dna Unconfirmed Son of U.S. citizen

[SherryandDaniel 4]

Wow! You have a heart of gold. I have no advice, but it's refreshing to see someone who is so compassionate. Best of luck <3

[Auds 223]

22 hours ago, NuestraUnion said:

Hey, I'm pulling for you. I hope the child is your husband's. It will be a blessing.

 

No judgement here. When you asked the question "why should I look for the father for her", I simply responded with a valid reason. The question alone made it seem like you didn't even want to try. My point is that an unknown biological fathers deserve a chance and to be, at the least, searched for even if it results come up empty. If you are willing to do that diligence at least you gave it a try.

 

 But all of this could be moot if the child is your husband's. Again, we hope that it is.

 

 

OP - refers to Original Poster

 

I dont think people get the different cultures and norms.  If the father is not OPs husband and unknown man will be next to impossible to track.

 

OPs husband cheated with this woman.  If there's another man or men that's so far fetched to find when even the mother seems difficult to track.

 

i do think the child is of OPs husband as it seems this was an affair and she knew his address, sister's address etc.  sounds more like a full blown affair than a fling.

 

Take one thing at a time, do the DNA test.  I feel your husband may have made the child seem like Likely not his to reduce guilt.  If its negative then look at adoption options.

 

i respect your honourable intentions and happy to know inspite of issues with your husband you have put the unknown child first.

[evoria 19]

20 minutes ago, Auds said:

OP - refers to Original Poster

 

I dont think people get the different cultures and norms.  If the father is not OPs husband and unknown man will be next to impossible to track.

 

OPs husband cheated with this woman.  If there's another man or men that's so far fetched to find when even the mother seems difficult to track.

 

i do think the child is of OPs husband as it seems this was an affair and she knew his address, sister's address etc.  sounds more like a full blown affair than a fling.

 

Take one thing at a time, do the DNA test.  I feel your husband may have made the child seem like Likely not his to reduce guilt.  If its negative then look at adoption options.

 

i respect your honourable intentions and happy to know inspite of issues with your husband you have put the unknown child first.

Thanks for your comment.  Many who commented are from countries that are easy to immigrate from or those with great legal and child care systems that is not the case here.  I am a very self-reliant and confident person and realistic.  I understand the entire story and who knows who and what had to happen where my husband and I even to be in this situation.  Right now I am concerned for the child.  My sister in law is older and may not always be there for the child.  My current concern is the child. 

 

I contacted a DNA company they can do the DNA however it will not count for immigration.  Not sure why they are a AABB certified.  No matter we are scheduled and should have results soon.

 

[Boiler 43,696]

Please let us know the results.

[jefraylee 18]

52 minutes ago, evoria said:

Thanks for your comment.  Many who commented are from countries that are easy to immigrate from or those with great legal and child care systems that is not the case here.  I am a very self-reliant and confident person and realistic.  I understand the entire story and who knows who and what had to happen where my husband and I even to be in this situation.  Right now I am concerned for the child.  My sister in law is older and may not always be there for the child.  My current concern is the child. 

 

I contacted a DNA company they can do the DNA however it will not count for immigration.  Not sure why they are a AABB certified.  No matter we are scheduled and should have results soon.

 

 

The reason why they said it will not count for immigration is because it's not recommended by US Embassy. You are doing it for your own clarification.... In my case the embassy gave me a form demanding for a DNA to be performed including my case number on it.. 

[evoria 19]

37 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Please let us know the results.

Definitely.  I appreciate all the comments. 

[caliliving 606]

3 hours ago, evoria said:

Thanks for your comment.  Many who commented are from countries that are easy to immigrate from or those with great legal and child care systems that is not the case here.  I am a very self-reliant and confident person and realistic.  I understand the entire story and who knows who and what had to happen where my husband and I even to be in this situation.  Right now I am concerned for the child.  My sister in law is older and may not always be there for the child.  My current concern is the child. 

 

I contacted a DNA company they can do the DNA however it will not count for immigration.  Not sure why they are a AABB certified.  No matter we are scheduled and should have results soon.

 

 

No country is easy to migrate from despite what people think.  Get a visitor visa may be easier but not migrating or work permits. 

[Boiler 43,696]

Well Canada has the TN Visa and Ghana I think is eligible for the DV, so both have advantages not open to others.

[IcezMan_IcezLady 582]

Are you sure this child is not your sister-in-law's baby? Because i am surprised that you are hoping that they don't ask for a DNA test.

I hope I am wrong but others have tried this and failed at this embassy.

[evoria 19]

Just now, IcezMan_IcezLady said:

Are you sure this child is not your sister-in-law's baby? Because i am surprised that you are hoping that they don't ask for a DNA test.

I hope I am wrong but others have tried this and failed at this embassy.

LOL.  No my sister in Law is very old.  That is why it scares me that,God forbid she is unable to continue to take care of this child, he will end up in the streets.  By the way the DNA company was very nice.  My sister in law can do the test all in one - walk into to Fed Ex, swab the little fellas mouth, and put the swabs right back in an envelope and they will be on there way back to the lab.  Two days once both samples are back in the lab we will have results.  The cost was not too bad, $368, this included the additional fed ex postage to send it back. 

[caliliving 606]

12 minutes ago, IcezMan_IcezLady said:

Are you sure this child is not your sister-in-law's baby? Because i am surprised that you are hoping that they don't ask for a DNA test.

I hope I am wrong but others have tried this and failed at this embassy.

I think the sister would know if she gave birth. Lol

Goodluck! Hopefully it is your husband's as that would make things much easier:)

[IcezMan_IcezLady 582]

1 minute ago, caliliving said:

I think the sister would know if she gave birth. Lol

Goodluck! Hopefully it is your husband's as that would make things much easier:)

Of course she would.. even animals know their babies.

I have heard of stories of people trying to bring family members as their own. People who would not qualify under the family-based immigration category. That's why DNA was introduced into immigration system, this was absent years ago.

[IcezMan_IcezLady 582]

9 minutes ago, evoria said:

LOL.  No my sister in Law is very old.  That is why it scares me that,God forbid she is unable to continue to take care of this child, he will end up in the streets.  By the way the DNA company was very nice.  My sister in law can do the test all in one - walk into to Fed Ex, swab the little fellas mouth, and put the swabs right back in an envelope and they will be on there way back to the lab.  Two days once both samples are back in the lab we will have results.  The cost was not too bad, $368, this included the additional fed ex postage to send it back. 

Did y'all try the at home DNA testing? $368 seems like a lot of money to me. DNA testing is now common in Ghana. But I hope you get your answers.

[evoria 19]

2 minutes ago, IcezMan_IcezLady said:

Of course she would.. even animals know their babies.

I have heard of stories of people trying to bring family members as their own. People who would not qualify under the family-based immigration category. That's why DNA was introduced into immigration system, this was absent years ago.

That is what I was telling my husband he was like just file and forget DNA, I will accept him.  I said no because I am 100% certain they would ask for DNA and we would have wasted money if he turns out not to be your son and this would be a serious red flag if we come back and try to get him here another way.  If he is not, we can begin to try and locate his family, start adoption or come up with some back-up for this boy.  Some may think I am crazy to say I pray he is my husband's; but this is a 5 year old who is one heartbeat from being on the street.  It makes me sick to think about it.  He does not deserve that, every child deserves a family.  

[evoria 19]

9 minutes ago, IcezMan_IcezLady said:

Did y'all try the at home DNA testing? $368 seems like a lot of money to me. DNA testing is now common in Ghana. But I hope you get your answers.

No I figured by the time we did Fed Ex from the US to Ghana and back it would be at least $200.  Thank you