I need help

[Fuzzness 2]

Go back to the UK and tell his a$$hole to go f* himself.

[KarenCee 3]

All right, you know what? I don't give a flying ** if this person is a troll or not. If it is, well, fine, I wasted five minutes of my life posting some helpful information. If it's not, this is obviously someone in a bad situation who could use some compassion and assistance.

I'm really sick of the current VJ attitude of "troll until proven otherwise." People have been really harsh towards some post-ers who are new and finding themselves in difficult or exotic circumstances. We've got to keep in mind that we don't know if someone is b.s.-ing us or telling the truth...and if it's the latter, we don't want to scare them off, or other post-ers or lurkers who might be in similar situations, by curtly dismissing them as trolls.

I agree with you 100%

I agree Pax....I've noticed a definate sarcastic attitude from this person almost everytime they post. Troll or not...give them the benefit of the doubt first.

[flipside 0]

Moi?

[KarenCee 3]

Moi?

Yeeeeeeees you

[flipside 0]

Moi?

Yeeeeeeees you

Sorry... but anyone that's obviously lying in their first post is a troll until proven otherwise..

[KarenCee 3]

Moi?

Yeeeeeeees you

Sorry... but anyone that's obviously lying in their first post is a troll until proven otherwise..

And you can prove, beyond a shadow of doubt, that the OP is lying?

[flipside 0]

Well.. saying they're from the UK and having such unbelievably horrible English was the first give away...

But I call truce!!!

[Fandango 1,439]

Well.. saying they're from the UK and having such unbelievably horrible English was the first give away...

But I call truce!!!

There are many immigrants living in the UK with citizenship who have terrible English skills.

Go walk down Oxford street & see how many English schools there are....or how many ppl pass out fliers saying 'learn to speak English blah blah blah'

Not definitive proof imo

[RaspberrySwirl 20]

Good luck either way.

PS: Not to point fingers or anything, but yes, it does seem harsh to judge this person as a troll right away. Then again, they did join the same day as they posted this message in the off topic forum. Either way, the advice given is useful to people who are in similar situations (and yes, that does happen, not all relationships on VJ do work out nicely and ever so romantically).

[almaty 19]

so, where is the orginal op at? if i had this issue i certain be writing more and asking questions, instead of orginal post and then going away...

[Nizzy 1]

Well.. saying they're from the UK and having such unbelievably horrible English was the first give away...

But I call truce!!!

I know people who have been here in America for 20+ years who don't speak English all that well. You need to get out more and mingle with the commoners...

[flipside 0]

Yeah.. I need to get out more.. I've lived in Thailand, the UK, Brazil, Japan, and New York City.

Sorry..I guess I didn't mingle with illiterates..

Edited March 5, 2006 by flipside

[Lovetoteach 53]

Hello Everyone

I im from uk and i need you guys help and advice, my fiance bring me usa under k1 visa, he was my dream man and he was the person who i thought i can spend my life with, we had almost 2 year online relationship, i been in usa with him past 2 months and i got my ssn, but the problem is he's not the person who i loved online, he's not the person who i dreamed about and he isn ot the person who i can spend my life with, he's totaly change and opposite as he used to be online, he lies, he cheat, he treat me like ######, he abuse me and all time he ignored me. he spend most of time with his friends and at home on tv or computer. At home i clean his home, i wash dishes, i do laundry etc but he just lay down and watch tv or play games, but its not enough, everytime we go into any kind argue or anykind disagree he scream at me and ask me to pack my ###### and leave his house. He still have strong relationship with her ex wife, he always run to her and sometime sleep at her house too, its hurt me alot and Its happend constantly and now im sick of it, i dunno what to do, before move here i give up on my job, i sell my appartment, i sell every lil and big thing i ever have had, i dont have anyone who can help me, i dont have parents either i have any kind support, Money i ever had i spend on him and on my k1 visa. now i dont know where to turn, dont know how to where to began again, when i moved here i had alot of dreams, plans, wishes and expectations but i can't understand such a lil thing of life. please help me.

Hi there,

If you need any help or support, then please PM me. I also went through an abusive relationship and filed for Vawa, of which I'm still awaiting a decision.

Shona

Edited March 5, 2006 by shona

[Nizzy 1]

Yeah.. I need to get out more.. I've lived in Thailand, the UK, Brazil, Japan, and New York City.

Sorry..I guess I didn't mingle with illiterates..

Amazing...and you still decided to judge someone because you assumed their English should more proper due to their place of residence...anywho good luck to the OP...I can't offer any advice but I hpe everything works out...

[flipside 0]

Yeah.. I need to get out more.. I've lived in Thailand, the UK, Brazil, Japan, and New York City.

Sorry..I guess I didn't mingle with illiterates..

Amazing...and you still decided to judge someone because you assumed their English should more proper due to their place of residence...anywho good luck to the OP...I can't offer any advice but I hpe everything works out...

Actually Nizzy, my judgement was based on many things, including the fact the OP registered and posted this BS on the same day. Maybe because they spew some story and don't give enough facts to provide a reasonable response. Maybe I continue on my troll hunt because the OP posted this 2 days ago and has yet to reply. But I digress..

Probably because I don't mingle enough in the real world, it's hard for me to believe when people spill their guts anonymously on an internet message board.