K-1 the right visa?

[NikLR 13,220]

Just now, Caitlin Kennedy said:

When you do a "random" wedding in Vegas, most people are doing it with a visa involved. the gov could look at it saying that he came with the purpose of marriage, which is illegal. 

no it's not

It's not illegal to get married in the USA

It's illegal to use a non-immigrant visa to intend to stay in the USA.  Your fiance will go home right?  His intent would be to get married and leave.  When he lands and goes through CBP (or he can through pre-clearance in dublin) they will determine if he is intending to stay or not.  simple

 

OR you can go up to Canada

OR you can go down to Mexico

both of which have wedding tourism, just like the USA does.  

[Caitlin Kennedy 63]

It is illegal to come to the us with the intent of marriage if you don't mention it when you come to immigration. thats why people have to lie and say we did it randomly. I don't want to get married and have him leave again. being engaged and him leaving is heartbreaking enough. I think I would rather do k-1. less risks. 

[payxibka 10,044]

If none of the above float your boat then:

Jamaica

Bahamas

Dominican republic 

Italy

Spain

Thailand 

 

Options are endless 

[payxibka 10,044]

2 minutes ago, Caitlin Kennedy said:

It is illegal to come to the us with the intent of marriage if you don't mention it when you come to immigration. thats why people have to lie and say we did it randomly. I don't want to get married and have him leave again. being engaged and him leaving is heartbreaking enough. I think I would rather do k-1. less risks. 

This is the first time you mentioned getting married and having him STAY.  That is a totally different fact pattern 

[Caitlin Kennedy 63]

I didnt realize if you did the travel visa, after you get married, you would have to leave. I would prefer not to be married and have him leave, thats why I think the k-1 is the better fit. being engaged apart is hard enough!!!

[NikLR 13,220]

11 minutes ago, Caitlin Kennedy said:

It is illegal to come to the us with the intent of marriage if you don't mention it when you come to immigration. thats why people have to lie and say we did it randomly. I don't want to get married and have him leave again. being engaged and him leaving is heartbreaking enough. I think I would rather do k-1. less risks. 

So as others do, they don't lie about their intent to get married and they leave when they're supposed to.

But if leaving is heartbreaking for you, then don't. Get the K1.  But don't let your emotions get in the way of a very logical decision.  Leaving my husband each time we visited was no different than leaving my boyfriend or my fiance.  After all he had to go through those stages too.  It hurt. We cried. It is what it is.  But I am far to independent of a person with far too much left behind to even put any of that in jeopardy.  To each their own. 

[Caitlin Kennedy 63]

so you did the cr-1? what is the benefits versus a k-1? so he came over on a travel, said you were getting married, but then left? then applied for cr-1, and he came back over?

[payxibka 10,044]

1 minute ago, Caitlin Kennedy said:

so you did the cr-1? what is the benefits versus a k-1? so he came over on a travel, said you were getting married, but then left? then applied for cr-1, and he came back over?

CR1 is faster to green card,  faster to be able to work, drive, travel, lead a normal life 

[Caitlin Kennedy 63]

Ok. Thank you. I have research to do, ha. All of this is overwhelming 

[Just Paul 4,591]

Just now, payxibka said:

CR1 is faster to green card,  faster to be able to work, drive, travel, lead a normal life 

and less expensive too.\

[payxibka 10,044]

5 minutes ago, Caitlin Kennedy said:

Ok. Thank you. I have research to do, ha. All of this is overwhelming 

Just think about from the alien's point of view.  Your ability to function remain the same, the k1 is severely impacted 

 

Not so bad when working permit was taking 60 days and green card in 4 to 5 months.   Now the work permit is 7 to 8 months  and green card is 14 to 30 months depending upon where you live 

Edited June 11, 2019 by payxibka

[civilservant 42]

As a former (now naturalized) British CR1 beneficiary, I would never ever recommend the K1. Working significantly helps a foreign born person to adjust to life in the US, and allows them to immerse themselves in their new country independent of the spouse, which is important for a healthy marriage.

 

Consider your spouses sacrifice when making the decision. They are giving up their home, their life, their friends, their job, to sit around the house and do nothing until their EAD shows up. That's the life on a K1 applicant upon getting to the US.

 

I realize it's hard to be apart married, but you are adults, and the delaying of pleasure is the hallmark of an adult. Children do what feels good. Yes with the CR1 you would be married and apart, but upon the spouses arrival on a Green Card he would be able to get a job, get his license, and be useful.

 

That cannot be overstated enough.

Edited June 11, 2019 by civilservant

[Daphne . 1,671]

2 hours ago, civilservant said:

As a former (now naturalized) British CR1 beneficiary, I would never ever recommend the K1. Working significantly helps a foreign born person to adjust to life in the US, and allows them to immerse themselves in their new country independent of the spouse, which is important for a healthy marriage.

 

Consider your spouses sacrifice when making the decision. They are giving up their home, their life, their friends, their job, to sit around the house and do nothing until their EAD shows up. That's the life on a K1 applicant upon getting to the US.

 

I realize it's hard to be apart married, but you are adults, and the delaying of pleasure is the hallmark of an adult. Children do what feels good. Yes with the CR1 you would be married and apart, but upon the spouses arrival on a Green Card he would be able to get a job, get his license, and be useful.

 

That cannot be overstated enough.

So very well said 👍

[NikLR 13,220]

On 6/10/2019 at 8:05 PM, Caitlin Kennedy said:

so you did the cr-1? what is the benefits versus a k-1? so he came over on a travel, said you were getting married, but then left? then applied for cr-1, and he came back over?

My husband came to Canada (I am the foreign spouse) and we were married up there.  We could have married in the USA but i was more concerned with a wedding than he was, it was his 2nd and my 1st.  The options for you for a wedding location isnt limited to the USA.

After marriage we waited quite a while to file because we had to decide where to live.

But in the end we chose US immigration.  Because I came on an immigrant visa, I had my green card right away and could work and travel and drive.  With the k1 at the time those things took 90 days.  Now they take 200+ days.  I didnt like the idea of not being able to travel outside the USA in the case of an emergency with a family member back home either.  

It's important not to think just how you feel but how this will affect your future.  Some of these decisions arent really yours to make but many require discussion with your significant other.  What do they truly want and how will this affect their life and yours.  You both want each other to be happy.

Will your fiance be happy if hes stuck sitting at home for 7 months while you work?

Can your job provide that support?

Will you feel at all negative because you are the only one providing financially?

Think about how you would feel if you had to ask your husband for spending money to relate how he would feel. 

What if a major even happens at home? Will he be angry he cant attend if he doesnt have AP? 

Immigration sounds like, oh boy we finally get to live together, but just like any relationship, there are many necessary discussions that should happen before a single paper is signed, whether that be a marriage license or a petition. Just like those discussions should happen in a domestic relstionship.  But one person is leaving a home and completely changing their life so it's even more important to have these talks. 

[NikLR 13,220]

When my husband came to Canada for our wedding he told the CBSA officer he was coming to get married and leaving on a specific date. 

Whenever I visited my husband in the USA after marriage I always said zi was visiting my husband and return on a specific date.  

People come to the USA all the time to get married and state exactly that.