received her green card and moved out

[roman11 0]

Hello all,

Thanks for all the info through the last couple years.

Looking for some new direction.

She arrived from Thailand on a K-1

Married 7 months.

She has recently received her green card and ssn.

And yesterday left for greener pastures.

We would qualify for “summary dissolution”, no children, joint property, ect.

But she does not want to divorce the money cow.

How can I learn what to do next?? This has gone past the point of reconciliation.

1. Stop being financially responsible for her escapades

2. Can immigration help

Thanks for your constructive input

[Pitaya 2,577]

Hello all,

Thanks for all the info through the last couple years.

Looking for some new direction.

She arrived from Thailand on a K-1

Married 7 months.

She has recently received her green card and ssn.

And yesterday left for greener pastures.

We would qualify for “summary dissolution”, no children, joint property, ect.

But she does not want to divorce the money cow.

How can I learn what to do next?? This has gone past the point of reconciliation.

1. Stop being financially responsible for her escapades

2. Can immigration help

Thanks for your constructive input

Sorry to say it, but IMHO, from what you have said..... I would suggest that you cut your losses, cut the ties, and move on...file for divorce.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

Hello all,

Thanks for all the info through the last couple years.

Looking for some new direction.

She arrived from Thailand on a K-1

Married 7 months.

She has recently received her green card and ssn.

And yesterday left for greener pastures.

We would qualify for "summary dissolution", no children, joint property, ect.

But she does not want to divorce the money cow.

How can I learn what to do next?? This has gone past the point of reconciliation.

1. Stop being financially responsible for her escapades

2. Can immigration help

Thanks for your constructive input

1) Change locks, change credit cards/banks/utilities, file for divorce

2) Help to do what? They are not going to deport her for you. You can report her to them and provide hard facts (not from a position of a vindictive Ex syndrome) and they may consider it when it comes time to ROC.

Good luck. I really wished you Guys would provide more details of the relationship so others would learn from it.

PS: You do know about the I-864 that you signed right?

Edited June 19, 2012 by Gowon

[ddartt1 2]

So sorry to hear about your story! You are in our thoughts.

[aaron2020 11,651]

Hello all,

Thanks for all the info through the last couple years.

Looking for some new direction.

She arrived from Thailand on a K-1

Married 7 months.

She has recently received her green card and ssn.

And yesterday left for greener pastures.

We would qualify for “summary dissolution”, no children, joint property, ect.

But she does not want to divorce the money cow.

How can I learn what to do next?? This has gone past the point of reconciliation.

1. Stop being financially responsible for her escapades

2. Can immigration help

Thanks for your constructive input

You brought her over here so you are responsible.

In preventing marriage fraud, it is the petitioner who is in the best position to know if he is being scammed for a green card. The petitioner vouches for the intending immigrant and agree to take financial responsibility.

1. Stop being financially responsible for her escapades. --> File for divorce. Cancel her credit cards. Remove her from your accounts. Put a hold on your credit (since she probably has your personal information). However, you are stuck with the I-864 obligations. Divorce will not terminate the I-864 obligations. To get her green card, you agreed to the terms of the I-864 obligations even in the event of divorce, so you are stuck with it.

2. Can immigration help --> No. You brought her over. You vouched for her. You are responsible. Her leaving you is between you and her. It does not affect her immigration status. As long as she is married to you and her conditional green card has not expired, then she has no immigration problem. When her conditional green card expires in two years, you can expect her to ask you to reconcile with her so she can keep her green card (read some of the posts on this site - this happens a lot more than you think.).

If you divorce her, then her conditional green card status becomes invalid. She could apply on her own for a green card, but why the heck would you care at this point? You can't do anything about it, so move on with your life.

You aren't the first to be scammed, and you will not be the last. Protect yourself and move on. Let USCIS and ICE deal with her immigration status.

Edited June 19, 2012 by aaron2020

[Karee 4,190]

I've seen more of this out of Thailand lately. The old scam was to suck as much money out of the USC while still in Thailand, and then bail out of the relationship right before the interview. Wish they would have stuck to the old scam.

If you don't mind me asking, how did you meet?

Edited June 19, 2012 by Karee

[Karee 4,190]

Fascinating, how does he find out if they are pregnant?

Pretty tough if you don't live there. They can tell you anything they want. In my case the first girl didn't want to be pregnant, but ended up pregnant. Technically abortion is illegal in Thailand, but readily available at certain hospitals. She went there and had an abortion. While I waited for her at the restaraunt downstairs, I took a look at her phone. There were all these messages from some westerner about what a good time they had in Phuket. Of course she said those messages were for her friend, not her. I could go on and on.

A year or two later I ended up at a police station in northern Bangkok with a minor stab wound from her sister. The cops were laughing about that whole thing and drinking my scotch. I called the embassy over and over with no response. I was eventually force to sign a confession in Thai by the police. No idea what it said.

That time of my life I was making ~100k USD a year in BKK. When I met my wife, I was making much less and eventually was not working at all. My wife supported me on about $150-$175 a month working in haircut shop. In the end, I was lucky. I was able to live with my wife and see that she was not in it for the cash. Her friends kept telling her to get rid of that poor foreigner. She stuck by me in Bangkok.

This all happened 2004-2007. My wife has been here in Texas for 3+ years. She drives. She has a job. I've been back on the job with the largest telecom company in the U.S. for 4+ years.

Sorry to ramble, but if you meet a hot hooker in Bangkok, and think she's the one and you can change her, you're wasting your time. If you meet a hot hooker in Bangkok, short time her, pay her and forget about her. She will not change.

[bigdog 376]

Amazing story line.

[Bill Tilman 7]

i wish you dudes would stop saying "MOVE ON", its tiresome. theres nowhere to move on to. i had all my eggs in her basket. theres noone left. there all fn dead.

[AmyWrites 593]

i wish you dudes would stop saying "MOVE ON", its tiresome. theres nowhere to move on to. i had all my eggs in her basket. theres noone left. there all fn dead.

Yeah, it's tiresome, but there's really no other choice in this situation.

[RICARDO4EVA2 194]

I've seen more of this out of Thailand lately. The old scam was to suck as much money out of the USC while still in Thailand, and then bail out of the relationship right before the interview. Wish they would have stuck to the old scam.

If you don't mind me asking, how did you meet?

right.

[Tuti & Baher 10]

For what i can read you guys were married for 7 months only so she still have a conditional residence card.

so after her 2yr green card expires she has to apply for I-751 Petition to Remove the Conditions of Residence.

You guys both need to sign and prove that are together unless she was mistreated, and can apply for a waiver.If you do not sign it then she becomes out of status and will be subject to removal from the US or you can call ICE in case you wanna go to that point.Then You will no longer be financially resposible for her.You can also let the USCIS know about your situation i did something similiar in the past and was able to request a withdrawal.

Sorry about your situation.

[aayitrun 66]

for one, file for divorce.

for two, if she has the conditional, im pretty sure u can tell uscis that the marriage was fraud and then u cant do much.

[james&olya 1,121]

This seems to be a recurring story line, the USC signs the I-864, the immigrant gets the conditional GC and leaves. The USC is angry and wants her deported which is not terribly likely to happen. Everyone says tough luck, now you are on the hook for ten years. But hold on a minute. Unless she has the ammo for a VAWA, the I-864 can effectively be terminated with her going out of status and it doesn't matter for you if she stays on illegally, avoiding ICE. She cannot very well be getting 'means tested federal government benefits' when she is out of status can she? So it seems to me that it now becomes critically important for the USC to make certain she cannot get ROC on her own. Make sure that USCIS has every bit of information that you can provide to help them deny her that 10 year GC! Don't worry about whether ICE catches her and sends her back. The really important thing for you is not getting financially hammered by the I-864. Am I right here or am I missing something?

[happylove13 8]

interesting read...

sorry for the heart ache in all this...BUT some people need to follow their MIND NOT THEIR EYES and dont think with the wrong HEAD