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Craigslist is one of the biggest scam in the USA, proeed with caution
Workaround to make employment faster? Legally there is none.
You are not allowed to work in USA until you have either a GC or EAD.

thank you so much!

1. Yes. If this was once your legal name, you have to include it.
2. No. This was a clerical error and NOT your legal name. You should not include this one although you should include a note stating that a clerical error was made if you are submitting the health insurance showing the erroneous name.
3. No. Usually American leases show just 2 names. Your first e.g. Maria and your last e.g. Cruz, which I assume is your husband's last name and they assumed was yours as well. Again, an error does not make it your legal name.
Good luck!

Also please if you guys dont have anything valuable to say just don't answer. Everyone on this site should know how high the frustration rate can be in obtaining a visa, left alone being denied. I'm sorry if I came too hard with the word stupidity but you did deserve it.

She will not incur a ban until an 180 day overstay but any overstay will make getting a visa such as a tourist visa harder. If she wants another visa later in life she should obey the rules of the currect one.

The way it works with any bureaucracy is that a policy change is instituted for a good reason, at some point that reason is no longer valid, but it takes a huge amount of effort to undo it. I don't know what the situation is in the Phillipines, but if the expedites are continuing beyond what was reasonable at the time, it's just inertia, not because some high powered politician is keeping it that way.

I dont think it is auto-expedited. Some people are just PRO-ACTIVE. They would request for expedite because they think they qualify for one. Some people got approved, some dont.
US has a base almost everywhere (JAPAN, MIDDLE EAST countries) it has nothing to do with bases.
US and PI might have ties from long ago. It was once a colony of US but was just given its freedom.
So its a case to case basis. Dont take it on filipinos. We did not want the back to back to back typhoons and natural calamities. For sure, a lot of us (affected filipinos of typhoons) would trade the typhoon and the expedites and would just want to wait and be safe.

Wer just nice people i guess lol

I beg your pardon Janelle2002, as the great country of the Philippines, ""HAS NOT been on expedited for years"" as my wife is from Cebu, and we were 186 days until NOA 2, and from June 22 2012 until April 24 2013 until POE!!!
I DO NOT think that is expedited!
Also, some people do not realize that another Typhoon just a very few months ago, and almost as bad as the one last year did almost as much damage, with a 13 foot storm surge, near Leyete. Many are still missing, just because someone went to a part of the country not effected and had a nice trip, does not mean there is not a """Huge"" devastation in the central part of that country, south of Manila.
Have you been there and seen the people living in "card board boxes," or laying under a bridge, and eating rats? I have!
If these people can qualify on some type of visa, then so be it, though I know, there are many places in dire straits in the world, I have never seen anything like what has happened, to the most populated part of the country.
I wish all people would be expedited but who would process them.
I admit it is a debatable subject, who deserves, who does not, all I can say is what I have seen.

That would make me nervous for leaving the country and entering again for sure.
I would suggest contacting your local USCIS office, maybe get an info pass to address this so you have definitive answers.

VOL, I don't know if it's your English that's bad or you just don't have any manners cause you are coming across as quite rude...
OP, the medical examination in the Philippines is done by St Luke's Medical Center, which was established to work with visa immigrants to the US and later on to other countries as well. They are the sole accredited medical facility to conduct medical examinations for US visa immigration purposes and have been approved by both the CDC and the US State Department as following human rights and US customs. As part of the medical examination, you are to mention any pregnancies AND deliveries. If you had a pregnancy that did not end up with a delivery, for whatever reason, you don't need to mention that. If you are still worried about this, send me a message and I'll be happy to contact the US embassy in Manila and check on this using my name.

I included a checklist to put all in order, but it is not necessary.

Jan22, great observation. The OP should open it, try and enter, then give us the first hand information of what happened.

I think it's a hoax, it would be on the USCIS News page if it were true.

There you go a link to USCIS website that will explain 'bout the VISA RETROGRESSION
http://www.uscis.gov/green-card/green-card-processes-and-procedures/visa-availability-priority-dates/visa-retrogression
FYI , visa retrogression does not affect IR categories ( Immediate relative of US Citizen )
It does affect to F2A F2B ( Relative of Permanent Resident , can be child spouse...)

if you are writing of the consular rating at the bottom of
http://www.visajourney.com/timeline/profile.php?id=145700
http://www.visajourney.com/timeline/profile.php?id=145700
http://www.visajourney.com/timeline/profile.php?id=145700
apologies - that's only a rating that the member (ie, you) sets. You or your spouse (if you share the account here) made that rating on 2014-02-25. No One else would be able to set that - only you or your spouse.

at that url, only you or your spouse would write that.
if you see something else elsewhere,
post the URL and I'll be happy to vette it for you.
If you are writing of member stuff over at
http://www.visajourney.com/reviews/index.php?cnty=Philippines&page=5&dfilter=5&topic=
Then something is off, between what I see there on yer 3 Consular Reviews and what you see there.

no - you can rate it any way you want. something was done on the 25th - you might want to think about updating that consular review (something you can do, easily)

You are not rating your own review. You are rating your experience at the embassy when you attended the interview. If the staff there were polite, helpful, and your interview went well, you might rate it 'very good'. If you had a very bad experience, then you might rate it 'poor' or 'very poor'.
How to change your rating:
1. Log on to VJ using a PC. Scroll all the way up and click on "Reviews: Embassy"
2. Select "Edit previous consulate review on xxx"
3. Under "Rating", select the numerical value which represents your experience at your interview. 0 - very poor. 5 - very good.
4. Click "Submit changes"
5. Refresh your timeline page and watch the rating change magically from "Very poor" to whatever you wish to set it as.

For the OP - Yes, VAWA is available to you if you are really in this situation.
It is the government agency's prerogative to decide based on the facts and circumstantial evidence whether or not OP has a legit case against her USC petitioner and be qualified to be protected under the provisions of VAWA.
To those comments - "from the Philippines?" - Repeat it to yourselves again and I say this to you.. SHAME on you!
If some of you here can't post a valid and legitimate help and advice, please just don't post.
PREJUDICE PREJUDICE.

I would rather give solid information to someone with impure intentions than turn away someone who needs help, personally. Don't want to push a truly hurting person back into the arms of their abuser and make them think the real world out there is against them. You can never be sure who is who.

Having spoken to my lawyer this morning, I casually mentioned this thread to him. He said that the USCIS would welcome him to come and meet with an official at the closest Homeland Security office. Seeing that you're from Kansas City, it will be the one on NW Conant Avenue in KC. It is the same one I went to and the officials there are very friendly. I hope this helps! I am sorry that you are going through this. I can only imagine how terrible this must be for you and your family. I hope she gets sent back to her home country soon, too. Keep us updated!
Now, not meaning to stray from the subject, but I felt I need to address this kerfuffle that Avery Cates said I was going in to. Generalizing that all people from one country or another is not what I expected from someone on this helpful website. We are ALL from various parts of the world and saying things that cover an entire people from say the Philippines or Nigeria is uncalled for. What happened to respect? Have you forgotten where you are posting? All you need to do is read here the many success stories of people from around the world wanting what you and I and everyone on VJ want: Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness in the United States. Maybe you're into the whole nationality shaming, so be it. You are entitled as much as anyone else with your opinion but none of that makes it easier on the original poster or the people here trying to help him with vital information.

I personally hate reading sad stories such as what the OP had however, your previous comment is uncalled for. While Scam in visa do really exist, take note that it i not just a country specific. It happens anywhere from across the Globe. Your country is not even exempted from this kind of people.

Again, this are just my 2 cents of opinion. I am not here to defend who’s who. You shared us your side but haven’t heard the side of your husband. But anyway, I will just center my comment based on what I read. Please, no harm intended ok?
Here it goes, both of you are basically newly weds. And I am not sure how aware you are of the way your husband before you guys got married but if you knew this was the way him & her mom is, then at some point you’ve learned to accept that this is the situation you will be in the moment you stepped foot in their home.
Understand also, that marriage is a long term process. There are yet a lot of surprises that both of you has to go through. A lot of compromises to be done, laugher, tears…& a never ending hardwork on both of you to make it work.
In reading your post here, I am not really sure how much effort you had exerted to be part of their family. I know I do not have to remind you, but just let me You & them are from different culture and also unique individual who have a different set of principles from each other. You can not expect everyone to accept & love you, but you can atleast try. But that is yours to decide if you would like to do so or not.
Let me ask you this…you said at first, everything was fine. How fine was it then? And what changed the situation? When you arrive, did you get make an effort to involve yourself in their daily activity? Or you just stayed passive? Why I am asking is simply because, if you stayed passive, and let them do their day to day life without you being directly involved, they might have thought it was ok to do what they were doing.
If your husband spends time with his family to watch TV, did you by any chance tried to watch it altogether with them? Or joined any of their activity with enthusiasm?
Add’l:
•Husband does not buy groceries for he eat with his parents upstairs and, so I ate given food from friends and church.
• No regular groceries because he always brings left over foods from his job
>> Let me just clear this two…which of the above statement is really the situation in your house? Does he really buy grocery or no?
• No regular allowance, I feel trapped in the full basement.
>> Do you not have any joint account? On my end, I do not get any allowance per say tho I have a debit and credit
card which I can use..and seldom I use it for myself other than when going to the grocery or paying bills.
>>You feel trapped in the basement, but this doesn’t mean you are locked inside right? (since you said that when you feel cold, you go at the library, church or friend.
• I was so worried of my physical situation because most of the time I am alone waiting my husband for the whole day.
>>> What makes you worried?
. • He deprives me of my rights as a wife to work, even though I have education and a college degree.
>>Did he told you upfront he doesn’t like you to work? There are still other people who believe on the old family tradition. That it should be the men who will work & wife most stay at the house and take care of the family.
• We never discuss about our future together or any plans with status adjustment.
>>> did you try to start a conversation with him about how you like the future to be? Do not play that mind guessing game. IF you have something on your mind, find way to share it….ofcourse find a right time to do that. I suppose not everyday is really BAD, right?
• Sometimes when his step father gets drunk, he throws bad words to me like, '######' which traumatizes me. That is why I don’t like to go with them.
>>>Question, what triggers the behavior? Was his stepdad that way since the start?
• I love my husband very much. I clean, I cook, I take care of him every day, and when he gets sick. I feel I am wronged. He doesn’t meet his obligations and responsibilities as a husband.
>>>Sometimes, we tend to place our expectation too much. We want him/ her to be like this & that…a perfect husband and wife. But then, we forgot that the person we came to love struggled to met that. Sometimes, we get ourselves blinded by our preferences, and tend to forget to lend a hand over your partner & walk with him as he journey to become better. We neglect to see how hard they tried, because all we see are what they forgot to do or what hen they failed to met our expectation.
I remember I was asking his mother if can I go with them when she drives my husband to work and she said no because she will be back right away.
>>>>>Had she always refused to NOT let you go with her? I understand how it feels to be like rejected. But sometimes, the hurt feeling makes us blind in seeing hat is really the true reason behind it. If you only asked her ones, why don’t you try doing it another day..especiallly when you think your in law is in a great mood. Did you also try making a step to get your inlaws attention?
There was a time when I got home from the church around 11:30 in the morning and found out that he and his mom went somewhere without waiting for me. I read his note that her mother woke him up to go to the store.
>> if he wrote you a letter , then he had not totally just ignored you.
So I called his step dad and asked him where my husband was and he said maybe they bought a filter then I noticed they’ve been gone from 11:30am to 4:00pm just to get a filter.
>>Why call his stepdad? Can’t you call your husband directly? When he went home, what did you do?
I have to remind them that he is already married, that we should spend more time together. Every time I get mad at him or confronted him to remind him with all the changes in his life now, they misinterpreted it by saying that I’m controlling him.
>>>This is the tricky part in marriage. Communication always plays a very important role, and some maybe not all always run through this mistake. Not really to lecture you on this but just maybe this may help.
It is but natural to feel bad & be mad when you feel ignored. Especially after giving up a lot. But anger doesn’t resolve any problem. I know It is so hard to make a heart to heart talk especially when you feel wronged. But again, making the other person feel accused helps nothing but escalate the problem.
He sure knows he is married. But marriage doesn’t change a person just as quick as a snap of your finger when you really want to. Reminding him in my opinion is like telling him he is stupid & doesn’t have a mind of his own. Place yourself on his end…no matter how positive of a person you are, when you hear accusation whether true or not, we tend to be defensive..thus making the problems even more worst. So instead of TELLING HIM what he need to do…why not start it off in trying to share with him what you are feeling. Be creative too in your marriage and do something that will get your husbands attention, just like you did when you first met. Marriage like what I said is a hardwork…sometimes, you have to go out of your own shell to make marriage exciting. If you love your husband, rekindle that flame & find a way that will make him WANT you more. Do not just stay idle. You can not change who they are & the situation they have but you sure is in control of your own.
I asked myself why I have to explain everything since I am the wife.
>>you are his wife but whatever you have in your mind is your own. Not unless you share it, nobody will know. Men ( for the most part & even women ) hate these mind reading games. It is ok ones or twice but if it becomes constant..it get old & sometimes could chase your partner away.
You are the ones who is responsible to find whatever makes you happy. Why are you afraid of being trapped in the basement. They aint locking you in right? I honestly understand how you feel. I have that feeling too awhile back. There’s been times when I was left alone here at our house for over a week when my husband went overseas. I was afraid of the idea of being alone, especially with a month old baby, and not having a car, and not knowing how to drive, but I tried to work out my fear. I acknowledge my fear & note down important numbers to call & what I should do incase of emergency. We all have to learn how to be independent somehow.
About turning the heater off, most probably that has something to do with the electric bill they have to pay if they run the heater all the time. I have been incharge of our finances and learning how to difficult it is to do the budget. If you feel cold, then most probably what you can best do is bundle yourself.
• The worst thing happened was when he left me asleep on December 2013.Together with his parents (my in-laws) they went to some place again to celebrate New Year's Eve. He doesn't give me enough importance and concern. He didn't think that something might happen to me during that night when they were away. I don't feel I am his priority at this time.
>>>Was he always like that? How was your communication when you arrive and how is it this time?
I have not apply for adjustment status for he will not sign the form 864. He is afraid of what it is being said in the papers, so he decided to divorce me and want to send me back home.
>>We do not know your real situation inside the house, how often you and your husband fight & what had been said & done too on his part when you both have argument.
If you have not yet talk to him, maybe it is best to make a meaningful & heart to heart talk to probably understand your situation better. Just maybe there is still a way things could work out.