Are You Mature Enough?

[Akwaaba*Edward 9]

As I read some of the posts on this site and others, I'm amazed at the LACK of respect & maturity displayed in some relationships. Marriage is a big step and a serious commitment that should not be taken lightly. What happens between you and your partner should be held in the highest regards. Seeking advice or information and "airing your dirty laundry" are NOT the same. Marriage is not made in paradise and NO relationship is without its challenges. However, how you handle those challenges is a testament to your love and commitment to that person.

Only God is absolute perfection and we ALL make mistakes. Talk to your mate and try to resolve the problems you face. Understand that forgiveness is necessary in order to move forward and grow. STOP embarrassing yourself and your mate by revealing such personal intimate details about your relationship online. If you truly love that person and you're ready for marriage,there is NO way you would ever consider public humiliation. Again, I ask "are you mature enough."

#growupandstopthenonsense

[tberta.brooks 3]

As I read some of the posts on this site and others, I'm amazed at the LACK of respect & maturity displayed in some relationships. Marriage is a big step and a serious commitment that should not be taken lightly. What happens between you and your partner should be held in the highest regards. Seeking advice or information and "airing your dirty laundry" are NOT the same. Marriage is not made in paradise and NO relationship is without its challenges. However, how you handle those challenges is a testament to your love and commitment to that person.

Only God is absolute perfection and we ALL make mistakes. Talk to your mate and try to resolve the problems you face. Understand that forgiveness is necessary in order to move forward and grow. STOP embarrassing yourself and your mate by revealing such personal intimate details about your relationship online. If you truly love that person and you're ready for marriage,there is NO way you would ever consider public humiliation. Again, I ask "are you mature enough."

#growupandstopthenonsense

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[LA NEGRA 19]

Akwaaba I totally agree with u!!!!

[JE06 54]

I can't stand when people preach- especially on an internet forum... you should really worry about your own relationship, Akwaaba

[Krikit 1,164]

Moving from Effects of Major Changes to Off Topic.

[amberlynnloves 125]

But what you consider private and what the next person considers private are two different things. Two different worlds. We have people on this site from ALL over the world! Their interpretation of "private" is going to vary vastly. We are all entitled to our own opinions, feelings, and thoughts...this is a place for people to come where we all a common thing. We are all seeking to be with our loved ones. There are going to be relationships formed that was fraudulent, but the thing of it is, even in the USA everyday there are people who enter into relationships seeking personal gain from the other with no remorse for feelings or what could potentially be a false relationship. We are human. We are NOT perfect.

But if people want to come to a community where they feel safe to discuss with others who may have gone through the same thing, let them! We leave in a free country where people can speak their minds to others. Who are we to judge them?

Its the same thing going onto a pregnancy forum and posting your personal details that you are going through looking for someone who might understand and can be that shoulder to lean on when you feel like no one else in the world understands you.

If you don't like the posts that people make because of the personal details, kindly move to the next posting. Don't degrade people based on their choice of questions or thoughts.

We are a COMMUNITY. Trying to be with our loved ones. We can all help each other out in some form.

[Akwaaba*Edward 9]

I can't stand when people preach- especially on an internet forum... you should really worry about your own relationship, Akwaaba

I am by NO means worried. If others can express feelings, opinions, facts and relationship drama then certainly I can post my thoughts as well.

[X Factor 1,112]

I do understand having a confidant and the need to vent but some issues are simply private. If you feel your relationship is a fraud then take the steps to resolve your situation. However, intimate details and public insults are just WRONG and there's no reason for that my dear. Besides, you make YOURself look foolish for exposing such deatils because "mad day" has arrived.

This means that there needs to be good communication between the two to iron out some of these issues.

[Akwaaba*Edward 9]

But what you consider private and what the next person considers private are two different things. Two different worlds. We have people on this site from ALL over the world! Their interpretation of "private" is going to vary vastly. We are all entitled to our own opinions, feelings, and thoughts...this is a place for people to come where we all a common thing. We are all seeking to be with our loved ones. There are going to be relationships formed that was fraudulent, but the thing of it is, even in the USA everyday there are people who enter into relationships seeking personal gain from the other with no remorse for feelings or what could potentially be a false relationship. We are human. We are NOT perfect.

But if people want to come to a community where they feel safe to discuss with others who may have gone through the same thing, let them! We leave in a free country where people can speak their minds to others. Who are we to judge them?

Its the same thing going onto a pregnancy forum and posting your personal details that you are going through looking for someone who might understand and can be that shoulder to lean on when you feel like no one else in the world understands you.

If you don't like the posts that people make because of the personal details, kindly move to the next posting. Don't degrade people based on their choice of questions or thoughts.

We are a COMMUNITY. Trying to be with our loved ones. We can all help each other out in some form.

Yes, I agree with parts of your statement but I think you're missing my point. Please read my post again. I said "seeking advice or information is NOT the same as "airing your dirty laundry" and I don't think revealing the size of a man's ####### as a result of anger is ever appropriate. Again, I stand by my post "are you mature enough?" I am happy to "agree to disagree."

[Newbie608 103]

So was your marriage entered into for the sole purpose of immigration benefits?

I said Majority... My parents are USC so if that was the case I would still be single. .

[Newbie608 103]

But what you consider private and what the next person considers private are two different things. Two different worlds. We have people on this site from ALL over the world! Their interpretation of "private" is going to vary vastly. We are all entitled to our own opinions, feelings, and thoughts...this is a place for people to come where we all a common thing. We are all seeking to be with our loved ones. There are going to be relationships formed that was fraudulent, but the thing of it is, even in the USA everyday there are people who enter into relationships seeking personal gain from the other with no remorse for feelings or what could potentially be a false relationship. We are human. We are NOT perfect.

But if people want to come to a community where they feel safe to discuss with others who may have gone through the same thing, let them! We leave in a free country where people can speak their minds to others. Who are we to judge them?

Its the same thing going onto a pregnancy forum and posting your personal details that you are going through looking for someone who might understand and can be that shoulder to lean on when you feel like no one else in the world understands you.

If you don't like the posts that people make because of the personal details, kindly move to the next posting. Don't degrade people based on their choice of questions or thoughts.

We are a COMMUNITY. Trying to be with our loved ones. We can all help each other out in some form.

Agree!!!!

[Sandra G. 5,051]

Each individual is different,what you consider wrong or inappropriate others think is ok. It's about choices and freedom.

"It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences".

(Audre Lorde)

[Newbie608 103]

Ms Ghanaian. I would suggest read the dirty laundry that's posted and keep it moving. IMO, people gonna post whatever they wanna post on here whether you think it's appropriate or not. That will be one less thing to be concerned about... Bless

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

I said Majority... My parents are USC so if that was the case I would still be single. .

So you are the only one with USC parents?

[BethandBilly 86]

I think whats funny is, people come on here asking for opinions and when they don't get the opinion they want they sulk, either that or they are attacked for asking what might seem to some as ridiculous questions, but they aren't ridiculous to the OP. I think we see a lot of judgmental comments on here, yes I am guilty of it too, from every section of society and we might not always like or agree with the comments posted, but rather than carry on with the childishness we should just walk away, something I have learned to do recently. I think its time we offer true support and empathy to others that come here for help and assistant.