Divorce within 90 days of fiance's arrival

[belinda63 2,981]

it really doesn't matter one way or the other. Libel, slander, defamation...all those are civil matters. So if he wins, which is extremely difficult as he would have to prove she said the things knowing they weren't true and with the intent to cause him serious damage, he gets a monetary judgement. How would he collect as she has no job or income or assets?

Stick to the subject which is he needs to focus on the divorce and the domestic violence issue. The very fact that he hasn't been served with any court papers shows there are doubts as to her claims. Not that it matters in a VAWA case since police reports aren't required just recommended.

[mike56427 6]

... well, appears like you don't know how to separate the wheat from the chaff ... I could provide you links to bonafide legal opinions and case law ... but I am not going to. You are totally entitled to your opinion.

Google 'til you wear out your keyboard and you'll get every answer under the sun.

I'll go with expert legal counsel and the law(s) applicable to where i reside. You think a judge gives a squat what a Google search return shows?

[InHisTime 110]

This is what my husband thought when after marriage, he told me to go home because he is not ready for a married life..yes, I was hurt..and I don't want to go home not because I wanted to live in the US but because I have chosen to be with him.It just happened that he lives in the US. It hurts a lot when the guy you love accused you of that..not even thinking that you left everything just to be with him..plus the betrayals..and the lies that I have found out..he booked me a flight thrice, the 2 flights were cancelled because he said, he wanted our marriage to work..but it seems that he wasn't doing anything to make it work..he does not even want to file our marriage license to the county,he even said that I am just after the green card..it hurts..so I said, for the 3rd time, book me a flight..I am going home..maybe going home will give you more time to think what do u really want in life..he took me to the airport, then when I was in Detroit, he told me that he is ready for a married life, that he loves me, and asked me to go back with him.. I said NO..I am going home..so I went home..

I am back to my country and working already. My husband?he realized what he lost when I went home..we are still communicating and I still love him..I left him because I wanted him to realize what he wants in life.so right now, he will be submitting our documents for the k3 petition..

Hello Iam_broken, I can totally relate with your experience. I hope this time you should ensure that he is 100% with you.... no turning back and forth. It is very hard if your man is unstable or changing his mind frequently. Maturity is very important. Good luck and all the best...with God's grace! - InHisTime

[Iam_broken 3]

Hello Iam_broken, I can totally relate with your experience. I hope this time you should ensure that he is 100% with you.... no turning back and forth. It is very hard if your man is unstable or changing his mind frequently. Maturity is very important. Good luck and all the best...with God's grace! - InHisTime

Hi,

Did u have the same experience? Yeah, I am hoping that he is 100% sure. I asked him if he is really ready for a married life and he said, yeah..though saying yes is just easy but proving that?it is something that I need to find out.

[InHisTime 110]

Hi,

Did u have the same experience? Yeah, I am hoping that he is 100% sure. I asked him if he is really ready for a married life and he said, yeah..though saying yes is just easy but proving that?it is something that I need to find out.

Yes, I had the same experience, but we didnt marry inspite we already have applied a marriage license. While I was in the US, I started to have some fears, based on what I was seeing or experiencing living with them. He cancelled by flights back home 3 times even I was already at the airport. Then finally on my 90th day I really had to go as I don't want to overstay. I really missed home. Like you, I too love him very much, but I realized I cannot be happy living with unstable environment / man.

I am grateful that I got back to my nice and stable job here in PI. We are still talking for friendship sake. He thought of filing k1 again, but I had to be firmed this time. It is not just getting to US and obtaining a GC. It is self-respect, values, love and happiness are more important to me. I dont want a roller coster relationship again. It was not easy leaving my family, job and all the comforts I have. But I did it for him, in the name of love. Now I have no regrets, no more "what if"..at least I tried my best. I am just thankful to God for the guidance and wisdom and the opportunity to see a little of America.

I wish you good luck this time. Take care and be happy !

Edited March 16, 2014 by InHisTime

[Thanks 2]

So annulments can take up to a year to complete? I never knew that. Knowing that though, I think I will divorce instead as it seems to be the quicker way. I'll talk this over with an attorney too.

[Darnell 8,478]

no - annulments in the PI take time.

and they are not the same thing as

annulments in the USA - where the duration of the court time is solely dependent on the calendar of the court where you file.

Edited March 17, 2014 by Darnell

[Boiler 43,544]

Annulments seem to get mentioned a lot on here, but rarely seem practical.

[kitthekat 1,317]

Huh? You're confused.

Libel is damage to someone's reputation - if it is written it is defamation; if it is verbal it is slander - but it's libel all the same.

I think you got it mixed up. At least this is how it is in my country:

If it is spoken, it is slander. If it is written, it is libel. Both slander and libel are forms of defamation.

[David & Diana R 1,005]

What proof does she have of domestic violence? What did the police tell you?

You haven't been married long enough for her to get anything of yours. However, it seems she is trying to set up a VAWA case. You should talk to a lawyer.

DO NOT make ANY kind of statement to Police without having an attorney present beside you. If you cannot afford to hire an attorney yourself I am sure the jurisdiction you reside in will appoint one to represent you for free. You DO NOT want to say a word to the Police other than the following: "I respectfully refuse to make any statement at this time without my attorney being present." Then DO NOT ANSWER ANY question at all. If they keep asking just politely say, "Please call my attorney or get one here for me."

Disclaimer: This is NOT LEGAL ADVICE and I have never been charged with abuse or any other crime but I have worked in the legal system for over 16 years and I can tell you NEVER SAY ANYTHING TO ANYONE WITHOUT YOUR ATTORNEY BEING PRESENT at your side, NEVER! Even if someone says it is "off the record". There is no such thing as off the record when it comes to statements you make regarding any Police investigation.

Good Luck

[David & Diana R 1,005]

Gotcha. I'm already looking for domestic violence attorneys. and I checked, My state allows annulment based on fraud. I'll do this first thing Monday.

Trouble is the burden of proof lies solely on you. Fraud, that is.

Good :Luck

[David & Diana R 1,005]

Good advise. Like everyone has said document everything. Also change the locks on your home and keep anything important like paperwork in a secure place. Your still married so she can come back in to the house legally any time.

You can keep her from coming back to your house by filing a restraining order in civil court. That might be a good move to keep her away from you...and your stuff too. Of course I am not suggesting you should try to hold onto anything that is hers but if she lsft stuff there and wants it back you must demand a POLICE escort.

[Thanks 2]

Yea it's going to be difficult to prove her fraud other than my family giving testimony to her behavior and my specific examples.

[David & Diana R 1,005]

I think you got it mixed up. At least this is how it is in my country:

If it is spoken, it is slander. If it is written, it is libel. Both slander and libel are forms of defamation.

Forget the libel, slander #######! Just get rid of her as fast as you can. Whether divorce or annulment, that's why you need an attorney to guide you through this. Even if an annulment takes longer in your state there may be reasons that it is better than a divorce. SEEK LEGAL COUNSEL NOW!!!

[lolita777 0]

Lolita777 if I were your husband, I would probably not go ahead with the AOS and leave the US to show you how stupid it was for you to withdraw your petition just because of a fight. You have to understand that marriage is about ultimate love and maturity. Just because you petitioned or are petitioning for him does not mean you have to hold it against him like some kind of leash around his neck. Next thing you know, you will be threatening him with deportation of he doesn't do your biding. Men don't like that and you don't want your husband finding love and affection somewhere else where he is received more warmly. Anyways, I'm not being judgmental. I'm just letting you know the truth as it is..and as you probably don't wanna know. Have a blessed marital life :-)

ManCharsey: you ARE RIGHT! i should let him be deported... .ive put up with his nonsense long enough, it was very stupifd of HIM to yell LIKE A MANIAC, slam the car´s back door with our child in the back seat, give me the finger and had previously destroyed the apartment we live in... all on the way to the interview. SMART HUH? My guess is that you could be the kind of "man" to have an excuse for that kind of behaviour? I Really hope not...i know he still hasnt learned the lesson by me repetitioning him can only make him worse... ANYWAYS THANKS FOR PUTTING THINGS INTO PERSPECTIVE