Liz&Nate

I hope you get the recommendations you need via PM or email, although let me suggest you try to do it yourself. Unless you have a difficult case, there are many advantages to filling this forms out on your own, least of all is the money you'll save. You get a lot more control of when and what you file. Attorneys other than being too busy to pay much attention to your individual case, will just file the most standard package. You get to verify your own information, check everything as much as you can, decide if you are going to frontload for the embassy, and you are probably going to go right ahead and mail your package as soon as possible. I keep reading threads were the attorneys hold on to your forms for months, delaying the already long process. Don't be afraid of the forms, you are just filling out your information, after all, and you have a great checklist to help you out. Just my two cents. Good luck.

I hope you get the recommendations you need via PM or email, although let me suggest you try to do it yourself. Unless you have a difficult case, there are many advantages to filling this forms out on your own, least of all is the money you'll save. You get a lot more control of when and what you file. Attorneys other than being too busy to pay much attention to your individual case, will just file the most standard package. You get to verify your own information, check everything as much as you can, decide if you are going to frontload for the embassy, and you are probably going to go right ahead and mail your package as soon as possible. I keep reading threads were the attorneys hold on to your forms for months, delaying the already long process. Don't be afraid of the forms, you are just filling out your information, after all, and you have a great checklist to help you out. Just my two cents. Good luck.

Maybe an alternative, kind of splitting it down the middle. I use Rapid Visa and was extremely happy with the site and staff. I just typed in the requested information, their program puts the information on the forms and then they reviewed it when I was done. I printed it and where I needed to insert things it had specific instructions what to do. There would have been no problems, but there were some spelling errors in some names that Alla provided me, but no fault of theirs. The staff there helped me a great deal with questions either by calling or emails. Knowing what I know now, I agree with most that it is not that hard, but Rapid made it VERY easy for me and they also provided me with the completed interview forms needed also. Ben there is a GREAT guy and I always got a person when I called. Like you in the beginning I felt a bit intimidated with the paperwork involved.
After the application is turned in to USCIS, an attorney can really do nothing more than you can, unless there was a problem. This site has GREAT information and people who will help you.

I hope you get the recommendations you need via PM or email, although let me suggest you try to do it yourself. Unless you have a difficult case, there are many advantages to filling this forms out on your own, least of all is the money you'll save. You get a lot more control of when and what you file. Attorneys other than being too busy to pay much attention to your individual case, will just file the most standard package. You get to verify your own information, check everything as much as you can, decide if you are going to frontload for the embassy, and you are probably going to go right ahead and mail your package as soon as possible. I keep reading threads were the attorneys hold on to your forms for months, delaying the already long process. Don't be afraid of the forms, you are just filling out your information, after all, and you have a great checklist to help you out. Just my two cents. Good luck.

The invitation letter points you to the Juarez consulate website to download the forms and their "packet 3". http://ciudadjuarez.usconsulate.gov/fianceforms.html
Instructions (packet 3) and what to bring with you: http://photos.state.gov/libraries/ciudadjuarez/231771/PDFs/K1%20PACKET%20COMPLETE%20_July2011%20UPDATES_.pdf

i see one other problem.
IF that friend was a USCitizen, and you used her name on the arrest,
then you've represented yourself as a USCitizen (even though sideways)
I think you'll have some big problem on this one, if the immigration lady knows her stuff.

Perhaps his answer is correct, but there's no reason to be so rude about it when the OP is obviously upset about the situation. They made a mistake. Humans tend to do that. It's not fun to go somewhere for advice on what to to do next and be treated as if you're an idiot.

Or - try "nonputas.com"

I like that..Filed three petitions, one approved, one withdrawn and one ran away. I wonder too if the second and 3rd one the same person too. Is it a bad judgement, bad women, bad OP or combination of any.

Report her as missing to immigration in writing with the circumstances and make sure to give them a copy of the phone bill with the numbers she had been calling.
I'm very sorry to hear this has happened to you.

take lots of pictures, of both of you to gather different places and days and with family,make copies of all your bills from there copies of your flights, and boarding passes.if your doing the k-1 1-129f read the guides, you can down load the forms what is needed.or if you get married there use the 1-130, cr-1 it will take about 8 to 9 months estimated.time,for her to be approval.

Whether or not you are overreacting depends on what you think the right reaction to this incident is. Some spouses, wouldn't mind if their SO's looked at porn. For others it is an extremely offensive issue. The one thing I would suggest is that you take everything else into account. Don't define your life by a single act.

Whether or not you are overreacting depends on what you think the right reaction to this incident is. Some spouses, wouldn't mind if their SO's looked at porn. For others it is an extremely offensive issue. The one thing I would suggest is that you take everything else into account. Don't define your life by a single act.

Thats why they need to talk to each other, imo they need to get to know each other a LOT better before getting married because if they're having a problem communicating now (to the point where she is posting things asking US what he should do rather than talking it out with him) then they are in for a rocky time. I'm not a fan of airing out dirty laundry like this on a public forum, it's embarrassing and now look at all the people demonising her fiance. If I were him I would feel very hurt and upset by this as she is about the situation which started it.

My husband does all sorts of odd things:
1) He puts hot sauce on everything he eats
2) He eats the food on his plate from left to right, complimentary flavors or not
3) He won't wake up if an earthquake goes through the bedroom, however the doorbell rings once and he's up and alert
4) He's good at driving but terrible at parking
5) His favorite movies are of the bad, terrible, extremely awful b-movie kind
The odd thing? He's the USC

My husband does all sorts of odd things:
1) He puts hot sauce on everything he eats
2) He eats the food on his plate from left to right, complimentary flavors or not
3) He won't wake up if an earthquake goes through the bedroom, however the doorbell rings once and he's up and alert
4) He's good at driving but terrible at parking
5) His favorite movies are of the bad, terrible, extremely awful b-movie kind
The odd thing? He's the USC

My husband does all sorts of odd things:
1) He puts hot sauce on everything he eats
2) He eats the food on his plate from left to right, complimentary flavors or not
3) He won't wake up if an earthquake goes through the bedroom, however the doorbell rings once and he's up and alert
4) He's good at driving but terrible at parking
5) His favorite movies are of the bad, terrible, extremely awful b-movie kind
The odd thing? He's the USC

Ah, the mysterious Packet 3... Packet 3 is available online on the Juarez consulate webpage (you can see it says K Visa/Fiance(e) Packet). You need to download it, as it does contain important information and you have to sign the letter of intent to marry on the last page and take it on the day of your interview. The letter you got is what is known as "invitation letter" (although calling the helpline, they'll tell you that there is no such thing as an "invitation letter", then it is one of the first things you'll be asked for). You will need that letter, in every step of the process. The actual packet doesn't arrive via mail (I did get the invitation letter via snail mail in Mexico so go figure, about a month after my fiance got it in the US) or at least I haven't seen anyone who's received it so far.
Just make sure you have the NVC case number and the beneficiary ID for the DS-260. Good luck!

Rude replies are seldom helpful. Judgmental people, everywhere and not just here, usually just want a chance to feel morally superior to posters. Thing is negative feedback by and of itself is not a bad thing. A lot of people arrived here after having been misinformed or ill-advised and it would be a terrible disservice not to let them know about it as harsh as it can sometimes sound.
As far as making sure you have the "visa in hand" before making any plans, a lot of that advice comes from personal experience. I had wedding plans, for instance. We had a hall, the church and people had taken time and money out of their lives to attend our wedding. In the end it came to nothing because we had been misinformed that a 10 year, multiple entry, visa was enough to get married and adjust in the US, advice that came to us from 3 different lawyers. So, yes, sometimes when I see an OP asking if it's okay that they buy their honeymoon package, or quit their jobs or reserve the hall, I feel compelled to tell them to wait a bit until they are sure this huge change is more of a certainty. I am sure that is the motivation behind a lot of posters, as well.

I used to be a bit more harsh on those who replied brusquely or somewhat rudely. But after a while, you read a lot of the same questions. The example of making concrete plans before a visa is in hand (I would argue successful admission at POE is the real go/no-go point) comes up a lot. There are a lot of questions about the affidavit of support that are obvious if the poster would just take the time to read the documents available on this site; if your fiancé does not have enough income, you have to get a cosponsor, full stop. A lot of people do not do their homework. I see a question of "I just filed my K-1, what do I do next" - well, duh, take the time to read what's here first.
There are some trolls, but they go away after a while. There are some cranky people with very helpful information, but I'd rather have them around ticking off the squeamish than not have their presence and the useful data they bring.
The USCIS and DoS are far less forgiving of your stupid mistakes than even the most hostile, belligerent person on these boards. If you can't deal with them, if they get you down, you are going to have a rough time when some apparatchik is making decisions about your future and insists on that extra piece of paper to satisfy his own notions of what is and isn't a relationship.

There is a difference that we need to draw between "degrading comments" and honest comments that intended to help OP but OP does not like them. The bottom line is
1) that if you do not want to hear advice that you do not like do not post anything. This is not the place to seek approval of your actions (sometimes illegal or silly). This is the place for seeking help
2) If you are voicing your opinion be prepared to hear opposite opinions, which do not agree with yours
3) If you are committing or trying to commit clearly immoral acts such as: a) Trying to make co-sponsor to pay your bills despite the fact that co-sponsor was nice enough to sign I864; b) Commit immigration fraud; c) Seek advice on how to immigrate into US illegally; d) Divorcing your petitioner after receiving temporary card after clearly fraudulent marriage and trying to stay in US; and many-many other questions on committing acts of immoral nature that I see on this site. BE PREPARED TO NEGATIVE OPINIONS.
If you follow these 3 simple rules you are OK.
The only time I agree with the OP where there is no place for negativity is when people ask questions, even seemingly stupid. Either answer question or move on. This situation I agree with OP.

While there are a few people here who are perennial pessimists, most people here are genuinely trying to help. When someone says that they've done something, or suggests that they want to do something, that's well known here to be a big mistake then people are definitely going to strongly recommend against it. That's why this site exists - to make sure people are getting good advice.
People are told repeatedly not to make any concrete plans until after they have the visa in hand. This advice even comes from the consulates. When someone insists on doing something that they've been told repeatedly not to do then it's only proper for people here to condemn that action. It may not be "nice", but if people "don't say anything at all" then other new members will get the impression that it's OK, and they'll blame VJ for not warning them when their world collapses around them because their visa was postponed or denied.
Just because one person does something they were warned not to do and they get away with it, that doesn't make it advisable for others. One person's experience does not become a blueprint for everyone else. It's the collective experience of everyone that should be relied upon. You might have made firm wedding plans in advance and things might have worked out fine for you. If so, congratulations. However, if you advise someone else to do the same thing and their plans blow up in their faces because the visa is delayed then you'll have to live with the fact that you helped contribute to their misery.

This is what happens when selfish men go shopping abroad for women like they're a pair of shoes you can take back.
Divorce your wife, and try acting with some dignity and respect not only for yourself and for her, but for the law.

Wow, really??? You're coming on here asking us how to dump your wife off in her country...and to kidnap your child???? Oh...and you want to "pay off" a judge. You sound like great husband and father material.

Agreed. Though as Jim said it does get hard at times, especially when people have the "I'm always right" attitude and keep posting the wrong information over and over in the same thread. Something to this is happening in a K-1 thread right now in regards to yes/no to working with a K-1 and SSN before EAD and a greencard. So I can see how people can get annoyed and be rude, however, I do know several of the rude persons on this site and how they almost always offer little to no useful advise and just bash/call out others.