Hi, I live in the u.s. and I recently met A Jamaican man on Facebook....... I really really like him..... But I am not dumb so I would love some guidance please..... Thank you?

[Quenbee 47]

5 minutes ago, LionessDeon said:

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Didn't realize there was private message.. can I delete if myself!!

[KamilSoledad 9]

Hello! What is your age range. I am trying to gauge how to approach the topic. Teen? Older adult? 

[Ontarkie 14,856]

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[Therealworld 90]

16 hours ago, PeTina said:

Do you have any obvious warning signs? I am very open and I have a hard time telling sometimes..... I'm not desperate.....I just believe In Love?

Hello,

 

I think this website is great and people can really help you through with some stuff here.  We are all in the same situation one way or another meeting someone from another country and falling in love hoping to live happily ever after.  I hope to see you on here with a timeline one day because he did turn out to be the one. If not him maybe another.  No matter what country we may be dealing with, we all or most are here to be supportive of one another and I think this is great. Strangers coming together to help one another and share our stories and concerns.  Ive made friends and people help me that I will probably never meet face to face.  Just remember what we all say, we do so with concern and want the best for you to.  Good luck!

[angelbrown 195]

Use the same common sense you would use as if you met a man here in the states. The warning signs are no different. If you're paying for everything, he's asking you for money, you haven't met his family, kids or friends, he has suspicious behavior, etc., then heed the red signs. I would be mindful if you just met him online and he's already talking marriage and/or coming over and you haven't even met in person as yet. Also, JA culture is different, just as is any other country and as our American culture is different to them. The vibe, the music, the food, the language, the way they think, the way of life is different. You will need to visit him, not just to meet and be gooey-eyed but to be in his surroundings so you can learn about his culture and way of life. That means you will need to stay with him in his surroundings so you can really see how he will treat you in his comfort zone and not in the comfort of a nice resort/hotel. The downside is he may not be able to visit you in your surroundings. So keep in mind that it could be a challenge for him to adjust. Jamaicans  get a bad rap but just as anywhere else, there's the good and the bad. You can even read stories on here about the good and bad but truth is you can't really guage your relationship by comparing it to another. You will know if he's the one or not. 

 

Side note: My JA husband is awesome! I wouldn't trade him for anything. So I hope you come back to give us good news and a wonderful story!☺️ 

 

And I did ask him for his thoughts. He said that guy could really treat you nice and be the one or he can treat you nice just to come over, you just have to be confident in yourself bc what must be will be. 

 

Edited January 31, 2017 by angelbrown

[inloveVEN 46]

Wow, i think everything is on their own time.

you´ve just meet the guy and already thinking about weddings,  CR1.

take your time, just enjoy the relation as it is going, no expectations, just watching the growing of your feelings ( both´s feelings ), plan trips, vacations, visit. Enjoy this early moments. Not only because he would live in USA, most important is to know if you really feel comfortable with him.

take your time, wrong forum this is not an immigration post this is about-love post

 

[LionessDeon 2,060]

1 hour ago, inloveVEN said:

Wow, i think everything is on their own time.

you´ve just meet the guy and already thinking about weddings,  CR1.

take your time, just enjoy the relation as it is going, no expectations, just watching the growing of your feelings ( both´s feelings ), plan trips, vacations, visit. Enjoy this early moments. Not only because he would live in USA, most important is to know if you really feel comfortable with him.

take your time, wrong forum this is not an immigration post this is about-love post

 

The OP is PeTina and she hasn't been back since she posted this.  She hasn't said anything about weddings or immigration.  Only asked for guidance on an international dating with someone she has only met online.

[ARBIGRED1 9]

I don't know how old you are or if you got the answer you were looking for.  My husband is Jamaican and we moved fairly quickly but I would not recommend that for most women.  My Jamaican King warned me of the many tricks of Jamaican men.  We talked and video chatted for 4 months or more before I ever flew over to visit him I'm not sure where you are from but do not go and stay with him on his turf stay in a hotel.  Let the embassy know you are there and when u plan to leave so they can look for you if you don't board your flight home or family starts worrying.  Be prepared for your cell phone to not work and to need a Jamaican SIM card or an expensive roaming bill.  Read a lot about Jamaica and become familiar with the names of the Parish and major areas.  I went alone but I'm also 44 years old so I am not as naive as some.  After phone dating and Web chatting I was ready to see if this man was the one for me and he was.  My 2nd trip over was to marry him.  Jamaican's  struggle hard for their money and it will be hard on him to purchase this or that but don't be so quick to offer up money to help.  Make him prove he is willing to go a week without so you are comfortable if he's willing to sacrifice he probably worth your time. And example...for safety my husband had me fly in at montego bay instead of Kingston and he paid for a cab for a 2 hour drive.  When I landed he was already there waiting outside for me.  I never was left alone and all his friends and family treated me with complete respect.  I was already talking to his family before I ever went to Jamaica and had an idea of the people I was dealing with. 

[shsl73 29]

On 1/30/2017 at 10:04 PM, Quenbee said:

Girl am Jamaican do u want me to stalk him.. lol am in the US, I could always add him on fb and try to figure out his intentions.. he will open up to me cuz am Jamaican... and no worries I won't him know we spoke.. sounds creepy, but am always down to help a sister out!!

LMAO! Detective...

[lkh 1]

On ‎3‎/‎16‎/‎2017 at 9:25 AM, shsl73 said:

LMAO! Detective...

I agree with the link that was posted. I am currently married to a Jamaican on a CR-2 and I filed for him and his 7 year old. When he arrived everything was good, buthe falls into the category of the type who wants to be free and have fun. I came also to realize he didn't have my back when his sister insulted both of us and he continued to link up with her although me and y children weren't invited. But, the red flags were all there, sometimes we tend to igore it. Don't ignore or accept foolish behavior. Don't be belittled, some of them want to come for a good life, report you as abusive and push you over the edge, divorce you, and then move on and have fun. Also beware of the baby thing, because some of them want to have a baby so when they go to adjust it proves they married you with good intent, and not scam. But, I have had Jamaicans who treated me like a queen and did right, so not all are alike but beware, please and make him go half if you decide to file.  

[angelbrown 195]

On 6/21/2017 at 2:03 PM, lkh said:

I agree with the link that was posted. I am currently married to a Jamaican on a CR-2 and I filed for him and his 7 year old. When he arrived everything was good, buthe falls into the category of the type who wants to be free and have fun. I came also to realize he didn't have my back when his sister insulted both of us and he continued to link up with her although me and y children weren't invited. But, the red flags were all there, sometimes we tend to igore it. Don't ignore or accept foolish behavior. Don't be belittled, some of them want to come for a good life, report you as abusive and push you over the edge, divorce you, and then move on and have fun. Also beware of the baby thing, because some of them want to have a baby so when they go to adjust it proves they married you with good intent, and not scam. But, I have had Jamaicans who treated me like a queen and did right, so not all are alike but beware, please and make him go half if you decide to file.  

Hi there! Was wondering where you were. So sorry this happened. Hope you guys can work it out!🙏🏽

[tas2016 1]

Please go with your gut instinct. I met my Jamaican husband 3 years ago, he came here to the US on K1 visa last year and we married 2 weeks after. Now, nearly 1.5 years later I just found out on my own that he got his ex girlfriend pregnant just before leaving JA for here and they actually never broke up. Its much more complicated, but my point is please don't give money and take seriously all the warning signs 

[lkh 1]

On 6/28/2017 at 7:19 PM, angelbrown said:

Hi there! Was wondering where you were. So sorry this happened. Hope you guys can work it out!🙏🏽

I am in Connecticut feel free to inbox me.

[jakelake 222]

I think that some of you are generalizing. You will find the same type of man or woman regardless of what country that individual is from.

You need to judge the person, not the country that he or she is from.