Thinking of Remarriage

[csh2020 60]

44 minutes ago, appleblossom said:

 

You did say you wanted candour, so I'm afraid I'm going to be a bit blunt. You got sucked in before by somebody that clearly wasn't legit, and this is ringing alarm bells and sounds like exactly the same thing is happening again. I'm not saying it's definitely fake on her side, but she's several decades younger than you and desperately needs a way to be able to stay in the US.

 

How did you meet this woman?

As far as desperately looking for a way into the US - she is willing to move back to Honduras. I don't want her to but she said it would be the only way. What's interesting is that though she is younger, she is definitely wiser than most women twice her age. 

 

I was more concerned about the age difference. It isn't concerning to she nor I but I just wasn't sure how UCSIS would look at it. Is it common for people with an age difference to marry and be approved?

[csh2020 60]

1 minute ago, Crazy Cat said:

Wait a minute....  @csh2020, I remember your last case here.  Is there any chance your current fiance knows the woman you just divorced?

No they don't know each other. There is no way. Second, I wouldn't quite call her my "fiance" at this point as I haven't even proposed to her. It is just something that I'm thinking about before asking for her hand in marriage. Right now, it is a dating relationship where we are getting to know one another. That's all.

[S2N 424]

6 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

As far as desperately looking for a way into the US - she is willing to move back to Honduras. I don't want her to but she said it would be the only way. What's interesting is that though she is younger, she is definitely wiser than most women twice her age

 

It depends on the specifics of her most recent entry into the U.S. if there was a procedurally correct inspection and admission she might not have to leave. Procedurally correct means that she was physically in front of CBP (or their predecessor), did not lie to them, and was told she could enter. Whether or not they had a legal right to enter isn’t at issue unless they lied. The standard in AOS is procedural correctness.

 

6 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

 

I was more concerned about the age difference. It isn't concerning to she nor I but I just wasn't sure how UCSIS would look at it. Is it common for people with an age difference to marry and be approved?

It’s the totality of the circumstances. This would be your third green card marriage. You just ended your last one 4-5 months ago. The person you want to marry and sponsor is out of status. She is also 27 years younger than you.

 

On its own it might raise a concern, but it’s very much not the norm for someone to have two green cards marriages and start on a third one 4 months after a divorce with someone almost 3 decades younger who is here without status.

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[Crazy Cat 45,244]

3 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

It is just something that I'm thinking about before asking for her hand in marriage.

How did she enter the US?  When did she enter?

[Crazy Cat 45,244]

13 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

I don't want her to but she said it would be the only way.

So, she is knowledgeable of the immigration process? 

[csh2020 60]

34 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

So, she is knowledgeable of the immigration process? 

I'm not sure how much she knows about the immigration process. She was saying that she would like to go to her home country and if we marry for me to go with her there. During our first conversation, however, she plainly said that she isn't looking for papers but for a companion who will be her life partner. I'm not sure because we are still in a vetting process. I'm not going to be blinded by love like a lot of people are. I'm definitely not desperate because I do have plenty of options. I just like this lady a whole lot but I still need to continue getting to know her and, yes, my radar is on full force. 

Edited August 26 by csh2020

[csh2020 60]

43 minutes ago, Crazy Cat said:

How did she enter the US?  When did she enter?

I still need to have that conversation with her. That's what I plan to do really soon. We have barely talked about immigration but I know it is something we are going to have to have a long talk about before making any life changing decisions. 

[Daphne . 2,110]

1 hour ago, csh2020 said:

I'm not sure how much she knows about the immigration process. She was saying that she would like to go to her home country and if we marry for me to go with her there. During our first conversation, however, she plainly said that she isn't looking for papers but for a companion who will be her life partner. I'm not sure because we are still in a vetting process. I'm not going to be blinded by love like a lot of people are. I'm definitely not desperate because I do have plenty of options. I just like this lady a whole lot but I still need to continue getting to know her and, yes, my radar is on full force. 

Of course she’s going to tell you all the right things like not being in it for the papers or moving back to her home country. She’s in the US now and for a reason, she’s not going to go back to Honduras, she hopes that by saying all those things you will bite. The chances of her finding the 55 year old love of her life in Honduras are non-existent. 

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[Crazy Cat 45,244]

1 hour ago, csh2020 said:

she plainly said that she isn't looking for papers but for a companion who will be her life partner.

A life partner twice her age..........It's highly possible you are being played.....be careful.  Personally, I think it is much, much too early to even think about immigration.  This has all the earmarks of case USCIS will deeply vet.

Edited August 26 by Crazy Cat

[Cw1977 216]

1 hour ago, csh2020 said:

I'm not sure how much she knows about the immigration process. She was saying that she would like to go to her home country and if we marry for me to go with her there. During our first conversation, however, she plainly said that she isn't looking for papers but for a companion who will be her life partner. I'm not sure because we are still in a vetting process. I'm not going to be blinded by love like a lot of people are. I'm definitely not desperate because I do have plenty of options. I just like this lady a whole lot but I still need to continue getting to know her and, yes, my radar is on full force. 

Why not suggest to her that you would be open to moving to Honduras with her for several years, since she wants a life partner and so she can continue her life back in her home country. Will be very interesting to see her reaction to that 

Edited August 26 by Cw1977

[JeanneAdil 7,234]

suggest that after marriage the 2 of u could permanently reside in her country as your attorney says it is considerable cheaper to live there and that lawyer is also prepared to write up the prenuptial agreement to protect your US properties / let  that idea sink into her and then watch what happens

 

 

[Boiler 47,885]

Lets say you marry

 

File an I 130 about 16 months

 

Then file an In 601a 3 years, guessing as I do not know if the illegal presence is the only issue or how long things will take in the future.

 

Consulate interview

 

You are a long way from proving marriage bonafides

 

       

[TBoneTX 47,897]

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[csh2020 60]

Thanks for your help. I decided to not continue with her. Too many red flags even for me. And if they are red flags for me, then I guarantee they will be for USCIS. I'm not willing to travel down that road. It's been difficult enough. There is no need to invite problems into my life, especially after what I just experienced with the last two immigrant wives. I would prefer to meet someone already documented. Less hassle. Life is too short. Anyway, thanks for allowing me to part of this awesome community. For me, it is like a support group. 

 

I went on a dating site in recent weeks and I was amazed at how many women even as young as 18 to 20 living in places like Cuba and Colombia were proclaiming their love for a 55 year old man whom they've never met or even spoken with. It can't get any more obvious. That's to say for anyone on those sites to exercise much caution and wisdom. 

Edited September 1 by csh2020

[S2N 424]

10 minutes ago, csh2020 said:

Thanks for your help. I decided to not continue with her. Too many red flags even for me. And if they are red flags for me, then I guarantee they will be for USCIS. I'm not willing to travel down that road. It's been difficult enough. There is no need to invite problems into my life, especially after what I just experienced with the last two immigrant wives. I would prefer to meet someone already documented. Less hassle. Life is too short. Anyway, thanks for allowing me to part of this awesome community. For me, it is like a support group. 

 

I went on a dating site in recent weeks and I was amazed at how many women even as young as 18 to 20 living in places like Cuba and Colombia were proclaiming their love for a 55 year old man whom they've never met or even spoken with. It can't get any more obvious. That's to say for anyone on those sites to exercise much caution and wisdom. 

Re: your last paragraph, It’s a thing.
 

Go to r/passportbros if you want to see the cringier side of international relationships.

 

Not judging any particular relationship or people who find international love online I fall in that camp, so I’d be hypocritical if I was.
 

But there’s a subculture both within the U.S. and in some specific countries of marriages where the older financially established male U.S. citizen marries a younger woman from one of a handful of countries who is madly in love with him.

 

If a 25 year old woman wouldn’t fall in love with a 55 year old man from her own country, I doubt they’d fall in love with a 55 year old man from a foreign country. That’s my view at least.