Depressed and desperate

[Sweet Taghi 0]

Ok, here goes a brief summary of my issue. My husband and I have been together since 2009 and were married in 2010. We have a young son that my husband has never been able to hold. In 2011 there was a house fire and my father was injured saving our son, he just passed Feb. 21, 2013 (my 8 yr. old's b-day) as a result of the injuries from the fire. A lot of things have happened between 2011 and now. I just filed the papers for our cr-1 3-8-2013. Basically, I have no clue as to what the whole process entails. During this time, I am battling health issues (a severe back injury) and raising a special needs child, in addition to my two other children. The fire has left me financially ruined and I'm finding it hard to be optimistic after all that's happened, but I'm trying to remain hopeful. Is there any way to expedite the process or does anyone know of any agencies or groups that might be able to help us with a sponsor or advice? I'm desperate to get him here so we can get our lives back on track. PLEASE, any advice would be very much appreciated.

[Ikki 4]

Ok, here goes a brief summary of my issue. My husband and I have been together since 2009 and were married in 2010. We have a young son that my husband has never been able to hold. In 2011 there was a house fire and my father was injured saving our son, he just passed Feb. 21, 2013 (my 8 yr. old's b-day) as a result of the injuries from the fire. A lot of things have happened between 2011 and now. I just filed the papers for our cr-1 3-8-2013. Basically, I have no clue as to what the whole process entails. During this time, I am battling health issues (a severe back injury) and raising a special needs child, in addition to my two other children. The fire has left me financially ruined and I'm finding it hard to be optimistic after all that's happened, but I'm trying to remain hopeful. Is there any way to expedite the process or does anyone know of any agencies or groups that might be able to help us with a sponsor or advice? I'm desperate to get him here so we can get our lives back on track. PLEASE, any advice would be very much appreciated.

I don't understand? Where exactly is your husband? why has he never been able to hold your son? does he not want to? How did you meet him? Why is he overseas and you have child? There are so many details you left out. Why didn't you try to get him here before? it's been 8 years for God's sake.

[Sweet Taghi 0]

No, it hasn't been 8 years. We have been together for 3. We are both very upset that he has not been able to be with his family which is why I have decided to publicly discuss our issue in an effort to get some advice. He is in Morocco and since the fire happened after our son was born, finances have prevented us from doing our paperwork sooner, as I had mentioned. We lost everything in the fire, and in addition to the fire, I was in charge of my father's affairs and finances while he was in the hospital for the last 2 years. There have been some details left out because they are private and do not pertain to our case.

[Ismael&Blair 66]

So are you saying the 8 year old is not your husband's child and from a previous relationship? And the younger son born you and your Moroccan husband's child.

Will you be able to sponsor him when it comes to the financial part of the petition process? If not, you need to start looking for someone to help with the sponsorship. From what I read, they are really strict on the financial requirements. And as the petitioner (like myself), we have to fill out that I-864 package.

I wish you the best because I know how it is so tough to be apart from your love ones! May you all reunite soon INSHALLAH

No, it hasn't been 8 years. We have been together for 3. We are both very upset that he has not been able to be with his family which is why I have decided to publicly discuss our issue in an effort to get some advice. He is in Morocco and since the fire happened after our son was born, finances have prevented us from doing our paperwork sooner, as I had mentioned. We lost everything in the fire, and in addition to the fire, I was in charge of my father's affairs and finances while he was in the hospital for the last 2 years. There have been some details left out because they are private and do not pertain to our case.

[destiny64 222]

I'm very sorry for your situation, it seems you have been through the wringer. As another noted if you are in financial ruin, you are going to have a tough time with showing you can support another person. If you don't meet the financial requirements needed to satisfy the poverty guideline of 125% , you will need to find someone who is willing to be a sponsor. 3 yrs of marriage will show longevity, but if you haven't been able to see each other since you were married, your going to need a pile of proof to show you are still behaving as a married couple, emails, chats , etc. If you do decide to file, you will need to explain in detail the reason for all your hardships.

This process involves money and patience, seems you have the patience thing already covered!

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

You have 3 children , is only the youngest your husbands child ? Which one is special needs ? DO you work ?

This whole process is hard and expensive. The fees alone are about 1000 and then there are medical requirements and police and birth/divorce records to pay for. If you have 3 children then you will need significant income to sponsor him. I have never heard of an organization being co sponor it needs to be a person that co sponsors. When you get the money together it will take about a year to go through the process and the he is from a place that rarely avoids AP which can add significant time to the process and there is no way to shorten that time. There is a chance you could try to ask for an expediate based on the issues that you are dealing with. There is also a fee waiver , but those are not usually requested because it speaks to your inability to support the intended immigrant.

[Sweet Taghi 0]

My oldest and my 8 year old are from a previous relationship. My youngest is the son of my husband and I. It is no trouble documenting the things that have gone on. I have plenty of news articles, court papers and medical statements. My husband and I talk everyday so that's no trouble to provide chat records either. For the joint-sponsor I was told that their household size would be counted instead of mine, is that correct?

So are you saying the 8 year old is not your husband's child and from a previous relationship? And the younger son born you and your Moroccan husband's child.

Will you be able to sponsor him when it comes to the financial part of the petition process? If not, you need to start looking for someone to help with the sponsorship. From what I read, they are really strict on the financial requirements. And as the petitioner (like myself), we have to fill out that I-864 package.

I wish you the best because I know how it is so tough to be apart from your love ones! May you all reunite soon INSHALLAH

Inshallah! It has been very difficult for sure. We are praying for an end to all this drama so we can be a family again inshallah.

[NikLR 13,220]

Yes it is the co-sponsors household size, not yours but you will need to fill out an l-864 anyhow. That may be a problem with the consulate.

I wish you both the best of luck. Your husband's embassy is not an easy one.

[Golden Gate 530]

You also need to make sure you have gone to see him within the past two years. That is one of the stipulations.

[Waiting234 18]

These are the reasons USCIS will say you can expedite. Unfortunately, they are not able to provide guidance on which one to use or how to best write the request. This would only expedite the petition in the USA with USCIS, not with NVC or the Embassy.

1. Severe Financial Loss

2. Extreme Emergent Situation

3. Humanitarian Situation

4. Non Profit Status of ...

5. Department of Defense or National Security Concern?

6. USCIC Error

7. Significant or Compelling Reason (medical condition)

8. Military Deployment

9. ____ Cases not covered under the child status protection act and provisions such as diversity visas, loss of social security benefits or other substance?

Those are my notes anyway. Good luck!

[Cathi 5,614]

You also need to make sure you have gone to see him within the past two years. That is one of the stipulations.

not when a couple is married, 2 yaers is only for fiance visa, and She just had his baby,so it speaks for itself that they have seen in each in the last year

[NikLR 13,220]

These are the reasons USCIS will say you can expedite. Unfortunately, they are not able to provide guidance on which one to use or how to best write the request. This would only expedite the petition in the USA with USCIS, not with NVC or the Embassy.

1. Severe Financial Loss

2. Extreme Emergent Situation

3. Humanitarian Situation

4. Non Profit Status of ...

5. Department of Defense or National Security Concern?

6. USCIC Error

7. Significant or Compelling Reason (medical condition)

8. Military Deployment

9. ____ Cases not covered under the child status protection act and provisions such as diversity visas, loss of social security benefits or other substance?

Those are my notes anyway. Good luck!

The NVC will expedite a case as well.

[Golden Gate 530]

not when a couple is married, 2 yaers is only for fiance visa, and She just had his baby,so it speaks for itself that they have seen in each in the last year

Ah, ok. It wasn't really clear in the post how young the child is at this point, except he was saved in a house fire in 2011. At any rate, doesn't seem to matter.

Edited March 10, 2013 by Golden Gate

[Peace.... 281]

Her son was born in 2010. Hopefully she can shed some more light soon on her case when she returns here.

[Kolewenoik31 57]

Ok, here goes a brief summary of my issue. My husband and I have been together since 2009 and were married in 2010. We have a young son that my husband has never been able to hold. In 2011 there was a house fire and my father was injured saving our son, he just passed Feb. 21, 2013 (my 8 yr. old's b-day) as a result of the injuries from the fire. A lot of things have happened between 2011 and now. I just filed the papers for our cr-1 3-8-2013. Basically, I have no clue as to what the whole process entails. During this time, I am battling health issues (a severe back injury) and raising a special needs child, in addition to my two other children. The fire has left me financially ruined and I'm finding it hard to be optimistic after all that's happened, but I'm trying to remain hopeful. Is there any way to expedite the process or does anyone know of any agencies or groups that might be able to help us with a sponsor or advice? I'm desperate to get him here so we can get our lives back on track. PLEASE, any advice would be very much appreciated.

I will be praying for you sponsorship seems to be the hold up for many. I can empathize with you sponsorship will be our challenge as well. This is not a question that I expect an answer to just saying..why should money be the hold up for us being with our loved ones? {no answer needed} Such is life..I am prayerful though!