afraid of losing my son.

[tdier 12]

Question here. My husband filed for me and im here in the states 4 months now. Im actually going through a rough time. My husband doesnt want me to work and we barely can afford bills and stuff. I've come to find out he's cheating and he treats me like #######. Im so fed up right now and considering leaving but he threatens me saying i cant take our 1 yr old son. Im worried on what to do.. because im afraid he gets to keep him because im unemployed. Who can i contact for help in my situation and what r how long should he be responsible for me after coming here. I have nothing here and I'm scared of losing my son.

[Pinkrlion 2,607]

Seek legal counsel. He can say that the child cannot leave the country.

[sus 70]

https://www.harborhousefl.com/

http://www.miratell.org/immigration-assistance-services.htm

http://www.immigrationadvocates.org/nonprofit/legaldirectory/search?state=FL

[NikLR 13,220]

~~moved to effects of major family changes from general immigration~~

He can't take your son away without a court saying so, however your son cannot leave the USA without his consent.

please fill in your timeline or at the very least let us know how far along you are in the process? Do you have your green card?

[Boiler 43,425]

It does happen, but the details matter, usually a US Court would not let a child leave its jurisdiction. Sounds like you meed a Shelter and a Divorce Lawyer.

[tdier 12]

~~moved to effects of major family changes from general immigration~~

He can't take your son away without a court saying so, however your son cannot leave the USA without his consent.

please fill in your timeline or at the very least let us know how far along you are in the process? Do you have your green card?

I have my green card. I just want to know who i can contact for help

I'm not considering going back to my home country! I just wanna move out and take my son.

[Pinkrlion 2,607]

I have my green card. I just want to know who i can contact for help

I'm not considering going back to my home country! I just wanna move out and take my son.

You need an attorney that specializes in family law to determine custody. If custody has not been established he has full rights to your son, just like you do. Just because you are the mother does not automatically give you full custody of the child.

Edited July 9, 2015 by Pinkrlion

[NikLR 13,220]

You need a divorce and family law lawyer. He has rights but so do you. You can leave the home (not leave the country), take your son, and file for divorce. Since you have your green card I also suggest taking anything that you may need for the removal of conditions if that is a factor.

Let the courts decide the custody but don't leave without your son.

You need an attorney that specializes in family law to determine custody. If custody has not been established he has full rights to your son, just like you do. Just because you are the mother does not automatically give you full custody of the child.

While this is true, it is up to the courts to decide custody and the child can remain with the mother should she choose to leave.

Edited to clarify!

Edited July 9, 2015 by NLR

[Jawaree 717]

OP you cannot walk away with the kid, he has rights too, if the marriage cant be

repaired & you are oppressed by him go to the courts, some states have limited

help in having someone low on funds file for divorce, with a kid involved it

will be more to it ,custody, child support, etc if you remove the child/deny him his

rights , you may lose custody...Some mates think they can own the other due to

a GC they cannot, if over have a famil try to mediate , but don't let matters get ugly

this is America that walking away with my baby don't work like in JA. Since Kramer

vs Kramer men are exercising their maternal rights on a large scale

[NikLR 13,220]

It is one thing to leave a child and another to deny a parent their rights. They are two different matters and independent of each other. Either parent is capable of denying a parent their rights. Please don't act like mothers are the only ones who keep children away from the other parent. In my personal experience, it's the other way around.

The word you're looking for btw is paternal right. Men do not have maternal rights. The other appropriate word is parental.

Edited July 9, 2015 by NLR

[Shauna&Wael 211]

Question here. My husband filed for me and im here in the states 4 months now. Im actually going through a rough time. My husband doesnt want me to work and we barely can afford bills and stuff. I've come to find out he's cheating and he treats me like #######. Im so fed up right now and considering leaving but he threatens me saying i cant take our 1 yr old son. Im worried on what to do.. because im afraid he gets to keep him because im unemployed. Who can i contact for help in my situation and what r how long should he be responsible for me after coming here. I have nothing here and I'm scared of losing my son.

Catholic charities may be able to help you. Contact your nearest office.

[janet&adonis 57]

Speaking from a person with experience, if the man is mistreating you with any type of abuse, its only a matter of time that he will treat the child the same way. If that is the case, you need to take yourself and your child to the nearest shelter, and they can get you help to be on your own.

[dandanos 54]

It does happen, but the details matter, usually a US Court would not let a child leave its jurisdiction. Sounds like you meed a Shelter and a Divorce Lawyer.

i like your signature

[Jawaree 717]

It is one thing to leave a child and another to deny a parent their rights. They are two different matters and independent of each other. Either parent is capable of denying a parent their rights. Please don't act like mothers are the only ones who keep children away from the other parent. In my personal experience, it's the other way around.

The word you're looking for btw is paternal right. Men do not have maternal rights. The other appropriate word is parental.

I do know the difference of both words I purposely said that because my brother was

given custody f his son & daughter at 5 & 3, now teens they call him " mo-dad" and he

gets Mothers day gifts and cards not just fathers day, nope she was not an addict

or abused them she just had no interest in the kids, she never paid the $45 wkly

support ever my brother did not want it anyway (I think he should have open a trust & have it

go there for their college days) She never give them anything, he allows the kids to go to

her parents to maintain cultural stuff from her side and the language, now grown up

almost the boy is in high school & the girl just started College .They are bilingual

because he allowed them to maintain relations with her family Mom has 2 more kids

approx. 9 & 11 yrs, that father have custody of those kids too. So I did say maternal in jest

Edited July 11, 2015 by Jawaree

[NikLR 13,220]

Okay?