Mark&Fatima

So why is it different in your case? You also want a wife for sex and her loyalty too. Simply because your fiance is not marrying an older guy, why does that mean she's not interested in getting into the U.S. and supporting her family back home as well? Just because a couple are similar in age, doesn't take away the fact that they are using each other...whether it's for love, money, happiness, security, etc. They want something and the relationship they are in hopefully gives them that. I also know of several American men that live in PI with their wives, so assuming that the wife is only doing it to get into USA isn't always the case. Even my wife tried to convince me to live with her instead of her coming here. So all the older white guys can't find a woman back home in your opinion....what's your excuse then? You're a young white guy and you're not finding a woman back home either. Don't bash others for doing the same exact thing you're doing. You'll only make yourself out to be an idiot in the process.
As far as not seeing younger Filipinas with older Filipinos, I saw it plenty of times. Even my father-in-law was with a lady the same age as his daughter. The girls stop and stare simply because you're white, not because you're with a girl your age. Walking through Montalban I had entire groups of people turn around and look at me. Every time I was in a mall I got plenty of looks. As white guys, we stand out in a crowd of non-whites, it's as simple as that.

Thanks for the fast response, and for the answers!

CSC wake up, its March now. Start approving Oct Filers...

We've been married for about 2 1/2 years and until now, my wife is using her maiden last name. We decided not to change it before since her passport and other ID already had her maiden name on them. We were getting close to her CR-1 visa being completed and didn't want to cause any delays or problems. Now, she's been here in the U.S. since September of 2012 and her 2 year green card is getting close to expiring. She would like to change her last name to mine but we're not sure exactly where to start. Should she begin with the Philippine embassy with her ID from her country? Should she go to the local courthouse here to change it?
Any help would be greatly appreciated as we're just not sure what the smartest first step is...
Thank you,
Mark & Fatima

I'm just so glad you revealed your true self after showing you have no evidence for your claims. Calling the husbands here "whoremongers" and the women therefore prostitutes.
This is an important insight into the rescue industry and feminazis: what they are really all about is hatred of pretty typical people on this forum. They pretend something else with these vague but incendiary terms like "human trafficking" and "marriage brokers".
That's why it is important not to let them get away with lying about domestic abuse statistics and lying with phony rhetoric.
Here is an alarming article with some actual data in it on domestic abuse in the Philippines:
My link
That was a 91% increase over the previous year. That was quoted from the 2010 Human Rights Watch report, which was produced in 2011. I just looked up the summary report for 2011 here:
2011 report Human Rights Watch
Not one word about foreign marriages and abuse. Instead, there is a section on domestic workers being abused abroad. Kang obviously has no concern about abuse of Filipinas because if that were true she would be looking at the appalling Philippine statistics and the plight of domestic workers, and not wives who don't even get the attention of reports by human rights watch.
Now of course Kang is pretending that we are saying there has never been any case, ever, of a Filipina abused by a foreign husband. That's the tactic of people with hidden agendas: to misrepresent what other people are saying.
Interesting that Kang has no timeline, no country, no talk of her own immigration situation that I can see from previous posts. I didn't look through all of them, but most of us who actually are involved in immigration talk a lot about our spouses and our own situation. Makes you wonder what is really going on.

What are you talking about?

i dunno what kang is smoking but i didnt marry my fiancee to escape poverty..
i think it is also rude to call petitioners as whoremongers.

This kind of thing happens to most of us, not just to people with SOs in the Phillippines. The question is moot. You can't give what you don't have. Putting yourself in debt is not the answer. What would they have done if you never met your fiance? I know it may sound cruel, but it is the truth. Sometimes the family and friends of our Sos think that the American has an unending supply of money. If you are not honest with your fiance's family now, you will be on the receiving end of a never ending supply of family "emergencies'.

Women are irrational. She'll get over it.

I refused to sleep in my husband's room in his parent's house because he and his ex-gf did things on that bed. It doesn't matter that it was years ago before he even met me. It's really illogical from any sane person's standpoint but not to me so he never asked me to stay there. He has two options, he could be right or he could have a happy wife. He chose the latter. I think it's a wise decision.

My first trip to the Philippines earlier this year, I used Priceline. Had no problems, and got a roundtrip from Boston to Manila for $1200. Not bad ~
I have another trip to Philippines scheduled for next month. I originally booked the trip with Priceline (4 months in advance of the trip). The next day I noticed that I entered the date wrong, and purchased tickets for 2013 instead of 2012. I called them up, and they refused to fix it for me. After about an hour of trying to get it corrected, the end result was cancelling the ticket and getting charged a $200 cancellation fee. With that said, I won't be using them again.
I then tried purchasing tickets from Cheapoair. Found a price for $1100 round trip. Booked it, then received an email saying the flight wasn't available and the next best price they could give me was $600 more. I told them forget it, no thanks. A week later I noticed the same flight is still listed on their website for $1100. That's false advertisement, in my opinion. So I won't be using them, either.
I ended up booking straight on Delta's website for $1300.
My advice, search websites like Kayak, Priceline, Cheapoair, Expedia, etc., for the best fares, then try to find that same flight directly on the airline's website.

I think society in general may have this misconception or preconceived notion about falling in love with a foreigner. I am not sure if it's racism or discrimination but it definitly feels like there is a common eye roll when you say "I am marrying my girlfriend from another country!" It's like it's a taboo or a "What, you couldn't find someone from the US so you had to check out a different country?"
I have sure figured out who my REAL friends are during this engagement. The friends who say "Gosh, Mike, as long as you are happy that is awesome!" are the supportive ones while the ones who feel entitled to give me their opinion are the ones who think I'm crazy! Opinions, IMO, are like buttholes, everybody has one and they ALL stink! If I wanted to hear it, I'd ask for it.
Family has been supportive for the most part, my daughter is SUPER excited to meet my fiancee and has conversations with her on a regular basis on the phone. They are already establishing a relationship and I couldn't be happier! Not bad for a 9 year old!
I guess all my ranting will end with a quote from one of my FAVORITE shows that REALLY made my decision for me when I was running in to unsupportive friends/family.
In the words of the famous Dr. Kelso from Scrubs "Do whatever the hell makes you happy! Who the hell cares what others think!"
Good luck with your issue OP and I hope you are able to be together for Christmas!

Some people can be very closed minded about bringing someone from another country to marry them. I remember my sister got this same response from someone that was very close to her and had always been very supportive her. Like I told her, this is YOUR LIFE! Let NO ONE make you feel bad about who you chose to love! Because at the end of the day it is you and them in this together. The family in time will come around, you will just have to give them time and not pressure them into getting to know her. The ones that don't as long as they are respectful to her when she is around that is all that matters. Now about what you did with your nieces, don't do that EVER again. Never step on the toes of a parent, I would have been upset as well. You went against what they are teaching there kids, and had them sneaking behind there parents back. I hope that you can get it together with your family, but if they will not except her, sadly enough you can't make them. Best of luck to you!

I knew it!
Your propaganda was mimicking the feminazi tactic of saying women who choose to stay at home and raise children are abused. A home-maker is submissive.
Even though it is entirely their choice, you keep repeating how much you hate men who have "submissive" wives.
You have a lot of hatred inside you, obviously.
This hatred lays bare another arm of the anti-immigration coalition: the feminazis. I don't have any problem with their hatred for men, who cares. But just don't expect us to marry you when we have millions of beautiful women worldwide who appreciate a man that provides for them.
That's what makes them so angry: the competition blows them out of the water. Comes down to jealosy and envy.

Make that five articles in a row now without a shred of evidence on abuse.

You have cited zero data in making this assertion. The last article said nothing about domestic abuse statistics. Four in a row so far.
I guess you are counting on us not being able to read, or just immensely stupid.
You are doing just that, and without data to support it.
We aren't a herd of cows, so probably not likely.

We signed up for Vonage Philippines about six weeks ago. It has been brilliant. $30 a month and my wife can call ANY Globe or T M line in the Philippines, land or cell. Unlimited minutes, anytime. Also comes with unlimited calls to over 60 countries, and we just use it as our main phone line. Call quality has been good. A few disconnects, and she just calls back.
I had Ooma, and this is working much better, and I love having to never track minutes anymore.
Obi and MJ are fine, as are Viber and Tango. But once your fiancé or wife is here, something like Vonage trumps them all by FAR in that she'll (or he) will be able to call nearly anyone in the Ph. And if they don't have a Globe or T M sim card, they can get one for like 30 pesos.
And no contract, so you can always cancel it if you're unhappy. But so far, we are loving it. Makes my wife feel so much better to know she can call her friends and family there anytime, and never have to worry about the bill.

Age gap! Now there is a topic that gets around pretty regular. There are MANY, and I do mean many, that have married and done the visa process with larger age gaps then that. The embassy isn't going to care, what they will care about is if the relationship is genuine and real ...
As others have mentioned you will need a letter of consent, CFO will want to see this for sure, not sure about the embassy, but for one piece of paper it won't hurt to bring a copy there also.
* From the Family Code of the Philippines: it's 21-25 years old for advice and 18-21 years old for consent. (Some are posted on VJ that they were not asked for this, yet others have been asked, so be prepared)
Art. 14. In case either or both of the contracting parties, not having been emancipated by a previous marriage, are between the ages of eighteen and twenty-one, they shall, in addition to the requirements of the preceding articles, exhibit to the local civil registrar, the consent to their marriage of their father, mother, surviving parent or guardian, or persons having legal charge of them, in the order mentioned. Such consent shall be manifested in writing by the interested party, who personally appears before the proper local civil registrar, or in the form of an affidavit made in the presence of two witnesses and attested before any official authorized by law to administer oaths. The personal manifestation shall be recorded in both applications for marriage license, and the affidavit, if one is executed instead, shall be attached to said applications. (61a)
Art. 15. Any contracting party between the age of twenty-one and twenty-five shall be obliged to ask their parents or guardian for advice upon the intended marriage. If they do not obtain such advice, or if it be unfavorable, the marriage license shall not be issued till after three months following the completion of the publication of the application therefor.A sworn statement by the contracting parties to the effect that such advice has been sought,together with the written advice given, if any, shall be attached to the application for marriage license. Should the parents or guardian refuse to give any advice, this fact shall be stated in the sworn statement.

Do you mean leaving him in the PI while you go on a short vacation, or leaving him behind while you emigrate to the US? If its the latter...it begs the question, why are you contemplating leaving your one year old child behind?!? Regardless of whether its a "just until I get settled" situation....this is for all intents and purposes an infant, and should not be left without the mother for any length of time. Just MO.

Why judge, is it really any of your business?!!! The question is technical in nature.

Even thought there are taxes included in the airfare, it may not be the exit fee and for sure not the terminal fee. If the airfare was purchased outside the Phils odds are the exit fee is not included.
Exit fee: Php 1,620
Terminal fee: 550
Not for country specific fees if not purchased within country.

First, condolences for your loss.
Next, make an InfoPass appointment at your closest USCIS office. You'll need to explain your situation and request advance parole (permission to re-enter the United States) because regardless of whether your I-94 is unexpired, the K-1 visa is good for a single entry into the United States. If you leave without getting advance parole first you stand a significant chance of being denied entry and having to go through the entire K-1 process again (or else having to get married in the Philippines and apply for a CR-1).
I've heard of people in similar situations getting lucky and being readmitted on the strength of the used K-1 visa and the unexpired I-94; don't risk it. Make an InfoPass appointment, explain your situation, request advance parole, and make sure you'll be able to come back after you've said your goodbyes.

Fewer sleeveless tops.

I think your lawyer is paranoid. I do not see how Facebook can be used against your case. Actually, many people use print screens of their Facebook interactions as proof of relationship.
I would ignore this particular advice and carefully think about any other ideas this lawyer might have in the future.
Good luck with your case.

You just had an RFE, it isn't the end of the world. They will get the one they want and you will be able to move forward....have faith

I know exactly how you feel....we had to go through so much also. Your almost there though, stay stong!