrange one. Make sure your teeth are in good condition for the time being as dental care is expensive here. Some people don't have insurance which makes it even more expensive.
2. If you are on medication, arrange to have some extra bottles. Take a copy of the prescription in your handbag as you may be called to show it as you pass through the airport inspections.
3. Bring a copy of your medical records so you can pass them onto your new GP.
4.If you haven't had a full medical lately, get one. You don't want any nasty surprises when you get here. Medical care is expensive in the U.S, with or without insurance.
4. If you haven't had your eyes tested lately, get them tested. If you need glasses, get them in the UK. Glasses in the UK look so much nicer and are cheaper.
<<<<take a breath>>>

Yes!!! These feeling are VERY normal. I had them too...The way you will cope is Skyping your friends and loved ones, getting a telephone service like 'Vontage' that has a package, reasonably priced, that allows you free international calls home, getting involved in volunteering until you obtain your greencard, getting to know your new neighbour by walking (if there are pavements) or using the local bus service (if you have one)....
Don't be scared. Plan ahead. A few other things to remember:
1. Obtain a written recommendation from your present employer - if you can get one from a previous employer do that too.
2. If you are a professional or a career girl, check if you need to 'upgrade' your qualifications to obtain a license to operate in your chosen field (ie hair dress, teacher etc)
For example, my sister, who is a nurse, had to sit a further exam to obtain a license to work here.
3. If you are Christan or of some other religous belief, join a church. You will begin to build a sense of community.
4. If there are any classes or clubs nearby that interest you join them.
When you board the plane, you may feel tearful but remember your husband and your new life awaits you.
If you wish, you can send me a message so we can 'talk'. I'm located in California. Been here for over 4 years now.
Good luck and don't worry. You will be home sick for a while but gradually it gets better.
Redflame x

Peter Pan,
What you say is true but its true of many websites that advertise jobs. Personally, I've picked up local employment from this website without any problems.
In general, we have to be careful with any situation that requires you to give personal details. But like I said, I've used Craigslist, wisely, with no problems to-date.
Redflame

I understand your position. If this marriage can't work and you have not AOS'd yet, go home. You are not in a financial position to stay in USA for your children. At least returning to England you can obtain employment to support them. Those are the facts.
Personally, I would contact the British embassy and tell them of your plight to get some robust advice before informing the authorities that you are 'out of status'. Who knows, the embassy may be able to help you with a flight. If not, handing yourself in for deportation is the last option, not ideal but at least it will get you home.
Good luck!
Redf.